bukatyne:




If you drill down well, you will realize because the woman doesn't massage their fragile egos or tolerate their shenanigans.

Next you would read she wants to be 'equal' with men.

When you ask how?

'she wants to cheat like her husband'; 'she wants to be rude to him (the way he is rude to her)'; 'she wants to make decisions alone (the same way he has been doing)'.

When I say women should shine their eyes, it seems I am anti-women....

Imagine you have a good drive, backed by grace and you encounter this type of destiny destroyer, no bi die bi that?

bukatyne:


And in all honesty, is this a woman problem or a human problem?

Isn't there a popular adage that says 'he who pays the piper dictates the tune'?

wales4real:
Bros I can 100% tell you this happens only in Nigeria may e because society has wired our ladies' brains with poverty, hatred and selfishness. I've seen ladies from other folks that are well richer than their men and the richer they become the more love they show their men and families. They even take into a lot of charities and don't bother to wear things that make them look rich or important in society despite their riches.
But alas in Nigeria, when a lady become richer than husband the home is likely going to break. Despite the fact that a rich man tries to support the family with his funds and make his wife feel better than her othe peers the reverse is the case when a Nigerian woman becomes richer

bonnyhope:


Men re passing through alot of emotional trauma that they cannot disclose to the public

ahnie:

I now see the reason why funke akindele said...jjc grills wasn't submissive.

bonnyhope:


Men re passing through alot of emotional trauma that they cannot disclose to the public

Wallade:


Well, naturally money has pride and that applies to both men and women. Do you wonder why you behave differently when you have no money compared to when you have money. There is a confidence and arrogance that overrides your normal reasoning when you have money. Same happens to women.

However, it is not enough reason to stop your wife from working or earning more than you. You only have to find the best possible ways to manage her excesses and shortcomings.

However, if the disrespect, arrogance and pride becomes persistent and unbearable. Get help from marriage counselors, family or religious leaders; better still get a separation or divorce before you beat somebody.

18wheeler:
It depends on the individual. I know a couple in Kaduna. Wife works with the. Nigeria Shippers Council, husband was managing an event center. We visited the family during the last Christmas holidays when we got to know the husband lost his job since 2020 during the lockdown wahala. Wife had been running the family, paying kids fees and even completed the house they were building. They had even parked into the house before Christmas. This woman even gave the husband monthly cash allowance to hang out with his friends so they won’t notice the impact of the job loss on him. We just opened our mouths in awe when the husband told us this. We were actually there to settle some marital issues between the man’s wife’s sister and her husband who is my friend. You never notice any disregard from the wife towards the husband if you were not told and this man hasn’t earned a dime of his own for about two years.

xynerise:

1. A man supposed to be the head and seek advice from the wife in making decisions.

2. I am not of the school of thought that the man makes all the decisions,

3. sometimes he can be a jerk at decision making but when he is not a jerk and he lost that financial empowerment, the wife shouldn't take advantage of it.

4. She should still see him as that one time sweetheart, don't you think ?

Skullano:
Car nah wetin my ex girlfriend first me buy cos I was starting my business newly, you need to see how she started misbehaving ooh but I thank God say man don get two ride now and I always give her the papers to renew for me cos she works with revenue office..

Women are wired in a way that am yet to understand sha.

ahnie:

I now see the reason why funke akindele said...jjc grills wasn't submissive.


I don't see any crime in a woman more financially ahead of her husband,if she's bn treated well, expect her to be submissive,
But on a serious note watin be some **low self esteemed*men problem sef?

bukatyne:


1. Ok

2. Ok

3. If the husband wasn't a jerk while he had money and he lost his 'financial empowerment', the wife would be a jerk not to pay him in his coin (treat him well).

4. I think

I wish we could have an analysis of people who had truly good marriages (not good because the wife took all the man's bullshit) and the wife changed when she had money.

It would help discussions like this.

What happens sometimes is that the husband was bad/ bullied the wife while he was the primary earner and starts to whine when the wife decides to pay him back in his coin.

He now starts to wail. It is also well known that a number of men become very insecure when they earn less and start to bully their wives.

Sometimes, the change the men see is their insecurities doing a number on them.

Men should also bring more that money to a relationship so they don't feel useless when they don't have money and start to impose their presence or use by bullying.

cococandy:
did she say that?

xynerise:

This is what I have been telling my friends who think money is everything in relationship/Marriage. There are qualities a woman will never want to let go aside money. I am not talking about good fvck (though one of it ). I mean this friendship qualities ...you know

ahnie:

Papa antelope on da beat

xynerise:

Wetin man go do na.

bukatyne:


This riled me up!

So according to you, women have no regards for their husbands... Money or not

bukatyne:


And in all honesty, is this a woman problem or a human problem?

Isn't there a popular adage that says 'he who pays the piper dictates the tune'?

Skullano:
Car nah wetin my ex girlfriend first me buy cos I was starting my business newly, you need to see how she started misbehaving ooh but I thank God say man don get two ride now and I always give her the papers to renew for me cos she works with revenue office..

Women are wired in a way that am yet to understand sha.

Ephemmm:


Your assertion is the exact reason why I always maintain that the word 'Love' is fake, and this is one of the reasons why a man with real and deeper sense of reasoning will find it difficult to believe in anything called 'marriage'.

If marriage is a matter of 'he who pays the piper dictates the tune', then the society needs 'deed of agreement' between young couples and not 'marriage' where useless vows which are susceptible to selfish conditions are being exchanged.

Amotolongbo:
Only an insecure and lazy man would reason like that.

A working wife should bring two things to a reasonable man;

1 financial support in the home
2 A challenge and motivation for a man to work harder to increase his source and level of income


I understand that kind of man won’t like to marry an intelligent lady cos he won’t be able to handle her and think she may be egoistic but a “sit-down-there” kinda woman.

This kinda man will spend all his last kobo on his daughter(s) to be successful in life and be happy that a man isn’t allowing her to utilise the potential she has?

Moreover, don’t some men think of what their daughter(s) will inherit from their mothers after turning their wives to a dummy.

xynerise:

Some people believe a man is not supposed to cry

Eberex:
Not true
My wife doesn't fall in this category, all because of God's spirit that is possessing her.

Mariangeles:


It's not that man is not supposed to cry, but that they should not be seen crying. Except when something really sad happens.
I mean, even Jesus wept.

Pootle:
never i repeat never allow your woman earn more than you