He met me with 1 child who is 3 years 10 months we only did introduction ,I have 1 child for him 1 years 5 months and I am pregnant with another one, he is working but he won't provide for me and our children I am tired of begging my mum everyday for foods and money she doesn't have much but she is trying her best to provide for me and my children she is paying for my first daughter school fee which it is not her duty to do so. I am tired of the marriage and I want to leave him please I need advice no insult if you insult me I will insult you back

You better get yourself a job and stop being a lazy bìtch waiting for a man's money

introduction is NOT MARRIAGE...

if you want to leave,it's easy..just walk away..you ain't married to him...which advise do you need?...if you can take care of yourself and kids...move on... INTRODUCTION IS NO MARRIAGE...

if some married people are going through hell in their marriage...YOU THAT IS NOT MARRIED, THAT'S "DOING BOYFRIEND AND GIRLFRIEND" WILL BE GOING THROUGH HELL TOO.... INTRODUCTION IS NOTHING...move on before you born pikin full house with been legally married

What gave u the audacity to get pregnant again for him without being properly married to him, women are the cause of their own problems Aunty carry ur cross

Jashub:
You better get yourself a job and stop being a lazy bìtch waiting for a man's money

one shot fired oya come insult am

Leave him then!!!

If he has chosen to neglect his responsibilities then let everything blow up and leave him....

But first get a welfare team to help you so he doesn't leave the burden of the children on you alone....

If that happens sweetheart you are fu*ked for life

I have nothing to add someone already told you d solution .get a job

A stingy man is more deadly than someone having cancer

Didn't you have anything you were doing before you were committed to him. This atitude of his shows how irresponsible he is. Find some legit to do. Atleast it will sustain you and the children.

You are a bitter woman , see ur post...if you insult me I will insult you

INTRODUCTION IS NOT MARRIAGE.GO BACK HOME

1.Get an abortion if you're not too far gone
2. Move out of his home to your mum's place
3. Find a job to support yourself and your 2 children
4. You can also report their fathers to relevant authorities to get you some financial support for the children.

Jashub:
You better get yourself a job and stop being a lazy bìtch waiting for a man's money

He is the Head of the family it's his responsibility to provide for me and our children

Victoria938:
What gave u the audacity to get pregnant again for him without being properly married to him, women are the cause of their own problems Aunty carry ur cross

This pregnancy was not planned family planning has failed me

eyinjuege:
1.Get an abortion if you're not too far gone
2. Move out of his home to your mum's place
3. Find a job to support yourself and your 2 children
4. You can also report their fathers to relevant authorities to get you some financial support for the children.

Sadly I am 8 months gone too late for abortion

Franciscabless:


This pregnancy was not planned family planning has failed me

What were you doing for a living before you met him?

Get one thing clear, he is not your husband.

Ideally the father of your kids should responsible for their upkeep but one needs to ask, why are you so dependent? Are you physically or mentally incapable of fending for yourself? If your mum who is probably in her 50s is still working, what exactly is your excuse? God forbid something happens to your "husband" and mother, how will you cope? In this day and age we've found ourselves no adult should ever be totally dependent on anybody. This is why you have to ensure that you have the amount of kids you can comfortably cater for on your own. And you need to STOP popping out kids like it's going out of fashion. 3 kids in 4 years? That's appalling!

The man is not trying sha if your story is true. At least he should provide for his own children even if not for the other.


With which heart does he watch those kids languish with hunger and wants abeg

Jesslove:
A stingy man is more deadly than someone having cancer

na only men dey stingy oo. Parasites

Franciscabless:


He is the Head of the family it's his responsibility to provide for me and our children

Franciscabless:
He met me with 1 child who is 3 years 10 months we only did introduction ,I have 1 child for him 1 years 5 months and I am pregnant with another one, he is working but he won't provide for me and our children I am tired of begging my mum everyday for foods and money she doesn't have much but she is trying her best to provide for me and my children she is paying for my first daughter school fee which it is not her duty to do so. I am tired of the marriage and I want to leave him please I need advice no insult if you insult me I will insult you back

It's not advisable to leave at this point. You are 8 months pregnant already.
Just stay till you give birth and get something doing.
You can't even work with your condition. Talk to your husband or report him to his family members so they can talk to him.
He needs to provide for you.

You want to insult us . Where is the papa of your first pikin.

Taking care of small children can be a job on its own so I think it’s a bit unreasonable for people to be demanding you juggle it with a job, not knowing your full situation. He should be providing for his kids at the very least.

That saying, I hope you didn’t get pregnant for him the second time knowing all of this about him………..

I don't know what to advise you cos all I see here are two irresponsible people who came together for the sake of sex but not willing or even planning to take up the responsibilities that come with it.

You guys didn't plan to have a family but you went ahead birthing children without control. You, try close legs. You already had one before you met him, you didn't learn from your previous baby daddy that abandoned you, you still went opening legs for another man without marriage. See how you just put yourself into hardship because of 5mins fun.
Now you're living on handouts from your mother.

When they say siddon one place, una go the fling hair left and right, una no go hear until e happen.

Really, I don't know what to advise you.

Jashub:
You're a lazy bìtch . Where is it written that a man must provide for you ? Or don't you know that the children are also a product of your own carelessness ...

A man who can't provide for his family is worse than an infidel - Bible talk am, I just helped you out.

Just imagine! With the way things be for naija now ehn and una just dey nack anyhow and born anyhow smh. No work, no plans = Nothing

Franciscabless:
He met me with 1 child who is 3 years 10 months we only did introduction ,I have 1 child for him 1 years 5 months and I am pregnant with another one, he is working but he won't provide for me and our children I am tired of begging my mum everyday for foods and money she doesn't have much but she is trying her best to provide for me and my children she is paying for my first daughter school fee which it is not her duty to do so. I am tired of the marriage and I want to leave him please I need advice no insult if you insult me I will insult you back

Franciscabless:


He is the Head of the family it's his responsibility to provide for me and our children

See your life, wait for him then

Hunger never panel_beat you wella

Mindlog:


What were you doing for a living before you met him?

Get one thing clear, he is not your husband.

I was selling akara with my mum , I know he is not my husband cos he hasn't pay my bride price

TheboyGhost:
Leave him then!!!

If he has chosen to neglect his responsibilities then let everything blow up and leave him....

But first get a welfare team to help you so he doesn't leave the burden of the children on you alone....

If that happens sweetheart you are fu*ked for life

Ok thanks for my own sanity I have to leave first then I will take the matter to welfare ,my mum will not carry his responsibility he must take care of his 2 children while she will continue taking care of my elder daughter

Franciscabless:
He met me with 1 child who is 3 years 10 months we only did introduction ,I have 1 child for him 1 years 5 months and I am pregnant with another one, he is working but he won't provide for me and our children 1. I am tired of begging my mum everyday for foods and money she doesn't have much but she is trying her best to provide for me and my children she is paying for my first daughter school fee which it is not her duty to do so.
2. I am tired of the marriage and I want to leave him please I need advice no insult if you insult me I will insult you back

You choose to start a family of your own with this man so why aren't you yourself able to work to fend for your own family?

Why is your mother carrying as her burden your children?

2. Your first priority should be to ensure you get yourself working and carrying your own load abeg. You didn't just realize that the man you married does not fend for your kiss, did you? So why is the marriage suddenly the big issue?

Sit down and work on getting your act together as an adult. You have a brain and are able to work to feed your kids so get cracking, and work on family planning so you don't keep popping out babies you are unable to fend for. When you are finally able to go off on your own, you can consider leaving the man and the shelter that is his home, assuming you live with him.