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Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by Octopusssy(f): 1:41pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
Nelbless:She's a grown ass adult. Let her be so she can gain experience and get some sense by force |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by tonyson010(m): 1:45pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
veektor01: with pregnancy or children. |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by Elclamour(f): 1:47pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
If you can see this, Let her be! I have an elder brother whose character is that way, (Black sheep of the Family). from when he was little my parent did all they can to change him, from beaten, praying and talking, begging, counselling and all, still he won't. He was suppose to graduate 2017 from uni, but we found out he was asked to withdraw year 2, with 0.1 CGPA, but he never told us and he was collecting money for fees, feeding, rent, books, and even lying about other things. It was when we calculated and saw his colleagues graduating, we asked him and he told us, or rather we figured out. My dad was pained, (mom late now). But still, my father enrolled him again in the uni, (for the love he had for his son n future); my elder sis took it upon herself to pay his fees. My bro wasn't serious and left year 3 with a poor result 1.5 CGPA, my dad almost had blood pressure. The worst part was, he stole huge amount of money and ran away. We his other siblings being tired of his character just decided to let him be, Let him go face how life is outside. All we do is that, We Pray for him and for his safety, but we all stopped calling him, or trying to reach him. Just pray for her and Pray she learns her lesson and come home by herself. (That what we do.) If you all are trying to lock her in, it will only get worst. If they go out there to face it by themselves, then they will understand better and come running home with true repentance (like the prodigal son.) Others never return, but we pray ours is safe and return home. All the Best 2 Likes |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by erico2k2(m): 1:48pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
Nelbless:OMG Old woman, Plz plz let her be b4 you lot embarrass yourselves! |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by Kelvin3476: 1:49pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
Nelbless:SHE IS A GROWN UP BRO. JUST ADVICE HER OCCASSIONALLY AND LET HER DO HER THING. |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by benqo01(m): 1:57pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
24yrs old haba not a kid......she will be back |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by Marpol2021(m): 2:04pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
Nelbless:op,its a pity. Your sister is been posses by an evil spirit. She need prayer/deliverance.its the same spirit that is working on Virginia princess. |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by Sureboyy(m): 2:23pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
Nelbless:Leave her the f alone, since she claims she is a big girl now and can make decisions on her own then suffice I say that she should be allowed to make her decisions You locking her up at that age just develops her to thinking of further ways to deceive you and do what is in her mind... Since she claims to be all Grown up now, allow her leave her life Shebi na freedom she want, make she get am, by the time life outside shoe her something, she go come calm down and now understand you people wants the best for her. Note this: YOU CAN'T TAME SOMEONE WHO DON'T WANT TO BE TAMED |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by Sureboyy(m): 2:27pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
TUANKU:She claims she's past age to make decisions for herself. It's advisable to let her make those decisions because she wouldn't stop being a nuisance if she's locked up... She has to experience what she is so longing for and know what's right thereafter .... Note this: you can't lock an adult up because you claim they can't make decisions for themselves, they would just grow to hate you the more and that definitely isn't good for the growth of a family |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by Basiljoe: 2:27pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
Bahamas95:Aswear I knew it was dick related. Women are too emotional to be Rational. |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by Streetmovement(m): 2:28pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
AllDModsAreMaad: Wotoporiously Speaking Let's not forget individual's differ, so it might work for A and not work for B |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by Sirchiboy: 2:30pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
Nelbless:.. Get her a husband. You guys hate your sister and don't want the best for her. Why should you people cage her? At 24, she is over riped for marriage. Don't make the mistake your parents make when you start having kids, especially female ones. Please your sister is ready for marriage. What matters now, is her happiness and not your parents or family happiness. Your papa and mama don live their own life and they are subjecting your lovely sister to emotional trauma. Ask your mother at what age did she get married? Your family members should be arrested and charged for putting and subjecting her to emotional trauma and depressions Know this and have peace. |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by Sureboyy(m): 2:31pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
Rhozabeth:She will get into trouble before realizing she is taking the wrong path.. It is inevitable for this kind of people |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by swiych(m): 2:31pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
OP, abeg mk una do everything possible to look 4 una sister o, make una nor leave her say she dey seek freedom, instead she need counselling, that was how we left my cousin, now she's no longer normal, she dey ment now, how e take happen till this day we never know. So if una fit track her phone to find her, better do o before it becomes too late. |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by CaptainAyub: 2:35pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
Nelbless:You might also take her to see a doctor,specifically ,a psychiatrist. She's displaying features of manic phase of bipolar disorder(risk taking) |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by NemoDatQuod(m): 2:35pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
You knew what you guys were doing was wrong. That was why you didn't reveal her age when you first told your sub story. Do you know that the age of adulthood in Nigeria is 18 years? That means at that age, a person (Male or female) is free to do whatever they want, live where ever they want and with whomsoever they want and make their own decisions. Instead you and your family members caged her, made decisions for her and were directing her choices. In a decent country, you will all be in jail awaiting prison sentences for coercion and controlling behaviour. The time to train a child is from birth until the age of 18, in Nigeria. If you invest the time required (instead of going about chasing money and fame while your child is being raised by nannies and other strangers), then you hope as an adult, the child will get most decisions right, though there are no guarantees. That boat has sailed for you and your family. Under the law, parents lose their Parental Responsibility when a child gets to the age of 18 years. That responsibility is transferred to the child is now an adult. That is why the former child can then be held accountable under the law for her actions. Your actions towards your sister for the last six years has been illegal under the law. You have contributed to her behaviour by trying to tell her how to live her life. The life is hers to live as she deem best. If there is any common sense left in you and your family, instead of arresting anyone, use her friends to make an appeal to her. Let her know you NOW understand she is an adult with full responsibility for herself. Let her know you will respect her wishes and decisions. Appeal to her to let you know where she is ONLY for the purposes of knowing. You must not ever interfere in her life and her decisions. The child has become an adult. She will make mistakes and learn from them. She may even make a mistake that may take her life. But that is her choice. Learn to respect yourselves as a family. Stop committing crimes simply because you live in the most fantastically corrupt country the earth has ever seen. When you have your own kids, learn from this experience. Don't go chasing shadows in the name of money and influence, when you should be paying attention to your kids when they are yet children. Nelbless: 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by malvisguy212: 2:45pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
aisha1314:it's may seem like you are right. but base on parenting, you are wrong. if a man is not legally married to a lady, he has no right to house someone daughter. or you'll allow your adult daughter to live with a man who did not pay her bride price ? sorry mam. what you wrote up there is what we call BEAUTIFUL NONSENSE!!! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by Bahamas95(m): 2:50pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
jessylaurel:I am not saying male children are saints, just doing comparism. Take for instance a girl that has been fvcked by all the guys in the neighborhood and a boy that has fvcked all the girls in the neighborhood. Which of them will the society look down on? Be sincere. You can't bear the shame that would cause in the neighborhood if the girl is your daughter or sister. |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by DarkJeddi(m): 2:52pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
TUANKU:She is 24 years old.. That is not young.. Young is 15,16,17 and 18 years old.. This one knows what exactly she is doing.. And it is a matter of time before she disappears indefinitely.. |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by NemoDatQuod(m): 2:55pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
appi. Just because you could not control your ego and overlook an insult, you have made yourself a candidate for kidnap and created other security problems for yourself. Now, everyone knows where you work and what your nickname is. I don't understand why you guys feel the need to validate yourselves to others. All that a man or woman needs in this life is a bowl, a spoon, a place to lay your head and true love and obedience to your creator by getting an ACCURATE knowledge of Him. Anything else is extra. appishani1: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by cayorday89(m): 2:56pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
aisha1314:Well said, they are the ones giving themselves hypertension over a minor issue... She is old enough to do whatever suits her, where I will have problem with such peope is coming to burden me with the consequences of their actions, na there kasala go burst dam. 1 Like |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by 2elliot: 2:57pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
veektor01:If she comes back with regrets like pregnancy or baby or health related issues, if I was the OP, I will direct her to you. You can have her all to yourself since you love delinquent idiots. |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by Rhozabeth(m): 2:57pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
Sureboyy:I quite agree with u. Most of the societal ills actually start from home! 2 Likes |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by 2elliot: 2:58pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
Rhozabeth:You need to shut up and drink a glass of water. |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by Rhozabeth(m): 3:00pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
appishani1:Now I see that I just wasted my time and data! |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by NemoDatQuod(m): 3:01pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
I am clapping for you with both hands. Now, that is a mature observation. Well done! oluwaseyi0: |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by NemoDatQuod(m): 3:04pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
I wouldn't have said it better. Thank you! Chosimba: 2 Likes |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by 2elliot: 3:09pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
Terry44:You failed to see where the op said that the girl have had some terrible experiences like kidnapping. Just last week, two girls from my place who were travelling for reasons best known to them to PH from Bayelsa state were kidnapped, and the two families spent over a million naira before they were released. Nigeria is experiencing a lot of shits right now, that even adults over 30yrs can not afford to live as they pleases irresponsibly. When shit hits the fan, your rights as an adult to freedom of movement and association will not save you. 1 Like |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by NemoDatQuod(m): 3:12pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
An adult does not need anyone else's blessing/approval to be with anyone she wants. That is one of the practices that is leading to breakdown of relationships and other bad things in that country. Once you are an adult, you go out there, find someone suitable for you and get together. You only seek advise from your family. You don't seek their approval before a relationship can be contracted. You alone know what you want and what you like. Juoflife1: 1 Like |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by 2elliot: 3:13pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
NemoDatQuod:In this same Nigeria or it is another one? Nigeria that people are getting missing and families are posting missing people every day, that you guys are talking as if we live in an ideal world. Her adulthood did not protect her from the near ritual and kidnap experiences. |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by 2elliot: 3:16pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
cayorday89:Na still una go still lambast the Op if he comes back to say that his sister has come back with a bastard child or a terrible illness, and they refuse to accept her. Una go say the family is unforgiving. |
Re: My Kid Sister Ran Away From Home, What Do I Do? by fmonigent(m): 3:20pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
Rhozabeth: Gbam! |
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