talina:

@ poster, sparing the rod is best in my opinion. I dont understand physical pain as a deterrent for good behavior. It never worked on me. There are better ways to discipline children.

Sagamite:

If it did not work on you, then someone did not do it well.

It has worked and created good behaviour in many people, far more than reasoning with a child or soft punishment ever did.

TeskyMan:

I no dey take rod play even my 5 years old boy no say if daddy don change face na cane be that.

Infact I no dey rod the boy again, the way I go look am now - the boy go read 1001 meaning to it.

There was a day, we were at the park. Na him dem talk say them no dey beat one boy. The boy they shout, he dey play rough. See my boy as he dey look my face. For him mind he dey say,,chai, if daddy flog this boy, he go no say - Acid and Water no be d same thing. It wasn't quite long, the boy just pour Eva water for my body. I just hold him ear - say make he talk sorry sir. Hey!!!! see me se wahala. This boy no gree talk, i tell you, I squize the ear so tay he cooperate. See him mama dey look me, wetin consign me, no be her spoil brat pour water for my body.

I tell you, the small ekwe i show the boy made him the most gentle boy till I left. It was later that my wife told me that immediately the boy saw that I left he started his silly act again.

Who tell you say rod no dey work - bone, e dey work shege.

gzib:
You need to cane your children but do it with love and let them know why you caned them and deliver their soul.
i cane mine and i was also caned when i was a child. I learn so many things from those times.

Impossible!!

I've vowed not to raise a cane against any of my Kid even the Erring Ones!!
My Parent never had to use a rod against me so while should i use One against my Children?!

The Real Fact about this Is that any Child that fails to gain a reputable Socialization and a harnessed teaching from the Parent is bound to go wayward and any ward who is destined to be a sad story In life certainly would be a sad story no matter how much Wealths, Advice, Harnessing, Socialization and even Canning u deliver to him!!

Nigerian bomber Farouk is a good example!

El Guapo:

Impossible!!

I've vowed not to raise a cane against any of my Kid even the Erring Ones!!
My Parent never had to use a rod against me so while should i use One against my Children?!

The Real Fact about this Is that any Child that fails to gain a reputable Socialization and a harnessed teaching from the Parent is bound to go wayward and any ward who is destined to be a sad story In life certainly would be a sad story no matter how much Wealths, Advice, Harnessing, Socialization and even Canning u deliver to him!!

Nigerian bomber Farouk is a good example!

jennykadry:

Lol I dey pity saga's kids

Sagamite:

I thank my father for imbibing the highest internal locus of control in me. Right from being a toddler he always told us we were the best. That our blood was better than others. He posed problems for you to solve. He attributed all your faults to you and let you know that your destiny was in your hands, not some God's.

My Mama on the other hand they carry Jesu from morning till night. "Jesus will solve everything".   Even when she calls me today and it goes to voicemail, the prayer na wah. I go dey wander as I dey listen when this thing go end, this babe knows I no dey do religion na. She dey wait for miracle say I go convert to xtianity.   Her contribution na love, love, love. It was a nice balance to daddy sha, although daddy also showed a lot of caring, e no dey do love.

Sagamite:

She tori pe o ri mi pe mo mu theori bota? (Because you saw me bring out theory?)

Ah! Awa kawe! Alakowe lawa! (Ah! I am learned! I am an Intellectual)

Oo mor be ni tori pe mo ma nso Oyinbo pelu ijinle accent mi to je ki oyinbo na ri be "penkelemesi"? (You don't know because I speak English with my local Yoruba accent and it makes the English come out in a "peculiar mess"?)

Mo ka we o! (I am learned o!)

I thank my father for imbibing the highest internal locus of control in me. Right from being a toddler he always told us we were the best. That our blood was better than others. He posed problems for you to solve. He attributed all your faults/failures to you and let you know that your destiny was in your hands, not some God's.

My Mama on the other hand they carry Jesu from morning till night. "Jesus will solve everything".   Even when she calls me today and it goes to voicemail, the prayer na wah. I go dey wander as I dey listen when this thing go end, this babe knows I no dey do religion na. She dey wait for miracle say I go convert to xtianity.   Her contribution na love, love, love. It was a nice balance to daddy sha, although daddy also showed a lot of caring, e no dey do love.

My internal locus of control is so high, I don't do religion. Before I even read about the shyt, my friends have pointed out that when you tell me I can't do something or something is impossible that is when I get annoyed and want to do it. And 9 times out of 10 I do it, and then ask you arrogantly what you said "about not being able to do" again. I am known for that! I take control of my life, results and destiny.




History of Penkelemesi: 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adegoke_Adelabu

armyofone:

I watched CNN Anderson Cooper's last night. Something caught my eyes. Click and then scroll down to watch.

http://ac360.blogs.cnn.com/

i agree we should discipline a child but let's do it with love.

TeskyMan:


[size=14pt]@ Saga,

Yoruba ti o fi nsoro yen lo trip mi juuuu. Opolopo awon omo kaaro ooj'ire ni won ko le ko ede yi si'le.

Ma ba won ja si, enikeni ti o ba wipe oun ko ni fi egba tabi koboko ko omo re, igbeyin ni o ma ndun oloku ada, Awon Yoruba boo won ni - Omo ti a ko koo, ni'igbe ile ti a ko ta.

Ori e wan be joooo.


I can't interprete - If you can try help me.

Up Saga!!!![/size]

chaircover:

Saga how much do you charge per hour?

I need to add "  a day with Saga"  to the list of punishments that I hand out to the kids when they misbehave. The seizing the remote control & the faebook ban punishment is getting overused.  

AjanleKoko:

That's funny sha. My mom was the hardass in my family. She had a repetoire of caning and punishment techniques that were second to none.
I still use some of her techniques till today for my own kids

AjanleKoko:

I'd say the whip has its place, but the problem is, children tend to get used to it. It should be applied sparingly, and to useful effect. Not screaming at kids, brandishing a whip. Corporal punishment should be formally administered, and not used to threaten. Also, do't slap children around randomly. Make sure you have appropriate measures.

dayokanu:

You can never get used to my dads beating. He is a pro. We always had like 5 canes at home, Koboko and later when i was teenage it graduated to electric cables.

How do you get used to that.

My mom would be the one to report and she does her own beating too but none compares to my dads beating.

jennykadry:

Why won't Dayo's parents flog him dieee? 'course they saw this asheworism traits in him and were only trying to control it not stop it cos it's unstoppable

mbulela:

I believe in a combination of techniques.
the rod and rebuke.mix it up.
you can rebuke without the rod but never use the rod without rebuke.
by rebuke,i mean explaining to the child what he/she has done wrong and why it should not be repeated.
my wife used to try 'time out in your corner'.I found it a bit silly and she soon found out why. Our child just got used to hanging out in that corner and doing her little thing there until she even forgot why she was punished in the first place.

whatever you do,don't be too predictable.Else the child just gets used to it.

AjanleKoko:

I was flogged once with electric cables. By one jobless uncle that my dad commissions to address those issues from time to time.
I was in JSS3 then, and 'chopped' money meant to pay for something in school. A gross felony/misdemeanour in my parents' eyes.
My popsy no get liver, but my mom 'contracted' the caning to my jobless uncle, who proceeded to take out his frustrations on me. You needed to have seen me after the ordeal. Even my normal hardass mom weak for the guy.