pendo89:

Self appreciation starts the moment you realise you are a very unique person.You are not a duplicate copy so use your strengths to the best of your advantage.
Some brainless beauties have made it in the modelling career cz they realised that they can never achieve using their brains.
Their bodies propelled them forward. That is a strength. if they hd allowed people to keep reminding them of how dumb they are they would never have made it.
Some millionares knew that looks are better of in the museum,so they put their brains to use.
Humans have this trait of focusing and talking about your achievements when you excel in a particular field.  Physical appearances don't matter anymore.
eg.mother Theresa,Oprah,Trump,Gates,Branson (ok this one has a hot look ),Naomi and many more.

Nobody can claim they are lacking. You only need to identify your strengths and use them to bring change not only into your life but others as well.
We fail when we waste 3/4 of our lives trying to ape other people.
Focus inward first then everything will manifest outwards later.

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Mr, Cork:

Nayah. sweery can i come to france next week and marrry you?

Now Nayah,can we start working this out? Paris is great.I already have ideas. I will do the flower arrangement

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hey @pendo, I really appreciate your intelectual versatility,no doubt u are a very strong woman,mentally.
your Pastor/Teacher must b very proud of u.
keep it coming, you are building a fan base already.

Long One:

Wow, what a happy Nairaland family. Seun will be proud.

To me, all this is more of blab, blab, blab and more blab.

Long One. bro are you homeless? (no oofeinse)

Arkhin:

@Nayah, a brother just proposed,still waiting for your reply.
@pendo, how about that your office stalker?How did it play out?

Mr, Cork:

Long One. bro are you homeless? (no oofeinse)

Mrs.Chima:

Nayah have spoken on beauty and self confidence few posts ago.  

Beauty is relative in my opinion and it has many definition and adjectives to each individuals.  The standard of beauty in this world is blonde hair, pale skin, and blue eyes.  There are white girls trying to look like black girls, black girls trying to look like white girls. Asian girls trying to look white, and Hispanic trying to look like black girls.  You have too many "grass is greener" on the side mentality in today's society.  

Media and Men play a great part in women's self esteem and perception of what they feel is beauty.  Men often time complain that women spend too much time beautifying themselves not knowing they have and are subliminally pressured the girls to look like the next Halle Berry or Heidi Klum.  

A father or a positive male role model is crucial in a young girl's life.  He shapes how she will view men and she will typically pick men base on the type of men she reared up with.  There is a saying, "A woman will choose a man just like her father" and fathers and future fathers need to be mindful of how they treat their wives, mothers, sisters, and women in general because the girl will grow up thinking that how she should be treated.  

pendo89:

I very much love that. But the male must be a model to be emulated. Some Dads lol.
And some gals can have great male models but still chose to be rebellious cz of peer pressure.There's some fun in being rebellious. I also tried that as a teen.

There's an age when you want to be like the celeb you see on TV. I once had a crush on Byran Adams. _{I still do}
I wanted to be like Tyra as well. Then I wanted to be like Angelina Jolie.
Its all hormonal I guess and its allowed.But see as you mature you reach a stable age and all these fantasies change.
I have a problem with mature ladies who have self esteem issues.Teenager I wouldn't mind so much cz I will blame the hormones.
But anybody above 20 must come to some realisation.Understand that fantasy is far from reality.
If you value yourself you will not allow the media to shape or influence your decisions or life.

Mynd_44:

Next thing we know y'all will start burning Bras on NL

Mr, Cork:

Gendo