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Re: Is Marriage For Me? by LilMissFavvy(f): 12:30pm On Sep 21, 2021 |
You have three options to choose from: 1. Remain single. 2. Change your ways and improve your character. 3. Be prepared for a very turbulent marriage or failed marriage if you are not ready to change for the better. No woman can cope with all that you listed above. 5 Likes |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Kobojunkie: 12:57pm On Sep 21, 2021 |
InTheCloudySky:Punishing himself too. 2 Likes |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Nobody: 2:51pm On Sep 21, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:Yup. 1 Like |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by chatinent: 2:51pm On Sep 21, 2021 |
Soon, I'll post my prewedding pics. 2 Likes |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by faithfull18(f): 3:06pm On Sep 21, 2021 |
LilMissFavvy:What's if it's a woman who is exactly like the OP 2 Likes |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by LilMissFavvy(f): 3:10pm On Sep 21, 2021 |
Most women can easily work on themselves, whereas most men have a lot of ego. So if a lady is like the OP, there is hope of her working on her weaknesses. faithfull18: 5 Likes |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by MrBrownJay1(m): 3:56pm On Sep 21, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: help me understand something: A) there are many men like the OP who'd rather chop and clean mouth and have their own personal space than settle with ONE woman... why do you think the OP cant do exactly the same thing? B) the man is telling us all what makes him happy in life and you guys are talking as if the dude is unhappy with his life.... instead of trying to change him, give him ways to live the life he desires while having women in his life....aka chop and clean mouth. just because marriage aint for him, doesnt mean he cant have women in his life. 4 Likes |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Kobojunkie: 4:01pm On Sep 21, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1:A. OP is OP. Those others are not the OP. B. No one here has said anything about OP being unhappy... we are simply telling him what he needs to consider before taking direct steps to cross the bridge he desires to cross so he does not get thrown over the side like so many before him. In life, change is constant. The life and way you live today may not exactly be the way you live tomorrow, why? Because life demands change - forced or chosen - and every change comes with a cost that must be paid or punishment for refusal. The OP desires marriage. It is his choice and his desire. It is possible if he is willing to let go of some of what he is holding on to now. 6 Likes |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Kobojunkie: 4:04pm On Sep 21, 2021 |
LilMissFavvy:Egos aren't unique to men. It takes wisdom to be able to let go of that which is ultimately meaningless. The problem is wisdom/common sense dey scarce. 3 Likes |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Kobojunkie: 4:07pm On Sep 21, 2021 |
faithfull18:There are equally many women like the Op out there who like him who are not ready to let go in order to experience something new and different from that which they are used to. Some go as far as, like the Op, believing that which they hold on to defines them - which is not true by the way. 1 Like |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by LilMissFavvy(f): 4:15pm On Sep 21, 2021 |
Whatever your message means . If you do not know that the average nigerian man/ African man has a degree of ego, and carries it around, then that's your ignorance to deal with. Kobojunkie: 2 Likes |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Kobojunkie: 4:20pm On Sep 21, 2021 |
LilMissFavvy:The human ego is foolishness. It pretends thrives by holding on to the meaningless things of this here existence. When those things are lost to it, it grasps to find other meaningless things to latch on to. |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by MrBrownJay1(m): 4:35pm On Sep 21, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: so you automatically assumed that the OP is like you and not like these other people that live happily ever after unmarried?! B. No one here has said anything about OP being unhappy... we are simply telling him what he needs to consider before taking direct steps to cross the bridge he desires to cross so he does not get thrown over the side like so many before him. the OP asked if marriage was for him.... and instead of answering the question, you guys are trying to change the man into who he isnt. lets accept WHO HE IS (aka nothing wrong with him) and take it from there, instead of talking about how/what/why he should change. In life, change is constant. The life and way you live today may not exactly the way you live tomorrow, why? Because life demands changes - forced or chosen - and even change comes with a cost that must be paid or punishment for refusal. if/when that change comes we can discuss about it then....until then, this thread is about a certain type of man asking a simple question (unless you have a crystal ball) The OP desires marriage. It is his choice and his desire. It is possible if he is willing to let go of some of what he is holding on to now. the man asked if marriage was for him, since he lives/desires a certain lifestyle.... that doesnt mean that he needs to get married...it just means that because everyone in Nigeria is going on about getting married, he asked if marriage was for him. a very simple question. now, you guys are turning this into: lets change this happy man into a miserable man so that he can get married..... here is a clue: unless a man is happy, he can never make any woman happy. so he should be who he is regardless of what people think of his lifestyle. there are plenty of ways to live his lifestyle, have women in his life and continue be the man he is, living the life he desires. 6 Likes |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Kobojunkie: 4:39pm On Sep 21, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1:I get the sense you want to ignore the OP's own statements so you can argue about him instead. zedegit:Please go back through the Op so we can both get on the same page cause I am not certain why this seems a lot about you and not about the OP. 1 Like |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by zedegit: 6:02pm On Sep 21, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1: I am actually considering getting married despite who I am and considering if I can get an understanding woman. Asking someone especially an adult to change is not easy especially as it concerns character and life choices. 2 Likes |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Nobody: 7:57pm On Sep 21, 2021 |
You're just like me, I don't like sharing things with people be it food, space or whatever. I'll only get married because I am the only son of my parent, if I had a brother I wouldn't. 4 Likes |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by wunmi590(m): 8:05pm On Sep 21, 2021 |
Bro the only person you can marry is mannequin... Goodluck 2 Likes |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Kobojunkie: 8:30pm On Sep 21, 2021 |
zedegit:That is why it is wrong to think that because you are an adult, you should not change. Look around you and you will see that those who thrive are not those stuck in their ways but those who are fluid like water... able to quickly adapt when life calls for them to. They are more open-minded and able to bounce back from calamity better than those set in their ways. This game is life's, not yours. If you want something, you have to bend towards that which you want or you might end up breaking yourself. 4 Likes |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by zedegit: 5:10pm On Sep 22, 2021 |
theForth: Really? |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Nobody: 10:16pm On Sep 23, 2021 |
zedegit: For real bro. Right now I am very disinterested in relationships. Close to four ladies I could get down with, it's so obvious they like me when I am around them, they are not always in a hurry to leave, in fact i end the conversations first. I don't know where this empathy comes from, I mean not to smash them and leave because I am not really interested in what's happening in their lives other than for them to spread their legs. I'll only get married for kids, I'll provide for my family just as my dad did but to discuss about my life and shit to my wife, I don't see that happening. |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Rubbiish(m): 10:13am On Sep 24, 2021 |
theForth:@bold don't worry...With time u will get use to her & even discuss more than your life with her. When u live in the same house with someone, it will only take some time to be comfortable around them. |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Aurelius1(m): 9:49pm On Sep 24, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1:Its okay if he doesn't want to get married but, by the time he gets to 65 years na then body go tell am say the life wey him dey live no normal. That was how an uncle of mine who had no wife and kids died. He was 66 years when he died. Before he died he suffered so much. When he was sick, there was nobody to take him to the hospital. It was the same mentality the op has that he had when he was younger. There was no help from anybody. No visitation, nothing. In fact, he died like a chicken and was buried like a rat. 9 Likes |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Truvelisback(m): 10:31pm On Sep 24, 2021 |
zedegit:Yes, just find someone is compactable with u. |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Mendy101: 1:36pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
zedegit: No marriage is not for you |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Onyi22(f): 1:36pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
You didn't say anything about your bank account balance |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by enemyofprogress: 1:37pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
This guy is exactly like oga Seun 1 Like |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Lonelychild: 1:37pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
zedegit:you forgot to add that you’re savage as well. See epic response |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by dennisedache: 1:38pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
zedegit: |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by juniorstar(m): 1:38pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
zedegit:Lol..tot I was alone..was indoors for close to 2weeks working on my phone and system didn't step out until bae visited had to step out briefly to restock the house so I wont be disturbed.. |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Sebastine1994(m): 1:39pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
Guy your case is beyond human intervention |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Chigold101(m): 1:40pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
zedegit:The first sign of maturity is one's ability to adjust, learn, unlearn and relearn. You can get married and have a beautiful home if you do what I wrote above. 5 Likes |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Goldenheart(m): 1:41pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
People go just dey use maturity anyhow... Una dey ment 1 Like |
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