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There should be a Therapy section on nairaland.

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demoBaba:
You're the problem here bro, MOST YOU TELL HER YOU SENT MONEY TO YOUR MOTHER WHAT TYPE OF MAN ARE YOU? I didn't say you shouldn't open with your wife, don't relate your family issue with her, you send 50k to your mother, father, siblings etc. Tell her you sent 2k and enjoying your wife sample. Moreover I don't discussed those kind issue with my wife, if you want happy home. I spent my money the way I want it, but i make sure my wife, children don't lack anything that's most important thing. Good luck.

Childish advice.

Since when does a wife have a say on what I should do for my mother as a man? Children jumping into marriage fooling them sef with the word "love"

Op. You deserve to be flogged in public naked for your stupidly and foolishness. I pity the woman that gave birth to a foolish man like you. How dare u even seek advice on this? Such a weak man. Gerrat

brownemmanuel43:

So many idiots parading as men. I don't just understand some idiotic guys here. How dare ur wife question what u sent to your mama. Op if God no punish now it will be later. As for that your bitch wife, she should always remember that what she sow would be what she will reap.
Too many weaklings this day

You are the man bro,my kind of person

officialmario:
Dear Nairalanders

There is this issue that is bothering my mind, I have promise to be faithful to my wife and always let her know whatever comes in for me.
But the problem is that I always tell her how money is spent, and whenever I present list for whatever we buy and all other expenses, but each time she sees anything like I sent 10k to my mother, she always pick up fight with me, and I have not been biased, I send money to her mother too.

I don't know why she is acting like this, and It doesn't make me a happy man at home.
Please I need your advice on what I can do, I don't want to hide anything from my wife.

Weakling you are

I swear to my living God, na my wife dey even remind me to send money or provisions to my mom.

Your own mother, I swear the kind slap I will give her will be worse than when I use blow on her.

After my kids, my mom then my wife follow suit.

FACT
forget this love of a thing
I can't love someone I met yesterday than the person who have known me even before I know myself(mom).

Good day



Matthew 6:2

Believe me, If she truly loves you ehn...trust me ,walahi she will love your family and relatives and everything that has to do with you.... I don talk my own.....

IS YOUR WIFE AN ESAN WOMAN?

tyup:
Is she also telling/showing you her monthly expenses and how she forward money to her folks to or ur just being a fool here?? cuz I can't seem to understand when it becomes ur duty to send her parent money every month

The way so called married come on here and tell us their story like 10yr old kids get as e dey irritate my sex organ

I swear, the guy sounds dull

No woman, i repeat no woman will ever pick up a fight with me because i send money to my family... Op don't allow your wife stop you from sending money to your family

TripleOh7:
I hope that woman will not kill you one day.

You don't show everything to your wife.

The only woman you can trust totally to never harm you is probably your mother.

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God bless

officialmario:


Something about her is that, if I buy a boxer I have to buy her a pant too, just to make it perfect, if I don't buy her own, it's going to be war.

She needs a job oooo.
Get her busy and earning

vicshub:
IS YOUR WIFE AN ESAN WOMAN?

or ijebu woman

Don't allow it to bother you bro. Nothing like mothers. We only have one mother but we can marry as many as we can. Show love to your mum now she's still alive.

crackhaus:

I said it's witchcraft.

That's the reason she is acting that way.

You are indeed very superstitious
Seriously


As regards the poster's topic, read some of his posts, then decide if you will take him serious.

yomi007k:


Make I no just talk wetin dey my mind...


Shey na my mama wey spend over 10000USD on me years ago to help me become successful plus fasting, prayers, ideas na him woman go come go dey beef?


If my mother wasnt responsible, I might not have made it.

No mind the OP, him just provoke me.

You don't have to tell her everything .... trust me women are wired differently .

do4luv14:



I don't know the Genesis of the problem that will make his wife ,or why she feels so whenever he did such good deeds,

but from what I can gather there is always something that brings about such attitude, and most often than not, it had to do with the guy source of Income, I. e, from whence he earn his pay

No amount of problem can warrant a wife feeling angry a man give his mother money. She got absolutely "no business" in what the husband choose to do for his mama. She is a wife to the man and that's it.

It's really annoying when people compare their mother to wife. In anything my mother comes first not that I deny my wife anything but whenever am making decisions about my family its my personal thing

Your wife is a witch.

You are a joke.

The people telling you to hide and send money to your family are the biggest jokes.

If you have to hide to do things for your own family, then there is a fundamental problem with you, your wife and the marriage.

Carry your cross biko. Some of us have bigger issues.

officialmario:
Dear Nairalanders

There is this issue that is bothering my mind, I have promise to be faithful to my wife and always let her know whatever comes in for me.
But the problem is that I always tell her how money is spent, and whenever I present list for whatever we buy and all other expenses, but each time she sees anything like I sent 10k to my mother, she always pick up fight with me, and I have not been biased, I send money to her mother too.

I don't know why she is acting like this, and It doesn't make me a happy man at home.
Please I need your advice on what I can do, I don't want to hide anything from my wife.

From experience, women do not really respect simple and straight forward men, you need to be more Manly- whatever that means to you. Next time make a list, only include what you sent to her mum, and not your mum.Her reaction will make you know if you married a devil or an angel

officialmario:
Dear Nairalanders

There is this issue that is bothering my mind, I have promise to be faithful to my wife and always let her know whatever comes in for me.
But the problem is that I always tell her how money is spent, and whenever I present list for whatever we buy and all other expenses, but each time she sees anything like I sent 10k to my mother, she always pick up fight with me, and I have not been biased, I send money to her mother too.

I don't know why she is acting like this, and It doesn't make me a happy man at home.
Please I need your advice on what I can do, I don't want to hide anything from my wife.

Must she know if u send money to your mother? No, so even if you buy groundnut for work u go come tell her? U know your wife well better than any of us, so things u feel she will get angry or jealous put it away from her, all the best

@OP, let there be balance. Yes, your mother suffered for you but you now have your own home. Whatever you do for your mother, also do a little for her own mother. And please remember that you have a home to raise which your mother will be proud of if you do it well.

Make sending money to your family, something personal and private. In this your privacy, your wife has zero access.

Igbo women Na their way

It seems love still dey blow your head. My woman can't dictate for me. I do send 30k to my parents monthly which she knows but any day I will hear strange words from her about my parents monthly allowance I will stop giving her parents the little I do give them. You gave her the privilege.

officialmario:
Dear Nairalanders

There is this issue that is bothering my mind, I have promise to be faithful to my wife and always let her know whatever comes in for me.
But the problem is that I always tell her how money is spent, and whenever I present list for whatever we buy and all other expenses, but each time she sees anything like I sent 10k to my mother, she always pick up fight with me, and I have not been biased, I send money to her mother too.

I don't know why she is acting like this, and It doesn't make me a happy man at home.
Please I need your advice on what I can do, I don't want to hide anything from my wife.

Is she a housewife? If she is, that would explain a lot.

officialmario:
Dear Nairalanders

There is this issue that is bothering my mind, I have promise to be faithful to my wife and always let her know whatever comes in for me.
But the problem is that I always tell her how money is spent, and whenever I present list for whatever we buy and all other expenses, but each time she sees anything like I sent 10k to my mother, she always pick up fight with me, and I have not been biased, I send money to her mother too.

I don't know why she is acting like this, and It doesn't make me a happy man at home.
Please I need your advice on what I can do, I don't want to hide anything from my wife.

Listen to this yeye boy... What kind of advice do you want to hear from here? Ok stop sending money to your mum, and be ready to receive a very big nemesis from your children too.
Mind you, how could you send money to your mother and be telling your wife... For what For her to feel jeolous or to Kno your a weak husband.
Your wife position is quite different from your mum position, both of them are parallel line that supposed not to meet unless you want a spiritual fighting over your soul and your financial life.
Take good care of your mum likewise your wife, but never again you disclose how your money is being sent or spent on the either of them...
I implore you to apply a wisdom and some senses henceforth...

officialmario:
Dear Nairalanders

There is this issue that is bothering my mind, I have promise to be faithful to my wife and always let her know whatever comes in for me.
But the problem is that I always tell her how money is spent, and whenever I present list for whatever we buy and all other expenses, but each time she sees anything like I sent 10k to my mother, she always pick up fight with me, and I have not been biased, I send money to her mother too.

I don't know why she is acting like this, and It doesn't make me a happy man at home.
Please I need your advice on what I can do, I don't want to hide anything from my wife.

I pity you young folks, you don't understand women.
They are the most selfish of all creatures of God.
Not only that, they are never satisfied.
Give them the whole of Abuja, they will ask you to add Lagos.

Tell them two out of five and definitely not what you do for your mom.
To them, your mom is a competitor.

When you have friends/wifes, prepare for when there will be qualms.

Must you tell her you're sending money to your family?

Unclesamo:


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God bless

Bless you too.

tyup:


Sadly such mistakes happen when we men fail to make our GF or spouse know their place and boundaries. who on Earth is that girl that would question how my money is spent?? if i've paid bride price, I got no business anymore sending that family money. how dare my GF open my fridge without my consent?? or spouse shouting on my junior sis either she's right or wrong??

You are toxic.

I they follow vex too, the wife no well.

saheedbadmus:
But she won't be mad if you send her own mother money..guy always remember this mother of yours suffered to train u ..if u b tout she no go marry you o and the money u are talking about na you dey earn am o..na that same mother wey train u, ur wife come dey vex say u dey send money. Ogede mama ti wo cocoa eh yeh tan oti wan di igi buruku loju iyawo eh..oga ur wife is greedy, heartless ,wicked,self centered and a bad person..am sure she doesn't tell u when ever she transfers money to her own parents o ..just tell her what ever she thinks/do to her mother in law today shall be done to her by her daughter in-laws..in a nut shell don't tell her when ever you give you mum money..inshort I Don vex this early morning

Obyangel:



Fact but you are still a boy. When you step in to family mold, definitely you go kwere( Understand the female)

The only toddler here is nobody but you, what is there to understand bout the nasty attitude of females?? nonsense

Nor overthinkam!
Na women way be dt..
Highly territorial beings.
They can give their your things to their own families but you dare not give your assets to your family!
There's virtually no family without one of such selfish beings.

This is ur cross....may God give u d grace to carry it.