SarutobiEky:
I hope the guy is a no nonsense guy like me that don't take poo from females. Once I text you, you don't respond in 2minutes, I forget I ever did. Most Females don't deserve any pampering. Na iron hand una need. Naso I call one idiot, she said to call her back. I lock up till further notice.

Real niggar

Jayzx:
That is how most of them will be forming hard to get and be crying every Saturday in their closet when their younger one are getting married. Yeye people

Lol that gender eh And how they think

jackals:
I withdrew and form busy by not responding to his texts and calls for two days. WhatsApp message read but not replied.

Why Are Men Uninterested Nowadays

Because most men with good intentions can not stand a woman playing hard to get.

jackals:
I'm a beautiful woman in my 30s (33 precisely) with a good career and a budding startup in the make-up business. I'm also very humble and I'm one that appreciate the little things a man do. Recently, I got linked to a guy who just came back from the US and have the intention of settling down just like me. He's successful and very respectful the First time we met, and I was already looking forward to something meaningful with him.

Last week Sunday, he took me out. When I got back home, I noticed I've embarrassed myself too much by literally throwing myself at him. I withdrew and form busy by not responding to his texts and calls for two days. WhatsApp message read but not replied.

On Tuesday, I noticed he didn't message me for the whole day. But I became bothered. Up till now, he has not called me nor message me. I didn't want things to be like this, I just didn't want it to be like I'm desperate of his attention.

Is he that he has moved on or not really interested

If you act like this @ 33, your actions are already a pointer to why your situation is what it is. You have ignored someone's messages for two days, someone who came from that far, who you said is ready to settle yet, you are expecting him to still message you, he very well may see you as being unserious. Even if you come around eventually, he will have this notion that in marriage, this is how you will be behaving. I advice you quickly return all his messages and apologize for not responding all the while. Tell him you were having to work on some things and then ask him how he's doing. I would have recommended you write other things but, it will add to the desperation you are trying to avoid so, just leave it at that and see his response and you can take things from there.

lawrenzooo:
This life no hard ooh. Na we just dey make am hard. You were wrong ignoring the young man,
If you want him go after him.

Simple!!!

IamV:
Miss 33,first & foremost,I want to start by telling you that you're no shit,and I love the level of self worth that young man got for himself & how he's not willing to play your BS mind games.

Great guy,he did the right thing.

You read his messages,ignored it for two days because you want to play nonsense mind games,and you're trying to make it his fault for respecting himself to withdraw from a situation he's not considered important to get a response ?


I actually love how he decided to mind his business,because that's what all self respecting men will do in this kind of scenario.
You don't treat people like an option ,and you expect to be treated like a priority.
I hope he moves on,and never look back.

Confused , irrational & fickle ladies like you have no right to be in a relationship.

Apostle must hear Dis!!!!!!!!

Honestfrend:


The way u classify women en.. I don't think u have any better experience with that gender..


Let me blow up ur mind..
I stay in a room apartment with a female friend in school for 6month without sex..

My first relationship lasted 6years without sex.. U can call me a simp if u so deem it..

Someone with ur kind of thought will never any emotional feelings for love.. All u will want is sex n go.

Hassanmaye:

Lol that gender eh And how they think

Hmmmmmmn

Dicispleshilp gone wrong!!!!!!!

jackals:


.I was just expecting you guys to drop something. How to fix this. Since you're Men and you know what attracts you aside from beauty and body....

What do you want us to drop? You like him, why not tell him. You were playing hard to get, but oga does not want to deal with a child in adult skin. So next time, be upfront with your intention and feelings.

Fcmb2022:

Hmmmmmmn

Dicispleshilp gone wrong!!!!!!!

The way women think is totally different from the way men think. That's the problem

Fcmb2022:

Hmmmmmmn

Dicispleshilp gone wrong!!!!!!!

No Man in his senses will continue to chase you while you blatantly refused to reply his message, in 21 century. He will mind his business before you tag him a Raper .

Puskas:
Vagina people and their victim mentality. Imagine how this one is blaming the innocent man for respecting himself. You shunned his WhatsApp messages for two days and you still expect him to be crawling on his knees begging you to reply his chats. Who does that except a man suffering from Simpson disease. If you are beautiful with good characters just like you described yourself you would have married in your twenties and not being desperate to marry in your thirties. Let me ask you one question. If the man is foolish enough to continue chatting with you and later marries you what exactly will you offer him apart from your worn out pussy? Be truthful and answer this question

Guy u are mean aswear. u finish this girl hope.

jackals:
I'm a beautiful woman in my 30s (33 precisely) with a good career and a budding startup in the make-up business. I'm also very humble and I'm one that appreciate the little things a man do. Recently, I got linked to a guy who just came back from the US and have the intention of settling down just like me. He's successful and very respectful the First time we met, and I was already looking forward to something meaningful with him.

Last week Sunday, he took me out. When I got back home, I noticed I've embarrassed myself too much by literally throwing myself at him. I withdrew and form busy by not responding to his texts and calls for two days. WhatsApp message read but not replied.

On Tuesday, I noticed he didn't message me for the whole day. But I became bothered. Up till now, he has not called me nor message me. I didn't want things to be like this, I just didn't want it to be like I'm desperate of his attention.

Is he that he has moved on or not really interested

Some ladies can be very stupid!

Hassanmaye:

No Man in his senses will continue to chase you while you blatantly refused to reply his message, in 21 century. He will mind his business before you tag him a Raper .

Noted.

How was ur night?

jackals:
I'm a beautiful woman in my 30s (33 precisely) with a good career and a budding startup in the make-up business. I'm also very humble and I'm one that appreciate the little things a man do. Recently, I got linked to a guy who just came back from the US and have the intention of settling down just like me. He's successful and very respectful the First time we met, and I was already looking forward to something meaningful with him.

Last week Sunday, he took me out. When I got back home, I noticed I've embarrassed myself too much by literally throwing myself at him. I withdrew and form busy by not responding to his texts and calls for two days. WhatsApp message read but not replied.

On Tuesday, I noticed he didn't message me for the whole day. But I became bothered. Up till now, he has not called me nor message me. I didn't want things to be like this, I just didn't want it to be like I'm desperate of his attention.

Is he that he has moved on or not really interested

I even like it when a lady I'm into is all over me, It would make me go all out for her.

Or do you think matured guys are looking for a lady that's is not all that into them.

If the guy notices you are all over him, it might even be a turn on for him.

Every guy wasn't built or think the same way.

So you shouldn't use that kind of formula for everybody.

If I notice a girl I like is snubbing me, most times I feel like deleting her number.

Men are prideful, don't use that angle to test them. Many guys can fight to death to protect their self worth, not to talk of when a girl is trying to make them feel like they are worth a piece of shit. Please don't do it again, unless you don't like the person at all.

And again, don't mind the people that's is making it seem like you haven't gotten married yet because you don't have good character or something.
I know many ladies with good character that is not yet married.

Just calm down and be taking things slowly, don't be all in, and don't be all out.
Just take things slowly.

See ya.

Fcmb2022:

Noted.

How was ur night?

I'm fine How you

SarutobiEky:
I Hope yo get headbutted by him and thrown out of his room.

Baba this is too harch na

Ok

Lol. So OP, you expect a guy who's based in the States to fall for that silly "play hard to get" mentality that you Nigerian girls are known for? Especially at your age? You should have texted him the following day to explain yourself. He would have given you more respect. Men don't have time to be chasing women anymore. We chase the money which is more important. I also assume that the man is also in his thirties. As such, he doesn't have time for games. You either like him or you don't. I hope that you have learnt a valuable lesson from that incident. Men like that are not that common and you should have done all you could to lock him down. Let this be a lesson to other Nigerian women. When you see a guy that you fancy, go for it. The worst he can say is no. Stop allowing your pride to get in the way of securing the man of your dream because you aren't the only woman that's interested in him.

Nawaoh see as the thread full

gforce5:
Lol. So OP, you expect a guy who's based in the States to fall for that silly "play hard to get" mentality that you Nigerian girls are known for? Especially at your age? You should have texted him the following day to explain yourself.

Hahahahahahaha . Nigerian women?

Before a Nigerian woman would do this, Heaven will fall. She will be 40 reaching menopause before she will do this.

Belafonte:




Baba this is too harch na

That's the only language that they understand.

Puskas:
Vagina people and their victim mentality. Imagine how this one is blaming the innocent man for respecting himself. You shunned his WhatsApp messages for two days and you still expect him to be crawling on his knees begging you to reply his chats. Who does that except a man suffering from Simpson disease. If you are beautiful with good characters just like you described yourself you would have married in your twenties and not being desperate to marry in your thirties. Let me ask you one question. If the man is foolish enough to continue chatting with you and later marries you what exactly will you offer him apart from your worn out pussy? Be truthful and answer this question

Nairaland no dey disappoint. Lolzzzz....

The advice I am reading here sucks!!!!
Young lady,you are crying over a man who may not even want you..I really pity you.
You need to have some self worth girl,
Let the man be,he is definitely not interested

That move was immature. You could have easily cut down on "the doing too much" I mean trying too hard to impress him but respond to his messages and calls when the come through...

I'm telling you! They have too much pride! Even the ones abroad are not exempt! They have been indoctrinated with the belief that it is a man's duty to always chase them. Forgetting that in this modern age, chasing someone is no longer gender specific. Chasing a man doesn't make you cheap. It's the way you approach him that matters.

truthsayer009:


Hahahahahahaha . Nigerian women?

Before a Nigerian woman would do this, Heaven will fall. She will be 40 reaching menopause before she will do this.

Puskas:
Vagina people and their victim mentality. Imagine how this one is blaming the innocent man for respecting himself. You shunned his WhatsApp messages for two days and you still expect him to be crawling on his knees begging you to reply his chats. Who does that except a man suffering from Simpson disease. If you are beautiful with good characters just like you described yourself you would have married in your twenties and not being desperate to marry in your thirties. Let me ask you one question. If the man is foolish enough to continue chatting with you and later marries you what exactly will you offer him apart from your worn out pussy? Be truthful and answer this question

this dude needs to be the next president of Nigeria

jackals:
Why do y'all sounds to make me unhappy. I'm not happy with how things turn out with him not getting back to me as I had hoped. And now you guys are compounding my issue.

Thanks anyways

To me, reading my message and not replying is a sign of disrespect.
Growing up, there were things i didn't forgive people for:
Disrespect
Taking me for granted
And looking down on me.
Those principles have made me who i am today.

Even though I'm not Alpha, I'm a sigma male that doubles as a Taurus, hence i might be a bit selfish/ self centered.
That's why i don't call people more than once, even if you are not with your phone at that time, i expect you to see the missed call and get back to me via call/msg.

For the whatsapp/chatting part, you don't expect me to continue to text you after ignoring my message.
Life is not that complicated.

cooooooks:
If someone says that, just ask her: "Did you ask for my number"?

I amma use this idea for the next one

Divay22:

I'm so happy he replied you sist....
Wishing you all the best

Hi Divay. I sent you a mail via the NL mailbox.
I'd be glad if you respond.

WhatsApp is a batch! He can see that you have got the messages but no reply from you? Tut tut!

He must be mature like you - so why mind games? Ready is ready!

Just message him and tell him the truth and hope he comes round or understand. A man from abroad at his age will not be used to that forming style - it is unnecessary!

Next time go easy on first date and whatever happens, always reply to messages, be it a negative or post response. You could have just replied in such a way to tell him that you are thinking and stepping down as you just met.

too much porn...cheap std, pregnancy free sex

you still dey nairaland... ?

Hassanmaye:

Real niggar