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Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Eaglesence: 2:26pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
zedegit: Bros please lemme give you my candid advise. Look for ways to practice being accomodative, pray about it as prayers with patience do work. and work towards changing, maybe start copying someone you know that is your direct opposite. Now, you likely will not change 100%, and no, you cant get your type this way. Why i talk so? I got an elder half brother who is just like you. I saw his face again just yesterday on whatsap after so many years and the guy looks like a hundred years old. no wife, no kids. Afraid catch me nah. He is currently trying to hook back up with his ex wife. They only separated, i think. Maybe one other thing you can do is discuss your bettered situation with your prospect and see if having separate rooms in the eventuality that you get married will help. So that your personal effects are the way you want them in your room and she got her stuff in her room too, that way the only things you get to share and allow to scatter is the kitchen and living room, for that, you probably would have already discussed it with her before entering marriage that you like to always see the kitchen and living room in order. After that preper your mind to always see it upsidedown and even if thats what happens guy, arrange the place back by yourself without raising your voice or showing anger. And still keep in mind that it will not always be spec and span. Like yoi some people ate the opposite, they dont see anything wrong with changing the position of stuff around the house, theh are wired that way. all you need do is ask. If all this and more advice from professionals is not doable by you, then dont go close to relationships or marriage o cos it means you will always be angry and heaven go far from you oo. Peace. |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Kobojunkie: 2:26pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
femi4: |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by SenecaTheYonger: 2:29pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
All I can say is suck it up. Be fluid as water. Adapt to every new space. t. Master Yoda zedegit: |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by suffering: 2:31pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
How old are you? |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Winneygirl(f): 2:32pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
SeriouslySense:I agree that we can improve on what we are. Be better as we mature. Be more sensitive, and more tolerant of other people as we age. However, this OP declared himself 'a volcano waiting to erupt'. He has declared himself temperamental and very unwilling to share his personal space, his time or his resources, and did not display a willingness to change or improve. No need to encourage him to marry anyone. Being alone suits him. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Rubbiish(m): 2:34pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:Very true! |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Nobody: 2:36pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
Richy4:You dey live your name bros, the mama wey come travel to come spend the weekend for my crib done realise by herself sai she no suppose disturb when I dey my desk for house. |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Olufemiolaolu(m): 2:36pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
zedegit:It's always good to be tolerant and accept other people the way they are. Nobody is perfect man. Loneliness will force to marry. Loneliness kills faster than anything. |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by SenecaTheYonger: 2:38pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
zedegit: Very good reply |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by SenecaTheYonger: 2:39pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
Olufemiolaolu: Yeah, being alone kills faster than bad marriage. 1 Like |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Madeu(m): 2:39pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
faithfull18:Are you like the op? |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by PAWG(m): 2:40pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
zedegit: Do contract marriage, our personalities are similar but I don’t get angry easily. I could give you 99 chances but when I erupt it’s OVER |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Jaisman26(m): 2:40pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1:By the very principles of God's purpose for humans, every man and woman is expected to marry and reproduce. Secondly marriage is not meant for immature in heart, that's why it is important for one to be matured (grow up and have full understanding of tolerance and self-worth of another person as yourself) before you can venture into marriage |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by saintneo(m): 2:40pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
zedegit: You are not really a choleric, might be a 50-50 melancholic-choleric. Nonetheless you need a phlegmatic-major as a wife. You might get irritated with a sanguine-major wife. Marrying melancholic wife will be time bomb for your marriage ... lots of grudges and victimizations.. A choleric wife will be a daily war. 1 Like |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Bifwoli: 2:44pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
zedegit:Its ok not to get married .Jesus ,Oprah ,Leonardo DiCaprio ,Tyra Banks ,Matthew Perry etc are famous people who never got married. |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by luvmijeje(f): 2:46pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
No! |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by MightySparrow: 2:47pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
zedegit: A candidate for the hermits. |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by InvertedHammer: 2:50pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
zedegit:/ Things may change as you mature. But if you feel that marriage is not for you, then stay away from it before it ends in premium tears like it did to those who tried to conform to societal norms. / |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by UncleKoboko: 2:51pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:What's this nonsense maturity you're talking about. Just say you don't have ba reasonable answer for him instead of blabbing about maturity? I hope maturity here doesn't relate much with age? 1 Like |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by unbeatablerosak(f): 2:54pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
Not too good though. But that's the real you. But seriously you need to adjust. out cant be in this world alone. We all need somebody. |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by nevplus(m): 2:55pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
Your matter na small case, you have not seen whom to love, bet me you will be the one begging her to share whatever you think you have. Just an intelligent lady with beauty, then you see power of love and affection, and see yourself begging her to stay with you forever. Every man has a match in woman, you will soon meet yours 1 Like |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by MrHandsome2013: 2:55pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
zedegit:. How old are you? |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by skentelelady(f): 2:55pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
[quote author=zedegit post=106016428] I've been thinking lately cos I am the type of person that loves his space. I don't like sharing my things; I want my things to be as I kept them. I am sensitive to words and very temperamental. I am like a volcano waiting to erupt anytime. I hate being manipulated. I hate the entitlement mentality of some women. I[b] am an introvert and don't like crowd. I can stay indoors for a month or more as long as I got food, water, a charged phone with subscription. I go out for work and other essential duties. [/b] They say every man got his type of woman. Do you think there's a woman that can match my temperaments? NB: I respond well when a lady is good with sooting words and avoids arguments. I love intimacy too although I'm not the romantic type but I can be generous if money is there. I think the temperament is choleric.[/quote] You cant be an introvert and be a choleric. Your temperament should be melancholy. It is better you marry a melancholy and an introvert like you. Extrovert like San and Chlo will frustrate your peace with this attitude of yours. |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Madeu(m): 2:56pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
Bifwoli:It's hard to survive as an elder in Nigeria without a family. Don't think your cousins or siblings and their children will be there for you; they have theri own life issues to face. |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by AfonjaConehead: 2:57pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
zedegit:When you finally get a woman,let her be the friend you never have and make sure you love her to a fault |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by chrisj2(m): 3:03pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
If you have to ask? On my second one and still a mistake - some of us are born free and should be free; no chains! 1 Like |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by na2016: 3:04pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
zedegit: If I was able to marry and have stayed married, you will. Just work on the temperament. I am exactly this, except the temperament. |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by timefarm(m): 3:04pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1: The person you are chatting with kobojunkie is a ladies. Her response is always skewed in that direction. 1 Like |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by pansophist(m): 3:19pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
Lots of people feel like this, until they actually met someone that proved them wrong. Someone that showed them a beautiful side of life, that it would be suffering to stick to the older ways. I personally felt like that, that no woman will ever understand me, and the more I understand human nature, I just get disgusted about the prospect of marriage or long term commitment relationship. Not until my ex came into the picture, and without even trying, all my defenses melted like a butter in a pan, I was helplessly in love, I could feel vulnerable and just be myself. It's one of those relationship you would describe as made in heaven. It was pure bliss. We later broke up though, due to irreconcilable differences, but that experiences destroyed the notion I've convinced myself with that I'm a esoteric maths that no one can penetrate, talk more of solving. Put yourself out there. The more ladies you interact with, the more of yourself you'll discover and the high chances you'll find that person that will prove you wrong. I'm not saying this from a place of naivety or wishful thinking, but as a hardcore human being, that have had lots of wholesome experiences and deep thoughts about human nature, your type is out there. She may be in the Adamawa, in China, or even your neighbour, but its wrong to think your match is not out there. 1 Like |
Re: Is Marriage For Me? by Crenzywilliams(m): 3:21pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
You described me so well here man, but yet, we need to marry o guy...we no fit live our lives alone with the way we take de |
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