Msjackson please kindly send me a mail. I believe your daughter needs therapy.
I would recommend a doctor who is focused on handling cases like yours. He also does does group therapy. I hope you are based in Lagos. Without therapy your child may be psychologically affected.
No be everything be prayer

For me this is thought provoking, but I will suggest that you only need to work on your girl forgetting the call for justice. Getting justice for her is good, but the problem it will bring will hurt you more. All the people asking you to get justice for her don't know what they are saying. My family is still battling with the result of such advice given to my parents more than 30 years ago, my mum's family see us as enemies till today, it is a long story.

MsJackson:
Good morning house. I need your opinion on this issue.

The family all turned their face away. Nobody cared to address it, even his parents. I'm thinking of going to their church to expose her because I hear the 15 year old girl is getting baptized next week. Hubby told me to forget about it, his brother told me not to try it. But anytime my daughter remembers this incident and brings it up, I become very disturbed. I don't know what to do.

Please advise me.

There is an Arm of the Ministry of Justice in Lagos State, that deals with Rape and Child Molestation issues. they have a forensic Analyst there.
Take your Child there and let us hear what they make of her story.
But l dont think a 4yr old is smart enough to make up such story, so there more be more to it.

defcon4:
by refusing to report to the police and charge the case to court, you have become an unwilling accomplice. Charge the case to court, the whole truth will come out.

The Agency l mentioned above, will examine it and determine if it can be charged to Court, by the DPP

defcon4:
by refusing to report to the police and charge the case to court, you have become an unwilling accomplice. Charge the case to court, the whole truth will come out.

Both the victim and perpetrator are minors. The incident happened 1.5 years ago and is now hearsay. Court has nothing to do with this matter.

She has reported the perpetrator to her family. I'm sure they'll caution her behind closed doors but they will never admit it openly. There is nothing to be gained from raising the issue further.

All that's left is to ensure her daughter is well and is not scarred by the incident. At her age, she should forget the matter very soon if it is not constantly reinforced, as humans only start to develop memory from 4 years old, and memories at 4 tend to fade quickly or become very hazy

MsJackson:

They are totally refusing to address this. They even after some weeks have codedly believe such happened and have called my husband to beg, hubby said so, I don't know if it's true or not. But me the wife, NOBODY, I REPEAT, NOBODY CALLED ME. Like I am nothing in their eyes. Not even the evil mother that insisted my daughter spent some days with them. It's not like if they called me to apologize it would change the past, no, but I might have some tiny relief.

My daughter talks about that experience till date. Even up till yesterday. I am beyond heartbroken. I can't forgive.

The family all turned their face away. Nobody cared to address it, even his parents. I'm thinking of going to their church to expose her because I hear the 15 year old girl is getting baptized next week. Hubby told me to forget about it, his brother told me not to try it. But anytime my daughter remembers this incident and brings it up, I become very disturbed. I don't know what to do.

Please advise me.

I'm even angry on your behalf, you know why? It's because this is how they turn children into liking same sex. I believe it's the reason they didn't reach out to you is because they're ashame

MsJackson:
Good morning house. I need your opinion on this issue.

Around May last year, my husband and I went with my 4 year old daughter to visit my sister in-law (hubby's elder sister). They insisted they wanted her to stay some days with them, that I should return for her in two or three days time.

After much persuasion from my oga, I left her. But my heart wasn't settled because I've never stayed away from her for that long.
I just noticed that when we called her on video call the very next morning, she looked and sounded depressed, telling us to come take her home. I just thought she was missing me.

I returned the next three days to pick her up. It was even the oldest cousin, a 15 year old girl, who was actually very fond of my daughter that helped me carry her on her back and saw us off to the bustop.

Two or 3 months later, at the end of a Bible study I had with her, my baby said she wanted to tell me something. Hubby was lying on the couch. My baby said the period I took her to that house, the 15 year old girl was always sucking her vagina. My brain shut down immediately. Her dad jumped from the couch and told her to repeat what she just said. She did. She also said that the girl usually holds her mouth close during the act, and that she beats the girl on the head to stop what she was doing, but the girl refused and beat my daughter back.

I broke down. Hubby had never become so mad at his family to the extent of turning his back on them, to the extent of shutting his dad up, but he did all these because his only child was involved.

The family, they all said my daughter was lying. My question is: can a four year old lie about such? The nature of this supposed lie. I don't think so. But all the family members said my daughter lied. And even the girl denied it.
They are totally refusing to address this. They even after some weeks have codedly believe such happened and have called my husband to beg, hubby said so, I don't know if it's true or not. But me the wife, NOBODY, I REPEAT, NOBODY CALLED ME. Like I am nothing in their eyes. Not even the evil mother that insisted my daughter spent some days with them. It's not like if they called me to apologize it would change the past, no, but I might have some tiny relief.

My daughter talks about that experience till date. Even up till yesterday. I am beyond heartbroken. I can't forgive.

The family all turned their face away. Nobody cared to address it, even his parents. I'm thinking of going to their church to expose her because I hear the 15 year old girl is getting baptized next week. Hubby told me to forget about it, his brother told me not to try it. But anytime my daughter remembers this incident and brings it up, I become very disturbed. I don't know what to do.

Please advise me.

This is a very sad case and should be treated with the utmost attention and dispassionately (I know it's a bit difficult to ask a mother to do that). I will suggest the following:

- Ensure you do a thorough finding to know the truth. Our first instinct is to believe a 4-year-old because we assume they can't lie or are not yet as sophisticated in lying. However, children are sometimes sophisticated when they lie. (https://www.wklaw.com/reasons-why-children-may-lie-about-sexual-abuse/). The link I shared might be able to help you to know how children see such lying. Please, validate your daughter's confession. Some children are sophisticated, especially if they know you'll believe any claim they make. (3 months for a child to keep such abuse and start repeating it shows your daughter might be precocious and deep)

- If it turns out true, ensure you seek PTSD treatment for your daughter and yourself. Also, pray for her always and don't let her be popular with such a tag (you need to salvage your daughter's mental health despite the event)

- Step back from your in-laws for now. If your daughter's claim is true, the 15-year-old girl is also damaged and dragging her will give you no closure but tension. A girl that can do that was most likely molested and has been initiated into Lesbianism! We can now see that most Lesbian and Gays had a history of abuse that was not addressed

- In all these things, don't let this experience destroy your marriage. Your husband has shown that he can fight for his daughter, and you should help him during this very strain on his life (strain between one's family of procreation and origination is the most difficult thing for anyone!) Some family will never abandon their own no matter what, while some spouses don't mind divorcing their husband or wife. Destroying your marriage for it will give your daughter so much power over your life that you might regret it.

In all this, I pray you heal (if this story is real)

MsJackson:

She always tells me: mum when are we going to her house to beat her up?�

Don't you have younger brothers who smoke weed or have their friends who smoke loud......? This is where their services would be of importance. The 15 year old ought to have been beaten before new year! My heart goes out to your daughter, I wish I was her maternal uncle, probably there would have been a bit of headline on the dailies concerning that spoilt brat

ibkayee:

OP said that the family have been ‘codedly’ behaving as though they believe it happened and begging the husband. Is that not incriminating enough for you?

That also means the 15 year old has also been codedly disciplined at home which is the best disciplinary outcome the OP could get from this.

One4me:


There is an Arm of the Ministry of Justice in Lagos State, that deals with Rape and Child Molestation issues. they have a forensic Analyst there.
Take your Child there and let us hear what they make of her story.
But l dont think a 4yr old is smart enough to make up such story, so there more be more to it.

Forensic analysis of a non penetrative incident that occured 1.5 years ago. Make una give good advice abeg. This is a family matter, nothing can be proven in court

MsJackson:
Good morning house. I need your opinion on this issue.

Around May last year, my husband and I went with my 4 year old daughter to visit my sister in-law (hubby's elder sister). They insisted they wanted her to stay some days with them, that I should return for her in two or three days time.

After much persuasion from my oga, I left her. But my heart wasn't settled because I've never stayed away from her for that long.
I just noticed that when we called her on video call the very next morning, she looked and sounded depressed, telling us to come take her home. I just thought she was missing me.

I returned the next three days to pick her up. It was even the oldest cousin, a 15 year old girl, who was actually very fond of my daughter that helped me carry her on her back and saw us off to the bustop.

Two or 3 months later, at the end of a Bible study I had with her, my baby said she wanted to tell me something. Hubby was lying on the couch. My baby said the period I took her to that house, the 15 year old girl was always sucking her vagina. My brain shut down immediately. Her dad jumped from the couch and told her to repeat what she just said. She did. She also said that the girl usually holds her mouth close during the act, and that she beats the girl on the head to stop what she was doing, but the girl refused and beat my daughter back.

I broke down. Hubby had never become so mad at his family to the extent of turning his back on them, to the extent of shutting his dad up, but he did all these because his only child was involved.

The family, they all said my daughter was lying. My question is: can a four year old lie about such? The nature of this supposed lie. I don't think so. But all the family members said my daughter lied. And even the girl denied it.
They are totally refusing to address this. They even after some weeks have codedly believe such happened and have called my husband to beg, hubby said so, I don't know if it's true or not. But me the wife, NOBODY, I REPEAT, NOBODY CALLED ME. Like I am nothing in their eyes. Not even the evil mother that insisted my daughter spent some days with them. It's not like if they called me to apologize it would change the past, no, but I might have some tiny relief.

My daughter talks about that experience till date. Even up till yesterday. I am beyond heartbroken. I can't forgive.

The family all turned their face away. Nobody cared to address it, even his parents. I'm thinking of going to their church to expose her because I hear the 15 year old girl is getting baptized next week. Hubby told me to forget about it, his brother told me not to try it. But anytime my daughter remembers this incident and brings it up, I become very disturbed. I don't know what to do.

Please advise me.

Madam I am sorry for the ordeal you and your daughter is passing thru, I think u need to take ur daughter to see a therapist, before dis experience messes her future...

jmichael259:
15yr old girl,
no penetration,

Dead on arrival. Nothing come out for the case.
The only closure u can get is maybe a chance to chastise the girl.

The victim (ur 4yr old) will outgrow and forget most parts of the encounter.
*Find positive and inspiring activities to distract her mind.
*She doesn't need reminder (face or voice of that family member) anytime soon in her life.

They should find help and treatment for the 15yr old girl before her whoring days begin. She is the first victim. Someone already molested her, setting her upon your kid and other (present and future) victims.

Use this righteous anger to trace and aprehend the source of her abuse and maybe unleash your mayhem on them.

There is even a slim chance the idea was planted into 4 year old girl through a porn movie

First of all let me by condemning what was done by the 15yr old to your 4yr old daughter. I condemn the act in all totality.
Secondly let me ask that you imagine this was done to your daughter by your own family member and not your husband family member.
Because I can clearly feel from your comment that apart from what actually transpared, you and your husband family are not living in love.

And in family were there is no love there can't be justice. The best you can get is revenge.

Once again, please handle this matter the same way you would you have handle it, if the 15yr old was your favorite nice.

Forgive and move on, the will forget it on long run

MsJackson:
Good morning house. I need your opinion on this issue.

Around May last year, my husband and I went with my 4 year old daughter to visit my sister in-law (hubby's elder sister). They insisted they wanted her to stay some days with them, that I should return for her in two or three days time.

After much persuasion from my oga, I left her. But my heart wasn't settled because I've never stayed away from her for that long.
I just noticed that when we called her on video call the very next morning, she looked and sounded depressed, telling us to come take her home. I just thought she was missing me.

I returned the next three days to pick her up. It was even the oldest cousin, a 15 year old girl, who was actually very fond of my daughter that helped me carry her on her back and saw us off to the bustop.

Two or 3 months later, at the end of a Bible study I had with her, my baby said she wanted to tell me something. Hubby was lying on the couch. My baby said the period I took her to that house, the 15 year old girl was always sucking her vagina. My brain shut down immediately. Her dad jumped from the couch and told her to repeat what she just said. She did. She also said that the girl usually holds her mouth close during the act, and that she beats the girl on the head to stop what she was doing, but the girl refused and beat my daughter back.

I broke down. Hubby had never become so mad at his family to the extent of turning his back on them, to the extent of shutting his dad up, but he did all these because his only child was involved.

The family, they all said my daughter was lying. My question is: can a four year old lie about such? The nature of this supposed lie. I don't think so. But all the family members said my daughter lied. And even the girl denied it.
They are totally refusing to address this. They even after some weeks have codedly believe such happened and have called my husband to beg, hubby said so, I don't know if it's true or not. But me the wife, NOBODY, I REPEAT, NOBODY CALLED ME. Like I am nothing in their eyes. Not even the evil mother that insisted my daughter spent some days with them. It's not like if they called me to apologize it would change the past, no, but I might have some tiny relief.

My daughter talks about that experience till date. Even up till yesterday. I am beyond heartbroken. I can't forgive.

The family all turned their face away. Nobody cared to address it, even his parents. I'm thinking of going to their church to expose her because I hear the 15 year old girl is getting baptized next week. Hubby told me to forget about it, his brother told me not to try it. But anytime my daughter remembers this incident and brings it up, I become very disturbed. I don't know what to do.

Please advise me.

MsJackson:

She always tells me: mum when are we going to her house to beat her up?�

Tell her daddy would be beating her up next weekend.

Dad should pretend to leave the house for some time next weekend and come back with the news of beating her up mercilessly.

I beleive this would give your baby the closure she needs and help her forget the situation real quick. Also, after that try stop asking her about how it happened so the image wouldn't repeat in her head so she can forget it real fast without growing up with such thoughts else it would have some psychological problems for her in future of she can't forget that ugly situation.

Moreover, block uncomfortable relationship with people more especially when it's not important. It is hard raising kids these days around people.

I am not sure any justice can be served here as its purely a case of words against words - no concrete evidence to present in court.

Moreover, look inwardly someone else could be the molester and not the accused. Most times, molesters deflect the situation away from themselves. Someone could be somewhere giving your baby sweet and biscuit while molesting her and tell her to mention another person name should in case anyone asks.

Bottom line, be careful with all. Trust no one!

Jozilinn:
Thank God your daughter can speak up don't mind what your husband or anybody else will say cos if you don't act well, that girl would certainly move on to someone else... how can a four year old form that trash up, like seriously are they mad,If pikin dey your back you know your pikin but if e no dey no dey support an for everything no matter what try to find out for the benefit of that child.

Your daughter is saying the truth cos she's always repeating it on and on...Now like this your children in this family go dey get attitude from family members,if no be say no where is safe I would have asked you to leave the marriage...cos right now eh if anything happens to your husband God forbid They will ridicule you to the core,I can feel your pains oh madam abeg seek the face of God...but get your family involved too so we go know whatsup.

Oga calm down, see the way you are saying it, like it is that easy, that she should leave the marriage.

Sheistoopretty:
Men are known for doing this

Similar encounter happened to a very good neighbor of mine here in Abuja

Take heart dear

Hope you read properly, a 15yrs old girl did this.

I want to advice as a married man. Would say listen to your hubby and rest your mind. Work on stabilizing your child's psychology. At this point teach her sex education. I have 3 daughters and taught them things about same sex and opposite sex. None of them would sit on an uncle or aunt's lap for any reason. Let peace reign and also expect to be hated by them. You'll be shocked to hear that you coached your little girl to bring such allegation. Just leave the matter alone, okay!

Ibime:


That also means the 15 year old has also been codedly disciplined at home which is the best disciplinary outcome the OP could get from this.

Mmm, it doesn't necessarily confirm that the 15 year old has been disciplined, the only thing it confirms is that some have publicly admitted they believe it. As for what was actually done or said to the 15 year old, that's not information we're privy to.

Even though I do think the 15 year old should be disciplined in some way, I also think publicly exposing her is.....not necessarily extreme since what she allegedly did is also very extreme, but given her age and status as a minor despite still being a lot older, grace could be given to her. It's also very possible that she was a victim of abuse, which does not excuse he behaviour but is still worth noting.

A tough chastising should suffice at the very least, the 15 year old should know that what they've done was wrong and unacceptable. Not doing so can encourage bad social behaviours and risk what's happened being repeated with another person

MsJackson:
Good morning house. I need your opinion on this issue.
Please advise me.

Your husband has already told you not to create any scene about the issue.

If what you plan to do to expose the girl will not directly help your daughter, DON'T.

All you should concern yourself with right now is to seek for a CHILD psychologist that will help your girl deal with the trauma. Make sure you the person SPECIALIZES on children and has a verifiable track record. There are many monsters out their exploiting kids in the name of being psychologists.

The last thing you want now is to disobey your husband and scatter your family when your girl has not healed yet. Don't add a broken marriage to the sweet girl's current wahala. She NEEDS a stable home, and the love and presence of BOTH parents to overcome this sad experience.

Shalom.

Mustiboy:
I’m not saying your daughter is lying.

But I’ve seen children of your daughter’s age lie against innocent people in issues such as this and beyond.

Children aren’t always innocent and have the potential to do evil, especially considering they don’t know the consequences of their actions.

You can insult me all you want, but I’m only speaking from experience.

It is very possible
Children tell lies too; even a lot especially when they don’t like the person they tell lies against
Even children sometimes exaggerate things
That’s why I pity most teachers that wants to Japa to Uk
It’s their words against yours.
There is no penile penetration
Work more on your daughter and leave the rest to God
If not you are just causing more enemies in your husband’s family
They pleaded with your hubby not because they accepted the 15yr did the crime but because they love ur husband
If God brings another bread winner in that house maybe ur husband bro.. they will be d one to neglect all of u
Just pray u yourself don’t have issues with ur husband

MsJackson:
Good morning house. I need your opinion on this issue.

Around May last year, my husband and I went with my 4 year old daughter to visit my sister in-law (hubby's elder sister). They insisted they wanted her to stay some days with them, that I should return for her in two or three days time.

After much persuasion from my oga, I left her. But my heart wasn't settled because I've never stayed away from her for that long.
I just noticed that when we called her on video call the very next morning, she looked and sounded depressed, telling us to come take her home. I just thought she was missing me.

I returned the next three days to pick her up. It was even the oldest cousin, a 15 year old girl, who was actually very fond of my daughter that helped me carry her on her back and saw us off to the bustop.

Two or 3 months later, at the end of a Bible study I had with her, my baby said she wanted to tell me something. Hubby was lying on the couch. My baby said the period I took her to that house, the 15 year old girl was always sucking her vagina. My brain shut down immediately. Her dad jumped from the couch and told her to repeat what she just said. She did. She also said that the girl usually holds her mouth close during the act, and that she beats the girl on the head to stop what she was doing, but the girl refused and beat my daughter back.

I broke down. Hubby had never become so mad at his family to the extent of turning his back on them, to the extent of shutting his dad up, but he did all these because his only child was involved.

The family, they all said my daughter was lying. My question is: can a four year old lie about such? The nature of this supposed lie. I don't think so. But all the family members said my daughter lied. And even the girl denied it.
They are totally refusing to address this. They even after some weeks have codedly believe such happened and have called my husband to beg, hubby said so, I don't know if it's true or not. But me the wife, NOBODY, I REPEAT, NOBODY CALLED ME. Like I am nothing in their eyes. Not even the evil mother that insisted my daughter spent some days with them. It's not like if they called me to apologize it would change the past, no, but I might have some tiny relief.

My daughter talks about that experience till date. Even up till yesterday. I am beyond heartbroken. I can't forgive.

The family all turned their face away. Nobody cared to address it, even his parents. I'm thinking of going to their church to expose her because I hear the 15 year old girl is getting baptized next week. Hubby told me to forget about it, his brother told me not to try it. But anytime my daughter remembers this incident and brings it up, I become very disturbed. I don't know what to do.

Please advise me.

You dropping your kid with inlaws or whatever? In this wicked world? My worries are the spiritual aspects.

Rules to keep
1)Your Child shouldn't eat anywhere except home cos they can be initiated.
2)they should never attend boarding schools.. Federal government or state or private or even mission schools. Day care when after school they returned home.
3) the third u have learn a lesson

Children sometimes make up allegations of sexual abuse because they are looking for attention. Especially when children do not receive much attention from their parents or guardians, they may be inclined to make up stories of sexual abuse because they believe the “attention will be on them.”

Children may even get very specific with details as they expand on their stories. When they are encouraged by adults or goaded to supply more details, it often leads to additional fabrication.

Also, it is difficult for many people to accept that a child would lie about something as serious as being sexually abused or molested. However, children often do not realize the gravity of making an allegation of sexual misconduct.

For example, Chaneya Kelly, who is now 24 years old, told police when she was 9 years old that her father had raped her. Her father, Daryl Kelly, was convicted by a jury of multiple counts of rape and serious sexual assault. He was sentenced to 20 to 40 years in prison and barred from any contact with his children.

Sixteen years after her father was sent to prison, Kelly stated that she made up the story to avoid being beaten by her mother. The woman is now pleading for her father’s release.

This is an example of how the accused’s life can be turned upside down because a jury believed a child who was lying about being sexually abused. Sadly, there have been many cases similar to Kelly’s.

I just pray for Nigerian teachers that want to Japa
Pls be careful of children ooo


In Kelly’s case, the reason why she lied about being sexually abused is obvious. She was protecting her mother from the possibility of being beaten by her father. However, in some cases, the reasons why a child is falsely accusing an adult of child molestation is not as clear.

Our experienced sex crimes attorneys have been successfully defending clients accused of child sexual abuse for more than 40 years. During this time, we have noticed a few common reasons why children decide to lie about being sexually abused of molested. Here are some of the most common reasons:

Anger: A child who is angry at his or her parent, teacher, relative, coach or someone else may decide to accuse that person of sexual abuse in order to get back at that person. The child could be mad at his parents for getting a divorce or angry at a teacher for giving him detention. Children do not often fully comprehend the severity of a child abuse accusation and may falsely accuse someone of this in anger.
Revenge: A child could also lie about sexual abuse to get back at someone who has wronged them in his or her eyes. For a child, it could be something as simple as a teacher giving the child an F on a test or a coach not giving him or her as much playing time as he or she wants.
Approval: The approval of others, especially parental figures, is important to children. A child may lie about one parent to get the approval of another parent. He or she may also fabricate a story to win the approval of his or her friends or peers.
Misunderstanding: Young children are often unable to understand sexual activity and it is also not easy for them to vocalize the experience. If a child starts by vocalizing an incident that an adult confuses with sexual abuse, the child may be encouraged to tell a fabricated story. However, it could be an incident where the child is just going along with what the adult is saying or describing something he or she may have seen on TV or movies.
It is important to note that, in many cases, these reasons for making false accusations of child molestation may come from another source. This is often the case if the parents or guardians of the alleged child victim are going through a divorce and/or child custody battle.

For example, the mother may convince the child to make false child molestation accusations so that she can easily win custody over the child. It may also be indirect. Rather than the mother actually telling the child to make the accusation, the child could hear the mother badmouthing the father and decide that his or her father is a bad person. Conversely, the mother may convince the child that the abuse actually happened.

Children are impressionable and will lie if they think they are doing the right thing. That is why it is important for you to have an experienced Wallin & Klarich attorney fighting for you if you are falsely accused of child sexual abuse.

[quote author=Sultty post=119716525][b][i] I don't believe this weird story except u hear the accused 15yo side of the story. hearing this story from your daughter (could be true) does not make u judge. call her, get the facts else u could be glorifying a made up story
Bro thanks for this. The fact that she thinks a 4 year old can't lie seems funny to me. children are very manipulative. She should seek medical examination to unravel the truth and if possible involve law enforcement

That 15 year old was abused/taught this act as a child by an adult/older child/ age mate and now she is spreading the abuse.

It is the cycle. You have to prayerfully break the cycle

MsJackson:

She always tells me: mum when are we going to her house to beat her up?�

Really?

MsJackson:

She always tells me: mum when are we going to her house to beat her up?�

Your husband has failed as a man to protect his family. Your daughter needs some sort of closure. You, yourself need counseling. That spoilt girl should be exposed for who she is.

My concern is for your marriage to withstand the fallout.

MsJackson:

She always tells me: mum when are we going to her house to beat her up?�

Madam go and beat the girl up.. trace her and bet her in a public place create a scene like a mad woman.. there is no negotiation when your husband finds out, He will be very angry, but deep down in his heart He will be the happiest man on earth He may not tell you that. Your daughter must be pacified because you and your husband were supposed to protect her, but you handed her over to the devil. Your daughter has given her demand, make sure your daughter joins in the beating. It will help her heal.
I have been molested and till today as a man, it still affects me. I have been trying secretly to trace the lady that molested me to take my revenge and I know one day I'll get her.

Saintmary:



I really wish you can get justice for your child, but Nigeria get as e be.



I can't imagine the horror she must have passed through.


But, I believe that time will heal her wounds.


If you can contact a therapist or counsellor, please get help for her.



In the meantime, just keep being the amazing mother that you are.


P. S. I hope you have no plans of ever setting foot in their house again..

She can only pacify her daughter by beating that girl, it is the only way her daughter can heal fast. Even if she Jails the girl which very unlikely, the daughter will not be fulfilled until she beats up that girl.

MsJackson:
Good morning house. I need your opinion on this issue.

Around May last year, my husband and I went with my 4 year old daughter to visit my sister in-law (hubby's elder sister). They insisted they wanted her to stay some days with them, that I should return for her in two or three days time.

After much persuasion from my oga, I left her. But my heart wasn't settled because I've never stayed away from her for that long.
I just noticed that when we called her on video call the very next morning, she looked and sounded depressed, telling us to come take her home. I just thought she was missing me.

I returned the next three days to pick her up. It was even the oldest cousin, a 15 year old girl, who was actually very fond of my daughter that helped me carry her on her back and saw us off to the bustop.

Two or 3 months later, at the end of a Bible study I had with her, my baby said she wanted to tell me something. Hubby was lying on the couch. My baby said the period I took her to that house, the 15 year old girl was always sucking her vagina. My brain shut down immediately. Her dad jumped from the couch and told her to repeat what she just said. She did. She also said that the girl usually holds her mouth close during the act, and that she beats the girl on the head to stop what she was doing, but the girl refused and beat my daughter back.

I broke down. Hubby had never become so mad at his family to the extent of turning his back on them, to the extent of shutting his dad up, but he did all these because his only child was involved.

The family, they all said my daughter was lying. My question is: can a four year old lie about such? The nature of this supposed lie. I don't think so. But all the family members said my daughter lied. And even the girl denied it.
They are totally refusing to address this. They even after some weeks have codedly believe such happened and have called my husband to beg, hubby said so, I don't know if it's true or not. But me the wife, NOBODY, I REPEAT, NOBODY CALLED ME. Like I am nothing in their eyes. Not even the evil mother that insisted my daughter spent some days with them. It's not like if they called me to apologize it would change the past, no, but I might have some tiny relief.

My daughter talks about that experience till date. Even up till yesterday. I am beyond heartbroken. I can't forgive.

The family all turned their face away. Nobody cared to address it, even his parents. I'm thinking of going to their church to expose her because I hear the 15 year old girl is getting baptized next week. Hubby told me to forget about it, his brother told me not to try it. But anytime my daughter remembers this incident and brings it up, I become very disturbed. I don't know what to do.

Please advise me.

go to the church, at least it will save other children in the church and the society

MsJackson

Forgive them from the bottom of your heart and let it go. But cut yourself off from them for good and that include any interaction of what so ever (simply avoid them with wisdom.)

With time your daughter will forget about the evil act meted against her. If they are also responsible they would tender an apology to you when you give them that treat.

I wouldn't advise you reporting to the church or calling the cops because the matter would excalate beyond repair. And that is, the issue becomes a public story.

At this point even your husband might begin to display feeling of disappointment to you.

Had it been penetration occured or it was done by a stranger/non family I would have said you should damn the consequences. Otherwise let go.

Settle this like a family issue and preserve not only your daughters dignity but that of your family as a whole. With time love will heal the wounds.

Note: On no occasion should you leave your child with that little girl again nor anyone you can think of.. we leave in a wicked world. God be with you all.