cowboyvs:
Good day Folks, I am not going to bore you with all the details. Ok, I have been a member of this Forum but I really need matured advise cos I am in a dilemma right now. I met this cute babe in 2021. She is from Edo I am Igbo. I was really thinking of getting married to her but I have some serious concerns.

Firstly, sometime last year she came visiting. While she was sleeping on my laps her phone screen lit up so I was tempted to look and I saw message delivered to Mariam. So something whispered to me to check the content of the message. When I checked, I discovered that the message was deleted after it was sent.

So being a Guyman, that discovery spurred my curiosity. What I did was to copy the number and checked on Truecaller, lo and behold a Man’s name appeared. So I checked his name on face book and checked on WhatsApp too and I saw it was a married Man with five kids.

So I waited till morning and confronted her. Initially, she denied it was a man but when I confronted her with my evidence she confessed it was a married man. I enquired further and she told me they have had s*x like 4 times while we were dating ooo. I butted her out of my house and blocked her completely.

But this babe will be using other pple’s phones to call and be sending msgs telling me she is sorry. So at a point I forgave her and we continued, but, I was not ready to start trusting her again. So last week, I was trying to see if she has truly turned a new leaf before making a major move by going to see her parents. I was shocked what I saw in her WhatsApp.

There was this random dude asking her out. From their chats she told the guy that she has a boyfriend so she can’t have anything to do with him. But, she sent him a video of her touching her Vagi*a. Telling him she wets and squirts very well. When the guy demanded they see so he can feel her she told him no that her Vagin* is only for her boyfriend. Also I saw so many guys asking her out but she kept telling them she is in a serious relationship and she can’t date them.

So I am really confused. She is 22 and I am 33. It pains me so much cos this girl is so loving and caring and also a good cook. She treats me well and has never disrespected me. I am really hurting inside cos I feel this is not the kind of woman I wanna marry like how do u expose the most intimate part of ur body to someone else. Is it lack of maturity or she is jst loose and I didn’t know. I have refused picking her calls but she keeps on begging and sending msgs seriously. I am tired.

Please I need matured advise cos I am no longer getting young and I wanna settle down ASAP.

She is on a dating platform!

I will advise you to let her go.

From experience, the moment you found out a girl is into nasty things like this on several occasions. Is it just her. She will never change. I mean NEVER. Woman can be irrational and they think they owe no one explanation.

My take is that the girl has both long term and short term plans. She wants to settle down with you in the nearest future as such she doesn't encourage any other serious relationship- long term plan. However she wants to be flexing with men that can take care of her immediate needs with no strings attached- short term plan. Is that the kind of woman you want to settle down with?

cowboyvs:
Good day Folks, I am not going to bore you with all the details. Ok, I have been a member of this Forum but I really need matured advise cos I am in a dilemma right now. I met this cute babe in 2021. She is from Edo I am Igbo. I was really thinking of getting married to her but I have some serious concerns.

Firstly, sometime last year she came visiting. While she was sleeping on my laps her phone screen lit up so I was tempted to look and I saw message delivered to Mariam. So something whispered to me to check the content of the message. When I checked, I discovered that the message was deleted after it was sent.

So being a Guyman, that discovery spurred my curiosity. What I did was to copy the number and checked on Truecaller, lo and behold a Man’s name appeared. So I checked his name on face book and checked on WhatsApp too and I saw it was a married Man with five kids.

So I waited till morning and confronted her. Initially, she denied it was a man but when I confronted her with my evidence she confessed it was a married man. I enquired further and she told me they have had s*x like 4 times while we were dating ooo. I butted her out of my house and blocked her completely.

But this babe will be using other pple’s phones to call and be sending msgs telling me she is sorry. So at a point I forgave her and we continued, but, I was not ready to start trusting her again. So last week, I was trying to see if she has truly turned a new leaf before making a major move by going to see her parents. I was shocked what I saw in her WhatsApp.

There was this random dude asking her out. From their chats she told the guy that she has a boyfriend so she can’t have anything to do with him. But, she sent him a video of her touching her Vagi*a. Telling him she wets and squirts very well. When the guy demanded they see so he can feel her she told him no that her Vagin* is only for her boyfriend. Also I saw so many guys asking her out but she kept telling them she is in a serious relationship and she can’t date them.

So I am really confused. She is 22 and I am 33. It pains me so much cos this girl is so loving and caring and also a good cook. She treats me well and has never disrespected me. I am really hurting inside cos I feel this is not the kind of woman I wanna marry like how do u expose the most intimate part of ur body to someone else. Is it lack of maturity or she is jst loose and I didn’t know. I have refused picking her calls but she keeps on begging and sending msgs seriously. I am tired.

Please I need matured advise cos I am no longer getting young and I wanna settle down ASAP.

You met her roughly a year ago and she’s done all this, if you marry her you will come home one day and meet another man on top of her, once a LovePeddler always a LovePeddler, she knows that you are week and she’s capitalising on that , make her your fuckbody and never a house wife…i come in peace

The faster you cut her off the best for you. A word is enough for the wise

cowboyvs:
Good day Folks, I am not going to bore you with all the details. Ok, I have been a member of this Forum but I really need matured advise cos I am in a dilemma right now. I met this cute babe in 2021. She is from Edo I am Igbo. I was really thinking of getting married to her but I have some serious concerns.


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Please I need matured advise cos I am no longer getting young and I wanna settle down ASAP.

My guy if you have ever touched that girl, marry her.

2. And stop telling people all that you saw left or right. It's immature and bad.

3. Don't worry. People have much higher graces during marriage and there are certain things they cannot do. Just marry in a state of grace especially if you are Catholics. Don't marry in any sin thunder fit hit una head.
Every marriage in a state of grace is blessed. It will stand.

4. If you touched her, marry am. Stop confronting her, it's bad. Read 3 again, she and you will improve. Don't worry.

cowboyvs:


It is so painful.

with what I have read so far I think you should give her one more chance to justify those other wrongdoings from her.

9ja babes Na manage ,....

>Please I need matured advise cos I am no longer getting young and I wanna settle down ASAP.

Op, she's untrustworthy, forget about family introductions. Have her duck your sick and make her swallow every drop of your love juice. Treat her like the ashawo that she is.

Stupid man what advice do you need.dating a confirm prostitute wanting marriage.you better forget the BITCH if not you go commit suicide such a woman will sleep with another man in ur matrimonial bed.bring in BASTARD children into ur home claim they are yours.once a PROSTITUTE always a PROSTITUTE.Once a CHEAT always a CHEAT.Be wise she is a PUBLIC DOG meant for the STREET.Who quote me for telling op the truth hug transformer.

cowboyvs:


Thanks. I have totally lost any iota of trust I had for her. I’m jst so sad.

If she bring this kin thing to your marriage, it can make her to leave you one day. You become lonely.

On the otherhand, she can become matured especially if you start going to a living church like the Lord's Chosen where fear of God will be inculcated. Nevertheless, the preaching might make her give excuses not to continue.

You trust a woman at your own risk
Trust a woman to your own detriment
This girl is a non-remorseful unrepentant cheat .
I heard you talking about marriage guy don't even try it
You'll regret it

The truth here is this...this lady might be a victim of circumstance and also bearing in mind the area she is from (Edo) which must have had a very big impact on her life while growing up.
Let me ask all of us this question...most of we guys claiming decency and righteous, are we really the better person?
Some of us drink a lot right? Can we easily stop drinking even when our woman or our parents ask us to stop.
Most of us womanizers, have we really stopped?
This is a life this gal hz lived in the past and it won't be dt easy for her to stop, bt she really wants to stop and she needs someone to support and encourage her.
If she can boldly tell other guys dt she is in a serious relationship-which u saw the evidence, that means she really wants to change and she needs Ur support in doing that.
Most of our wives are not better than this young lady.
22 of age... she's still tender and teachable

cowboyvs:
I enquired further and she told me they have had s*x like 4 times while we were dating ooo. I butted her out of my house and blocked her completely.

So at a point I forgave her and we continued, but, I was not ready to start trusting her again.

So last week, I was trying to see if she has truly turned a new leaf before making a major move by going to see her parents. I was shocked what I saw in her WhatsApp.

There was this random dude asking her out. From their chats she told the guy that she has a boyfriend so she can’t have anything to do with him. But, she sent him a video of her touching her Vagi*a. Telling him she wets and squirts very well.

So I am really confused. She is 22 and I am 33.

She treats me well and has never disrespected me.

Please I need matured advise cos I am no longer getting young and I wanna settle down ASAP.

Marriage is a case of fools rush in where angels fear to thread.

We wey don divorce and still remain single are not fools.

IF you go ahead and marry that girl just because she does not disrespect you and is a good cook withouth factoring in the fact that she is a serial cheat who repeatedly scheats on you and exposes her private part (the birth canal of your future children) to random men then this woman will eventually either kill you or slow down your progress or both.

Do you know how many porn sites your so called fiancees vagina is posted on ?? Or what is stopping these random guys your so called fiancee sends her privates to putting her nudes on porn sites ??

Don't be the laughing stock of your generation in a case where you can clearly see the dangers of marrying this sexually loose cheat.


A war that is foretold will not kill a cripple - but that is only for a wise cripple that listens to advice.

She is still a child.....go and marry ure mate....or 3 -6 years down your age....... E get why......if u accidentally marry her....the main cheat / dumping stage will be when you are probably 40 and her life at 30 just started...... premium tears loading Sha....

martinm45:
My take is that the girl has both long term and short term plans. She wants to settle down with you in the nearest future as such she doesn't encourage any other serious relationship- long term plan. However she wants to be flexing with men that can take care of her immediate needs with no strings attached- short term plan. Is that the kind of woman you want to settle down with?

Thats how the vast majority are....na animal kingdom we dey !

cowboyvs:
Good day Folks, I am not going to bore you with all the details. Ok, I have been a member of this Forum but I really need matured advise cos I am in a dilemma right now. I met this cute babe in 2021. She is from Edo I am Igbo. I was really thinking of getting married to her but I have some serious concerns.

Firstly, sometime last year she came visiting. While she was sleeping on my laps her phone screen lit up so I was tempted to look and I saw message delivered to Mariam. So something whispered to me to check the content of the message. When I checked, I discovered that the message was deleted after it was sent.

So being a Guyman, that discovery spurred my curiosity. What I did was to copy the number and checked on Truecaller, lo and behold a Man’s name appeared. So I checked his name on face book and checked on WhatsApp too and I saw it was a married Man with five kids.

So I waited till morning and confronted her. Initially, she denied it was a man but when I confronted her with my evidence she confessed it was a married man. I enquired further and she told me they have had s*x like 4 times while we were dating ooo. I butted her out of my house and blocked her completely.

But this babe will be using other pple’s phones to call and be sending msgs telling me she is sorry. So at a point I forgave her and we continued, but, I was not ready to start trusting her again. So last week, I was trying to see if she has truly turned a new leaf before making a major move by going to see her parents. I was shocked what I saw in her WhatsApp.

There was this random dude asking her out. From their chats she told the guy that she has a boyfriend so she can’t have anything to do with him. But, she sent him a video of her touching her Vagi*a. Telling him she wets and squirts very well. When the guy demanded they see so he can feel her she told him no that her Vagin* is only for her boyfriend. Also I saw so many guys asking her out but she kept telling them she is in a serious relationship and she can’t date them.

So I am really confused. She is 22 and I am 33. It pains me so much cos this girl is so loving and caring and also a good cook. She treats me well and has never disrespected me. I am really hurting inside cos I feel this is not the kind of woman I wanna marry like how do u expose the most intimate part of ur body to someone else. Is it lack of maturity or she is jst loose and I didn’t know. I have refused picking her calls but she keeps on begging and sending msgs seriously. I am tired.

Please I need matured advise cos I am no longer getting young and I wanna settle down ASAP.

you be Omoko ur babe dey set you up instead of you to get sense you say you confuse, confusion confuse you there. She sent nude pictures of her playing with her V.spot and you still dey confuse Haba dem do you you know how many guys don see her thing. Mr man get sense or borrow brain to carry the sense. Run for your life

She is more decent than all these people asking you to leave her.
One thing you should know is that you have to follow your heart.she is a good lady as you said.
But she is not matured yet and is willing to changed..
If she wants to Bleep another man she can but she made a mistake by exposing her most valuable property which is not good.
She is a wife material believe it or not.
If you truly love her forgive her,talk to her,guide her,and see the end result.
If she continues then you can leave her but please give a another chance but these chance comes with you been her guide and teach.
Make her the woman you want her to be

Tomorrow now, she will tie wrapper and hair tie come put her two hands for head begin pray and sing "Jehovah carry me day go my husband house"

Guy u even made a mistake of accepting her back d first. She should hv long left ur life since then.

Better quit such relationship.
What do u mean by u are 33 and wants to marry asap. U think marriage is something u wake up and decide to do asap bcus of ur age?

If u like dnt wise up. E be like say d babe carry big Nyash na big Nyash go follow kill many men

Ilekokonit:


Marriage is a case of fools rush in where angels fear to thread.

We wey don divorce and still remain single are not fools.

IF you go ahead and marry that girl just because she does not disrespect you and is a good cook withouth factoring in the fact that she is a serial cheat who repeatedly scheats on you and exposes her private part (the birth canal of your future children) to random men then this woman will eventually either kill you or slow down your progress or both.

Do you know how many porn sites your so called fiancees vagina is posted on ?? Or what is stopping these random guys your so called fiancee sends her privates to putting her nudes on porn sites ??

Don't be the laughing stock of your generation in a case where you can clearly see the dangers of marrying this sexually loose cheat.


A war that is foretold will not kill a cripple - but that is only for a wise cripple that listens to advice.

Mr ilekonkon tagbe, are you really divorced? surprised

U are 33 ND she is just 22.

Oga that girl never mature for your type . At your age , avoid any Lady that is under 25.

Peace

cowboyvs:


I never considered her a public hole. We are talking about a woman I was considering setting down wit.

U are right my man. She cheated once, now into another guy, yet she is no a public hole. Yeah ?

Girl way everybody dey use cure konii e reach your turn u wan personalize am. Uno get sênsê

The girl is still in her h*e phase, so she isn't ready to settle down. By the time she don dey close 27, 28, her eyes go clear. Women are most times like this. She still wants to explore, so leave her let her explore. Go for someone older who is ready to settle down.

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Apostle Joshua Selman.


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shortgun:
Once a cheat is always a cheat is not always true, as many people believe in this forum.
If you can live with the things she already did and her good side dwarfs her short coming go ahead and marry her.... nobody is perfect, we all did crazy things in our adolescent years.
There's no guarantee that the next girl you will meet won't be worse.

What you have in your hand is an adolescent girl who needs mentorship, leadership and guidance to become a better person.
It's your duty to make her what you want her to become.
Girls in her age make mistakes that they regret and will never repeat in their lifetime.
If you leave that girl you have damaged her for life....I am telling you this from experience.

Lol don’t play the devil’s advocate cause it would’ve been a different case if she had been caught cheating once or twice but 4 TIMES with a MARRIED MAN?? Nahh bruhhh lord knows that that kind of mistake is way too serious to overlook. At least if she cheated, why do it with a married man multiple times knowing fully well that she could have destroyed his family and mess up his kids’ lives forever.

It is youthful exuberance. Dont leave her,consider those qualities you mentioned. Besides there are no good girls anywhere.

cowboyvs:
Good day Folks, I am not going to bore you with all the details. Ok, I have been a member of this Forum but I really need matured advise cos I am in a dilemma right now. I met this cute babe in 2021. She is from Edo I am Igbo. I was really thinking of getting married to her but I have some serious concerns.

Firstly, sometime last year she came visiting. While she was sleeping on my laps her phone screen lit up so I was tempted to look and I saw message delivered to Mariam. So something whispered to me to check the content of the message. When I checked, I discovered that the message was deleted after it was sent.

So being a Guyman, that discovery spurred my curiosity. What I did was to copy the number and checked on Truecaller, lo and behold a Man’s name appeared. So I checked his name on face book and checked on WhatsApp too and I saw it was a married Man with five kids.

So I waited till morning and confronted her. Initially, she denied it was a man but when I confronted her with my evidence she confessed it was a married man. I enquired further and she told me they have had s*x like 4 times while we were dating ooo. I butted her out of my house and blocked her completely.

But this babe will be using other pple’s phones to call and be sending msgs telling me she is sorry. So at a point I forgave her and we continued, but, I was not ready to start trusting her again. So last week, I was trying to see if she has truly turned a new leaf before making a major move by going to see her parents. I was shocked what I saw in her WhatsApp.

There was this random dude asking her out. From their chats she told the guy that she has a boyfriend so she can’t have anything to do with him. But, she sent him a video of her touching her Vagi*a. Telling him she wets and squirts very well. When the guy demanded they see so he can feel her she told him no that her Vagin* is only for her boyfriend. Also I saw so many guys asking her out but she kept telling them she is in a serious relationship and she can’t date them.

So I am really confused. She is 22 and I am 33. It pains me so much cos this girl is so loving and caring and also a good cook. She treats me well and has never disrespected me. I am really hurting inside cos I feel this is not the kind of woman I wanna marry like how do u expose the most intimate part of ur body to someone else. Is it lack of maturity or she is jst loose and I didn’t know. I have refused picking her calls but she keeps on begging and sending msgs seriously. I am tired.

Please I need matured advise cos I am no longer getting young and I wanna settle down ASAP.

Go date your age mates. You are 33 looking for what with a 22 year old? Not as if you haven't been the man who looks at videos of other people's girlfriend.

Ilekokonit:


Marriage is a case of fools rush in where angels fear to thread.

We wey don divorce and still remain single are not fools.

IF you go ahead and marry that girl just because she does not disrespect you and is a good cook withouth factoring in the fact that she is a serial cheat who repeatedly scheats on you and exposes her private part (the birth canal of your future children) to random men then this woman will eventually either kill you or slow down your progress or both.

Do you know how many porn sites your so called fiancees vagina is posted on ?? Or what is stopping these random guys your so called fiancee sends her privates to putting her nudes on porn sites ??

Don't be the laughing stock of your generation in a case where you can clearly see the dangers of marrying this sexually loose cheat.


A war that is foretold will not kill a cripple - but that is only for a wise cripple that listens to advice.

The man writing epistles on a child is not a saint. Ask him if he's one, because a man who has slept with many women is no different from a woman who displays her videos publicly, and should not expect fidelity. Ask him if he has not exposed the inseminating device on his body to other women, and if that is the character of a man who should be the father of her children.

A2Gfather:
Dear Brother,

My candid advice is you should let the girl go because i can tell you, when you finally married her she will tell you she is going for vigil and she will go to another mans house to sleep especially when both of you have issues or possibly if you guys did not have child on time it will not take her anything to settle for another option.

I don't mean to scatter your relationship but i want you to know that scatter relationship is better than scatter marriage.

Possibly if you do this for her it will make her to sit right and not to do same for next person she meet and change her way of life.

The ball is in your court, you can make a choice

What's the big deal? If he can't handle her excesses, he should move on. It's not as if he's a saint.

What gives you confidence the next woman you gonna marry not gonna worst? Go for her since she is a good girl and a good cook but you can place her on a very strict rules during your engament in from of her parents. If she is found having secret affairs with another man under your roof, she would be sent packing. Believe me her parent will play a major role not to allow the girl to tarnish their image without your present.

cowboyvs:


To an extent, she has been decent but the problem is I dnt know what she does when I am not there and it is so painful that I can’t even trust her again.

This trust you don't have is the reason I suggest you end the relationship. This will continually be a source of problem for both of you if you continue