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Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by achimendy(m): 5:00pm On Jun 09, 2022 |
Anobody: From the narrative you gave it shows you didn't do your job well by training them properly. That's why I dont like single women raising children alone, because most times the children end up becoming useless because of the over pampering, and also not allowing other people correct their children when they go wrong. It's too late now o, but dont give up. And if you also have any military friends, call them let them drill the Bleep out of them. They did it to one only son, now the boy have changed for good. Put them in your prayers, and dont stop advising them. |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by freedomfloyd(m): 5:14pm On Jun 09, 2022 |
With your explanation up there i think you still have tiny hope of managing the situation, from your write up its seems the older one has not gone that bad, For the younger one to call the older one and tell him, his where about it's means he still has a bit respect for the older one than u, what's i will advise, you should do is to make the older one your friend to be able to confide in you talk to you freely, open up to you, have a one on one conversation with him trust me if u can win the older one to your side he will keep the younger one in check, always report the younger ones mischievous act to the older one make the older one feel like the man of the house give him that sense of responsibility that he is the man of the house stop trying to correct the younger one by yourself always go through the older one, and keep praying for him with time he will overcome all that character by himself speaking out of experience was ones a problem child but all thanks to my elder brother advise and God 2 Likes |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by Bunsenbun(m): 5:15pm On Jun 09, 2022 |
UpInTheSky:Yes, since the police are supposed to arrest disobedient teenagers. When did disobedience become a civil offence? 1 Like |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by Lovelydaisies: 5:18pm On Jun 09, 2022 |
Belial06: So children with both parents alive don't misbehave? You, would you have married a widow with two kids? Answer honestly. Think things through before posting and make sure they are facts. If she didn't remarry, she had her reasons. 1 Like |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by IMASTEX: 5:23pm On Jun 09, 2022 |
[quote author=Anobody post=113620559][/quote] The saddest reality is that it will only take the grace of God to have them tamed or perhaps behave in the manner you subscribe as "decent" especially in this present era even with their dad around. This generation is consistent in reducing the bar of decency from 0 to minus 0 in the name of doings. You lost control of them from when they were much younger. I can understand you couldn't be there always to closely keep watch and mode them because of the unfortunate which made you hustle more. Just keep counseling & praying for them and lastly try to worry less about them for your own health. Know that with or without you, they will be alright. |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by peace0813(f): 5:45pm On Jun 09, 2022 |
DKM123: I support you on this. When better hungry beat them no be person go tell them to reset their brain 2 Likes |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by Rapture4real(m): 5:52pm On Jun 09, 2022 |
You can only bend a child from ages 0-12/13 Anything thereafter na prayer and advice remain. I've stopped beating my daughters of 16&14. Even if you beat them at that age it makes no sense again. Them go and remarry. 10 yrs waiting after the death of your husband is too much. Pray for them. Be careful who you report them to. Aye le o. |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by Jazzman01: 5:55pm On Jun 09, 2022 |
Mindlog: Oga, this is Africa. Africans are very stubborn and don't yield to corrections easily until you use maximum force. Cane doesn't kill and even the Bible is in full support of it. The book of proverbs 13 Vs 24 says; "He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes." Therefore if you spare the rod, you spoil the child. |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by phemmyfour: 6:19pm On Jun 09, 2022 |
Anobody:Unfortunately, there is little to nothing you can do. Just keep praying for them |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by buzorcharles(m): 6:32pm On Jun 09, 2022 |
Madam carry ur cross alone cos its almost impossible to change them. When u had the time to train them u were following to the trendy ways now e don red. |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by emmyileri(m): 7:15pm On Jun 09, 2022 |
But if I may ask, did you trained them in the way of the Lord, did you tell them about Jesus, did you take them to church, did you give them Bible study ? If no, I'm sorry it will be by Grace and prayer to save them. |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by threegees(f): 8:17pm On Jun 09, 2022 |
Gamesmart: No vex, Daddy. Who be una?! Are you saying prayers don't work? Just a harmless question o |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by Ifyesta: 8:54pm On Jun 09, 2022 |
God will touch thier heart... |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by Gamesmart: 9:31pm On Jun 09, 2022 |
threegees: Instead of answering the question. Let me use you. 1. How long have you been a Xtian for and been praying? 2. What do you pray for when you pray to your god? |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by Chimeluv(f): 10:43pm On Jun 09, 2022 |
Sleekfingers:where is the entitlement in looking after your own |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by BRATISLAVA: 11:15pm On Jun 09, 2022 |
UpInTheSky: At their respective ages it is good to let them be adults and let whatever will happen to them happen. They desire unfettered freedom, why prevent them from seeing where that leads? When it hurts them, they will learn from the pain. Until then they will keep feeling invincible. She has this problem from not disciplining them earlier on and giving them too much independence. Children need to be controlled. Not adults. Her best bet is to restore order by kicking them out. After all, they are financially independent enough to cater to girls and gangsterism. They already know what criminality is all about, they aren't young enough to be intimidated by 2 days in a cell. What they need to do is commit a serious enough crime that will give them 2 years to learn. She should let them be—under another roof. Parenting isn't compulsory. |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by Ohizman73(m): 6:56am On Jun 10, 2022 |
I almost did not want to contribute as the truth is bitter and moreover as a majority of the contributors have hit the nail on the head. you reap what you sow. What you are reaping now from your two sons is what you sowed. Sorry they are beyound redemption even if you call on big or small god.they have chosen the life they want to live courtesy of you,if you had a girl with them she equally would have been a slut. it is a rather unfourtunate situation. It is to late to cry when you are already a walking dead woman ,theres nothing you can do about their case you only have to withdraw and put the rest pieces of your life together to avoid a total breakdown. It seems you are not in good terms with your inlaws right from day one and out of strong head refused to carry them along when your husband died. Your husbands death is no excuse for their waywardness but you.You have to withdraw back to your direct siblings , my only hope that you carried them along too. You have to let go of your boys as they are claiming adults mind our son that holds your hands now would beat you mercilessly without remorse. Hes already joined a street gang with the way you have described him in the post. and it is only a small time before he involves himself in a big crime that the police would be on your neck. Your first son since hes forming big boy with a live in lover and you still give them transport and the little food you rassle they eat and you encourage that be prepared to be a granny.You would come back home to find they have sold your treasured stuff. You have to let go of them you have seemly done your best . THE SOLUTION call them to appraise them of the recent development that you are withdrawing to the village(which is a technical play and relocate to your direct siblings house) tell them to get them selves fixed up. give a month interval as deadline and relocate. by the way what prevented you from remarrying all these years are you not attractive or what. dont let your sons issue let you depreciate badly that you cannot find love again. |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by Ohizman73(m): 7:00am On Jun 10, 2022 |
Klass99: forget no matter any talking would do any good,they have choosen their path already |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by EMILO2STAY(m): 7:38am On Jun 10, 2022 |
DAMIMONY:you too much. what an old man see's while sitting a child cannot see while standing. 1 Like |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by descarado: 7:47am On Jun 10, 2022 |
JIBO4REAL:Shut up. With all the father figure in Nigeria, how has that improved the standard of living of Nigerians? Somebody like you that talk like this already show that the father figure in your life is a total failure. Maybe, lots of you here should go and learn what father figure means. 2 Likes |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by Winneygirl(f): 7:58am On Jun 10, 2022 |
Anobody: You need to separate them from their current environment. Do you have a relative or someone in a different state where they can go to "learn a trade"? Preferably, two different places for them to go. They will calm down in the new location, they will be engaged and will have no choice than to respect their host. |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by Mindlog: 7:59am On Jun 10, 2022 |
DAMIMONY: With such thinking, you have no business being a counsellor because you would seriously struggle with unconditional positive regard. |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by DAMIMONY: 9:35am On Jun 10, 2022 |
Mindlog:Learn to arrange your words with sense,mk it simple.your grammar is confusing you, making what you say useless |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by Mindlog: 10:03am On Jun 10, 2022 |
DAMIMONY: I still insist you have no calling nor the skills to be a counsellor. |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by enonche85(m): 10:32am On Jun 10, 2022 |
AllBlack: This could just be the truth, the boys din't just wakeup one morning and decide to be wayward. She saw signs earlier but din't act on it. 2 Likes |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by ABANGWABOI(m): 2:36pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
Rexymania: Of all things to say.. You chose to speak the "TRUTH".. Better wear helmet oo.. make Dem no stone your head for here.. To add to your comment.. after my dad died me and my siblings no fear our mother one bit despite us being tender.. what propelled us to become a better man today,All graduated,good jobs,some married and decent life was the fear of our uncles.. we fear our uncles alot both maternal and paternal side and any misbehaving from any of us the males,piam she dn report to our uncles.. by weekend one or more than one of them done land,with threats,advices and so on.. they were the stoic figure we needed to maintain a cool head whilst growing up. One of my uncles denied giving me a tip of 100Naira back then when 100 naira is like one thousand naira of today simply because.. as he was about traveling with my mom(his sister) a friend came to our house and told me in front of them that our other friend that I borrowed #20 said I should give him the money to bring to him,my uncle was annoyed and shocked and after a dressing-down he collected the #100 Naira he dashed me,till today it thought me a life lesson,I don't borrow to someone or borrow from anyone.. Being in debt or lending out to people is the last thing I can ever do.. If I feel like.. I can dash someone money but never lending.. haven't been so down that I needed to borrow from someone either.. Women Most times can never be able to raise up male children successfully alone.. she tried and she has failed.. who's fault?? (Question for the gods).. 1 Like |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by ABANGWABOI(m): 2:43pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
Chimeluv: That is entitlement, expecting someone else to cater for children that aren't his or he didn't adopt legally is a sense of entitlement.. |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by OvertheTop(m): 6:07pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
chukwuibuipob: its Absence of Father Figure.....Most Times |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by horia: 6:19pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
UpInTheSky:you stopped making sense at a point |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by JONSYN7154: 10:18pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
Anobody:very easy yo handle them. Go to any army barracks near you and report them to the army. But make sure you remain anonymous. Let the make them to see on their head. That punishment will humble them both |
Re: My 17yrs Old Son Is Getting Out Of Hand by Ebowo(f): 1:55pm On Jun 11, 2022 |
ABANGWABOI: It all boils down to relationship, after d demise of the husband, maybe,just maybe,she didn't relate well with her husband's people or she saw them as enemies and became to defensive and protective of the boys, perhaps she felt she was doing the right thing, cos she definitely has a fault in all of these. Above all ,u can't give what u don't have, just to correct the saying dt a woman cannot train a male child . if u are not a disciplined n principled woman or man you can also train any child to be his or her best. God still answers prayers let her keep praying, and also try telling them with firmness how things will have to start happening differently under her roof . |
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