Sanchez01:

She married too early. That's the problem here. This is often a thing with those who get married early. She is bored, wants independence and suddenly wants to be alone to explore. I'd say it's pretty normal.

I know someone who got married at 21, has three kids and now wants to live just because she wants to live life and never had the chance to while she was younger.

Tunagee:


Exactly. All african women are only affer their kids. Once they get those kids, even their husband becomes secondary. She might be a yoruba lady cos its their nature. But why bring the man into the agreement when you knew you were gonna opt out later? Dont worry, na your type dem dey swear for wey u go come move on and life starts to become unbearable for you, especially when your husband has been good.

BigBashiru:


Not at 33...she doesn't hv time..... 35 is expiry....

bukatyne:


@bold:

Permit me to laugh

candidbabe:


To think that she is comparing her marriage to that of oyedepo baffles me..

Majority of Nigerian pastors are liars and rogues.

Tunagee:


Exactly. All african women are only affer their kids. Once they get those kids, even their husband becomes secondary. She might be a yoruba lady cos its their nature. But why bring the man into the agreement when you knew you were gonna opt out later? Dont worry, na your type dem dey swear for wey u go come move on and life starts to become unbearable for you, especially when your husband has been good.

bukatyne:


@bold:

Permit me to laugh

janejjjjj5000:
No, sir. We have not.

This is a good idea.

I just feel so tired and unmotivated to work on the marriage.

janejjjjj5000:
No. I grew up in Winners Chapel and Papa and Mama always say they have never argued in their marriage. Even last year, Papa still said that he and mama have not had their first argument almost 40 years later. That is the kind of marriage I always wanted but now, I feel bad because I cannot boast of the same thing. Shouting at your wife is abuse. And worse is that our children see it. I have read that it can affect children psychologically. I feel that I have failed.

This account is just trolling.

candidbabe:


I am also a living faith member but, don't be deceived about most pastors testimonies all are lies.

Oyedepo said for fifty years now he has not visited hospital
But he secretly goes to the US for medical checkup.

BigBashiru:


Not at 33...she doesn't hv time..... 35 is expiry....

BigBashiru:


Every rational man should not put all his eggs in one basket after marriage. The husband of this woman has built his life around her thinking he has a "wife".... he will be devastated if the woman leaves.... but if he had 5 other girls as back up, even after the wife leaves he will still be fine....

janejjjjj5000:
Please, I don't want to be judged. My husband is a good man. We have been married for 14 years. I am 33 years old. He is 39 years old. We have 4 kids - 3 girls and 1 boy. He has never cheated on me. Right from day 1, he has been very open. He is not the type of husband that locks phone and all of that. But I am tired. He has the habit of flaring up around the children and I don't like it. I don't want my kids to be damaged. I know some will say no marriage is perfect but at this point, I don't even want marriage again. I just want to be free and single and look after my kids. I am tired.

Anytime we have an argument, he always talks about how he did this and that for me. In front of the children. I don't want this kind of life. He hardly gets angry, maybe twice or thrice in a year but when he does, he does not have the sense to know he should not be doing it in front of the kids. He apologizes to them and to me but I am done.

He has no other issue apart from this. He has never beaten me or anything but I am tired. Overall he is a good husband to be fair and honest but I can no longer deal with this. I prefer to be single and free than deal with this rubbish.

I feel like pouring out my heart.

janejjjjj5000:
No. I grew up in Winners Chapel and Papa and Mama always say they have never argued in their marriage. Even last year, Papa still said that he and mama have not had their first argument almost 40 years later. That is the kind of marriage I always wanted but now, I feel bad because I cannot boast of the same thing. Shouting at your wife is abuse. And worse is that our children see it. I have read that it can affect children psychologically. I feel that I have failed.

Nuelzi:


Show me a man that have never shouted at his woman then you have to believe me when I say that my grandmother is still a virgin.

The fact that he apologizes to you when he is wrong speaks volume....no be every man dey apologize yet their woman always stick around them.

This is a family matter,you two need to be counseled by a marriage counselor,you don't have to leave your marriage because your husband shouts at you sometimes

I know you have friends that have being feeding you with such nonsense that their own husband (s) don't shout at them...blah blah blah....

Na Dem dey feed you with all dx divorce of a thing...but believe me when I say one or two of them are not happy that you have that kinda man.

Oyiboman69:
instead of you to side with your husband, you're here taking side with your children...

If he ignores the Children, you'll be the one complaining. as for me,I.see no reasonable excuse from you other than you seeking to be free just to explore the world and you're not wrong either. Fire down....

janejjjjj5000:
No. I grew up in Winners Chapel and Papa and Mama always say they have never argued in their marriage. Even last year, Papa still said that he and mama have not had their first argument almost 40 years later. That is the kind of marriage I always wanted but now, I feel bad because I cannot boast of the same thing. Shouting at your wife is abuse. And worse is that our children see it. I have read that it can affect children psychologically. I feel that I have failed.

janejjjjj5000:
Please, I don't want to be judged. My husband is a good man. We have been married for 14 years. I am 33 years old. He is 39 years old. We have 4 kids - 3 girls and 1 boy. He has never cheated on me. Right from day 1, he has been very open. He is not the type of husband that locks phone and all of that. But I am tired. He has the habit of flaring up around the children and I don't like it. I don't want my kids to be damaged. I know some will say no marriage is perfect but at this point, I don't even want marriage again. I just want to be free and single and look after my kids. I am tired.

Anytime we have an argument, he always talks about how he did this and that for me. In front of the children. I don't want this kind of life. He hardly gets angry, maybe twice or thrice in a year but when he does, he does not have the sense to know he should not be doing it in front of the kids. He apologizes to them and to me but I am done.

He has no other issue apart from this. He has never beaten me or anything but I am tired. Overall he is a good husband to be fair and honest but I can no longer deal with this. I prefer to be single and free than deal with this rubbish.

I feel like pouring out my heart.

candidbabe:


I am also a living faith member but, don't be deceived about most pastors testimonies all are lies.

Oyedepo said for fifty years now he has not visited hospital
But he secretly goes to the US for medical checkup.

candidbabe:
I am also a living faith member but, don't be deceived about most pastors testimonies all are lies.

Oyedepo said for fifty years now he has not visited hospital
But he secretly goes to the US for medical checkup.

janejjjjj5000:
No. I grew up in Winners Chapel and Papa and Mama always say they have never argued in their marriage. Even last year, Papa still said that he and mama have not had their first argument almost 40 years later. That is the kind of marriage I always wanted but now, I feel bad because I cannot boast of the same thing. Shouting at your wife is abuse. And worse is that our children see it. I have read that it can affect children psychologically. I feel that I have failed.

janejjjjj5000:
Please, I don't want to be judged. My husband is a good man. We have been married for 14 years. I am 33 years old. He is 39 years old. We have 4 kids - 3 girls and 1 boy. He has never cheated on me. Right from day 1, he has been very open. He is not the type of husband that locks phone and all of that. But I am tired. He has the habit of flaring up around the children and I don't like it. I don't want my kids to be damaged. I know some will say no marriage is perfect but at this point, I don't even want marriage again. I just want to be free and single and look after my kids. I am tired.

Anytime we have an argument, he always talks about how he did this and that for me. In front of the children. I don't want this kind of life. He hardly gets angry, maybe twice or thrice in a year but when he does, he does not have the sense to know he should not be doing it in front of the kids. He apologizes to them and to me but I am done.

He has no other issue apart from this. He has never beaten me or anything but I am tired. Overall he is a good husband to be fair and honest but I can no longer deal with this. I prefer to be single and free than deal with this rubbish.

I feel like pouring out my heart.

Nuelzi:


Show me a man that have never shouted at his woman then you have to believe me when I say that my grandmother is still a virgin.

The fact that he apologizes to you when he is wrong speaks volume....no be every man dey apologize yet their woman always stick around them.

This is a family matter,you two need to be counseled by a marriage counselor,you don't have to leave your marriage because your husband shouts at you sometimes

I know you have friends that have being feeding you with such nonsense that their own husband (s) don't shout at them...blah blah blah....

Na Dem dey feed you with all dx divorce of a thing...but believe me when I say one or two of them are not happy that you have that kinda man.