Descottes:
na this thing about you nairaland men folks wey make me dislike una. Y'all Bloody Hypocrites .
If it was a man who came here with same story about his girlfriend you lot would call him a fool/simp and also judge and slut shame Nigerian women to pieces.
You guys really need to grow up else all the ladies go leave romance section for una.
They are not much here again sef.

LIGHTHEARTED0:



how will u understand when u are still ajebuter they are still feeding

Descottes:
look at this brainless idiot .So na only ajekpako dey fit cater for himself .

you are obviously a child and I won't banter words with you, nah.

missimelda01:

It feels wrong...why am I this hurt?

Palema007:
This is so insensitive!

Would you have typed this if the poster was a guy?

czarr:
Don't care.

LIGHTHEARTED0:




I'm a ajekpako boy that sweat for his hard earned money and very stingy with his money especially toward the puzzy people, but you ajebuter boy still been spoon-feed by his parents which will eventually prompt him to spend excessively on girl that still denied him access to their honey pot and ultimately get ditched

don't cry yet bro

Descottes:
why wouldn't you be stingy when you and your ilk carry cement block from morning till night only to be paid peanuts by me and my kind

Loafer

Descottes:
be fair mister. You wouldnt be happy if there's a biased approach against your kind would you? What do you think about white supremacism?; racism? Tribalism? Wouldn't you feel bad if you are subjected to any of these?
What you kids are doing on this section ain't any different.

Nostring:
@ Op no mind dose yeye goats up dia...they are all hypocrites..he messed up big time, infact d guy na dog ..if u wan risk getting back with him, redefine the relationship, find something tell am say make una stay off sex for a lil while ,I'm sure he go agree reluctantly, watch him closely if he's going to run back to his runs girls codedly....if u are lucky, his Tru color go show

czarr:
She comes across like someone who would cry if her boyfriend even glances at another woman, she should "man up", I've dated her type before they like emotional blackmail alot, they like to act like they are too fragile and force a man to become just as emotional even when he is not built that way.... nothing wrong with her o, she is not in love with the guy she is only in love with chasing his validation, she is in love with her project of turning him into an emotional wreck like herself.....she is attracted to his emotional unavailability and she is not self aware enough to realise it....when she succeeds in breaking him down to an emotional man she'll despise him, and look for another project.

czarr:
Facts don't care about feelings.

LIGHTHEARTED0:



and later will kidnapped and behead you and use it to do ritual

Favfables1:


As long as you two weren't together at that time, he didn't cheat on you ...
Which beer you dey take boss...this comment goes well !!


The only reason why you feel hurt is because, he found your replacement almost immediately and as such, your ego took a hit ...

missimelda01:

Oh shut up your stupid mouth! You think every girl has nothing to offer, you have no idea at all.

Palema007:
And I wonder why there had been countless threads opened by guys here fighting for "yeye rights" when they are not married to the girls yet!

You lots are so despicable !

missimelda01:

Oh shut up your stupid mouth! You think every girl has nothing to offer, you have no idea at all.

Palema007:
And I wonder why there had been countless threads opened by guys here fighting for "yeye rights" when they are not married to the girls yet!

You lots are so despicable !

LIGHTHEARTED0:




cho cho cho


from discussion into the real thing, truly no string attached truly

Jennyclay:


SMH, Nairaland still have a long way to go. Just listen to the advice being dished out up there, just because it was a guy who cheated. If the reverse was the case. Infact it will be on front page by now because of the traffic. Bunch of biased people and the moderators aren't doing anything about it.

@op, As a lady, you shouldn't have bring your relationship issues here. This platform does not favor women, My advice is that you should open a reddit account and take your relationship issues to that platform.

You will later know the difference between heaven and hell. You gonna be reading mature and first class advice, people there are Angels from heaven while people here are demons from hell.

I take my relationship advice to that platform not here, abi do want me to be a laughing stock? Just take a look at czarr, GooodHardDick, Uzomacharles, Moeman and co advice. SMH.. My dear please, Avoid those Slowpokes up there advice and wait for the wise ones to come. Okay! Because Me, I'm very raw. If I give you my advice about this issue, you will just hate men for life.

Mtchhheeewwww.. Bush!!

eazzzy1:
You didn’t forget to block him on Instagram, you left that Chanel of communication open for possible reconciliation. Whether he slept with someone else one hour after breakup or one week after, he did not cheat on you, there was a break up.

When you chose to leave you opened up the possibility of that happening. What if he married someone else two months after the breakup? Is he suppose to consult you before having sex with another girl as a single man?

You are independent, good and all the other qualities you listed, how do you know the other girl isn’t just as good? His only fault was seeking to make up with you. Take your man for granted, another woman will declare him wanted.

HarunaWest:
Those ones too are yeye guys.

Palema007:
Dear Missimelda01,

I usually don't get worked up on relationships issues on Nl but for you, I will try to analyze your situation and give you the best advice I can.

Your boyfriend is obviously a teen in a man's clothing. He has the mind of a teen who wants to explore yet fear losing a good woman (You). You are a rare gem, a scarce jewel he may regret losing for the rest of his life but his testosterone is overshadowing his thinking faculty.
He wants to keep the good girl, while he explore other options as well. He is distracted, sadly at your detriment.
Now, here is the question: What do you want?
You have three choices which are:
1) Be the good, calm , forgiving wife material as allow him have his way. Yes you don't mind sharing him do you? As long as you are number one and earns the ring.
2) Be the good, understanding but strict lady who at this point does not mind losing him if he refuses to change. That's giving him a second chance to change his ways and be committed to you alone. In this case it's a 50-50 thing.
3) Be the dismissive lady and call the whole sh^t off!

Please choose wisely and don't forget to put yourself first here.