in that case, like I said, you are facing this issue, but I think you are overreacting. just test him and see if he indeed has a good character. get your friends to test him. maybe flirt around him. hahahahah

MaryAye:


If you have painstakingly gone through my previous thread on my profile, you wouldn't be saying otherwise.

What benefit will I get if it was fake. Are you giving me anything. Don't let your past experience becloud good judgement. Stop sounding like a broken record please.

MilitantAtheist:
Come to me let me manage your over slack vagina, I will not say bad remarks about your boy but might fvck you forcefully and very hard so he can hear you scream and when he runs over to help you I shoot his ass. Can't date single mothers, they're actually very sweet to fvck though. Oh my God! Shout out Hannah, Vivian & Faith. God bless you 3 for the cheap but sweet pussies

calm down bro

what answer ??
tell us

Lexusgs430:


You don't need advice. ....... You already have your answer........

How old is your son?

The hand writing is written in capital letters

Don't take it as a joke like he claim

Freshgrace4life:
His behavior is a big RED FLAG , you say you love me for real but you no love the pikin wey comot for my belle , abeg na which colour of love be that.

Na colour blocking love be that o!

she say the boy be 4 years old. but how old is she??

MarxisGLABACK:
I once dated a lady like this, on one occasion she had asked the son 2 come 2 d hotel where we are to pass msg 2him.
After dat I quit silently.

And U didn't tell us how old is ur son?
And also ur sons manners of approach?
If ur son looks at him with scorn ?
U nid 2 sit ur son down and tell him that such an uncle is our good friend. They might become good pals in ur absence, and ur son might like him more.
U are the one 2 control ur son and solve it since u have said that the guy has bn nice 2u and u guys might tie the nut

Zee0007:
He doesn't hate him, probably the guy is seeing some behaviours about the boy that you easily condole. As a man, he knows if your boy persist with such behaviour, he will be doom.

I think you should sit down with him and discuss what is the rationale behind his act towards the boy. A simple communication with him will clarify most of your assumptions.

This is the most intelligent comment I have read since the beginning of this year. OP follow this advice and it will be well with you.

what?? you don't like my frank opinions to the post?
I tell her the truth.

glosaback:
This is the most intelligent comment I have read since the beginning of this year. OP follow this advice and it will be well with you.

frog12:
what answer ??
tell us

Ever heard of the saying....... ' You love me, you equally love my dog ' .......

MaryAye:
I met this guy where I normally get my fruits for biz. We got talking and exchanged contact.

He seems to be a nice guy but when I told him I had a son and narrated the circumstances behind his birth and my life, he told me he was cool with it.

Of lately, I noticed he talks ills of my son and assume it's a joke. I will try to shade it off but he repeated it again after the church service yesterday.

I'm considering giving him a chance because he's cool but his singular act of insulting and shouting at my son when he comes to my shop seem to disturb me.

Please, do you think his behaviour is a red flag or not?

First of all if any one want to date you, he must very much like your son, like his own, so there is no two ways about it.. just simple and straight... I fact he Is highly love for the boy that he had for him that will make the announcement for you, then that is where the chemistry comes in.

this your analogy is so so !

Lexusgs430:



Ever heard of the saying....... ' You love me, you equally love my dog ' .......

selfish women

Goldbw122:

First of all if any one want to date you, he must very much like your son, like his own, so there is no two ways about it.. just simple and straight... I fact he Is highly love for the boy that he had for him that will make the announcement for you, then that is where the chemistry comes in.

Kirkman:

Na colour blocking love be that o!

Some people know just know the meaning of love.

You all should commend the man. He is just trying to play a fatherly role to the boy. To me, it's love and not hatred. Should he pretend he likes every behaviour of the little boy? What if the boy is uncultured? What if the lady have been over pampering the little boy just to show she loves him? We all know how little children behaves. If she is quick to report on this forum, she should be quick to narrate what actually happened.

FuckSilly:
Only a fool date single mothers...
Except her baby father is dead,... GOD FORBID!

Wow

You should be able to read the lines in between your fingers saying “He doesn’t want your child”

Yes his attitude towards your son is a red flap.he must accept to love your son.

GOFRONT:
Single mother

Multiple problems

frog12:
this your analogy is so so !

Mother and pickin, nah joint package........ You can't take one and leave the other...........

They are complementary goods ...........

Remember your economics lessons.......

Since it’s already a cause of concern to you, it should bother u

RealTrump:


Multiple problems

walahi

oh man. I dey laff yakata. na so oo... joint package.

Lexusgs430:



Mother and pickin, nah joint package........ You can't take one and leave the other...........

They are complementary goods ...........

Remember your economics lessons.......

It can only get worse than the line ,unless something suddenly changed him, I doubt that will happen. It’s not too late for you to decide. Don’t ever sacrifice your child happiness for any man.
# Don’t get it wrong the second time.

Zee0007:
He doesn't hate him, probably the guy is seeing some behaviours about the boy that you easily condole. As a man, he knows if your boy persist with such behaviour, he will be doom.

I think you should sit down with him and discuss what is the rationale behind his act towards the boy. A simple communication with him will clarify most of your assumptions.

Brain

FuckSilly:
Only a fool date single mothers...
Except her baby father is dead,... GOD FORBID!

Fact

Run for ur life, I mean it.. somebody close to me is experiencing nightmare because of this

Wetin I wan talk again sef From your own observations, was the guys' scolding towards your son justified? Cos he might be doing that for a good reason...you should know better...I am out!!!!

Date or marry someone that loves your son, he should be your priority first because love can be deceiving sometime.

WatchYourSix:


What do you mean by talk ill, insult or shout at your son....?? Give example....

Im asking because this your complain is one of the reasons men dont date single mothers...

..because their behavior or style of relating or even playing around their lovers kid is always under high and biased scrutiny....they will awlays be walking careful and not be free because of what may get the mother angry

.if it was his real father that shouted at him you probably wont see it as he doesnt like his own your kid...you will just feel he's a strict dad or being funny...

My aunt calls her own 6 year old daughter sisi kpelebe and enú já wire, becos the daughter is very slim and talks alot....yet an outsider dares not make such remarks or related about her daughter if you dont want to see her madness...

dont get me wrong i ddnt say you shouldn't look out for red flags ...i'm just saying u should be ready for things like this if u want to bring an outaider into your sons life....

the same way you will beat your son.....if an outsider does same...u will go ballastic... my point is.... if you dont want to push your suitors away....u have to learn how to identify when its not a big deal to let small issues go or when you should switch your lioness mode and protect your son against an actual threat

U have indeed spoken well enough here. Unfortunately, most people who have never been in this particular condition or state wouldnt understand what it means to be living with someone u love who has a child for another man. Like I earlier said, talk is cheap hence spilled unnecessarily. It'll only do her good to keep that boy aside, I don't mean forget about him though, and focus on the present, cos there's practically no man out there who'd love a woman and be comfortable seeing the result of her past life with another man. The guy in question here might not mean any harm like u rightly said, but because she has conditioned her mind to a great expectation, she feels he should be treated differently.
However, if u want or expect ur child to be treated as he should, take him/her to their father, but they won't, cos even the fathers would probably not want them either. So what do they expect?

Run

MaryAye:
I met this guy where I normally get my fruits for biz. We got talking and exchanged contact.

He seems to be a nice guy but when I told him I had a son and narrated the circumstances behind his birth and my life, he told me he was cool with it.

Of lately, I noticed he talks ills of my son and assume it's a joke. I will try to shade it off but he repeated it again after the church service yesterday.

I'm considering giving him a chance because he's cool but his singular act of insulting and shouting at my son when he comes to my shop seem to disturb me.

Please, do you think his behaviour is a red flag or not?

He want the p