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Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by evansjeff(m): 6:37pm On May 12, 2020
Recently I've been very bothered about myself. I'm a guy of around 30 but some things that still worry my heart is really disturbing. I will start like this.

1. Something embarrassing happened some time last year when I travelled home for visit. They bought a goat and was looking for who to kill it, me knowing I'm the most senior man at home jejely went into ghost mode, everyone started looking for me, in the end I had to come out but shamelessly told them I can't kill it. They had to call a 16 year old opposite neighbour to do it while my younger ones helped him hold the goat. I couldn't even stand the sight of seeing the goat struggling for life while receiving knife in the throat. I left there immediately.

2. You might think it's normal for goat until I tell you that I can't kill a chicken or rat, last Christmas, I badly wanted to buy a life chicken because I beleive it's more healthy, but who will kill it? Bae was around, I don't want any embarrassment so I jejely bought frozen chicken . There is a wall gecko strolling around my room for weeks now, but I can't kill it, it becomes embarrassing any time I have a visitor

3. The most recent is, there are two birds trying to build a house in my lobby, I kept destroying the house but they didn't give up, it got to a point, I felt bad for the poor birds, what if they don't have a house? what if I'm the one building a house with all my strength and government keeps destroying it? I had to leave them to build. My neighbour said he killed the birds that tried doing that in his house but me can i do that? No. i just tire.

4. Lastly, When travelling and there's an accident, people rush out to watch but I dare not else the trauma will remain for months, I can't stand the sight of blood and body cuts.

Any time I think about killing an animal, I ask myself, what if I'm the one being held by boko haram or killer herdsmen and about to be slaughtered? How excruciating the pain can be.

Any time I think about crushing a cockroach, I ask myself, what if I'm the one trying to cross the high way and dangote trailer crushes me?

So guys, am I normal? Do I need to see a doctor or a psychologist?

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by ManOfSteel2(m): 6:44pm On May 12, 2020
Don't feel alone as a handful of people might probably be in your shoes.
Having a "soft/tender" heart won't be considered a crime.

Had a bae that couldn't hurt a mosquito, despite spending endlessly on anti-malaria pills.

ManOfSteel will advice you extend that "brotherly love" when next you are confined with a Rattlesnake.

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by Ghostrye: 6:45pm On May 12, 2020
You are normal but you might need to see a psychiatrist about it. There are people who can't stand the sight of blood or death but I've never heard about the case of not being able to kill a roach or a gecko. That is some extreme shii

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by MrBrownJay1(m): 6:45pm On May 12, 2020
let me guess: do you wear pink trousers and flowery shirts and/or scream like a woman when you see a needle before an injection... or better yet, do you drink coffee like the dude below?

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by longetivity(m): 6:59pm On May 12, 2020
are you soft in bed also??

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by decatalyst(m): 7:05pm On May 12, 2020
longetivity:
are you soft in bed also??

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by CAPSLOCKED: 8:05pm On May 12, 2020
YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE VIOLENT OR KILL ANYTHING TO BE A "MAN".
YOU JUST HAVE TO RESPONSIBLE FOR CERTAIN THINGS AND LEARN TO DO THINGS THE CORRECT WAY, AND BULK UP YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENTS.
THIS IS WHAT WILL DIFFERENTIATE YOU FROM A WOMAN IN THE REAL SENSE OF THINGS.

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by Karleb(m): 8:28pm On May 12, 2020
Sincerely speaking, you are too soft.

Even my 10 year old sister always drag the knife with we the elders when it's time to kill Christmas chicken.

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by evansjeff(m): 9:08pm On May 12, 2020
longetivity:
are you soft in bed also??

lol...not at all. You may want to try me with your girlfriend. In fact I have no mercy when it comes to girls both in decisions and in bed. The issue with me is basically on violence whether against human or animals.

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by evansjeff(m): 8:14am On May 14, 2020
This thing really disturbs me, Lalasticlala

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by lordkrys(m): 9:42pm On May 14, 2020
Owk

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by tym92(m): 9:42pm On May 14, 2020
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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by kollinz1234(m): 9:42pm On May 14, 2020
My brother,u didn't grow up in a difficult environment, Ajebo runs through your veins. If to say u be PAKO wey no de see chicken chop, to kill all those things go be your work every Christmas, Easther etc

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by mytime24(f): 9:42pm On May 14, 2020
U mean soft like today bread

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by Congonatty: 9:42pm On May 14, 2020
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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by HeadNigga: 9:42pm On May 14, 2020
You have no problems bro. As long as you get hard when your woman needs your attention you are good to go.

The only time you should never be soft as a man is when u are with a lady in za oza room. Every man has something that makes him seem soft. U are OK bro

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by JOHNSONSOLAFUNMI(m): 9:43pm On May 14, 2020
2 birds just collect your house and you still Dey ask, if you be pvssy, this clearly shows you’re not responsible in some aspects, Violence doesn’t show manliness but unable to kill a chicken or roach is something else

Simping leads to Pvssying - Lord future Hendrix

evansjeff:

lol...not at all. You may want to try me with your girlfriend. In fact I have no mercy when it comes to girls both in decisions and in bed. The issue with me is basically on violence whether against human or animals.

Now Imagine say na chicken you Dey choke how you Dey choke those girls ontop bed

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by Nobody: 9:43pm On May 14, 2020
so?
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by u11ae1013: 9:43pm On May 14, 2020
Bra and undies washer spotted

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by Exc2000: 9:43pm On May 14, 2020
grin

no be only you bra

some kids were scared of one scary looking snake and called me as a passers by to come and kill it it, speaking Yoruba to tell me where it is, me I just jejely form Ibo man, acting like I cant understand them..

I can kill small animals tho insects gecko lizards etc, and with people around I can assist in holding slaughtered ram and cattle although I haven't tried killing it ever

.

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by Donaldoni: 9:43pm On May 14, 2020
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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by QuantumR: 9:43pm On May 14, 2020
Op, it is inappropriate to use the word "kill" , use "slaughter" instead.

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by Chijeep(m): 9:43pm On May 14, 2020
very cheap... Google how to become a Man and follow the steps.
Thank you

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by ozoebuka1(m): 9:43pm On May 14, 2020
sad

Hate to say this but you need to change and very fast

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by Ent3rpreneur(m): 9:44pm On May 14, 2020
I can't also kill a goat or chicken.

I even hate touching a chicken. I go to market where the chicken is killed and cut for me, then I pay.

But I don't have problems squishing the head of a cockroach or gecko or lizard or frog or mosquito or snake or any other creeping thing.

Doesn't make you less of a man.

MrBrownJay1:
let me guess: do you wear pink trousers and flowery shirts and/or scream like a woman when you see a needle before an injection... or better yet, do you drink coffee like the dude below?

You're toxic. A man doesn't have to be a brute to be a man.
Even if he were gay, it's none of your business.

Sir Isaac Newton reportedly died a virgin but we use the things he invented and the laws he propounded till today.
You might be a brute, killing anything and everything but you be olodo upstairs.

Las Las, you just need to be responsible for your actions and inactions to qualify as a Man (in my opinion)



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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by Mikelarteta(m): 9:44pm On May 14, 2020
Start smoking weed, you will be surprised at the kind of things you will start doing.

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by kalvoken(m): 9:45pm On May 14, 2020
grin


Trust me, you are just being the normal human being we were made to be.


Before devil visited woman.

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by OBTMOS(m): 9:45pm On May 14, 2020
Na only u oo
Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by ZiriMane(m): 9:45pm On May 14, 2020
If I advise you to close your eyes and strike to kill the animal or whatever is making you think you are a weak man.. Then I might just be awakening the Schizophrenic in you.

Stay kill free for the sake of humanity!

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by Digitalstarlite: 9:45pm On May 14, 2020
Op...u are not getting younger...u can't keep on doing dis till marriage or in front of ur children.

U have animal fobia...
It depends on things u have fed ur mind wit in d past...u get to man up and b determined to turn a new leaf...d bible says we have dominion over animals... Not dat u wud go and visit d zoo...

U have to change ur believe system and empty all trash u have heard in ur mind and always praying for ur success... Stop worrying about unnecessary tinz

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by Jackossky(m): 9:45pm On May 14, 2020
Hmmm, what I will advise is to hire people to do the job for you.

You could have told someone authoritatively to kill the life chicken;a the wall gecko, hire someone to do it, anyway, you remain the boss.

Remember, there are many ways to go about a problem/Phobia.

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Re: Help: I Think I'm Too Soft For A Man That I Am by emmanuelpeace1(m): 9:45pm On May 14, 2020
Are you also a simp?

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