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Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by Chee59(f): 4:55am On Dec 20, 2022 |
oracle009:The rest of you are phoolish ball-less men. You shun a person for opening up. That's why people kill themselves. Someone will have a useless father but because of what people will say, will stomach decades of abuse and neglect until they either take their life or become just as abusive as him. Because y'all underestimate the power of abuse and trauma. 12 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by oracle009(m): 4:55am On Dec 20, 2022 |
Chee59: Good! Then let the poor man rest |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by Chee59(f): 4:58am On Dec 20, 2022 |
oracle009:Your father. Tell that to the thing that gave life to you. 1 Like |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by Chee59(f): 5:00am On Dec 20, 2022 |
byrron:You have no idea how traumatising it is to watch, as though, through the window, your own father being caring to a fault to every other person, except you and your siblings. It's almost unbelievable, like, pinch yourself "am I seeing double?" You'll be a liar when you eventually talk. 6 Likes |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by debbydams(f): 5:02am On Dec 20, 2022 |
madridguy:some fathers are very wicked oo, I mean very very wicked... 2 Likes |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by Chee59(f): 5:06am On Dec 20, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:I can't tell of the years I believed I was worthless because of the abuse. Keeping silent is the worst. Fear and shame and guilt. It's worse than an absentee parent. The pain is second to none. And when you reach adulthood, people expect you "grow up" and "move on". Those you see making excuses for that man on this thread have become the monsters their fathers were. 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by oracle009(m): 5:14am On Dec 20, 2022 |
Chee59: Uh I understand where the vulgarities are coming from. Many times, it takes both parents to teach manners. : |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by Kobojunkie: 5:16am On Dec 20, 2022 |
Chee59:Precisely! I have seen it enough times particularly among Nigerians to know that these evils are best confronted rather than held in order for the cycle of hurt to end with them. Those who go on to become like their parents mainly refuse to confront the hurt and pain inflicted on them by their so-called loved ones, choosing instead to hold it all in until they too begin to rationalize and accept it as being ok behavior. Na so many of my university friends whose fathers were deadbeats and irresponsible fathers come turn become like dem papa today. When you talk to them about it, many go say na generational curse for dem family, not realizing they did it to their own selves. 6 Likes |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by Chee59(f): 5:21am On Dec 20, 2022 |
* There are people who think words like "abuse" "trauma" "depression" "mental health" is a euro centric thing. * Abuse comes in different forms. It's not only wife beating or r*pe. Neglect, whether financially, physically or even sexually is an abuse. *Emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse, only without any scars to show. Years of abuse can lead to depression and then suicide, if not well handled. * Don't mock people who commit suicide. You didn't see what they saw. *Get help. Talk to a therapist not just any body. 5 Likes |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by Chee59(f): 5:26am On Dec 20, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:You are 100% correct about internalising pain. Men especially are more likely to build up a reservoir and hold up their emotions. But when they burst open, it's sometimes very deadly. That's why mostly men commit very very violent crimes. I spent many years blaming myself. Maybe if I did this or that, my father will love me and pay my school fees or buy me school shoes or even come for a school function or something. Anything. But then, I had to come face to face with the fact that "this is how he is". This has nothing to do with me. Truth is, if you don't deal with your emotions and separate facts from illusions and get therapy, you may eventually become that which you hate. 6 Likes |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by Nobody: 5:31am On Dec 20, 2022 |
Chee59: I can feel your pains through your comments and I genuinely wished your dad was there for you. 3 Likes |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by Chee59(f): 5:32am On Dec 20, 2022 |
byrron:He's dead to me. 1 Like |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by Guide777(m): 5:35am On Dec 20, 2022 |
madridguy:Amen. |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by zoedew: 5:49am On Dec 20, 2022 |
All he owed them was food shelter point them to God live accordingly education and probably the house he lived in while alive. If he delivered on these he was good to go! |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by Nobody: 5:49am On Dec 20, 2022 |
Chee59: It is well 1 Like |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by Kobojunkie: 5:51am On Dec 20, 2022 |
zoedew:How did you reach this conclusion that this is all he owed them? 4 Likes |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by gaddafe(m): 6:11am On Dec 20, 2022 |
You will be surprised this man did his best for the kids. Some children are hopeless children especially the ones of this generation. How can a child write that about the late dad. My father did a lot of negative things to me some of them when I sit down I still cry. But one thing is that he later regretted them all and wished he could change the hand of time and correct the mistakes. That's why my dad don't joke with my kids. In fact when I see the way my children like my dad stay with him and all that, I just shake my head because when I was like them, I do wish the man died. Today I'm a dad and I try to do my best for this kids yet they don't still see me as a good enough dad for them. My own dad became remorseful at his old age when he became sick and all his friends left him and all his children also left him and I decided he stays with me and I took care of him. Sometimes when he tells my kids about who he was, of how popular he was in the military and everyone hailing him as Gaddafi, they do think he's exaggerating but I tell them, this man is tellythe truth, he was rich and popular and had many friends except that today I'm his only friend and confidant. I control all his account, all his estate etc. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by Bosdem(f): 6:16am On Dec 20, 2022 |
By their comments , you know them. 1 Like |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by yahoodetector: 6:18am On Dec 20, 2022 |
JORDAN202: And how did you know that the man wasn't confronted while alive but still hardened his heart? 1 Like |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by tyinfinity: 6:26am On Dec 20, 2022 |
OSU Pandora obituary legacy for Anambra is Alcohol |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by Elidrisy20: 6:29am On Dec 20, 2022 |
Which legacy do they want? After bringing you ppl to the world,take care of you ppl, while growing |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by hedocharles(m): 6:29am On Dec 20, 2022 |
madridguy: Well written fendy. May we never have such as a child 1 Like |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by Tapout(m): 6:31am On Dec 20, 2022 |
A lot of lies are written in biographies and tributes, It's a fact. It's not usually called out all in the name of respecting the dead. I tell people, live your life in a manner that people won't have to lie at your funeral. Me wey no sabi lie, I'll kukuma not write anything. 7 Likes |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by conscienceman4(m): 6:43am On Dec 20, 2022 |
The tone of a motherly corrupt child. |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by everythinggirly(f): 6:46am On Dec 20, 2022 |
But to be honest some father's don't deserve to be called that name daddy/papa/father, because they've done more harm than good. Just take a look the biography, it means that the man showed his children hot pepper but nevertheless he would have kept it to himself rather than telling the whole world who his father was, some secrets are supposed to follow you to the grave. 2 Likes |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by igala1(m): 6:47am On Dec 20, 2022 |
Mindlog: |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by CodeTemplar: 6:54am On Dec 20, 2022 |
JORDAN202: What some people did in their youth was to involve the soul and spirit of their alleged children in money rituals to enjoy their own life. Such people can't give anything in any real sense again. Just waiting to die and hoping afterlife doesn't exist. |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by Ofemmanu1: 7:22am On Dec 20, 2022 |
madridguy: The moment I saw Kalu, I knew it. Na basterrd son go cast him papa like this. In Alaigbo most children are either pure basterrds or baby factory products. I don't like my pops too cos he didn't do his best for me but that doesn't mean I will write rubbish in his Eulogy. He remains my Superman. |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by ppogba: 7:28am On Dec 20, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: I agree with you that this action of theirs is an admittance of the problem being a step towards progress. But, I insist they will experience the same if they keep living in the past, moaning about what their father did or refused to do rather than working their socks off for their own life and children. For goodness sake, children born when their fathers had already died are achieving things in their life. |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by imagrg(m): 7:37am On Dec 20, 2022 |
Fathers should do what fathers do. Only fake fathers care less for their children. Good fathers do the needful. |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by Arkmanbuddy(m): 7:41am On Dec 20, 2022 |
donpapa: They're facing their lives, if not they'd not be conscious enough to understand the shortcomings of their father. 2 Likes |
Re: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by Onelove508: 7:44am On Dec 20, 2022 |
abobote: No body did u a favor by bringing you into the world- u weren't anywhere begging them to bring u to the world. Rather u did them a favor by coming to the world through them- ask childless couples, they'll explain better. Education alone isn't raising a child. Some of u are so lucky with good parents so u won't understand. U are lucky u aren't my father's child, u won't be saying this . 3 Likes 1 Share |
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