Zee0007:
He doesn't hate him, probably the guy is seeing some behaviours about the boy that you easily condole. As a man, he knows if your boy persist with such behaviour, he will be doom.

I think you should sit down with him and discuss what is the rationale behind his act towards the boy. A simple communication with him will clarify most of your assumptions.

MaryAye:
I met this guy where I normally get my fruits for biz. We got talking and exchanged contact.

He seems to be a nice guy but when I told him I had a son and narrated the circumstances behind his birth and my life, he told me he was cool with it.

Of lately, I noticed he talks ills of my son and assume it's a joke. I will try to shade it off but he repeated it again after the church service yesterday.

I'm considering giving him a chance because he's cool but his singular act of insulting and shouting at my son when he comes to my shop seem to disturb me.

Please, do you think his behaviour is a red flag or not?

Zee0007:
He doesn't hate him, probably the guy is seeing some behaviours about the boy that you easily condole. As a man, he knows if your boy persist with such behaviour, he will be doom.

I think you should sit down with him and discuss what is the rationale behind his act towards the boy. A simple communication with him will clarify most of your assumptions.

MaryAye:


He's 4, sir.

Watinhapen:
This right here is the problem with dating or marrying a single mother. A man needs to be extra careful with everything he does around the child and how he talks to the child. Everything the man does to the child will always be reasoned far by the mother. If the child is yours, you can talk to the child anyhow you want and no one will scrutinize you. It’s very difficult to date a single mother. I really commend men that date or marry single mothers.

MaryAye:
I met this guy where I normally get my fruits for biz. We got talking and exchanged contact.

He seems to be a nice guy but when I told him I had a son and narrated the circumstances behind his birth and my life, he told me he was cool with it.

Of lately, I noticed he talks ills of my son and assume it's a joke. I will try to shade it off but he repeated it again after the church service yesterday.

I'm considering giving him a chance because he's cool but his singular act of insulting and shouting at my son when he comes to my shop seem to disturb me.

Please, do you think his behaviour is a red flag or not?

MaryAye:
I met this guy where I normally get my fruits for biz. We got talking and exchanged contact.

He seems to be a nice guy but when I told him I had a son and narrated the circumstances behind his birth and my life, he told me he was cool with it.

Of lately, I noticed he talks ills of my son and assume it's a joke. I will try to shade it off but he repeated it again after the church service yesterday.

I'm considering giving him a chance because he's cool but his singular act of insulting and shouting at my son when he comes to my shop seem to disturb me.

Please, do you think his behaviour is a red flag or not?

frog12:
after your dad tired? wetin dat mean?
you sound like a SPOILED brat !
the man has no obligation to care for you as long as you have a Father!

jeromestarks:

Read my comment again. This time do it slowly.

Ybaby:


Learn to respect women. Women deserve better than the nonsense you young men get up these days.

Let the foolishness stop.

jeromestarks:

The only category of women worthy of respect from a true man are women who married as a virgin or those who are currently virgins; the rest have nothing to respect!

Once a woman has been defiled, she has lost her glory. If any man still respect a woman who has been mounted by more than one man, such a man is a disgrace to his mother's private part.

Chris2863:
You are still here asking stupid questions. I don’t have pity on people with relationship issues because 99.9% of you cunts always see the red flags right from time but always give yourselves stupid hope or overlook them

Ybaby:


My father died not tired.. he has no obligation to care for me even if my father died, however he stepped up and took a responsibility that was never his in the first place and spoilt me and my siblings to the best education, vacations and most of all fatherly love. I owe him a lot that I could never repay.

In all honesty I was a spoilt daddy's brat but I have evolved to a spoilt husband's brat....yea my husband has spoilt me even more. I am lucky and all women deserve good father, good brothers, good husbands.... Good men make this world a better place. God bless all good men.

Hope I answered your unasked questions nittwit

jeromestarks:

Why should he respect her son?
Why can't she look for the father of the bastard child?
She needs someone to pickup her mistake. The man sef stupid for having anything serious with a single mother.

Ybaby:


Your mother has no glory. A poor man like you has no glory.


Who are you to decide who has glory an who does not......how much is the glory in your bank account?

jeromestarks:

Virginity is a woman's glory. Some have shamefully lost it.

frog12:
you mean he was used to care for 4 children that are not his. he must be a very stupid nice GUY

Ybaby:


Well your mum shamefully lost it too. Is your mum a virgin?

Zee0007:
He doesn't hate him, probably the guy is seeing some behaviours about the boy that you easily condole. As a man, he knows if your boy persist with such behaviour, he will be doom.

I think you should sit down with him and discuss what is the rationale behind his act towards the boy. A simple communication with him will clarify most of your assumptions.

Ybaby:


All the men in your family are very very stupid including those not yet born.

Zee0007:
He doesn't hate him, probably the guy is seeing some behaviours about the boy that you easily condole. As a man, he knows if your boy persist with such behaviour, he will be doom.

I think you should sit down with him and discuss what is the rationale behind his act towards the boy. A simple communication with him will clarify most of your assumptions.

frog12:
hey, i was just being honest. no need to insult people

jeromestarks:

How many times do I have to tell you that marrying as a virgin is a norm in their clan?
If you marry a woman from her clan and she wasn't a virgin, you return her.
My mom and my dad have been married for 70 years now. You will not last 3 years in marriage because you have fvcked men.

Ybaby:


Me too I am being honest

MaryAye:
I met this guy where I normally get my fruits for biz. We got talking and exchanged contact.

He seems to be a nice guy but when I told him I had a son and narrated the circumstances behind his birth and my life, he told me he was cool with it.

Of lately, I noticed he talks ills of my son and assume it's a joke. I will try to shade it off but he repeated it again after the church service yesterday.

I'm considering giving him a chance because he's cool but his singular act of insulting and shouting at my son when he comes to my shop seem to disturb me.

Please, do you think his behaviour is a red flag or not?

WatchYourSix:


U will always have that problem .... if u spank or scold her child ...she will vex ....something she wouldn't vex about if you are the real dad....in your house you'll be threading carefully and not be free......in fact the issues can show up in many ways......

Let me share this story....My uncle married a single mother that brought her daughter into the marriage a few years ago ........
university time (2 years ago) they did jamb same year...they couldnt afford private univeristy for both of them...so he wanted to pay for his own kid (my nephew) that the other girl should wait till they can raise more money .
...it was this matter that ended the marriage... .the woman was saying my uncle doesnt see her daughter as his own...that if anybody should wait it should be my nephew cos her daughter is 2 1/2 years older.... my uncle said it this has always been the issue from the beginning.... accusing him of not treating her daughter well over small issues.....my uncle said at some point he avoids the girl completely until they separated.

Equity15:
what the wife did was insensitive