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Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 5:35pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
perdollar:2 things that matter? LOL... you are deceived. |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 5:38pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Porksupplyib:1. I am afraid I didn't create any type of marriage here. Divorce rates in that country have been as high as that since the time of your ancestors. You lot all just turned a blind eye to it all back then is what. Marriage abandonment has always been an accepted norm and many of this generation were raised in homes where one parent, fathers, in particular, would abandon their family to start another somewhere else — an informal kind of divorce but divorce nonetheless. 2. Don't pretend now that these things are new. |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 5:39pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
BigYash:You mean because more men now more easily abandon their marriages and so also more women in tow? |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 5:44pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
FavouredNK:1. Those are from fantastical stories you have fed on, stories fueled by love represented by brain chemicals and sex hormones. The problem is those fade in time, then what do you have left when reality sets in? That is where marriage really should begin. Marriage is meant to be an agreement — a business partnership of sorts — between a man and woman, and love is to be defined by that agreement. Procreation is indeed secondary. 2. Nice to here! Now, if only we can hear from your other half to confirm if it has also been blissful from her point of view. 1 Like |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by BigYash: 5:45pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee:What's this one even saying? |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 5:46pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Baddosqqi:What about loving and standing by a woman who has great ideas? Isn't that allowed in these things or are men the only ones whose dreams are worth picturing oneself in? |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 5:47pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
xristos:Procreation was never the aim of marriage from it's beginning. |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 5:49pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Leilami:1. ROFLMAO
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Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 5:51pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Xcelinteriors:That only happens in the fairy world. Even women do not all share the same personality types and react the same to stimuli! 1 Like |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 5:52pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
prophetfire:ROFLMAO! Osinachi forgot that you can forgive and also choose to run away! 1 Like
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Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 5:53pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Tunagee:The police reports are clear that she did. |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by PlanktonX: 5:56pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Apart from these things you mentioned, what other thing is so strong and valid to hold marriage again? Abi, na LOVE? Oyinbo weh dey love, how many marriages dey survive? Bare 2 out of every 10 marriages. You see those society, kids and poverty get weight here, and if God come bless the marriage with trust, Contentment and better sex....wetin man dey find again. |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 5:59pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
FavouredNK:■ God said your marriages are of this world and not of the Kingdom of God - Genesis 3 vs 16 & Luke 20 vs 34 - 36, so first, please stop dragging God's name into this. Second, how do you define "genuine love"? Are we all the same that we should all then define it the same way we do for ourselves and for others? 2. Stop lying! How does the time of consummation impact a person's ability to be in or act in a relationship? Following your insinuation here, most Churchians who claimed to possess God and genuine love shouldn't see the end of their marriages then, but sadly, the divorce rate in your religious settings mirrors that of those outside of such settings, implying that what your claims here are baseless imaginings and nothing more. 3. Sure, but humans change too. 1 Like |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 6:02pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
PlanktonX:Mariage is an agreement between a man and a woman, meaning the agreement ought to define the love between the couple — it is not meant to be left blank as most people do. 2. You actually think love is only for oyinbos? 3. We don dey see the value of the weight wey those things carry naw... na the result we dey see for today so. |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by xristos(m): 6:05pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
FavouredNK:pardon me ..the scriptures u quoted are for entire believers not addressing marriage. well..people have many interpretations on the idea and try to shy away from the truth. it is what it is.. Read Paul's 1Cor7:8 down to 26.. verse 9 gives the truth...what a reason to get married Same as when God made woman for the man. like i said..all other things follow this main reason..which is fine. .reason why marriages fail is when one partner begins to fail to perform his/er marital obligation (not sex only)..due to different sentimental reasons. |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by xristos(m): 6:12pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee:i wasnt even talkin abt procreation..tho it is enshrined in the aim. how do we multiply if we dont procreate. Fulfilling flesh desires legally n morally(without guilt) which Will lead to procreation is the aim. |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by FavouredNK: 6:17pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee: We do not need your validation to ascertain if our marriage is successful, enjoyable or blissful. It's us and only us in that marriage, built to our taste and our choice and it has been working beautifully for us for over 23 years now. I am not in any law court with you or anyone else for me to present my hubby as a witness for you to believe in whether what I said is true or not . It is what it is and you either believe me or believe what you like it's a free world. We are all entitled to our opinions when it comes to matters of the heart and no one can force another to think and act like the other. Whatever works for you go with it and leave me with mine as I owe you no clarifications. 1 Like |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by phemmyfour: 6:21pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Memphitz357:the bolded |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by FavouredNK: 6:36pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
xristos: Why then should we base it on sex and procreation alone.Moreso all of us must not be completely selfish and backwards, if we must adhere to a total obedience to the word of God concerning marriage, same Paul you so love his admonition about sex in marriage in 1cor 7 also talks so much about marriage in Eph. 5: 25-33 yet you still don't see the importance of love, affection and care in marriage. You choosed to concern urself so much with sex in marriage throwing away love and still avoiding my question " if it's possible to conveniently enjoy sex with someone you don't love or bond with? 1 Like |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by FavouredNK: 6:45pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee: This your response has also gone a long way in revealing how much of parental love you lacked in growing up hence you so demean the value of love in life generally. Love is something that infuses in you when you are the midst of it and reflects in you anywhere you find urself even without you knowing it. This is why it's very important for parents to create an atmosphere of love in their marriage to avoid raising toxic children who becomes a trait to the society and humanity. |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 7:25pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
xristos:1. There are other ways to multiply apart from procreating. Also, the same God who you claimed enshrined procreation instead said He created some Eunuchs from birth, made some Eunuch in this life, and allowed others to live as Eunuchs for the sake of His Kingdom - Matthew 19 vs 12. Clearly, God Himself doesn't agree with your belief that procreation is enshrined in marriage. 2. You can do whatever you want with your fleshly desires, but don't pretend that it has to do with God abeg! In Luke 20 vs 34 -36, following what God decreed in Genesis 3 vs 16, Jesus Christ made clear that your marriages are of this world and not of the Kingdom of God. |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 7:27pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
FavouredNK:1. I am not giving you validation. You told a story and I simply acknowledged receipt of your side of the tale! However, I look forward to also hearing from the other person in the partnership to conclude on the truth of your claim. That's all! 2. Na you tell story! |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Moniya4Real(m): 7:28pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
GeneralPula:Hhhm! I really appreciate your swift and highly invaluable response to my case bro..God bless you immensely 1 Like |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Moniya4Real(m): 7:29pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Doyou2019:Lol, was wondering how you got to know I am from Ibadan and then….. remembered my monika says it All� 1 Like |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 7:31pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
FavouredNK:1. So, in your assessment, children raised with what you claim is much parental love can not have different measures for love at all? They are like robots who can no longer think outside of the box because of how much parental love they supposedly received growing up. 2. What you continue to describe are nothing but fantastical ideas of love — typically born of brain chemicals — and with no real substance to them. If I asked you to write down a list of things people who love would typically do, I bet you would come up with a kindergarten list of ideas as a result. |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Moniya4Real(m): 7:31pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
xristos: -Thanks bro, as much as your advice appear seemingly hilarious…. I utterly concur with you.. my marriage was a sexless one . Thanks so much 2 Likes |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Backpedal: 7:32pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
infogenius: This is very common |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 7:35pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
xristos:Matching libido? There is no such thing as sex hormones in humans can never be synched up. So, when the sex hormones run out on his next partner, you will also advice him to find another to marry for the sake of sex, right? |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by IamMobisola(f): 7:44pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Tunagee:I guess you were under the rocks when the police said when they questioned the children they gave accounts of how their father used to beat her up and also how on one account he had told the kids to also join hands in beating her. |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by xristos(m): 7:50pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee:kai i salute u bros..ure one of the most controversially complicated persons existing 1 Like |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by MissJoy29(f): 7:58pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
vickydevoka:I don't understand how "MANY MARRIAGES" mean "many women". So na only woman dey dey inside marriage? You just want to turn this into female bashing conversation & you want me, a female to join you? Nah! |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by prophetfire: 8:03pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
FavouredNK:Right |
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