Karleb:


Unfortunately, that was not the case.

Raalsalghul:


Make una dey try give person soft landing na or at least sugar coat am.

Haba!

Iyaebe:
Never be in a relationship for more than six months, quit that time wasting relationship immediately it hits six months and no concrete moves from your boyfriend.

BoredBerry:
Sorry... I'll rather trust a snake than a Nigerian man... Snakes make more sense... The latter are spawns of the devil... Breed like rats, generally unintelligent, have issues settling down, evil...and the list goes on...

I've never thought of being loyal to one... They don't deserve it

BoredBerry:
Sorry... I'll rather trust a snake than a Nigerian man... Snakes make more sense... The latter are spawns of the devil... Breed like rats, generally unintelligent, have issues settling down, evil...and the list goes on...

I've never thought of being loyal to one... They don't deserve it

toujurs:
Which man will tell a lady the truth, when most ladies don't like hearing the truth, why she is interested in the truth now, is because e dn choke her.

You that is saying this, if you see a pretty lady as in full option, and she dey enter your eyes, so you will go and tell her you just want to knack her .

Karleb:


Shey if you be man, you fit marry 36 yr old aunty?

The guy gave a solid advice, if she sees anyone serious even if they don't tick all boxes, let her marry o! By the time she knacks 40 without an assurance, her age alone will repulse guys.

This one no be woman hating o!

toujurs:
at 36? . You still feel you look younger. Your village people are really on your matter, like a panel beater . You want bam bam na, nw you dey run tiki tiki and taka taka, you no fit drink water drop cup

toujurs:
at 36? . You still feel you look younger. Your village people are really on your matter, like a panel beater . You want bam bam na, nw you dey run tiki tiki and taka taka, you no fit drink water drop cup

Michelle55:

All I'm saying is that no one can decide another's specs and age has got nothing to do with this.
Nobody needs all these pressures and I think it's time we stop giving out all these negative vibes all in the name of advice for

pocohantas:



I’ll give you an illustration;

I had this colleague, very religious, supportive and emotional. She was dating this other colleague and every time they had issues- the unit bore the brunt. We couldn’t understand why the guy was taking time to wife such a beautiful thing.

Then one day she had to stay at my place. In her time with me, I was faced with the laziest and nastiest being I have ever come across. This lady would tie her used menstrual pads and keep them in a corner, waiting for when she had time to burn them. She doesn’t take off her makeup and wig until midnight when the other party is almost dozing off. Her cooking was nothing to write home about. If you even say make you do small pre-intimacy, you would be met with layers of girdle, very tight bra and thick undershorts. You can't differentiate between the clothes she has worn and the neat ones. I had to sit her down for a talk.

2) I have also met nice guys that had various flaws from hygiene, to pettiness, to inconsistency, stinginess… etc

No one passes on a good thing over and over. If multiple women and men keep leaving you to marry someone else, someone you have deluded yourself is even below you, then you might need to return to the drawing board. Every failed relationship or marriage is a call for self-reflection.

The bad thing about supposedly nice people is, they already believe they are one of the best out there. They think we are the ones that are privileged to have them. They think you can never find someone else like them. So they rarely change or restrategize, they just sit there, ever ready to tell you how people do not deserve/appreciate their kind.

pocohantas:


No I am not wrong. My response to you was to pray for the spirit of discernment, you left that one and jumped on a post to another person. I guess that is how you care too much. Anyway, I stand by my post, but since you want to make that post about you, I will take out time to address one of your posts. I don’t know anyone that has been severely dumped because they are too caring. You mean, 1,2,3,4 all left you because you CARE TOO MUCH? Interesting

Who are these people telling you, you care too much? What exactly is care too much? Lol

So these people highlighting your good quality, care to share why none of them decided to step in and marry you? Why they haven’t introduced you to their male friends? Put in a good word for you?

Are they your EXes?

Only an EX can genuinely tell you why they picked someone else over you. Ask you EXes why they left you, there must be one thing that would be a constant and I am sure that thing wouldn’t be caring too much, at least not in a positive way.

Care too much? Pfffttt!

I honestly do not care if you ignore me. You are not the one fcking or doing giveaway for me.

Steep:
age play a huge role, naturally women has a age limit after which childbirth become difficult even the bible recognize that.
That is not misogyny nor a man's opinion it is nature.
The truth is that alot of females are not smart maritally! One of the reasons is because women are told marriage is not important they short pursue education, careers and money and ignore marriage, later when the get to above 30, they realise they need to settle down but unfortunately men don't think the way women think. While a woman want a man that has status in terms of education money etc for men those things take backstage. The first point of attraction for men is a young, beautiful woman, then then her agreeabless towards him men hardly consider money, a fairly educated woman is enough for some men.
Women project their desires on men and are shocked that men do not consider important what they consider important.

pocohantas:


My life is not perfect, I always say it that I have a bad character and I too stubborn. I own it with my full chest . I also said it that I am a premium evening newspaper. I have never been one to pride myself as a virtuous or wife material. You are how old? 30+? I am over 40. So you are even learning work in singlehood. This is not a matter of perfection, it is just realism.

You are the most caring woman in the world and Nigerian men just can’t see this. Yeaaaaa, Men are scum…

emmaodet:


Sis,
Life is filled with so many pressures and the earlier we know that, the better for us all.
If you don't like pressure or want it, then better come as goat or rabbit or tree because that is one of the things that differentiate us from other things.
Everything you are enjoying today - from your phone, laptop, car, good road, good data or internet etc Just anything is due to pressure.
It is a human thing.
Without pressure, it will be a backward lonely boring world.
Companies on huge pressures trying to get a deal, sell more products, meet a client deadline etc
Pressure in school to read and pass so as not to fail.
Pressure to meet up at your work place else you get sacked and replaced with a person more comfortable under pressure.
Is it sport? pressure on the field to win a football match. Pressure from team mates not to be benched by other guys on bench exerting pressure to be on the field etc
You may likely not get my point sha

Raalsalghul:


Undiluted truth.

Life is all about pressure.

How work na?

emmaodet:


Lol
Easier said than done.
That means you will change men soteeeeeyyy like diapers tire

Raalsalghul:


Was she financially okay?

pocohantas:


And they also have their reasons for leaving her. So why exactly does she think the solution is to start double dating? There are some men on her matter and she doesn’t like them for various reasons, which she is entitled to. How about she extends same privilege to the men that left her?

Any small thing they will start telling you they will turn bad. Turn bad na, hopefully that would work.

toujurs:
My dear you are right on that bad character side oh, Any lady i see still single at 32 and doesn't even have a boyfriend, i see them as disrespectful ladies with bad characters, as a reason for them being single at such old age.

On the part on about being faithfull, i agree with you, you can't put all your eggs in one basket, that other guy that is telling you he likes you, keep me at a side. I said keep oh, i didn't say you should be knacking him. While you stay with the main guy. Incase main guy mess up. Even in business you can't invest all your money in one business na, Most of you ladies aren't smart, it's good to be faithfull and loyal. But humans will always be humans. Madam ehn at 36yrs. Any guy that comes and his serious, just accept the person. It's just four years remaining oh for menopause to set in. Or you inject a sperm and take care of your child, if you are lucky you will give birth to a boy

Great0ne1:

So you want her to marry a man older than her father? Can you marry your mum mate?

pocohantas:


No I am not wrong. My response to you was to pray for the spirit of discernment, you left that one and jumped on a post to another person. I guess that is how you care too much. Anyway, I stand by my post, but since you want to make that post about you, I will take out time to address one of your posts. I don’t know anyone that has been severely dumped because they are too caring. You mean, 1,2,3,4 all left you because you CARE TOO MUCH? Interesting

Who are these people telling you, you care too much? What exactly is care too much? Lol

So these people highlighting your good quality, care to share why none of them decided to step in and marry you? Why they haven’t introduced you to their male friends? Put in a good word for you?

Are they your EXes?

Only an EX can genuinely tell you why they picked someone else over you. Ask you EXes why they left you, there must be one thing that would be a constant and I am sure that thing wouldn’t be caring too much, at least not in a positive way.

Care too much? Pfffttt!

I honestly do not care if you ignore me. You are not the one fcking or doing giveaway for me.

Murphyenemuwe:
Sis you might be wrong u know. I'm a guy with a very soft heart and I can say I've never been lucky when it comes to relationship. One thing I realized is that most people at least in Nigeria I'm familiar with were raised on survival instinct and not love. So when they perceive you're soft and caring they take advantage of u. And when they say someone is good it doesn't mean they don't have their flaws. Good people admit and discuss their flaws but bad people only ignore their flaws and rub it on your face. Shalom