Beacause it is in their nature to do so sometimes!!!!

Increase your hustle to provide her more than what she needed

armstrongadeola:

Thanks .

All these slay queens we married don't joke with money and funniest thing is that my wife is so stingy with her money but wetin man go do.

I will not even get my salary into that account again. Why I am using my son account is that most time,I don't even know how I spend the money and I believe she will do better than me in expenses but since she is indirectly telling me she is broke after getting #35,000 in just five days ,I shouldn't try that again

Honestly speaking, I'm more concerned for the fact that you and your wife look like you guys are not financially disciplined. You and your wife need better financial plan with your income.

Not saying you shouldn't borrow before salary drops in but be moderate.

Not saying that you shouldn't give money to your and her family members but why three people from the single salary at a time? Why not one person per salary?

Your concern shouldn't be just about 35k or 30k, it should include how she spent it!

You need to do better with your financial plan because your family is getting bigger and that means more responsibility for you. More savings and additional investments should be your priority.

obi4eze:
Oga this is not the right place to bring family issues. You should be a man and solve your family issues instead of washing your dirty linen in public.
If you truly love your wife as you claim you should be able to ask her why she lied and sort out the issue with her instead of coming to expose her here.

We are not your wife and neither is she us.

Nairaland is not that bad, people can actually get better and fair advices here. And bitter truth pill too that may be hard to swallow.

Romanoff:
Marriage no be by age o. Na by maturity.
See what someone's husband is bringing to social media, this is what marriage has been reduced to.

Issues that should be discussed between man and wife gets brought to social media for children and skeptics of marriage to analyze and criticize.

If you dey pray for husband, your first requirement should be man wey get sense.

E get why.

That's y it's a faceless forum. It doesn't matter. Men should stop expecting 100% sincerity from ladies. Especially wen it comes to money issues

OnyeObodo:


Chairman learn to overlook some certain things. Thats women for you. Even though they have, they always like receiving.

Just find a way and jokingly tell her that you know... you will be like;

"Baby baby... You think I didn't know you baranda me 5k the last time you withdrew. Are you now running me street"?

Be laughing as you are saying this and watch her explain to you her reasons. Women hate harsh and stingy men. Don't show her you calculate a lot. But be firm and resolute while taking you decisions as a man.

Peace.

U spoken de truth. Buh u don't live ur life bcus of woman. Be real if she's doesn't love u, let her leave

armstrongadeola:
Good evenning house ,

I just want to ask this simple question !

What will you do if for the first week you get your salary paid into your son account and your wife withdrew #35,000 but lied she withdrew #30,000 ?

This is what happened .She gets the SMS notification from our son account and she also keep the ATM card but all I do is to get the mail notification.

Tonight ,she was indirectly complaining she doesn't have money and I asked her how much she withdrew in the last five days and she said #30,000 but the mail notification I got showed she withdrew #5,000,#15,000 and #15,000 on Monday and Tuesday (this week ).

The amount that dropped in the account was #150,000 and she was the one that even started doing transfer for those we needed to settle last sunday when my salary dropped .

We paid our son school fee ,sent little amount to my sister and little amount to her mum and her elder sister and I borrowed #13,000 from the money for transportation.We paid debt of #20,000 .

I stay and work on the island while I go home three times a week (mainland)

In all these,she was able to withdrew #35,000 and I was surprised she was telling me this night to get the money someone was owing me so that I can return the #13,000 I got because all what we have as balance in the account is #2,000 .

I was like is she trying to tell me she have finished the #35,000 with her and jokingly I said how much did you even withdraw from the salary and she said #30,000 !

I asked her if she was sure and she said that's what she withdrew .I now sent the notification I got to her and she was shocked and refused to reply me since 8pm .

My question is why did she lie ? Definitely ,she know she took #35,000 (#5,000 &#15,000 on Monday&another #15,000 on tuesday )but I am still shocked why she lied and why she is insisting on getting the #13,000 she transferred to me from my own sweat !!

Seriously ,I have lost my trust in her .This is someone who I have never benefitted anything from her rather than the fact that we have a son together after our wedding .

I love her so much and we have been together since 2013 .I have never seen any trace of infidelity in her but she locks her phone with heavy security just because I lock mine and that have never cause an issue but I still don't know why she had to lie this night !

Is there something I don't understand ?

She have definitely been a good wife since we settled down( with prayer and moral support )and she always stand by me in term of better and worse and she is not wayward despite how pretty she is .

But why did she lie ?

U can hardly benefit anything from a 9ja babe. That's our culture.

chatinent:

This is a very wrong statement to use against your wife.


The same reason you lock yours is the same reason she locks hers so stop buttressing the “heavy security” thing. Is yours soft and yet nobody knows it?

By the way, I don't support her lie. She has to apologize!

The best solution. Follow dis n u will never regret

armstrongadeola:
Good evenning house ,

I just want to ask this simple question !

What will you do if for the first week you get your salary paid into your son account and your wife withdrew #35,000 but lied she withdrew #30,000 ?

This is what happened .She gets the SMS notification from our son account and she also keep the ATM card but all I do is to get the mail notification.

Tonight ,she was indirectly complaining she doesn't have money and I asked her how much she withdrew in the last five days and she said #30,000 but the mail notification I got showed she withdrew #5,000,#15,000 and #15,000 on Monday and Tuesday (this week ).

The amount that dropped in the account was #150,000 and she was the one that even started doing transfer for those we needed to settle last sunday when my salary dropped .

We paid our son school fee ,sent little amount to my sister and little amount to her mum and her elder sister and I borrowed #13,000 from the money for transportation.We paid debt of #20,000 .

I stay and work on the island while I go home three times a week (mainland)

In all these,she was able to withdrew #35,000 and I was surprised she was telling me this night to get the money someone was owing me so that I can return the #13,000 I got because all what we have as balance in the account is #2,000 .

I was like is she trying to tell me she have finished the #35,000 with her and jokingly I said how much did you even withdraw from the salary and she said #30,000 !

I asked her if she was sure and she said that's what she withdrew .I now sent the notification I got to her and she was shocked and refused to reply me since 8pm .

My question is why did she lie ? Definitely ,she know she took #35,000 (#5,000 &#15,000 on Monday&another #15,000 on tuesday )but I am still shocked why she lied and why she is insisting on getting the #13,000 she transferred to me from my own sweat !!

Seriously ,I have lost my trust in her .This is someone who I have never benefitted anything from her rather than the fact that we have a son together after our wedding .

I love her so much and we have been together since 2013 .I have never seen any trace of infidelity in her but she locks her phone with heavy security just because I lock mine and that have never cause an issue but I still don't know why she had to lie this night !

Is there something I don't understand ?

She have definitely been a good wife since we settled down( with prayer and moral support )and she always stand by me in term of better and worse and she is not wayward despite how pretty she is .

But why did she lie ?

Be sure that child is yours..
I do not trust the judgement of simps like you, you always say "she is a good girlfriend, wife blah blah blah" when it is clear you neglected the red signs during courtship....

Simps disgusts me!
The weakness men display nowadays,in the face of direct injustice and manipulation from women they go senile while acting Hollywood romance but when it comes to fellow men,they become uncaring,arrogant,unkind crouching tigers..

armstrongadeola:

Thanks .

All these slay queens we married don't joke with money and funniest thing is that my wife is so stingy with her money but wetin man go do.

I will not even get my salary into that account again.Why I am using my son account is that most time,I don't even know how I spend the money and I believe she will do better than me in expenses but since she is indirectly telling me she is broke after getting #35,000 in just five days ,I shouldn't try that again

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Sit her down and have a conversation with her aboutFinances, trust and honesty.It’s the little things that matter plus it’s a tad disrespectful to refer to your wife as “all these slay queens”.Sort it out and enjoy your marriage.

sisisioge:


Oga Edo biko mind yourself. No start I beg! Just let sleeping dog lie biko. Thank you.

OK sisisioge. But seriously I was just bantering.

armstrongadeola:
She didn't forget .she just lied but we will be fine tomorrow morning .We don't let our dispute go beyond a day but I still don't know why she said that .

I will not even ask her again .Bygone is bygone .That's the kind of man I am.i will just let it slide

You're the type that bottle up emotions in the name of “letting it slide”.

Oracleforce:
Most naija ladies are pathological lies...All that is in their heads is to keep exploiting, extorting, and leeching you nothing more...the moment you tell them about the increase in your salary, they will look for how to increase their monthly upkeep...as If Nah you be their Jesus...

You better wise up...after draining you, the moment you can't cater for the family again, she will go back to her father's house and leave you with your wretched life...

A word is enough for the wise...

What amazed me most is that they will still come and be claiming the feminist movement... a feminist movement that doesn't know how to take responsibility equally and just want to have everything equally.

Woman life is one of deceptive life I have ever seen...
Tueh kelebe...i spit on my mother and sisters

Keep spitting on your mothers ans sisters.

drkranky:


Don’t let this slide because it will happen again trust me I know what I’m saying. The best is sit down and discuss it even if it will lead to quarrel then let it happen as long as you have buttressed your point.
Women need to be monitored and controlled by their men because they are not the best decision makers because they think with their hearts than their heads. You need to find out what she did with the money and make sure it doesn’t happen again.

Women are heading countries way more advanced than the shit you live in and wallow in. Your country headed by mostly MEN is a disgrace to the entire human race. Send the ladies in your family to Saudi Arabia if they can’t think for themselves, men own women there.

Bobmarie:
Women are heading countries way more advanced than the shit you live in and wallow in. Your country headed by mostly MEN is a disgrace to the entire human race. Send the ladies in your family to Saudi Arabia if they can’t think for themselves, men own women there.

This has nothing to do with politics. A politician is different. We are talking about marriage here where trust is the core factor. So if I can’t trust my wife with my wife then imma as well remain single. It’s obvious the wife just breached a contract of trust. Hope you get the point now?

Bobmarie:
Keep spitting on your mothers and sisters.

Trouble sat on its own and you came here to find it...
A product of unprotected sex...you better ask you, mother, who your real father is. I'm sure she is still hiding the information from the whole family.

When she was much younger, in her bid to make money, she kept on offering her cunt for a fee...and you are the product of her reckless and promiscuous life..
And if you watch the pattern of your family, you will discover that all your female siblings are following the same lifestyle including you...as matter of fact, the major reason you are on this platform is to seek customers for yourself and some of your female siblings because your frequency in Romance Thread shows it...
There is no crime in becoming a professional Runs girl, Olosho, or an Escort as far as you deliver the service you are being paid for...after all, it is a means of survival in this drought time. As far as your ignoble occupation is paying your bills and putting food on your table...I dont quarrel with that, it is your body, you can use it the way you like it....but coming to my mention, and be attacking my innocent comment is what I frown at...

Because I burst your bubble, by telling you the truth, you came attacking me....i have no apology to do to anybody for saying the truth. I'm here to rescue the souls of men from a leech like you and like your sibling. And you are not just a leech, you are a devourer...and I pity any man in your life because, by the time you finish his entire destiny, he will. not recover from it again...