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Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by Rooneyx(f): 11:51pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Idamond:Mine worse but we move on. Use your head while giving |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by Betboss(m): 11:53pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Idamond: Better give yourself brain, otherwise, you might not be able to eat. Mind you I'm also a giver, but I have come to realise that people are so inconsiderate. They only care about their own. So, give But make sure you put yourself first. If you don't have enough, tell the person, you don't have. They will still survive. 4 Likes |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by Nobody: 11:56pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
sorom4: Facts only! The day I trekked from Surulere to Ikeja cos I got robbed of my money was the day I swore never to pity anybody that comes with a cry-baby excuse of not being able to trek a few bus stops. 7 Likes |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by 4gunners(m): 12:04am On Oct 25, 2021 |
olisefom:No 1 principle, some people will just assume you’ve money growing machine somewhere. I can’t remember the last time someone actually gave me money. 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by Nobody: 12:04am On Oct 25, 2021 |
fortune1968: There are several stories of Patriarchs who went above and beyond for others, but were either abandoned in old age, or their families were upon their demise. Life doesn't work with sentiments. 7 Likes |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by vickydevoka(m): 12:05am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Idamond:If most of the people who you are giving are ladies, that means you not a giver, you are just mother fûcker......ass licker 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by Fatah1212: 12:06am On Oct 25, 2021 |
U should thank God, I prefer "people disturbance" than "poverty disturbance" |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by Throwback: 12:11am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Equity15: CC: Idamond My Facebook, WhatsApp statuses have been dormant for many years. I don't upload pictures or congratulate wifey on birthdays or post lengthy sophistry on wedding anniversaries, or comment or like posts on Facebook unless it is very necessary like condolence messages for people I shouldn't avoid. All just so I don't reignite my existence in the consciousness of people who feel they must always depend on others. I ensure I live within my means, and even when I had little income in my early work days, I never showed any interest in the money earned by my family or friends who were better paid. Maybe it is pride, but it is pride everyone should have to help curtail the nuisance of dependence on others. As for picking calls I do not have in my contacts, maybe on a ratio of 1 out of 20, while notorious contacts I already know are kept calling till they get the message. Happy New Month on WhatsApp? guy I no dey reply am. But do these cunning measures of mine eliminate the nuisance of begi-begi? It only help to reduce it, as there are people begging at every interpersonal interaction these days. If you avoid the friends and family at the home or social front, can you avoid the security and cleaning staff in the office? Despite all my measures, many still consider me a cheerful giver. You can only console yourself that you are the one in a position to be assaulted by their needs, rather than you being in a position to be assaulting others with your needs. Don't let them pull you down with the burden of their bukata. They are everywhere lurking around, looking for Simon of Cyrene to bear their cross. 9 Likes |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by vertueptime: 12:15am On Oct 25, 2021 |
My brother we see dw suffer from e-beggers on nairaland and bambiala Twitter, They are usually final year students Don't have food to eat or hav not eaten in 5days They post account details carelessly Feel free to add Idamond: |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by TEYA: 12:20am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Mercychen:you think the bolded is true. i laugh out loud! 7 Likes |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by Throwback: 12:20am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Equity15: The money I will give out this month end can buy me 2 new Lacoste polo shirts that I last bought in 2019, as wifey has barred me from such luxuries. I deprive myself enjoying the money I have worked for only to spend same on the legion of the needy. 5 Likes |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by pansophist(m): 12:21am On Oct 25, 2021 |
The problem is that you haven't weeded out situational friends. If you observe closely, you'll noticed that these beggar friends are mostly people that you didn't choose to be friends with, but due to circumstances beyond your control, they ended up becoming your friends. I call them situational friends. Circumstances such as growing up in the same neighbourhood, classmates, church members, etc. As an adult that takes life as a serious business, you should filter away the one that serves no purpose, and make the ones that are good for you. For example, a smart way to go about it is to move to another city, where you'll have the possibility to handpick your friends. Also, Facebook has a feature that makes you hide uploaded content from people that after they see it, will trigger their impulse to exercise their skills in begging. So you actually don't need to close it, but use the filter options. Or close it even. So my guy, your experiences are typical in poorer countries, especially a country that is a world capital of poverty. Regardless, take care of yourself first, let them take care of theirs. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by emmanuelpopson(m): 12:22am On Oct 25, 2021 |
I hardly give people the attention they crave to have online among friends and families kos I don't post on Facebook, WhatsApp or Instagram. And my pic of many years still there.. I have come to understand that people that needs help are not the ones that contact you but there entitlement made them do that because they see you as a money bag.. 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by bigbossila: 12:23am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Your story is exactly like mine. you're not the only person that is facing this kind of issues. Me too am tired.. believe me is everywhere in this country....the worst part if get they will never consider 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by GloShare(m): 12:27am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Tayosteve: Did you realize your error? 3 Likes |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by GloShare(m): 12:30am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Throwback: Well said. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by pansophist(m): 12:32am On Oct 25, 2021 |
GloShare: The irony. Many will even beg like they want to die, and without your intervention, they are doomed. You're the only one that can save them, and they've exhausted all options. Usually when I give, I do it with the impression that the receiver will go and solve their problem, and won't come back. But I have folks that have been begging me since 15 years ago, and you till now, they still do. So I stopped helping. Since its like pouring water in a basket, it's futile. Strategic greed should be integrated into the life of every person. Because if you think about it, you can't solve everyone's problem. So how about focus on yourself and live well instead? Of course this doesn't mean i dont give, but I give with sense. 17 Likes |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by GloShare(m): 12:34am On Oct 25, 2021 |
pansophist: Happened with my wife, I told her to ignore. A week later, we saw the person, hale and hearty, throwing a surprise birthday party for her husband. 10 Likes |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by okpmoses: 12:42am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Mercychen: Rubbish!!! 3 Likes |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by Sadisbala(m): 12:57am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Idamond:thank god you are not the one beging them,dont forget that givers never lack,maybe the little you are given is the reason why god is giving u more |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by bdon123(m): 12:58am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Idamond:Facing same thing...its ridiculous.Dont even answer unknown numbers n msgs on fb.Its like someone i haven't seen in years or not close to is always asking me for financial help .I hate explaining or saying no so i no longer even reply msgs again.Now i hav my peace 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by EarlyCareer: 1:01am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Story of my life right now. I'm so overwhelmed. The sad part is the entitlement, some will keep malice with you for not helping while forgetting all you have been doing. Almost like as if you are holding a purse for them with money that you must give when they ask. I even shouted out of frustration at a relation that I did not have anymore to give, and the person started shouting back at me till I apologised...the next month, the person called again to ask for money. May God help our country, the burden is too much on those helping and the situation is so bad right now. 8 Likes |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by olaolaking: 1:03am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Idamond: Quit now, wating concern me? |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by maziude: 1:04am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Mercychen: This right here have driven people to their early grave. Guilt tripping is not healthy. 11 Likes |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by juman(m): 1:11am On Oct 25, 2021 |
APC government has turned nigerians to beggars. Despite nigeria is a country with all potential of greatness. Nigeria is a ruined country. APC = PDP. Vote better people to lead us in next election. 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by EarlyCareer: 1:31am On Oct 25, 2021 |
GloShare: Very, very true. 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by CapitalBank: 1:57am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Idamond:LEARN TO SAY NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO IF it is inconvenient for you. 4 Likes |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by 10mobile: 2:02am On Oct 25, 2021 |
richidinho:You sound like my brother from Ezza. |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by Lexusgs430: 2:18am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Idamond: Do you have a block option on your device/apps?..... |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by nick50(m): 2:20am On Oct 25, 2021 |
It's becoming an ugly trend nowadays people sees social network as a place of begging, d tin has been bothering me u just poured out my mind 5 Likes |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by yusluvad(m): 2:37am On Oct 25, 2021 |
You got me laughing hard bro... richidinho: 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by Analysiscorner: 2:38am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Idamond:Pay your necessary bills first. They are not luxury. Budget money for everything including giving, and your savings. When giving, don't tamper with your savings except in rare cases, like a family have terminal illness or you are led to give specific amount to someone without their begging. Like someone wrote above, thank God for the position he has placed you in. Do everything not to feel bad about their begging, but still no when to say no. When you have exhausted your budget for the month, it is not lying to say you don't have money. 4 Likes |
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