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Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by lilianaghanti: 11:15pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Never marry a man that still lives with his parents... Such a man is not and will never be ready for marriage.living in a family house is the worst punishment for a married woman 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Solatium(m): 11:16pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Yes it's foolish to you because you follow the crowd,you follow the senseless act that has become a tradition Have you asked yourself why kids from Rich family finds their feet's quicker in life? it's because of leverage like this,you see babangida pikin getting married and they were given house's, car's and money,do you think their parents are foolish? |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by efficiencie(m): 11:19pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
BluntTheApostle: You know he is finishing up his Masters degree. You know he hustles a lot and is hardworking. You know he is lives in a family house...and nothing else!? Do you know who or what he is? Do you know his character? You claim he is focused. Focused on what exactly? We bother about money, house and job forgetting that a psychopath can easily meet these criteria. You need to peer deep to know who or what that man is before you hand over your niece to a serial killer, a ritualist, a fraudster or a narcissist. This is why prayers are necessary for the true intentions of the heart to be revealed. The condition of a man's pocket can change overnight but the condition of a man's heart may remain unchanged forever. Ask your niece about what it means to be a wife and who a husband is. If she doesn't know this then she cannot identify a husband and the man she brought home is just another boyfriend and she is just another fucktoy. Ask your niece what plans she has for her life and how she thinks this man can help her. If she has no plan for her life she will easily be a rag in the marriage. When purpose is not known abuse is inevitable. Ask your niece how she thinks she can support this man other than sex, cooking and housekeeping. If she cannot answer this question then in the marriage she will be no different from a fuckmate. Finally ask your niece, has she heard from God about this man! If she doesn't hear from God at all then she is already in a ton of shit. Tossed about by clever words of flattery. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Kobojunkie: 11:25pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
Solatium:Me? Follow the crowd? I am afraid you have got the wrong person. I almost never do that...didn't as a youngin and never as an adult.. We are not here comparing kids from rich families to poor ones, so let's not make this what it isn't. This is a case of a young man with no known plans of moving out of his family house even after marriage. He doesn't even seem to have considered it, talk less of having plans for such. What is accomplished by getting someone like that an apartment? 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by mastermaestro(m): 11:59pm On Feb 28, 2022 |
BluntTheApostle: My guy nor gree o. Other shortfalls can be manageably accepted, but the issue of not having his own apartment should not be negotiable. If he doesn’t solve that challenge, don’t bless their marriage plans. Let her make all the noise in the world, she’ll be fine last last. Save yourself from near future heartache. He should use the next one year to earn and get an apartment away from family house. I don’t know why feel like laughing. Person wan enter fire in the name of marriage. Family house ke? |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by bigbossila: 1:16am On Mar 01, 2022 |
i reason with you. but its common in NIGERIA, especially in our northern part of the country. one day they will own their on house. but the most important thing is if he is a good man |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Burger01(m): 1:46am On Mar 01, 2022 |
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Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by OLULAW: 3:39am On Mar 01, 2022 |
No condition is permanent. My best mate, Jude was living with his parents in a rented accommodation when he got married to his heartthrob who comes from a middle class family - wife’s family had their own house (four flats, one occupied, 3 rented out). Jude just finished his masters and had no jobs. Following their marriage, intensified seeking PhD admissions abroad. Luck was on his side, he gained admission with full funding to UBC in Canada. He travelled out, his wife soon joined him. They now have 3 kids, all now hold Canadian citizenship and Jude is now an assistant professor at a University in the USA. I repeat, no condition is permanent. Walk by “faith” not by sight. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by jimb(m): 4:46am On Mar 01, 2022 |
21years sef.. she never get sense finish even.. 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Yankee101: 5:39am On Mar 01, 2022 |
This one has spent time with the elders and wise ones and/or is one herself Klass99: |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by faithfull18(f): 7:07am On Mar 01, 2022 |
Nawa, I hope she changes her mind so she doesn't regret it later. |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by sylve11: 7:44am On Mar 01, 2022 |
Hmmm |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by HRMK: 7:48am On Mar 01, 2022 |
THAT TYPE OF SITUATION IS EVEN WORSE THAN A POLYGAMOUS SETTINGS!THE MAN HAS NO STEADY JOB AND CANT SECURE ALTERNATIVE ACCOMMODATION FOR NOW!THIS GIRL IS STILL YOUNG,WHY THE HURRY?IF SHE REFUSES TO LISTEN,U WILL NEED TO TALK TO THE MUM!MAKE IT CLEAR THAT,SHE WULD BE ON HER OWN IF THE PLACE BECOMES UNFAVORABLE!! |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Solatium(m): 8:09am On Mar 01, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Not comparing rich kids with poor kids,i only highlight why rich kids find their foot quickly in life and this is one of the reasons,they give them something to leverage on. How do you know the Young Man has no plan of moving out of the family house? if he could get himself a job and he's living within what he earns how then can you say he has no plan? If the family house he lives in is a mansion somewhere in Ikoyi or Asokoro will this aproko uncle be saying the same thing? will your own position still be the same as this? |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Kobojunkie: 8:17am On Mar 01, 2022 |
Solatium:1. The Op made it known the young man expressed no certain plains to move out of his family's abode in the near future. Also, we don't know that the reason why he has no immediate plan has anything to do with his not having a job so can we please stop with the suppositions. We have here a man with no steady source of income yet that hasn't stopped him from seeking to marry this here gal here. Na to get apartment you want make we believe be bigger commitment than that.. 2. I don't care if the mansion is in aso Rock, so long as this man plans to marry without a steady source of income, nor ambition to boot, and no plan to get his own place or space, then these are sure reasons the young gal's folks should be concerned about. 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by rali123(f): 9:47am On Mar 01, 2022 |
BluntTheApostle: BluntTheApostle: Please don’t let her, tell the mum to talk some sense into her but if she insist after several attempts , let her be. My neighbor (elderly people ) last born wife lives with them though it’s understandable because I guess the older siblings have something good they are doing so they are all on their own, the wife does everything, take care of the aged parents, her husband and a couple of others I have no idea where they came from, to be sincere, she doesn’t have a good body naturally but the stress has made her look 10times older compare to when she got married. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Solatium(m): 12:07pm On Mar 01, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: The aproko uncle and you can go to hell,these are two adults according to the law of the land and they are free to move on with their life. If you can't improve people don't run them down. My policy |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by gforce5: 12:44pm On Mar 01, 2022 |
It's so funny how people are mocking the suitor in question for still living in a family house at the age of 30. Yusuf Buhari was living with his parents when he got married to a princess yet nobody said pim. Malami's son didn't have any job when he got married. Prince Harry of the UK was jobless and living in his family house when he got married. His wife even settled with him in the palace before she opened her eyes. The nephew of the Prince of Monaco doesn't have a job but is married to the daughter from a prominent Colombian family. If the suitor was from a wealthy home, nobody would question his ambition in life. I am not supporting the guy but I am seeing this from another perspective. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by bbeautylik(f): 1:13pm On Mar 01, 2022 |
Op don't try it o, I am in it and at times I feel like taking my life... I cant please anyone |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by bbeautylik(f): 1:32pm On Mar 01, 2022 |
rita25:same here..... I still dey cry work took me away from them and transfer brought me back |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Kobojunkie: 3:18pm On Mar 01, 2022 |
Solatium:BluntTheApostle, is this one here your in-law abeg? 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by BluntTheApostle(m): 3:45pm On Mar 01, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Solatium(m): 4:20pm On Mar 01, 2022 |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Ajibade123(m): 8:42pm On Mar 01, 2022 |
Iyaebe:but how do you know all this ?? because I don't think you are married |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Blackdisciple(m): 10:29pm On Mar 01, 2022 |
Simran94: That house ain't just a room there enough space ..... I realized that a woman needs her privacy yes, but if there's many rooms in the building everyone knows his or her boundary na |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Nobody: 5:45am On Mar 02, 2022 |
Blackdisciple:Not even rooms. Do you know what will happen to the 21 year old girl in that family house? They will turn her to their maid because they see her as a small girl. Those kind settings no dey good at all for young person. And besides, the couple wants the OP to foot the bills of the wedding which means the guy isn’t financially dependent like that and the girl is still in school without a job. Does that mean it’s the guy’s family that will be feeding them when they move in? |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Blackdisciple(m): 12:28pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
Simran94: To be honest ehhh, I can't try such, just as u say they will turn her to their maid and the man will be seeing her as a good wife while she suffers with domestic works , I have a neighbor whom there's this girl working with him , and there's this guy too staying with him , the girl not any of them girl, but one of them his girl usually come around do you know that this very girl staying with them because their maid doing everything at home including washing of their clothes , if the girl to the other guy comes around na leg she dey cross relax for house oo while this said girl do the activities.... It's crazy |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Nobody: 12:38pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
Blackdisciple:Exactly, you get. It is well with them sha |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Professorcplus(m): 1:17pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
Solatium:Obara Jesus. Den suppose flog you 31 stroke of cane. Only poor and frustrated neighbourhoods have morning qurel and fighting? If the man came from rich background with car, finance and family backup, we won't be here discussing this issue. It is obvious the man's family isn't financially boyant and the poor extended family will vent their ancestorial anger, bitterness and frustration to the young chap. Babaginda and rich elite doesn't discuss this issue even if their daughter marry at 19. This issue is meant for the poor family And the best to do is to break away from any family wahala because buhari and economy isn't smiling 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Solatium(m): 1:24pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
Professorcplus: Another idiot spotted,why can't your own family work hard to afford what you are demanding from someone? abi your own family no get Male? Abi Dem curse your own Family to be leches all their life? |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Professorcplus(m): 1:32pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
gforce5: Moral lesson: Strive hard make a legacy and give your unborn children soft landing. Leaving your parents house or marrying in your parents house is mostly a topic for the poor. 1 Like |
Re: Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House? by Professorcplus(m): 1:34pm On Mar 03, 2022 |
Solatium:No need for harsh word bro. Read my previous comment with good sense of humor |
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