Malory:
Shatap

tensazangetsu20:
So long as you made the selfish decision to have children, you are completely responsible for them till you die. As if they are sharing high paying jobs in Nigeria.

TheSameGuy:
No wonder. You're still eating mummy thank you after graduation

Desusi:
Naira landers, kindly advise me on what to do.

l am over 60 years old, a widower. By the grace of God, l was blessed with three children of which two are graduates with good grades from reputable universities here in Nigeria, one is still undergraduate before the departure of my late wife some years back.

As a retired man with meager money, I decided to manage a little business which barely gives me much money. One of these my children, a professional, though not teacher, is currently residing with me doing teaching job in different places as part time, pending when he would get a much better job.

We are living in my personal house. l would single handedly pay electricity bills, lawnman, etc. My son would not want to help in any way, not even with pure water of #10 claiming that he is with his father.

Efforts to convince him to assist me is not yielding positive result, instead he would pick quarrels with me. His senior sister has married, while the junior brother is still in the school as dependant, what sort of counseling do you think he needs to change.

I am afraid even if this boy owns shop rite in future, he would not help either.

Malory:
Exactly what you are doing. The joke is on you

Exkandayee:

Oga calm down, your son is saving money to japa,I know dis 100%, he's not helping because he sees you're still strong and hard-working, just give him sometimes, you'll know he's really thinking about you

Desusi:
Can you give me the site or the link to the movies

DrFunmisticGlow:
kick him out, or tell him to pay bills, don't let him touch your food or drink.

afamaustin:
I have a brother that does the same character hi is a lecturer in one of the federal institution in Nigeria.He should be 28 years, Even to by pure water he wunt but when u buy he will be the first person to take.
After all inquiry we find out is a kind of mental illness, and we don't HV option than to be managing him like that.

mukthar2000:
Most u depend on the little boy to reciprocate? Why most parents so much depend on the childs that just started a new life, forgoting that it's their responsibility to support the child to his or her confort stage in life

JONNYSPUTE:



I don't even know what to say but to start with. How was he raised?
I mean,was he having everything at his will when growing up?

OlawaleBammie:



Auntie oooohhhhh

I swear we re same thing, i swear.

If not that my parent and people around have bn saying i want to be irresponsible walahi i have said i dont want to give birth more than once, even at that sef it wont be more than two.

Aunty i love mysef abeg, i come this life alone and i have bn suffering since alone, and i dont want to continue the suffering cus if one child/children.

Anu money i gather is to take care of my sef and the two children(i can still manage to take care of two children)

Even if i become billionaire tomorrow, the real goal is to take care of mysef biko. Its my life and not the children life. My own is to take responsibility on them til dey become adult and can stand on their own firmly.

Klass99:


Make I follow you LOL, Jonny abeg die this yarn joor. I am self aware enough to know that I am lacking in that area/department.

Why will I be pleading with my offspring because of bond? Unto sey I carried him for 9 months in my womb? I don't have it in me o!

Las las, is he Jesus Christ? Can any child hang on a tree and die for me like Christ did? Why will I come and be killing myself on top of their matter?

They will not get me into heaven when this life is over and one of my goals is to make heaven. Neither will I be asked to give an account of my child's life, I will be asked to give an account of my own life.

NewSoul:

Don't mind them.somebody just started out in life. They won't let you save for your own family or retirement too. Like say na law to born pikin mstcheeew

JONNYSPUTE:

I don't even know what to say but to start with. How was he raised?
I mean,was he having everything at his will when growing up?

Beremx:
The current situation of the country made him to still be living under your roof. Don’t frustrate him and make him misbehave. He’s still a good boy unlike some sons who are jobless and shameless. Give him more time to look for a better job and let him move on

Mooh247:




See wetin bad economy cause

You can't repay your father for raising you, you are still taking from him even at retirement

That's a crime


Use the method my mum used on us..

Note ; she is a retired Federal Government worker with my dad and they both earn good money from pension and house rent

Call all your children to have a serious conversation early in the morning...

Mandate each and everyone of them to take care of a certain bill or give you a certain amount every month so as to receive your true blessing while you're still alive

Start with little commitments for them

*filling of cooking gas
*service and fueling of Generators
*buying of pure water bags and water dispenser refill
*even your kid in school can afford to buy bread or live chcken every time he comes home if you mandate him to do so
*3k monthly subscription of internet or DSTV




.

NewSoul:

Then don't have kids if you care about yourself this much. This is narcissism. Caring about yourself only. Please your type are not meant to be parents please! We don't want to be reading how a child feels neglected from his selfish parents in 2042 abeg I take God beg you. Make money and chop alone, not everyone must be parents. Nor be by force. Eat alone and die alone in peace

NewSoul:

Then don't have kids if you care about yourself this much. This is narcissism. Caring about yourself only. Please your type are not meant to be parents please! We don't want to be reading how a child feels neglected from his selfish parents in 2042 abeg I take God beg you. Make money and chop alone, not everyone must be parents. Nor be by force. Eat alone and die alone in peace

Golan007:
Eject him from the home.

Desusi:
Thanks a lot for your advice, as a Christian, l have been praying for him that God will help him out.

Desusi:

Thanks a lot.Nothing prayers cannot do.l will try more.

SURElee:


Eject him to where? To the streets so he goes to learn yahoo plus abi?

As a father, has he spoken to him, did he bring him up to be responsible or to be self centered?

If the father likes, let him throw him out to taboo gang outside, and except to real from him when God turns his fortunes around, sebi he is 60 already?

What words has that man been speaking into the life of that young man trying to find his path in life? With the tone behind his write up, it is obvious the man has been unpacking his frustrations on the young man.

This is Nigeria where graduate struggle after having certificates o!

Desusi:
Naira landers, kindly advise me on what to do.

l am over 60 years old, a widower. By the grace of God, l was blessed with three children of which two are graduates with good grades from reputable universities here in Nigeria, one is still undergraduate before the departure of my late wife some years back.

As a retired man with meager money, I decided to manage a little business which barely gives me much money. One of these my children, a professional, though not teacher, is currently residing with me doing teaching job in different places as part time, pending when he would get a much better job.

We are living in my personal house. l would single handedly pay electricity bills, lawnman, etc. My son would not want to help in any way, not even with pure water of #10 claiming that he is with his father.

Desusi:
Naira landers, kindly advise me on what to do.

l am over 60 years old, a widower. By the grace of God, l was blessed with three children of which two are graduates with good grades from reputable universities here in Nigeria, one is still undergraduate before the departure of my late wife some years back.

As a retired man with meager money, I decided to manage a little business which barely gives me much money. One of these my children, a professional, though not teacher, is currently residing with me doing teaching job in different places as part time, pending when he would get a much better job.

We are living in my personal house. l would single handedly pay electricity bills, lawnman, etc. My son would not want to help in any way, not even with pure water of #10 claiming that he is with his father.

Efforts to convince him to assist me is not yielding positive result, instead he would pick quarrels with me. His senior sister has married, while the junior brother is still in the school as dependant, what sort of counseling do you think he needs to change.

I am afraid even if this boy owns shop rite in future, he would not help either.