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Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by Martinez39s(m): 2:21pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
Isaacpromise1:He knows he needs to fix his life. He is hustling towards that. He even came up with a business plan, but his mother hindered it. and stop expecting anything from her, father or anyone else, if they assist it’s fine, if they don’t, you move on.There is no indication that he feels entitled to anyone's money. He wasn't complaining about anyone not giving him money. One of his problem is his mum inexplicably and wickedly being a stumbling block and hindrance to financial favours. Even if he was entitled, does that justify his mother stealing 470k of his money and spreading malicious lies about him to his grandma? NO! He even brought a business idea to his dad and his mother hindered it, yet you are telling him that he needs to fix his life and stop being entitled. Even Jeff Bezos, Dangote and many successful people were assisted with capitals from parents/relatives to start or float their business; so nothing wrong in soliciting help from a father. Not as if he asked for money to spend for his bills and leisure, he asked it for something productive: business. Such little and major hindrances from his mother can limit his life in ways we can't quantify since we cannot tell what would have been. Don’t you think by now, your mum or your parents should be eating the fruit of their labor and not some unnecessary billing from you, it might be part of the silent issues tooLol. Maybe if his mum stops acting as a stumbling block and hindrance, he might grow and become someone that will "help" them. SMH. Have you tried having a mother-son deep conversation with your mum too?Bullsh!t. Like my pastor once said, “something must happen for something to happen” your mother can’t just turn that bad to you overnight, try to find out what went wrong.SMH. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by Blackfire(m): 2:22pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
MrHenryFord: Yours is good...compare to some of my rich friends |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by Nobody: 2:23pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
DispatcherLagos: That's what I told my own mum. I told her I will stay far away from her. See as the posters mother is destroying his progress. Even cutting off his favours. Women after using their husbands to prolong their own lives, turn around to use their sons. Later some people will be wondering why it is like men talk alot about women. Their selfishness is out of this world. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by Martinez39s(m): 2:24pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
ayobamiJR:SMH. Low IQ is rampant. 3 Likes |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by RPG2020(m): 2:27pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
Where i go start my own My mother own dey her body Like this like that everyone dey their lane Three years now she nor send me i nor send her My dad was sick she refused to go my dad died from the sickness she refused to go till now she don't care all she cares about is money Anytime i enter Nigeria like this i nor wan used my eyes see her It's finished 3 Likes |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by Affam: 2:27pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
MrHenryFord:Stories like this makes me worship my mother! that woman can give me her life without even thinking twice, she has proven to me over and over again that family is everything after God. My advice to you is to remain focused, avoid distractions, pray and work hard, all will be well.. |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by Martinez39s(m): 2:28pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
pansophist:... 10 Likes 3 Shares
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Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by kingdenny(m): 2:29pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
A mother wey suppose ginger make palee drop so that her son can be financially stable instead she dey block... That woman can never be your mum.. Go and ask questions |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by domino4211(m): 2:31pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
Dear Mr Henry Ford.. With every behavioural pattern and trait your mom has showed so far, if they're true, you're dealing with an A-grade Narcissist who's suffering from a chronic case of Narcissistic Personality Disorder(NPD). The chronic entitlement mentality, victim playing, use of flying monkeys, gossiping, envy, gaslighting, manipulation, smear campaigns, self indulgent and self centered vane attitude are some symptoms of NPD. She may be covert/vulnerable or overt/grandiose but most definitely suffering from NPD. I'm well versed in the study of human nature. I recommend you speak with a psychotherapist about this, it isn't a spiritual problem and has nothing to do with jazz, your mom is psychologically ill and will keep hurting and damaging people around her without knowing it. She wants to keep you and everyone else around her under her perpetual control and what better way to do that than to take the little you have when you're obviously struggling and also to force you into a marriage knowing fully well you aren't yet financially capable while completely ignoring and paying deaf ears to every other plans you propose that may elevate you, knowing it will trap you and keep you in perpetual impoverishment and dependence making you remain under her influence and control. It may shock you to know that she's completely unaware of the negative impact what she does is having on you because she's unable to empathise, she's all about herself. If you can't afford a psychologist then hit me up as I may be able to help you with tips on how to handle her how you should. 4 Likes |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by Factfinder1(m): 2:31pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
DispatcherLagos: try make peace with her and communicate frequently but still maintain your distance and dont share good news with her....you might regret the long silence when she's dead |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by Victorcwu(m): 2:33pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
I really don't understand the kind of Virtue Signalling you guys are doing on this topic A mother that doesn't support her son, feels entitled to his little earnings even though she's ten times better than him in terms of earnings. A mother that took 500k sent for her son and lie she gave him the whole money and even stopped the son's dad from helping him is you people are telling Op to understand Your mum doesn't like you baba and I am surprised. Go to your father privately and talk to him as a man. Tell him all this and tell him that anything he wants to do for you must be between you too. Your mum is a typical example of these girls we are seeing nowadays. They don't care about marriage or anyone. They just want to be taken care of. Children is even a burden to them because you guys are taken all the attention she used to get when she was young Upcoming generation will have 100,000 examples of your mum. It's very painful for me to admit this but that's the truth 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by Victorcwu(m): 2:33pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
I really don't understand the kind of Virtue Signalling you guys are doing on this topic A mother that doesn't support her son, feels entitled to his little earnings even though she's ten times better than him in terms of earnings. A mother that took 500k sent for her son and liee she gave him the whole money and I am surprised. Go to your father privately and talk to him as a man. Tell him all this and tell him that anything he wants to do for you must be between you too. Your mum is a typical example of these girls we are seeing nowadays. They don't care about marriage or anyone. They just want to be taken care of. Children is even a burden to them because you guys are taken all the attention she used to get when she was young Upcoming generation will have 100,000 examples of your mum. It's very painful for me to admit this but that's the truth |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by Corea4king(m): 2:35pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
I can't imaging this kind thing happening because up till now, my mother's action shows that she can still die for me. |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by phemmyfour: 2:36pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
MrHenryFord:She's not your biological mother. Do your research on her well 1 Like |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by akigbemaru: 2:37pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
specimenv: I hope you are not talking about my MOTHER too. My mother will not receive any money from me for the next 3 years as a punishment. She is extremely greed and at mere 63-year-old, she does not want to do anything in life again and wants you to focus all your life on her. She loves MONEY more than her life and she expects you to give her all the time and she would never give you a dime. In 2020, I gave her 900K nairas to pay her rent and buy provisions for her small shop that she did show to me. (Also the highest I gave in 2020 besides her was 285K nairas to my aunt and 245K nairas to my senior sister). The money for provisions was spent on a Celestial priestess to bind me. She gave her my pictures and she provided big candles to concoct the articles. How did we find out? My senior sister never lived with her once, she always lived with grandma on the father's side. Because of lack of parental guidance, she became unruly and never even finished Primary School. After I gave my Mom 900K nairas, she went and brought her in to live with her and maybe she would get her life together. But my mom can never accommodate nobody, and I warned my senior sister too. She could not even spend 2 weeks there before all hell broke out. She said my mom does not leave keys for her and her twin boys and in a one-bedroom-n-parlor self-contain, she would come to the parlor with her toilet bowl or a plastic commode just to irritate my senior sister. She could not take it and they started fighting each other. My mother did the same to me but this time, it was her menstrual rags. Those things smell to the pit of hell. She could not afford to buy pads and would always re-wash the rags, but she could have left them outside and just watch over them. Her excuse was the JUJU people might snatch menstrual rags for VOODOO. I understand but she was just trying to kick me out of the face-me-I-face-you room that we were managing at that time. The whole room would be smelling like abattoir. It was not even her money to rent the room, it a good Samaritan that sent money from oversea and she wanted her to get a room and parlor, but she decided to get a room and kept the rest of the money. I lived there with her and my other 2 siblings for 19 months. Just one evening, she packed all my clothes and dumped them in open gutter. I would be sleeping; she would wake me up and send me out because she has a visitor coming and she does not want me to listen to their conversations. I was going to beat the hell out of her, but I cautioned myself and I was homeless for 2 months before I eventually got my own face-me-I-face-you room too. I had just finished High school and that also made me one of the youngest guys living on their own. Most kids after high school will still be living with their parents. Then she went and brought a man to live with her, I was happy for her because she got a man now (since my father died long time ago and I don't give a Bleep if she gets a man), and they now lived to together. Since that day, I would never let my mother pray for me till I die. I have pardoned her and every time I send her some money from America, she would want to pray for me, I always cut her off and she knows better. She is also very secretive; she would never tell any of her children how much she was making or her salaries when she was working. First of all, not a white-collar job to warrant maybe she was making a huge money. She just would not tell anybody talk-less of giving you some money. Albeit, she wants to know everything about your own money. To cut the long story short, the first time my sister (her first born) stepped into the apartment to start living with her. My mom ran an errant and that gave my sister the opportunity to look further in the apartment. She found the giant candles with my pictures tied to them and some nonsense wrapped around them. Now, my sister was looking for ways to find out the reason why she had to bind me like that. She finally confessed that the Cele-lady was powerful that I don't use to give her money like that but after the lady did the binding, she started receiving money from me. I don't believe in Hoppus Copus, but my only worry is, why would a woman that has retired from everything would bind someone that is just starting life? I am in late 30s and don't have children yet and yes, I am just starting life. Within the 3 years that I won't be talking to her, I want to start having kids too. I will be in Nigeria this year to arrange all that. That is why Western Society does not allow anybody to leech on anybody. Most adults of my age in America, only think about 401K or retirement plans. They don't give their parents or siblings any dime. You will want to help people in Nigeria, and they still want to go extra miles on you. I am paranoid about everything in Nigeria. If my mother could bind me, what about the new wife that has recently come into my life?! 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by addictiv(m): 2:38pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
Guys the best gift you can give to ur kids is a good woman.. Avoid slay Queens and karashikas... E get why.. 3 Likes |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by okine4real: 2:40pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
this is my respnse to the other thread where the guy said his girl friend ran away when he wanted to share marriage responsibilities https://www.nairaland.com/6922097/girlfriend-ran-away-because-proposed/4 i swear, you are the best guy on Nairaland. lots of married men for Naija go die before there time. i always tell guys, that pussy go tire you once marriage enter, in marriage there are bills to pay, real bills ohh, children go chop, them go waste food, them go spoil your chairs, table, my second Daughter done put hole beneath my room door, if i like make i lock the door dey cuddle madam, this 2 and half year old pikin go just enter my room via the hole when she create for my door. sometimes she go enter my room, lock the door and pass the hole come outside, if i won enter my room, i nor go fit enter, i go got to go call them to pass under the door to take open the door. This Dec festive period, i was sick because too much of bills. Most naija girls, 90 percent of them are wired to be lazy, even in relationship, they cant even help a guy, person when nor fit help guy, na she won help for marriage? OP i swear you be the best guy ever. If you won marry any woman, let her know, you have to bring something good into this marriage, not just PUSSY. She needs to understand that if your problem is pussy, there are fucking pussy everywhere. OP i salute your courage. from Dec 20th to to 3rd Jan i done spend more than 200k, watin I even chop self? Nothing, na wife and children. OP if I were as smart as you during my time, I swear I for get BETTER REST OF MIND NOW.Do you know what it means when you need even 500k, and you know your wife GOT your back without any shaking? OP you are blessed. All i can say here is your papa dey form hard man to take care of him wife and children, yet your mother dey flex her money. someone also said in the thread that her father caters for all there needs in the house and her father doesn't share money responsibility with her mum. One question for you... Your father choose to suffer because he wants to be an HYPER MALE. When him die, your mama go still come claim all watin the man work for, yet the man know enjoy life, to me, your father just came to suffer... Well i nor get must to talk sha. But she woman when get car, she nor fit repair her car herself na your old man go do everything for her, but while are men so stupid? i swear, i can come and die for my children, not to talk of my wife. Am trying all my best to take care of them, but if he hard, i go tell my wife and kids, SORRY PEOPLE I CANT COME AND KILL MYSELF. This life hard, this life hard, i prefer to dey drink garri than make i die. I think your mother is just the example of the kind of Nairaland babes when we get, they dont want to work, but wan to eat fat, even when they work, they choose not to spend there money and keep waiting for a foolish man to fall for there trap. SHA NOR RESEMBLE YOUR MAMA WHEN YOU MARRY. op so you be man.... men na wa ohh. your mama nor try at all. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by Mexyz(m): 2:40pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
This op na comedian oo The last part of your story just make me burst laugh, he say na blow banger up and down and driving tire naked 2 Likes |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by DWJOBScom(m): 2:40pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
Jamest162: You took the word off my mouth There is more to this |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by akeem0706514(m): 2:42pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
Poverty is a bastard!...bro I understand you o.. having a mom and dad is a blessing!...double your hustle...pray hard...money go come!!!.. don't tell anybody about your plans...only ask for help, if they assist you thank God and if they didn't assist you thank God.. money go come bro from a legit way.... God go see us through. |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by Exceed15: 2:43pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
Sorry did u say she is your mother? 2 Likes |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by Nobody: 2:43pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
Dogasas: This is exactly what we are talking about. Someone is offering free movement to US. It won't cost her a dime but she blocked it because she feels she gave birth to you. What other kind of wickedness is above this? You can now imagine what their husbands passed through in their hands. 2 Likes |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by 2elliot: 2:45pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
Isaacpromise1:You are not entirely reasoning things through. Taking care of a child is the most basic thing every parent does, even animals do that. That does not give that parent the moral justification to mess up the mental well-being of the child with illogical demands and manipulations. One of my exes went to the university without the support of her mom. Her mom insisted that she was too young to be in the university. And so she hated her own daughters guts for going against her wish to forfeit her admission. Throughout her stay at the university, her mom never gave her any money or encouragement. Today, this my ex is a master degree holder, has a federal job and also a private one. She singlehandedly rebuilt their dilapidated family house, and just got married this last December. Some parents are parents from her. It does matter what good they have done for you, but unknowingly frustrating one's own child is witchcraft. 2 Likes |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by philbad(m): 2:46pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
Seriously I totally gat your point, but this is a motivation for you to know that you have to earn your living yourself. Again,, let go of family face the hurdle of life an reason in another dimension of life, it's not juicy when things are falling apart, but I promise you sooner you will laugh on this matter. |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by ChybuzzDD(m): 2:48pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
Isaacpromise1: Can you just keep quiet, this boy? You're unnecessarily distracting me from reading sensible advice from more informed people here. 5 Likes |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by GoldenJAT(m): 2:55pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
pansophist:This your advice sweet me eh! Na my personal happiness first! And no matter who you are, you can't blackmail me to do otherwise!!! 1 Like |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by jsancho(m): 2:57pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
Jamest162: This is exactly the kind of mother I have in my own case I dey always think if she's my biological mother |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by Arsenate(m): 2:58pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
Never allow anyone blackmail or treat you like shiiit because they are your blood. Not even your mom, dad, siblings or children. |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by okoroemeka(m): 3:02pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
siofra:even more worrisome is that many men have no business being men,I stopped read the post when the op complained that her mother took the #500k sent to him and gave him #30k only and he also played along in the charade,most times we are the architects of our own problems,if you keep on backpedaling,playing along and complaining on naira land you will continue to be disrespected,learn to stand up and speak out for what is yours,respect is earned not by playing along and covering your head in the sand like the ostrich, 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by shawante(m): 3:02pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
Isaacpromise1:Guy either you didn't read the write up well or you are worse than his mother. How can you expect the guy to fix his life ASAP when his mother is blocking his source of help which she will definitely benefit from when he finally makes it. I thought mothers were supposed to go extra mile in order to make sure their children succeed because their children success is also their success. We all need help in life in one way or another cuz no man is an island which is all the guy is asking for period 4 Likes |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by Mac12(f): 3:03pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
Karleb: You dey mind them |
Re: The Hatred I Have For My Mother Is Getting Worse by Nobody: 3:06pm On Jan 07, 2022 |
the best thing u can do is to stay far away from here, try as much as possible 1 Like |
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