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Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Cnach: 7:24pm On Oct 01, 2021
U have to bear with her and stop when she is alright.
And for the size of ur dick, u have to get vaginal lubricant and sex sweetener, those may help reduce the pain from tightness of thrusting.
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Dada4me: 7:32pm On Oct 01, 2021
There is no manhood too big for a woman to handle... Your wife only needs to be more receptive.

She might also belong to the class of ladies who believe a woman cannot enjoy sex. I can't remember the last time I made the first move.
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by deavicky(m): 7:46pm On Oct 01, 2021
DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls
don't allow her to rest fellow her up every nite, she will get use to it. She can't be complaining of something she presumed to be stuck with for life. Also so get a lubricant. (For sex oh before u go buy engine oil or power steering oil.)

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Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by socialmerchant: 8:18pm On Oct 01, 2021
That woman is either a lesbian or has a side nigga

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Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Munzy14(m): 8:27pm On Oct 01, 2021
DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls
Get intimate with her na, This things have a way of solving them..

This is why it is difficult for two inexperienced people...You just have to calm down and teach her how to enjoy it from scratch...It will take time and patience, but will worth it..

Open up to eachother....You are not close to her...I mean heart to heart...You guys are not connected...

Open up to yourselves, free your mind and discuss sex in your bedroom or bathroom..Conquer your shyness/fears...Expore your fantasies and have fun..

I swear na you go tire if u succeed on this....no be juju.
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Sunnyblqck(m): 8:49pm On Oct 01, 2021
A unlike this like this people like you is not from their hearts is 419 like
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by 00FFT00(m): 8:54pm On Oct 01, 2021
olabrinks:
if you see all these simple things as chores, then don’t complain when your wife or your future wife doesn’t respect you or desire sex from you. Dont complain when your wife prefers her vibrator/masturbating than you. Don’t complain when your wife complains to her friends about her wack sex life. The best sex occurs when a woman is satisfied because it’s rare. That is the difference between a basic man, and a man who is exceptional in bed.

Men naturally do not require much to orgasm, you’re moved by what you see. Women need much more than that. Understand this and have peace.

I think you're pretty much describing your proclivities using the third person. I f you were my wife, don't complain when you see yourself back in your parents house.

Did I marry a woman, or did I get myself an additional house chore?.
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by abimic(m): 8:56pm On Oct 01, 2021
First and foremost, been big is relative. Ordinarily for me, If it's not monetary, couples should never have issues, if they're with listening ears and very understanding. While you're eating, playing with your partner, gisting over life generally, chip in important things that can grow your marriage. She was a virgin prior to marriage, so what's big to her might be small to another since she never had any body count. You need to ask if it pains her, either at entry or end point, again, positions also matter too, If she doesn't find a position comfortable, change style, try different ones that favors her. Eat good food that boosts urges. If she complains you last too long, no over do, lasting too long is also relative, try out few mins first, but always let her understand you're meant to please each other, she shouldn't be stiff sexually. Again, only you can fix your home, involve no third party if she has listening ears, let her understand how she's making you feel. There are many churches that talks on intimacy for married couples, buy her good church books for couples that focus on intimacy and help her. Never ever look outside, never compare her with another, just find a way to walk through your challenges and get the best out of her. Change is constant, so I believe you can get your best out of her. I like when women are open, selfless, free, non rigid and conversational, those can be so explicit, that they advice on what to do to help like in this case, even if it possibly fails in the end, at least they were intentional.
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by ItsmeF: 9:23pm On Oct 01, 2021
DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls

Maybe your wife is having friction and pain during sex and thus needs many days to heal. It doesn't necessarily mean it's because your Penis is too big. Dry VG can lead to really bad bruises that women dont talk about but hide it and painful too. Use your saliva to rub on her VG for lubrication before penetrating and try not to last long, that's one of the best lubricants ever. After sex, she won't feel bruised at all. Also try to make sex fun too. Have a conversation with her to understand her better and ways to make it pleasurable for you both. I wish you luck

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Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Wealthoptulent(m): 9:37pm On Oct 01, 2021
DavidNative:
Thank you ma.
Has any one gone through this pls, how were you able to fix. kindly help a brother, its been a lot of struggle , something i just sleep and just wait to go to office the next day so i can distract my mind, i am deeply struggling on my inside as a man,


Lolz.. am laughing becos I went thru similar but mine not on ground of big MIC, but bro after 3 years I let go of the marriage I can't be faithful and still fruitless of the FAITH, 3 YEARS POOR SEX, NO SIDE CHIC, NO HOOK UP! #HAPPYDIVORCEE ... LASLAS SHE WAS CHEATING. don't suffer ursef. I can't advise u, use ur BRAIN I USED MINE after year 3.
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Wealthoptulent(m): 9:41pm On Oct 01, 2021
DavidNative:
Yes Sir, she said she never had sex

Laughing so hard... "she SAID" , did u or didn't dis Vee?
Def she wasn't u were jus deceived .. bro shine ya eyes with light
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Victoria1603: 10:41pm On Oct 01, 2021
DavidNative:
Pls i need an honest and kind advice . I will deeply appreciate

Try more of pre-intimacy and a little of the actual sex.
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Tregmas: 11:09pm On Oct 01, 2021
DavidNative:
Yes Sir, she said she never had sex
was she a virgin?
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Ynix(m): 11:49pm On Oct 01, 2021
xamodans:



are you married?
No, but I have been studying many of them since I was 7, now I am 32
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Atticusxsz(m): 11:51pm On Oct 01, 2021
DavidNative:
Yes Sir, she said she never had sex

She said? Una no go kill me 4 nairaland o! grin
It seems you don't really know what's going on around you since you sound like an Ajebor... undecided
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Ynix(m): 11:52pm On Oct 01, 2021
intruder15:


Alpha kor. Omega ni
yes there are omega males
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by plush20: 11:56pm On Oct 01, 2021
I feel your pain and I like the fact that you really want your marriage to work. Sex and intimacy is very important in marriage. You didn't mention her age. She may be circumcised, which is a big problem or she my be the frigid type which means that she might need help getting lubricated. She needs to be encouraged. You can see a doctor about this. They do help. They might suggest medications that can boost her urge for sex. Good luck and I hope you find a lasting solution.
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Nobody: 12:18am On Oct 02, 2021
DavidNative:
Thank you ma.
Has any one gone through this pls, how were you able to fix. kindly help a brother, its been a lot of struggle , something i just sleep and just wait to go to office the next day so i can distract my mind, i am deeply struggling on my inside as a man,

If she just started having sex it takes a while for her body to adjust sometimes until after the first child. So truly don’t stay long. You are doing many of the right things. If you were from my side I will say put her on Kayan mata just make sure you are the only man around her. It helps prepare her body and increases her libido, we men too take our own.

Try and discuss in a light mood her expectations and put her in charge. Some women hold themselves so long when it is time their mind has not agreed with their body. You will be okay you both started well so God will be gracious to your marriage.
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by CoolJulian: 12:36am On Oct 02, 2021
I'm inclined to believe you're not serious, In fact, you're probably lying... If not, what do you mean by "she said she was a virgin?" Incase this is true- I doubt that it is, It's either that your wife is circumcised, she does not love you, or.... Let me reserve my comment.
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by overseasnbeyond: 1:04am On Oct 02, 2021
many girls prefer the big mandigo
DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Benbobola(m): 2:36am On Oct 02, 2021
DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls
Hey man, pls how long have you guys been married?
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by iTearHerToto: 2:40am On Oct 02, 2021
Octopusssy:
Oga, what is the measurement of the said oversized preek? I want to check something
To check if it can fit your octopuspussy huh? angry
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by cjfavour(m): 3:15am On Oct 02, 2021
Bros pls how will he make himself not to stay long? He'll ejaculate when the ejaculation comes so I don't understand why u blame him for staying long. You're right, he should avoid deep penetration and work on the wife's psychy. He has to make her to understand that she must give him sex even when its painful to her. If his pen can't enter her how will a child head come out of her. He has to talk to her to get use to his size if that doesn't work, both of them have to go to hospital because pain during sex is a sign that something is wrong with the woman.



Charmingrascal:
Haaaa!!!


Get a lubricant, let her lubricate very well and also up your pre-intimacy/for*play games.

Don't rush the pre-intimacy/for*play, you can decide to have pre-intimacy for not less than 45 minutes before penetration. (Intense pre-intimacy).
Try to avoid sex positions that will allow you to penetrate too deeply and hit her cervix, (Doggy should never be ur sex position)
Missionary style is better, let her be on top and control the moment.


But with some of the things you wrote here I think ur wife doesn't like sex and she is has low libido.

You need to talk to her again, because if a woman refuses to give a man SEX and food when he needs it, it is just a matter of time before he starts getting it else where.


And don't stay too long during sex, sex is more sweeter when it is short, intense and pleasurable. Too long sex can be so boring especially with the fact that your wife sex drive is very low.



I wish you all the best in your marriage Mr DavidNative


Signed
Charming Rascal EXPERIENCED bachelor

Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Gfskw: 4:27am On Oct 02, 2021
U need to fuvvvkk her the right way and shut up
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by DJInfluence: 7:10am On Oct 02, 2021
thorpido:
There was no pre-marital sex while you were dating, was she a virgin when you married her?
what's the relevance of this question to the topic at hand?
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by OSUWAKEABAM(m): 7:30am On Oct 02, 2021
Your case isn't alone on planet. That is why I commend you for sharing this. You see life isn't fair. You guys made a perfect pair. But truly, there's never a perfect pair. You live together learning how to accommodate each other. My advice for you is simple. Live with it as a handicap you have in your marriage.




I am handicapped too in some areas of marriage that if you get to know would baffle you


Some are dick too small, twenty seconds, watery fluid, barking during ejaculation, farts during fun, and so many you can't imagine.



I call this handicap. As said earlier, life isn't fair.

You can't have it all. No perfect m@n. Nothing is perfect.

Christ had demonstrated that He alone was and is still.


So, my friend, nobody can make your marriage for you. Take what you see


In good faith.



Begin to learn about her ovulation period.

Get her pregnant.

Have a baby, maybe after the first baby

Who knows her chemistry may change.


Don't do anything outside

You will regret it.

This is not enough to ruin your life dream of a family



You are a good man.
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by ledaman: 8:13am On Oct 02, 2021
Firstly I will beg you to be patient with her, since your marriage is build on the tenet of Almighty God.
Secondly you have to discuss with her what style she enjoys, because am truly sure you care alot about you spouse happiness too. Don't listen to those unmarried fellows that what to destroy your wonderful family.
Lastly you can meet a specialist in sex therapy if the two options didn't work out. Good luck Bro.

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Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Nobody: 10:15am On Oct 02, 2021
grin
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by thorpido(m): 10:18am On Oct 02, 2021
DJInfluence:
what's the relevance of this question to the topic at hand?
Think!Think!Think!....lazy youths think!
If she was a virgin before marriage,it means she lacked experience.That may be the cause of why she is generally cold towards sex.
That was why I asked the question.

You need to pay me for thinking for you.
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Chiomsies: 10:30am On Oct 02, 2021
OP, sorry to hear about what you are currently going through in your marriage.
I would advise you to talk to your wife and let her understand the implication of what she's doing to your marriage. Secondly I would advise you to get
LUBRICANT(you will find them in pharmacys) when having sex and also remember to go easy on her.
Finally talk to her about using the lubricant and promise her that you would try and go easy on her alongside using the lub.

Remember that lack of sex in marriage can lead to couples growing apart and if care is not taken they may eventually become estranged.
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by Danosophe(m): 12:47pm On Oct 02, 2021
People that are Sexually Active should always open up the Discussion to their partners during Dating. It saves a whole lot of stress after they become married. If not for Religious and Sanctity reasons, I'd advise that there should be Sex before the marriage is Consummated.

Many marriage homes are breaking becos either of the Couple has a distaste for Sex. Sex is very fundamental in marriage. If one's not too pleased with it, kindly locate your type, to avoid future marital trouble.
Re: My Wife Complains That My Private Part Is Too Big & That I Stay Too Long, Help by HRprof: 1:40pm On Oct 02, 2021
bikefab:
She should be thankful that she has at her disposal what many other women are earnestly looking for. This life no balance.

No woman want oversize Dickson, is high time we stop deceiving ourselves. The bigger the painful and the longer dey tear womb. I am a woman we prefer moderation

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