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Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Bamzyriches451: 4:23pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
Mmmm |
Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Ibadanchief(m): 4:38pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
Come and meet me NNE |
Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Karnice600: 4:43pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
You didn't specify if you prayed about this union to be. You may call me religious if you wanna. Looks like he prioritizes his parent's compliments over your convenience. You can't press on to marry him with a high flying red flag as this. You gotta be sure God has your back on this one. Tell him you need a break. Take a while off. Go on your knees and reevaluate your decisions and let God guide you through. Shalom. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Wchris(m): 4:59pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
Be yourself and improve on yourself, and don't allow anyone to push around. You are not alone |
Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by wendixx(f): 5:28pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
Havilaah1: Hi dear, I love your personality and from your writeup you seem like a great person. I totally understand you. I tend to be introvert when I don't know you, and then I open up when we get close.. I flow with the vibe shown to me.. Please don't be or act desperate. This is the time you determine the kind of relationship you will have in marriage and how your home is run. You are who you are and have explained yourself. As long as you have checked yourself and you know you are cool with them, let it be. Relationships with Inlaws are built over time and not forced. Stand your ground and also give him small attitude as well.. Two can play this game... Give him a little dose of his own medicine. When he asks you about it, "tearfully" tell him how his words made you feel. He should understand your personality by now and should defend you. Quarrel if you must. Every heartfelt relationship must have a time to quarrel and reconcile so you can tell each other the truth. Let him take a stand now with his full chest and we stand by it. Our igbo elders say, when brothers go for a meeting and they all come out laughing, they have not told each other the truth. So dear, BE STRONG! Nothing spoil. Above all pray about this relationship. The devil hates good things and would want to spoil it but he is a defeated foe. Meanwhile, when is he marrying you? Enough of the delay, let him make the move and seal the relationship or free you. Time of many years courtship has past oh. If man see who he likes he marries quick. Cheers dear. I wish you the best . 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by wendixx(f): 5:29pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
Karnice600: God bless you for this. My thoughts exactly. |
Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by francis7257(m): 5:54pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
Candidlady:Misunderstood |
Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Shadowbeauty(f): 6:10pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
Havilaah1:My dear l understand where your fiancé is coming from. I had same issue with my Ex....l felt he didnt care so much about my family cos he wasn't making efforts to relate well with my family and we're all very friendly and accepting I'm also an introvert too and l understand how difficult it is for you but the truth is you need to try harder since it means a lot to him...start with baby steps,fake it till you make it |
Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by blaise26abj(m): 6:57pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
frozen70: I should advise her to mix up thereby agreeing with you and not countering you . Lol . You are funny gan. I said what I said and I said it based on experience. if you don’t like it then that is not my problem . Is being introverted a bad thing ? Listening to one’s siblings about a perceived shortcomings of a partner and letting that affect the relationship/marriage is a big red flag to me . Especially when the partner is trying . @Op - You are who you are and It is not a bad thing to be introverted. If he doesn’t see your efforts and encourage you , then he might not be your man . A man that will let what his family says affect how he relates with his fiancée or wife is not ready for commitment . Shikena 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by josite: 7:15pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
Be yourself .marriage should not change a reserved person into.a noisy person.let the guy go find a sibblings relater .I have 3 brother 8n.laws I've spoken 30 paragraphs statements to in 30 years. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by frozen70(f): 7:35pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
Wick3: Hahaha, my dear, I am for two decades now When it comes to marriage, lots of sacrifices are made for the sake of peace and unity and especially for the children who are expected to extend the relationships Friendship is easier than marriage Marriage have baggages while friendship doesn't have 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Nobody: 7:40pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by frozen70(f): 7:45pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
blaise26abj: It's easy to identify a bachelor and a married man Have you forgotten that talk is cheap 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by ultraviolet27(f): 8:53pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
pocohantas:. Abi o I must Say Nigerian families deserves the Kind of Saucy Daughter in-laws they have that was how my Uncles Wife was overly Respectful,Friendly and Generous to both my immediate,and extended Family to d extent She would Genuflect to greet even d Smallest of my Cousins call them Aunty and Uncle then now She don enter their House She dey Show them Pepper. Even then I knew She was deceitful,But I had to play along Since She was who they wanted Nigerians love Pretenders no wonder Buhari is their President. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Akuruoulo(m): 9:49pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
I CAN'T MARRY YOU IF U DON'T WIN MY FAMILY OVER FIRST |
Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by campbelljosh(m): 10:49pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
Problem no dey finish Candidlady: |
Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by JONNYSPUTE(m): 11:09pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
pocohantas:.... Wetin again weh i get for this life if no be them? Abeg na my treasures be that. I gat to do everything to make them happy. |
Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by blaise26abj(m): 12:00am On Nov 17, 2021 |
frozen70: Oshey identifier . I’m married madam |
Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by athorello(m): 5:59am On Nov 17, 2021 |
My only issue with your bf if he's failing on his own part to integrate you to his siblings having known your weaknesses as an introvert. Otherwise, who no like better thing? I believe you and your family are happy the way he's integrated and flows with y'all. Your family will obviously like him. If you don't bring yourself out, his family will think you're a snob and will alienate them from their brother. If you like assure him from today till tomorrow that his peeps are always welcomed to your home, he's not them and he can't convince them otherwise. So, you have to do the hard work. Sorry but the present is a predictor of the future. |
Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by space9880: 9:43am On Nov 17, 2021 |
bigpicture001:omo be like say wetin happen to you go soon happen to me too o. |
Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Midastorch(m): 6:11pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
Chrisx1x: Go tell that to the elders in your house |
Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by stanliwise(m): 7:54pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
Davash222:Don’t ever put a situation you put your wife against family. Your wife cannot be your family and neither can your family be your wife. So in other words your wife has no right to turn you against your family neither can your family turn you against your wife. If any of this happens then you’re not being responsible |
Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by stanliwise(m): 7:58pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
Greenfusion:Omo see matured advice. I salute sir |
Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by aameyah(f): 5:21pm On Nov 19, 2021 |
Mariangeles: You can love without making the lives of girlfriends/wives hell. |
Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Mariangeles(f): 5:38pm On Nov 19, 2021 |
aameyah: Ni kini? E ma pele e! Sebi gbogbo wa la Jo ma duro s'ori table na. |
Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Havilaah1: 2:41pm On Jan 13, 2022 |
He ended the relationship few weeks after i created this thread. |
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