Limassol:
Yeah ... However, you should note that however poisoned children minds are when they were young and naive, they mostly change when they become adults - for such stage in life comes with independence of the mind and expansion of thoughts and reason. Besides, it's clear some people change and recreate themselves when they become grown ups - training a child a particular dosen't mean s/he will remain that way, far from it, for proof look no further than some of your contemporaries, you will likely find good examples. In other words, You may manipulate a young mind, hardly a mature one.

CondemnBattery:
So I saw a thread earlier, and decided to educate husbands in the house how to play the home politics, just as adviced by my pastor's wife.

My pastor's wife thought me a valuable lesson. She legitly told us to be smart as husbands, when the kids did something wrong in your absence and your wife did not discipline the child, but waits for you to come back and discipline them, don't. Make sure she disciplines them herself, otherwise your kids will think you are the wicked one and the evil one.

Don't always give your wife all the money to buy things for the kids, take the children out to the market, buy them clothes, take them to the grocery store, buy the provision in their present. Let them know you are the one buying them. If you buy them shoes or anything, make sure they are aware that you are the one buying them. If you do all these, the kids will love you more. This is 2022, don't allow your wife rob you of your years of labor when it's time to reap.

You can add your own way of playing the family politics.

Please if this is front page worthy, kindly move to fp, so men can learn 1 or 2 this new year.

May our wives not take all our glory all in the name of I'm too busy in Jesus name. Amen

babyfaceafrica:
I don't get this? There are people who aren't married and doing 'fine'. Anyways what will be will be

Limassol:
The author of this post is mistaken in thinking children can easily be manipulated and misled, hardly, not when they are adults and grown ups... with time one could easily realise who is who. A nasty mother can't mask her nastiness, same for the father.

Ladyhippolyta88:

Then you as men don't always live the nurturing and child bonding for the mother because you feel your wife's duty is primarily to them we have a new generation of kids and it won't always work like that
Fathers should play a key role and don't leave upbringing for their wives alone.

Anyway I agree with there is a difference between a husband and a father some men are good in both but some are good at one and bad at the other the scenario you painted is the one of the bad husband or terrible husband whose wife holds grudges and doesn't like how he treats her as a husband even though he may love his children and is a good father such a woman will definitely poison their minds towards the father and it is a bad thing children should be never be brought into the mix when a husband and wife have disagreement women should stop doing that

lordally:


Please how did you carry this man's comment from a different thread to your own... I've been trying to do this but I haven't been able to do so

babyfaceafrica:
You don't understand. Some women who instigate their children against their dad are doing it without even knowing.

DonroxyII:
That's why You need to understand the psychology of your wife then operate on the reverse side.

If your wife is a -1 psychologically then you have to operate her by always adding +1 to whatever Endeavour between the two of you to mitigate the negative effect and Nil(0) the consequences of her actions.

You have to do the equation in her not the kids. If you add +1 to the kids due to fear of Whatever Your wife might tell them, Your wife will increase her negativity to -10 then it escalates from there and before you realised it;

You have allowed your wife to used you to Wreck your kids. Same Way Devil used Eve to give Adam Apple ...

Don't Fear Women but Respect them. If you Fear her she will destroy you, if you respect her she will Honour You.

Covert Operations, Baby
See without Being Seen seeing then take positive counter measures

babyfaceafrica:
All these just because one decides to marry, I envy single people!! Their peace is heavenly

OlawaleBammie:


Mama, u re right but i love my dad more than my mum.

My mum is good and selfless but she's a little bit manipulative. Pls the fact that she left us wen we needed her most. Tho she's still active in my life but i can never forget how my father bore the shame and sufferings to raise me and my sister.

DonroxyII:
Marriage is the sweetest endeavour in Life for a Matured Man not a Boy and a Matured Woman not a Girl.

Maturity normally should be about age but experiences and Brain propensity to learn teaches better.

Being single comes with more cost than Being happily married .... There is quite lower Happily single, the happiness in Being single is just assumed until the Brain Started asking questions at a point in time and Depression will set in .....

You are yet to understand the Correlations between Human/Animal Brain and Nature. If you fvck up, nature will fvck with your Head

babyfaceafrica:
I don't agree with this, especially with the Nigerian settings. Single people seem more happy and free than married people. Marriage here seems like prison

DonroxyII:
That's what you think. Biologically, Human are wired to carry out a particular function at a particular point in time in the biological cycle.

If such function is not carried out, when it's time for mental review by the Brain at a point time in the future and the mechanism s that should be present are not present.

The Brain goes depressed from Regrets and trust me, the cost of Depression is higher.

So You Gerrit, that's why there are so many wacko abroad and ahome. Marriage as an institutions are getting destroyed so when such institutions failed, societies will definitely fail and the Global community.

Marriage must be Learnt, a Man must learn to be a full fledged Man and Wield Power but Diplomatically and Maturedly on his Home.

babyfaceafrica:
Can't a man be happy without marriage?

DonroxyII:
Happiness can be assumed by whatever Decision you take but Grand Happiness is when you defeat Nature by doing more better than what it allowed you to do

babyfaceafrica:
I will take this. Everyone should decide what makes them happy, not society

Draslo:
You want to drag your kids' love with your wife or what?
What if you're a military man and you're never around?
What if you're an expat in another country and you no dey ever dey?
What if you're a sailor and your presence at home is nothing to write home about?
What if......?


I could go on and on. Just stop there and do what your duties are as a father and husband to your nuclear and the love will never die. Don't ever expect all your kids to love you equally but remember that no matter what they all love you unconditionally.


What do I know anyways? I'm just a single guy without any offspring yet so maybe I don't know what I'm saying.

CondemnBattery:

Just click on quote, then select all.
After selecting all, click on cut or copy. Go to wherever you want it posted and click paste. You are good to go

exclusivelyholy:
Stop dragging love with your wife,when the kids grown up,they will know better. How about going to market, get food stuff and prepare it yourself, engaged in some domestic house chores, I believe with these characters, your kids will love u better.