My fellow NL, I am dating a girl who we have knwn each other for a long time by then we were little not dating yet but jst member of the same church. as at dat time i started developing interest for her but never told her until now.

we were affected by the demolition in FCT and for a period of 6 yrs we havent seen, when i finally got her fone number from her brother and called her (the brother does not knw what we are up to) she responded, by now she already in uni studing and we charted well and wanted to see each other, She told me when her school will be going on break and that she will use the opportunity to pay me a visit in abj, which she did, when she finally came, we met and had a good time. at this point she wasnt new to me as if l jst toasted a girl and she decided to visit me. we have knwn without any relationship for the period of 9-10 yrs nw. I was suprise what i saw, she has grown, looks better than those days. l did nt waste time, beacuse she has few days to go back to school. we spend days together and I finally opend up to her that l want this relationship we have started to take us to some where (Marriage). she was happi for the proposal. reaching second day. she called me that my proposal has a challenge on the way, l askd, what kind of challenge? she said our faith. We were both the same member before the demolition, after the demolition she has changed church to another one but not worldly one. even when she came l pay her a visit to her new church. so l told her no problem church or no church cannot stop our furture she insisted i must completely join her in new church if things are gonna work out, although she told me in their church about three people took her name to the marriage committe and she told the commitee that she is not read yet. and their request was turned down.

she is a strong member of her new church. and am also a strong member of my own church. now the problem is that she is looking at the possibility of us getting married because she knwns all the procedure of my church base on marriage.

when i proposed to her she was happi and we went into another level of love. the real problem am facing here is this, after she travel back to school, she is stil using that word church (faith) to tel me she does not see the possiblity, to the extend dat we had some disagreement after settlement? our love grown higher again than before. we are not the same tribe, she is an Igbo girl why am from Calabar but the love is there. dose it mean she does not want to marry me only wanting to make me her boyfriend, up to a point she she told me she is tired of this relationship and she want to stop it because of her faith, during our disagreement she warned if not she is going to change her fone numbers. pls what is my stand, does she love me, or she is using church to drive me or is there something i haven't found out frm her. l wanted to call it off but each time i pick up my fone i start shelding treas because this is a girl i have passion for l mean l luv her. each time we have disagrement i won't have rest till we have settled. pls help me out. what will i do?

6years is a long time to be seperated from a loved one. did you bother to ask her if she has a boyfriend before your proposal? its possible she is seeing someone else and so using the church issue.

op
u have nothing 2 loss since u have nyashed her

just go ahead with ur life, find anoda wife from ur church & marry

iyatrustee:

6years is a long time to be seperated from a loved one. did you bother to ask her if she has a boyfriend before your proposal? its possible she is seeing someone else and so using the church issue.

Yes i did and all indication proved she does not have any. Although when i wanted to hold her fone to see some things, she told me out clearly that there are some things that i wil see that l won't be happi with it, dat those guys some are after her, and some are those onces he uses to get somethings from them, dat where she is schooling at times she lacks somethings and some of them help her out. dat she does not go be yound dat and dat she loves me. this is all i can say

eeya

the pain is affecting ur english, i understand. . .

But seriously are there different types of Christians? All this church n faith 2 of u r quoting is crap. . . .

n wat kinda church do members just take a girls name to marriage committee? Them no dey date? Abeg that's a worldly church jo. . . .

My advice, talk to her n let her know, the church u attend does not matter cos wud she prefer marrying someone pf the same "faith" who wud later turn around n beat her. . . .

PS I doubt she loves u, as the great MMM said "u have nothing 2 lose since u have nyashed her , just go ahead with your life, find anoda wife from your church & marry "

Sorry but when you say you didnt waste any time and spent time together when she was in Abuja are you saying you had sex? if you had sex then sorry your girl is not really into you, and the church is a cover story because someone who is so church this church that will not be so easy also you did mention sometimes she is in need in school and so is playing some guys to get help when she is down such a churchy gal shouldnt be so worldly no insults intended.

@ poster, i feel ur pain.but i must be sincere with u, dont ever make a mistake of marrying dat girl because from ur story, it seems she gives it out freely.according to ur story, u said she uses some guy to take care of her problems in school,i hope u know it comes with a price and so i think she uses what she's got to get what she needs. i suggest dat if u really want to know who she really is, pay her a visit in school. for boyfriend/girlfriend relationship one can tolerate dat but for marriage, u shouldnt take a decision dat would hunt u for the rest of your life.i wish u all de best

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stepo707:

sorry at OP.
You already made a mistake and i guess you know what your mistake was.Fix it and you should be fine.

pls what kind of mistake did l make?