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Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by ImaIma1(f): 2:16pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
Favfables1: Yes o. The kind of responses we get on this forum. Too many unreal people here. 4 Likes |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Nobody: 2:18pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
Klass99: None taken... Yes we are what we attract... Thats why I and "SOME NAIRALAND MALE USERS" are not attracted to broke girls ... "No offense meant either" 5 Likes |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Fabemo: 3:05pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
Hmmmm |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by seyz91(m): 3:06pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
confirm! FlipModeSquade: 2 Likes |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by aktolly54(m): 3:06pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
FlipModeSquade:when a single father grow old, who will take care of him? Baby mama 3 Likes |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Nobody: 3:07pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
Righteousness2:I wonder which is older , humanity or Christianity ; this one na pure hypocrite. Go and know history child 1 Like |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by seyz91(m): 3:07pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
mtcheewww! nonsense! bigjackass: |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by BabaIbo: 3:07pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
They want to eat their cake and still have it. 2 Likes |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Alf137: 3:08pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
His life |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Dirkcoyt: 3:09pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
Since marriage is a legal contract why don’t you do it like a contractor and a client percentage ratio. You see contractors given 25% mobilization fee then when they see how the work goes they add more 25% then certainly the contractor wants to get rest of the money then he push the work further then he gets another 25% etc till it’s balanced then both client and contractor are satisfied without problems. Mostly it’s even the contractor begging the client to pay up that he needs his money that he has invested some funds in the project to keep it afloat . Now let’s substitute the woman as the contractor and the man as client. As a man you’re trying to get the best value of quality and decent cost valuation from numerous women expecting you to choos them. Rather than go the conventional way of fall in love and propose straight without letting her having something to lose and she’s having entitled mentality cause she’s seeing herself as she’s doing you a favor regardless of your responsible for her bills and house bills. So you switch it up by reversing roles. If she’s good character get her pregnant first, do not do any introduction or marriage ! Let her be at your mercy as this time her stock is plummeting worrying about single motherhood. Bring her home or rent an apartment which ever works for you live like couples to make her save face , keep telling her you will meet her parents in due time . (By this time she will be doing all to show to you she’s a worthy wife material as she don’t want to go out again) you enjoy the cooking sex etc she’s commenting into the relationship in hope for a finally meeting with her parent for official marriage . Put in another child on the basis of you will meet her parent after the second child (by this time she’s too scared to leave and worrying who will marry a single mother of 2,she will be hoping you do the needful by putting effort ) after 10 years , meet with her family for introduction! Just introduction not marriage . Then pause again don’t move to next stage . Now this is like an official marriage Dangling in front of her then she wants the marriage after 5years of introduction introduce a prenup to her to sign . This makes her feel you’re finally ready . Then 5 years later do the official marriage that’s a journey of 20years. She has learnt and committed a lot to leave by this time and even if she walks out you got the best value of her early days already so even if she want divorce then the children are already 20 and blackmailing their mom emotional that’s it’s not the best time to divorce she should think about them. If she opt out still prenup cover you! Any which way you’ve had fun. Don’t forget to do the DNA! The point of all this women treat and disrespect marriage when they do far too little to build it or contribute less to it! They evade easily! Make them also commit in a way and swear themselves out to build it that way it last! Don’t just give them marriage on a platter! I’ve learnt with my recent ordeal ! 6 Likes |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by seyz91(m): 3:10pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
confirm! emmanuelbrown26: |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by AfroKnight: 3:10pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
No marriage, no in-laws, and no divorce settlement/alimony. Not a perfect arrangement but not a bad one too. 3 Likes |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Ladycewhy(f): 3:11pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
Acidosis:Except they want to be deadbeats which is very cheap . After all no law in Nigeria will tax them on child support . 2 Likes |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Elsueno: 3:11pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
Mindlog: How those this really work, for example if u don't want the child born in Nigeria, like for him/her to have different nationality? 1 Like |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Yoighaman(m): 3:11pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
Chuky7: If you are a true christian, you will never take that route. Even asides Christianity, why do that? You think the guys who do it are truly happy? 2 Likes |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Lemmy123(m): 3:11pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
Eweeeyyyy! |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Peace081: 3:11pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
I see this topic as a way of dragging women and calling them all sorts of names |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by baby124: 3:13pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
It all looks attractive until they are dragging you like Tiger generator to pay up for your responsibilities. Different women with different demands for their children. Ask Tuface Idibia about his experience. It’s not every rubbish you follow or do. Can your mind carry handling different women who have kids for you? You don’t even know if the woman comes from a family or armed robbers, rapists or killers. Then in future they are arresting you everywhere, to come and pay for what your child has done. Or one child is constantly robbing you and trying to sell the house you intend to retire in . Ask for serious advice from the ones that went through it before you first. Most are dead from hypertension and depression. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Yippeedaniel(m): 3:13pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
Nothing gets better than this |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Nobody: 3:15pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
I wasted my time going viewing this shit thread that sucks |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by twosquare(m): 3:15pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
SMH...Don't prepare yourself for an ungodly lifestyle based on the rudiments of this world and the philosophy of men. I knew when this type of lifestyle started gaining prominence, especially in Nigeria. It is a rubbish African-American lifestyle being imported by our celebrities from the West...whom I will call apostles of Satan...it breaks down the value system of marriage. God who gave us the marriage institution is not stupid; it is actually a safe haven to raise future generations. You need to read some of these baby mama and baby daddyism in America, I mean memoirs. They don't have it cool like you portray that lifestyle. Na regret...Both from the child's experience and parents. If we lose the traditional setup of marriage in Nigeria, then we are in serious trouble. I believe why marriage is no longer attractive, apart from the bad economy angle, are the people therein...not the institution itself. People whine about marriage rather than whining about their own self...by improving and moulding themselves to be a better version. For any marriage to succeed, it must imitate and implement the Book of Philippians. I believe in marriage so much, and I want to marry. I want to be the shepherd of my family and lead them to good pastures. After all, if Noah didn't marry, we won't be here or given a second chance. May the peace of God be upon marriages and those who advocate men to keep it honorable and follow the true path of the Ancient One. Ameen. Chuky7: 3 Likes |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Ladycewhy(f): 3:16pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
AfroKnight:Alimony? , which country are you talking from ? 2 Likes |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Nobody: 3:16pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
InTheCloudySky:Thought you Ladies now detest men. So why get annoyed when such is launched. After all, it favours you too. It makes it easier for both parties to stay away and retain their freedom. FAMILY still remains the Best if managed well. But with the new crop of Ladies we have now, MEN ought to start thinking too. Its better MARRIAGES are signed like FOOTBALL contracts. You Ladies need Freedom. You have always clamoured for it. Here it is now! 8 Likes |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Joshuazedd(m): 3:17pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
FlipModeSquade: Wow your mom must have been a very lazy woman 2 Likes |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Bigpapi: 3:17pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
Chuky7: He's a wise man 2 Likes |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by anonymous1759(m): 3:21pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
Vision101: What if you’ve another compliant from a girl-child whose father is maltreating will you alter this kinda word? so many girls wish their fathers wasn’t presence in their lives. No doubts Nothing supersedes a complete family if you get the right one but life has ups and downs even the complete families have their own issues . Mine own personal take For the OP do what makes you happy ,if it bounces Back you’ll be able to chew it because it’s your own personal decision but it’s more painful when you make choices based on people’s opinions and fail. I think it’s high time we stop putting societal pressure of marriage on people. That’s why our ladies are becoming lazy because they believe once you’re married all responsibility falls on the man and it also makes them marry the wrong people. I admire the Yorubas and Hausas they don’t lay much emphasis on marriage they just hit the road 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Diligent1(f): 3:22pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
Vision101: 1 Like |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Kirkman: 3:22pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
Vision101:Yeah bro, you have a big duty on your hands to help her find her father, start by asking her and her mother questions and take it up from there. Heaven will reward you greatly. 3 Likes |
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