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Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Tushmanny123: 12:29pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
Your sister is comfortable with not wanting to have anything to do with you people again where ever she is, y'all shouldn't blame the innocent guy.....i have experienced this same issue too.... The problem started when your parents arrested the man who will later become the father of their grandchild and also beat up your sister mercilessly like u said. Did the guy raped your sister? Your parents went too far...now they facing the consequence. Igbo people with their obsession with a girl child all because of huge bride price. Greedy people |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by VTJN(m): 12:36pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
Tushmanny123:And you are very sure you read the Op message before putting tribe into it? 2 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Neddyogu(m): 12:39pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
U guys disapproved of her choice, disrespected her, beat her and her boyfriend up and u expect her to come running with open arms? The girl moved from a region of low love concentration to a region of high love concentration. Osmotic baby. Just show ur sister some love, saying u can't find tfare to Portharcout is absurd. Are u in kafanchan? Visit her, and in time, she'll warm to u guys again but it ain't gonn be automatic. Issa gradual process. People always respond to love. Win her over with love. |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by DOptical: 1:19pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
Your sister sef. Na wa for her. As much as the guy is to be blamed, she's to be blamed too. Some people sha. Dem go dey say dey love whereas na stupidity dey do them. That being said, I think your sister is trapped. I mean she's got no money, no phone nor anything to reach out. She's trapped under the guy due to the fact that she can only depend him. She shouldn't have eloped with him to a far place in the first place. That's why I said some people are stupid! |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by DOptical: 1:23pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
Mendy101: You dey talk crap. He paid her bride price? Who gave him woman in the first place? He stole that girl and worse, he doesn't allow her to see her family. His fvck needs to be treated up Tbh. The girl is stupid too. |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Blackdisciple(m): 1:34pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
Hmmm..! He has not paid anything... If na me be her brother n'na mhennn I no go free that bro ooo to be honest ehhh Nigeria pass the level wey man go over look another man doing rubbish to ya family ooo.... 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Munzy14(m): 1:39pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
Iyaebe:African problem. |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Mendy101: 1:57pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
DOptical:Ok o, all the best |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by bewla(m): 2:06pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
Franklyspeakin:You try Just to tell them say make them hustle But is it right to kidnapped this girl hold her as captive If na my Islamabad people your response will change ooooo 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Spherical77(m): 2:14pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
Neddyogu:Which high region concentration please? A matured man at that the girl uncle was buying a common phone for and you called that high concentration of love Besides, what is absurd in Op not having Tfair to and fro pourtharcourt? You talk as if you don't know what is happening in the country Op needs nothing less than 20-25k for only him alone that will take him to pourtharcourt from Lagos (going and coming and miscellaneous) Talkmore of 2 or 3 persons Nothing is absurd there please The man is a bad man and the girl is stupid 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by igbowoman: 2:15pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
NPTJ: I dont know what tribe you are but I say shame on that Igbo man. He knows by Igbo culture it is a shameful thing to take a woman without a bride price and he is doing it. I suspect your sister is being abused by this man hence the isolation from her family. If you know where she is, take a trip down there to PH and find her to see her with your 2 eyes and talk with her. If you need transport money to get down there,I will gladly help you 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Spherical77(m): 2:17pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
Blackdisciple:I swear if I'm in Op shoe I'd make sure the man land in coma I go pieces all him bones and joint together as a detriment to other useless men out there i swear 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by NPTJ(m): 2:27pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
DOptical:Yes I'm not putting all the blame on her. I know she has her fault too She deserves to be called even more than stupid 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by NPTJ(m): 2:33pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
igbowoman:I'm a Yoruba while the man is an igbo man from Imo state I would be grateful if you can support us with the transport fare. I and my elder brother will go see her and hopefully sleep over in the church before coming back to Lagos because i don't think my dad would want us to sleep under the man's roof for now Thanks |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Follak: 2:38pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
NPTJ:Visit them.Apologise to the husband for past mistakes.Do anything and everything to be in their lives and win them over |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by igbowoman: 2:39pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
NPTJ: How much will it cost for you to go to PH and return. Good idea not to sleep in his house please. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by NPTJ(m): 2:47pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
NoToPile:We only know his home town. We don't know his compound Yes we know some of his siblings, but they all based in the east When my dad called him three days ago, he said he'd be travelling and he doesn't have money to buy his wife a small phone to keep in touch with her and her family |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Neddyogu(m): 3:04pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
Spherical77: So even if it's 100k, u can't source it to look for ur own blood? If so, stop whining on social media. What do u want us to do? Create a GoFundMe account so u can at least visit ur sister? The girl maybe stupid but I don't believe transportation should be a problem if they're seriously looking to reunite with their own flesh and blood. U want reunion but are scared of monetary sacrifice? What kinda donkey talk is this? |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Neddyogu(m): 3:14pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
Spherical77: So what would you now do to ur sister that was opening leg upandan? Una go jus open mouth waaaaaaaaaaaa. Oshey Hulk Hogan. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Spherical77(m): 3:22pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
Neddyogu:Did you read the Op post before putting all these? Are you here to proffer solution or add to their plight? Didn't you read where he said his brother is earning 50k monthly while him on the other hand is still looking for job as a fresh graduate? Until you know and realised our fingers are not equal, then you will understand that there are people out there who hasn't eaten today Please stop all these your ITK of a thing abeg. Nothing is absurd if one found his/herself in a poor family bro.. They never demand for where to be born to. Op was just a serious and dedicated average Nigerians who's finding all legal means to break the yoke of poverty I'm sure you saw where he said he saw himself through school Yes you are right on one side. But i tell you bro people have lost their loved ones through health related issues that ordinary 5k can solve Things are happening in this country that i know Op is even better than most of our today youths who are into cyber fraud and the likes |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by VTJN(m): 3:36pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
Neddyogu:Guy be calming down please. If you read the Op post you will know he's from a poor home and that's one of the advantage the man took from his sister The education they are opportuned to have and the little exposure makes them realise what that man did was wrong. Being poor doesn't makes one stupid The Op lost his eldest brother, meaning they are left with just 3 boys The elder brother earn 50k monthly and he's supporting the family. The last born is in school while Op is hoping to secure a job Please where do you expect them to get money that will take them to PH and come back that it won't affect the house? Or you expect them to go and meet their family? Family who doesn't see them when they are suffering seeing themselves through school without any little support. Is it that family that would give them money for that? Please change your mentality about life. Poor people abound in this country called Nigeria 1 Like |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by emmyN(m): 3:38pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
NPTJ: Y'all are wicked in your family. You can't dictate to your grown up sister who and who not to marry. To even think you kept her ostracized from her beloved even after two kids says a lot. |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by emmyN(m): 3:40pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
Spherical77: Did you read where the man kept begging up to a year to have the daughter's hand in marriage but the Father refused? |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by VTJN(m): 3:41pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
igbowoman:May God bless you for this show of love ma/sir NPTJ please respond to this, may God help your family and deliver your sister. Amen! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Spherical77(m): 3:50pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
emmyN:The Op never said the man is begging to come do the marital rite and pay her bride price. The Op never said his sister ever for once told them that the man wants to come and do the needful till date Did you read where the Op said the man was telling his dad that the exorbitant school fees he's paying for his children is taking a toll on him? Meaning the man has the money to buy his so called wife phone but purposely chose not to buy it The man is a wicked man no two ways about it. People buy phone for their maids and other domestic staffs not to talk of someone you claimed to have loved The man took advantage of the poor girl perfectly considering the wide age gap again The man is nothing but a wicked man |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by nnamdiosu(m): 3:54pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
She got pregnant. Una beat her. Lock her man up. Then the same una dey complain say she no dey flow or call una. I don't get it. Anyways, no matter the age of a lady, once she gets pregnant, SHE AUTOMATICALLY BECOMES A WOMAN. the talk you guys should have instead talked to her is what would have at least put some send into her. There is time for beating and time for talking. Anyways, that being said, truth is, there is nothing you guys can do. Your parents messed up big time, it's now left for.you guys to do the mending of fences. My advise, Call them both to a small get together/family meeting. Apologise for wrongs done in the past. TRUST ME, THEY BOTH HABOUR GRIEVANCES AGAINST YOU ALL, ESPECIALLY THE MAN. 2. YOU ARE SAYING, THEY DIDNT CALL OR SHOW CONCERN DURING THE TRAGIC DEATHS IN THE FAMILY. ARE YOU GUYS ALSO BOTHERED ABOUT HOW THEY LIVE? HOE THEY FEED? THE BABY AND ALL. HAVE YOU GUYS SENT ANY MONEY FOR THEM OR THE BABY? 3. If indeed you guys want her back, swallow pride and beg them. If not, her children you neices and nephews will join the list of forgotten family members. Wish you best of luck |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by emmyN(m): 3:55pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
NPTJ: How do you know this? She has a phone. You just don't have her cell number and she doesn't want you to |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by NPTJ(m): 3:59pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
igbowoman:Thanks for your kind gesture ma. God will reward you bountifully A friend who got mobilised for her NYSC around July this year said she paid 10k from Lagos to PH. I pressure coming will be within the same range also 20k will take me to and fro. Thanks and God bless 1 Like |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by emmyN(m): 4:00pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
Spherical77: Maybe you didn't follow up properly with the thread. The OP did say the Father rejected the man as a suitor even when he came begging and professing love for their daughter. Like he got her pregnant and didn't abscond; he came to see the family and they had him arrested. Who does that? There is no evidence she doesn't have a phone as they have not seen her in a while. She may have one but doesn't want to have a personal contact with her family. She would rather they go through her husband. |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by NPTJ(m): 4:06pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
nnamdiosu:When she was in Lagos my parents was very much close to her. My mum younger brother bought her a phone then. She said the phone they bought for her got spoilt just a year after they moved to PH They've spent 8 years in PH now and she has not been using a phone since then Even though she was stupid, it's not possible for her to have a phone and purposely hide it away from us Even the husband too confirmed it |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by nnamdiosu(m): 4:11pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
NPTJ: It's ok. You guys should call for peaceful talks. Like I said, I'm def sure they still HABOUR resentments somehow. You guys have to let the past remain in the past. Get her a phone or means to communicate. Send her money of possible for upkeep. What has happened has happened. Good luck bro |
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