It's in most marriages especially if you are the high libido type of man. Try to adjust and be a bit soft on her while you share this with her instead of us Nairalanders. Most men were having sec 3 times a day before marriage and 4 times a month after marriage even though you married same girl you were dating.

LIVINGICON:
Are you sure you are really turning her on? Do you do pre-intimacy? Or na to just dive dey enter the pussy like that,go dey jam am like porn star. To the best of my knowledge women crave sex often, most especially if the man is skillful. Na she go dey disturb you for am.

So, go back to the drawing board. There are books on giving good sex and making a woman squirt or orgasm.

How married man go dey masturbate? Na 4uck up.

Are You Married?
Sincerely....

Lorayne:

Seriously? ...... Were you always not that interested in sex or it was after your marriage? And do you bother if your husband is getting it elsewhere?

I was very active whilst single,crazily spontaneous loves head.but unfortunately whom I m married too isn't a fan.so it finally killed my spoil for sex and my libido packed up and went on a vacay.

But a good head from him might resuscitate those old gone libidos.but we don't share same sexual orientation.

So I packed my kpekus off for good and only procreation purposes.but I m done with child birth.

ahnie:

People like us believed sex is strictly for procreation .
Like play like play....I might be calibate for 10yrs.

Damn 10 fuçking yrs thats too much let's do it this way you have what I want and I also have what you want. You gerrit .?

Differentiate:

Damn 10 fuçking yrs thats too much why not let's do it this,way you have what I want and I also have what you want. You gerrit .?

Pls define the term common sense ?

Gaggii:


We don talk tire, she go change then later go to status quo after some time

I usually visits a brothel...

ahnie:

Absolutely.

Is he not giving you very well.? It's a pity I don't flirt with married women If not I would have...you gerrit .?

ahnie:

Not every woman is getting it outside.i planned staying 10 more years with having sex.mind you I m a very attractive woman.almst 1 year have not had sex,and m not bothered.

As a single lady, you can decide to spend the rest of your years without sex and it is not a big deal. However, it is a big deal for a married lady. A married lady can't make such a decision. The guy should just stop trying to force things and divorce her immediately.

Gaggii:


We don talk tire, she go change then later go to status quo after some time

a brothel will suffice

LIVINGICON:
Are you sure you are really turning her on? Do you do pre-intimacy? Or na to just dive dey enter the pussy like that,go dey jam am like porn star. To the best of my knowledge women crave sex often, most especially if the man is skillful. Na she go dey disturb you for am.

So, go back to the drawing board. There are books on giving good sex and making a woman squirt or orgasm.

How married man go dey masturbate? Na 4uck up.

you know nothing Jon snow...

lancasterboy:


Sex is food to us... it is sexually frigid women like you who were either physically of hormonally circumcised that feel Sex isn't food...If you as a woman feel Sex isn't food ..you have a problem...you have a problem ...go and take herbs and roots and get a hormonal therapy ....but if u were physically circumcised, no one can help u...not even a 7 inch d*ck ....

I know lazy men will kick against. Get yourself something doing more profitable than sex. Beast.

Gaggii:
I must confess, the only challenge in my marriage is sex, I was not a masturbator as a bachelor because I have girls around me, if one no come another go show, but as a married man have turned a chronic masturbator because my wife is always complaining that she is tired.

I would gotten a side chick, but I had a second thought because the consequence will affect my home financially.

Am just so fed up.

If you are married and in same shoe, how have you being coping

marry second wife

Zao19:
More than 70% of married men face this type of problem including my self, if u are yet to married pls stop talking rubbish, u are yet to experience such.

Absolutely. Especially After Kids

seunmsg:


4 years no sex and you are still married? Are you very sure she is not getting it somewhere outside? Omo, things they happen o.

Things are truly happening but this is the reality of marriage and many won’t speak up

theForth:


If he has sex with another woman, hope you won't be vexed.

Is he that useles that he can't do something else more meaningful than sex?

RodgersAkpafu:

You paid her diary ?
Is she a cow or what ?
Na wa

Why did u tell your people to collect bride price if u don't like it or if you are a goat? He bought you. It's called bride PRICE. You be goat. Simple. You are his property...Tell him to go and collect the bride price back and see what will happen

membranus:


That's very terrible. How then are you managing the marriage without hating the woman? You must be a superman.

I have become numb to her physically. I am considering a second wife because God knows I have tried

joshua203016:
There is nothing like starvation of sex, the only starvation i know is food

Type it on Google.... and check the Images Tab

chigomiced:
Why is it that it is the man that is suppose to up his game in the bedroom...

The woman wey dey deny Op sex is being left Scott Free...

I think both of Dem needs another round of marriage counseling class...


If your husband no dey Bleep u well
You as a woman should up ur game and Bleep him like u want to be bleeped in the first place..

Show him how u want to be bleeped...

Enough of this mind games

that's what they made the men to believed in...the table is turned when the man is cheating and pay less attention to the woman, then she'll be the one craving for it. I hope you could read through my words....

Gaggii:
I must confess, the only challenge in my marriage is sex, I was not a masturbator as a bachelor because I have girls around me, if one no come another go show, but as a married man have turned a chronic masturbator because my wife is always complaining that she is tired.

I would gotten a side chick, but I had a second thought because the consequence will affect my home financially.



Am just so fed up.

If you are married and in same shoe, how have you being coping

Buy sex doll from jumia.

Keep it where your wife can see it.

Use it in her presence whenever she doesn't want to give you.

Shalommy:
I know lazy men will kick against. Get yourself something doing more profitable than sex. Beast.

It's Lazy women like you that have a problem with Sexually viral men like us...It's women like you that make men cheat and still cry and pretend the don't know why he is going outside. Everytime I am tired.. I am tired...Even when they give u sex, they are so lazy to move their own body ..their own body o ...Such lazy drones shouldn't go near marriage ...You believe sex isn't food.... You have a problem....You have a big problem....You are just like a man with a two inch d*ck....

Just tell her you are going to marry another woman, if she will not change,and see changes

Oh boy,
Marriage is like that.
Keep her romantic and always get her wet. Kiss her and get her in the mood by fingering her sensitive parts, she would want to get pricked.

franchasng:
If your wife starves you of sex, as a married man myself, I can boldly tell you that she is either not so attracted to you or she doesn't love you that much.


My own wife is hot, classy and too busy, yet she chases me around with it. I am even the one that tries to convince her that we dont need to make it a too frequent stuff so we both don't get tired of it with time, and to also give me time to concentrate on my numerous other engagements.



Any married man that his wife is starving of sex should know that three things are involved;

1) she is not so attracted to you the husband

2) she is falling out of love with you for some underlying reasons you need to find out.


3) she is seeing someone else or planning to

Surprised this came out from the mouth of a married man. It's quite obvious a lot of women developed low sexual libido after marriage and more especially after child birth. D 3 reasons u mentioned dere are irrelevant. because ur wife stilll chase u around did not mean others who don't fall wethin those ur mentioned reasons. When it eventually happens to you, just remember, communication is the key here

Shalommy:
Is he that useles that he can't do something else more meaningful than sex?

He is that useless... Yes he is that useless... Deal with it.. It is what it is.. pull your pants down and get F*cked....Stop being insanely St*pid... U want him to work so he will bring his money and spend on you.. to meet your own needs and u will neglect his own needs... See them... Wicked women...Selfish women...Selfcentric females....I cast u out IJN...Amen

JerryBizz:

Well....to me, I'll say if most people didn't just marry merely for sex (top of their list) then they won't see this deprivation of sex as a big of a deal. What happened to slow, sensual kisses?? Role-playing?? Massages? Laughs and cuddling?
What happened to tickling her, communicating as you're doing so? Be spontaneous. Let her and him see that sex is not that big of a deal for you, then watch how they soon try to give it to you alot just to make it feel like it needs to be a big of a deal. The fear of if you're getting it outside will make her start to adjust.

See, Nigerian men need to become spontaneous oh. Think deep and learn what you can do to make her feel so excited while you both lay in bed. It could be as simple as both sleeping naked, staring at the ceiling and pointing at it as you both playfully count the number of shadows of people, or cars that reflect as a result of cars passing by outside. Play games...use your brain. You have it and it is limitless.

Crack jokes before you fall asleep. Play the right kind of music as you both lay in bed with the curtains partially open. Don't just shut everywhere and make the room pitch black. The Feng Shui of the room matters....These little things can arouse the woman and the man and make the feel like little kids in love all over again. It innocently excites both parties. Setting the mood for a sensual, romantic session.

If you like don't experiment. Don't be spontaneous and creative. You will be going to be angry and unfulfilled. You both should lay in each other's arms even if no sex happens. The warmth of each other, the closeness, the feeling will make you both feel so good that you'll naturally want to start kissing and making out immediately.

Too much porn has ruined people's minds and their abilities to be creative, child-like sweet (which is what we all used to be at some point)
Don't just be the couple who gets into bed, you give her your D and she gives you a BJ, you give her a lick too, and you proceed to have rough sex and doing the stuff you mostly see in porn.
Make you own type of romance. Try new things. See what works. Most women like a creative man in the bedroom. Be sweet, speak slowly ( almost whispering) chuckle, tease her, complement her body even if you've been seeing it for the past 12 months.Keep it real..Say what you like about it (that's why it's always good to first go for the kind of body you desire in a wife).That way, you don't have to make lies up. But even if she falls slightly shot of being as hot as you'd like, still tell her how you like her curves, he ass, her thighs...and so on. People love words that raise their self-confidence.

..Be child-like in bed, but still macho and capable when the banging starts. It makes them see different shades of you, and it turns them on.
I remember when I was in year one, I'd be having sensual lovemaking with my then girl and I'll pause (still inside of her)occasionally to feed her juice from a glass , or water or whatever...The I'll kiss her and suck the taste of the juice from her lips..then I'll compliment her on how wild , but yet innocently sweet and sexy she is looking at the moment...Then put down the glass and continue dicking her down... It makes her drift away into la la land. Cloud 9. And I was just 19-20 yrs then oh. So, get creative and save your sexual life.

But don't forget, it doesn't always have to lead and end in sex..some nights just play and fall asleep in each other's arms. Solidify your friendship (yes, frienship) then send sensual text messages to each other's phones before coming home. Or even while she is in the kitchen and you are in the bathroom...make it look childish but creative and funny. She'll laugh.. she'll blush and she'll hurry to meet you over in the bedroom. Join her sometimes and cook at the kitchen...Wash dishes together (one person washing, the other wiping the dishes dry) it helps to foster more bonding and care. Play music you both mutually like while in the kitchen together. You'll be surprised the things all these and more can do for the two of you..
If you don't know how to be creative with words and expressions, then learn it anyway you can. Never let your marriage feel void of fun and tenderness. It's not just about providing all the financial needs...and also not about hard banging for one hour plus. You need to make love. Tickle her fantasy...know her love languages. Even invent new ones for her...

My wife will be so glad in me...I can't even begin to imagine all our moments. We'll be so playful and foolish inside the house, but when we come outside, we'll be as serious as every other couple you see. Always wanting to get done with whatever and head back home to each other....Just to bond and play. It can result in sex or not. We will however still be satisfied. Cuz we have each other around.

Try new things. Be less conventional, but if that works for your wife as a guy, then carry on. If it's not working, then try methods as I've said in more ways than none.

Omo, real love is sweet. No who you a marrying before you marry them oh! It's harder to change them once you're already married. But there is still hope for those of you who already married that person. If communication fails you, then use you creative mind and make her feel you're irresistible. Even though you annoy her or she annoys you outside the house, when you are both alone, make the atmosphere comfortable and welcoming. You'll be less tempted to cheat outside.
Marry who you can be yourself with! And who is fluid. It cuts all these problems by half.

I must give it to you.... Creativity inbuilt.. Nice..
One.... Cases like this it goes both ways... Some men and women are so stiff and they are not ready to be adventurous in any form of way..

Some married women even those who have given birth dont even know or have never experience Orgasm in their life.. they dont want it feels like... just because the dude or huszy in question no sabi the mumu buttons..

Some are not inlove in their marriages ofcourse marry for others reasons, Some their husbands r so ugly and rude with words to their wives... u dont expect a woman to give in when u say trash to her. She may just open her legs to satisfy u.. but inside her u r disgusting ..!!

So its both ways.. like u say have someone u r fiuld with.. U connect so so free and u can do anything i mean anything with person without feeling shy!!... and if u know he is big and small discuss it... so that it will not be had i known!!..

delzbaba:
Its because u are always trying to do it at night, try her early in the morning around 4 am

Gbam!

Help2020:

I jealous una wen dey masturbate without side effect. Me I non fit try masturbate for a day again, except I wan suffer for days.

What have you suffered please?

ahnie:

Team sex is meant for procreation

But it's true. Sex is meant for procreation, humans are the only creatures on earth that does it for recreation leading to fake feelings, bad decisions, stds and baby daddy/mamaism

jaeyking:



Lol, you can't have a side chick because of financial constraints
Ra
Make I drop prayer for u
You will have all your needs ,you will not struggle but you will not achieve that financial ability wey go make u reason to get side chick���

Oya onto the advice, try to talk to your wife let her know what you have become because of the lack of sex. Marriage is all about understanding.
If her job is stressful, you have to bear with her

I bet you are not married otherwise u wouldn't take this position. Don't worry, u would sure get there , maybe u understand better.
I mean no disrespect.

dinomcjohn:
Never masturbate. Never! And to think that you are doing it while married?!!!! What? Grossly unacceptable. Some things should never happen. This is one of them. Pls stop it right away. Talk to your wife and tell her this will not happen again. Why would a wife deny her husband sex? Be a man. Have sex, good sec. Never masturbate!

Have u ever had blue balls before because of lack of sex, it's painful, very painful.. You won't even pray that your enemy has it. If his wife no gree for am, let him burst the nut himself.. enlarged prostate is painful o.

Preshieben:
let me be ya side chick..
I make my own money,so keep yours
I just like it with people's husband

I will be glad to have u as my babe too coz facing the same challenge... top secret am a s3x machine