sandra50:
All of a sudden this post is revolving around my age..I talked about someone I love disappearing without a word and some people are talking about my age..what age range do you think I date?my age?hiding behind keyboard and acting like your life is perfect..why would I marry someone your age in the first place..in real life I look 28 unless I tell you my age so please stop shouting some that is 36..it's a good thing to get old.

Ishilove:
Is it that Nairalanders don't read and comprehend before commenting?

Sammy101111:
Have you tried outside your spec zone
Have tried something different
In this life some people will love you but you wont love them back and some People you will love they wont love you back .Have you tried someone who gave you a green light toward is feelings and it was not your spec .
Don't date by looks or first appearance .
At less before you date a guy there should be some interval when he will ask you out
what was things you study about him before you say yes and you both start dating
and for now you are not getting young you are 30+ because i wont lie to you i notice woman 30+ self made or empowered they always have pride and ego and men will not wait they will run as time goes on
Am just sharing my idea with you

?@ sandra

sandra50:
First thing I look out for is someone's heart then other things follow..and it's actually hard for me to talk to a 38 years old man..I will follow someone I love not someone that wants to get married because if that is the case then everyone would be married by now.

sandra50:
First thing I look out for is someone's heart then other things follow..and it's actually hard for me to talk to a 38 years old man..I will follow someone I love not someone that wants to get married because if that is the case then everyone would be married by now.

Sammy101111:
Hmm you are right but what you said _ follow some one you love and not because he want to marry ( if that should be the case but you will have to put age aside And no ego or pride

Ishilove:

Some of them keep their brains inside cooler anytime they login to Nairaland

sandra50:
Why would I put age aside?I should move with a guy my age?no thanks.

Iyaebe:
Never be in a relationship for more than six months, quit that time wasting relationship immediately it hits six months and no concrete moves from your boyfriend.

Das1mama:
Op don't allow anyone change u from being good, Tough times and bad moments only comes to prepare us for the best. To every knowledge there's a power and to every power there's principles that guide it which is that knowledge..... Make your choice but be wise. Shalom

sandra50:
Thanks dear..I appreciate.

Michelle55:

Ignore him.

Stenewiser:
you turned down three marriage proposal sake of your ego, now you are contemplating cheating, my dear I see you washing church toilet everyday for a husband, some areas of life wouldn't have need prayer but we make it need prayer due to our carelessness.

pocohantas:
It is not about cheating;

Pray for the spirit of discernment.

There are a thousand things I can type on this, as a premium evening newspaper and none would involve cheating.

I don’t believe in spirituality, so I would never think lack of spouse can be fixed in Shiloh. I also do not believe anyone (male/female) can miss it over and over without no fault of theirs. After going close to supposedly nice people (males especially), I have gotten to know they are overrated people.

Good morning

CsRockefeller:


Interesting. Can you please share more light on the bolded?

cayorday89:

Seriously? At least she explained her reasons, and look at the long list of those who dissapointed her, that should make you show empathy and not complicating things by cursing her. Try and be human, if you have sisters, you will know some people are not to be trusted, my younger sister had to break up with a doctor who promised to and is processing their relocation, but she said no because of his philandering lifestyle, she prefers to have her peace of mind intact than money without it.
@Op, you are older and wiser, and I don't know how to advice you on this, as I know how it feels to not be able to cheat on a partner and having multiple dating partners is a no no for some people, I can only wish you the very best in this journey of finding a good partner.

pocohantas:



I’ll give you an illustration;

I had this colleague, very religious, supportive and emotional. She was dating this other colleague and every time they had issues- the unit bore the brunt. We couldn’t understand why the guy was taking time to wife such a beautiful thing.

Then one day she had to stay at my place. In her time with me, I was faced with the laziest and nastiest being I have ever come across. This lady would tie her used menstrual pads and keep them in a corner, waiting for when she had time to burn them. She doesn’t take off her makeup and wig until midnight when the other party is almost dozing off. Her cooking was nothing to write home about. If you even say make you do small pre-intimacy, you would be met with layers of girdle, very tight bra and thick undershorts. You can't differentiate between the clothes she has worn and the neat ones. I had to sit her down for a talk.

2) I have also met nice guys that had various flaws from hygiene, to pettiness, to inconsistency, stinginess… etc

No one passes on a good thing over and over. If multiple women and men keep leaving you to marry someone else, someone you have deluded yourself is even below you, then you might need to return to the drawing board. Every failed relationship or marriage is a call for self-reflection.

The bad thing about supposedly nice people is, they already believe they are one of the best out there. They think we are the ones that are privileged to have them. They think you can never find someone else like them. So they rarely change or restrategize, they just sit there, ever ready to tell you how people do not deserve/appreciate their kind.

sandra50:
This explains me now right?I must have one of these things you mentioned or something similar..you people need to stop being judgemental,always trying to tell someone life history when you haven't even met the person..at least you told her about her fault but in my case,what everyone around have been telling is that I should stop caring so much..at least 7 people that are close to me have told me that..so you see that you don't know it all as you try to make it look..

pocohantas:


I really can’t remember tagging you or your situation to that post. Your issues, your problem. I replied to someone else, not you.

Enjoy the rest of your day.

sandra50:
This is your post I believe?

pocohantas:


And your username was there? Please make this clear to me.

sandra50:
Just accepted that you are wrong and that you don't know it all..you will be ignored after this.

Michelle55:

All I'm saying is that no one can decide another's specs and age has got nothing to do with this.
Nobody needs all these pressures and I think it's time we stop giving out all these negative vibes all in the name of advice for

Iyaebe:
Yes,six months is enough time to make concrete moves if you are dating a matured man who knows what he wants and not some amateur men that are still testing the strength of their manhood and how many rounds they can go on a woman.Bottom line is be with a man who is ready and willing to settle down and not some game boy.

BoredBerry:
Sorry... I'll rather trust a snake than a Nigerian man... Snakes make more sense... The latter are spawns of the devil... Breed like rats, generally unintelligent, have issues settling down, evil...and the list goes on...

I've never thought of being loyal to one... They don't deserve it

pocohantas:


No I am not wrong. My response to you was to pray for the spirit of discernment, you left that one and jumped on a post to another person. I guess that is how you care too much. Anyway, I stand by my post, but since you want to make that post about you, I will take out time to address one of your posts. I don’t know anyone that has been severely dumped because they are too caring. You mean, 1,2,3,4 all left you because you CARE TOO MUCH? Interesting

Who are these people telling you, you care too much? What exactly is care too much? Lol

So these people highlighting your good quality, care to share why none of them decided to step in and marry you? Why they haven’t introduced you to their male friends? Put in a good word for you?

Are they your EXes?

Only an EX can genuinely tell you why they picked someone else over you. Ask you EXes why they left you, there must be one thing that would be a constant and I am sure that thing wouldn’t be caring too much, at least not in a positive way.

Care too much? Pfffttt!

I honestly do not care if you ignore me. You are not the one fcking or doing giveaway for me.

pocohantas:



I’ll give you an illustration;

I had this colleague, very religious, supportive and emotional. She was dating this other colleague and every time they had issues- the unit bore the brunt. We couldn’t understand why the guy was taking time to wife such a beautiful thing.

Then one day she had to stay at my place. In her time with me, I was faced with the laziest and nastiest being I have ever come across. This lady would tie her used menstrual pads and keep them in a corner, waiting for when she had time to burn them. She doesn’t take off her makeup and wig until midnight when the other party is almost dozing off. Her cooking was nothing to write home about. If you even say make you do small pre-intimacy, you would be met with layers of girdle, very tight bra and thick undershorts. You can't differentiate between the clothes she has worn and the neat ones. I had to sit her down for a talk.

2) I have also met nice guys that had various flaws from hygiene, to pettiness, to inconsistency, stinginess… etc

No one passes on a good thing over and over. If multiple women and men keep leaving you to marry someone else, someone you have deluded yourself is even below you, then you might need to return to the drawing board. Every failed relationship or marriage is a call for self-reflection.

The bad thing about supposedly nice people is, they already believe they are one of the best out there. They think we are the ones that are privileged to have them. They think you can never find someone else like them. So they rarely change or restrategize, they just sit there, ever ready to tell you how people do not deserve/appreciate their kind.