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Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by Imjustagirl(f): 2:36pm On Feb 21, 2023
rickpat:
africans and their foolishness...western world that everybody goes by their first name have they died...if I were you,that friendship ends tonight...calling people their name is not disrespectful,it's their name ain't it?

be careful though,cus one day he will tell you to call the wife "aunty"(you know say Aunty get two meanings for naija)

USE YOUR TONGUE COUNT YOUR TEETH,THE WORST Thing WHEN FIT HAPPEN TO A MAN "NA SEE FINISH"...bounce before him and him wife see you finish bro

goodluck

Even in western world, you can't call someone by their first name without their permission. Either you use Mr, Miss, Mrs

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Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by tommy589(m): 2:37pm On Feb 21, 2023
WackyJ1:
Is it a crime to call the Wife of your friend by her first name?

I've known this guy since 2018. He met his wife in 2020.

They've done traditional wedding.

I once followed this guy to law faculty of our school during our Masters program and spent 6 hours typing the project of his then ex.

The same ex ended up blaming him for her misfortune.

I'm the best man for his white wedding tomorrow.

Yet, he's warning me for calling his wife her first name in the same sentence where I also referred to my girlfriend by her own first name.

He claims I was wrong and he has refused to apologise.

I need this one the front page.

Was I wrong?

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https://www.nairaland.com/7563621/it-wrong-call-friends-wife/2#120932806

Listen to @rickpat
And I think it's better you bounce

We have individual differences I grow up to see my parents calling each by their names. I relate same with the women in my life but my last wife detest me calling her by her name so I respect her wish

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Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by Sixfeetbelle: 2:48pm On Feb 21, 2023
Imjustagirl:



You're very wrong. She's not your childhood friend neither is she your sis. It's very disrespectful to your friend and her. Even if you're older than both of them.

Call her madam or Mrs. You are not the one marrying her. You can't be so familiar

It's not about the familiarity, or right and wrong or any of that, but about the friend's wishes. Some other friend may be okay with it, but since this one isn't, he should accord him the respect he wants.
Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by uche393: 2:50pm On Feb 21, 2023
I will call her by her name, but if she has a child I will call mama+her child's name.

Na see finish dey cause such kind of mis-yarnings

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Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by lawdrigo: 2:52pm On Feb 21, 2023
My guy, in as much as african traditions and norms are applicable you have no right to call any married Lady by her name..Even if she's your younger sisters, you have no right because her status quo has change, you have to show both the man and the woman respect..
But it's not bad to call your guy by his name, but when it's come to husband and wife related issues it must be handled with great respect..

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Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by sissyevy(m): 2:54pm On Feb 21, 2023
[quote author=Iceberg3 post=121100975][/quote]
Ode
Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by Streetmovement(m): 2:55pm On Feb 21, 2023
Wotoporiously cool speaking

I think he's pissed off about something and taking it out on you, if na me being that we are that close I for just answer am with "okay" then after the wedding keep my distance but no bad blood intended.

This things happen bruv, you gotta be wise how you deal with situations like this.. cool

Note; you're not wrong by calling her by her name cuz truth be told that's her name, but if he says otherwise you can just let it slide.

But truth be told I find this very odd, that your friend sha. Hmmm

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Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by greypencils: 2:57pm On Feb 21, 2023
As person wey I be, I don't trust anybody. You don't even have any business coming to my home. That's my sanctuary and no 'friend' is allowed to disturb me there. You need me? You know where I work. We get groove, you know the way to the club. So most def, you have no business relating with my wife not to talkless of adressing her by her first name. Na me you know, let it end there.

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Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by Zedoo(m): 2:59pm On Feb 21, 2023
E still no go raise voice when those he perceives to be superiors call her by her name.
If you must make a rule, it must cover everyone OTHERWISE his message is loud and clear...You are “below” him.

Untether yourself.
Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by We4all: 3:02pm On Feb 21, 2023
0monnak0da:

Already you talk foolishly
Twice in such a short remark
More African than me? Based on what?
You address people by their first name if they don't like it don't come close?More foolish talk
Come close for what? Who the help are you? Emefiele?

In such a short remark you condense do much conceit and foolishness.


Rants of a lunatic! Tried so hard to understand the gibberish you spewed and couldn't grab a thing. You are worse than the naira re-design.
Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by ibkayee(f): 3:21pm On Feb 21, 2023
ShaqFu:
you speak as if you're not a Nigerian. Lol
Lol I’m sure out of the many characteristics peculiar to Nigerians, there are some you don’t possess
Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by zedegit: 3:26pm On Feb 21, 2023
WackyJ1:
Is it a crime to call the Wife of your friend by her first name?

I've known this guy since 2018. He met his wife in 2020.

They've done traditional wedding.

I once followed this guy to law faculty of our school during our Masters program and spent 6 hours typing the project of his then ex.

The same ex ended up blaming him for her misfortune.

I'm the best man for his white wedding tomorrow.

Yet, he's warning me for calling his wife her first name in the same sentence where I also referred to my girlfriend by her own first name.

He claims I was wrong and he has refused to apologise.

I need this one the front page.

Was I wrong?

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https://www.nairaland.com/7563621/it-wrong-call-friends-wife/2#120932806

That's African mentality.

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Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by zedegit: 3:29pm On Feb 21, 2023
Mille:
Yes, you're wrong. It's totally out of place. He has corrected you so see to it that you make adjustments.

And I think you also have an ego problem. Because if not, what the Bleep is I've known this guy since 2018. He met his wife in 2020 .

it is disrespectful

It's not ego. He's trying to tell you the level of friendship they have and years they've bonded together.

Must you read meaning into everything?

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Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by Banter1(m): 3:32pm On Feb 21, 2023
WackyJ1:
Is it a crime to call the Wife of your friend by her first name?

I've known this guy since 2018. He met his wife in 2020.

They've done traditional wedding.

I once followed this guy to law faculty of our school during our Masters program and spent 6 hours typing the project of his then ex.
The same ex ended up blaming him for her misfortune.

I'm the best man for his white wedding tomorrow.

Yet, he's warning me for calling his wife her first name in the same sentence where I also referred to my girlfriend by her own first name.

He claims I was wrong and he has refused to apologise.

I need this one the front page.

Was I wrong?

MORE DETAILS
https://www.nairaland.com/7563621/it-wrong-call-friends-wife/2#120932806
Just call her by the husband name. Call her Mrs Daniel or whatever her husband name is.

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Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by mukthar2000(m): 3:41pm On Feb 21, 2023
Op respect that woman Or you call her by her baby name no matter friendly u are to the couples .
Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by Burgerlomo: 3:47pm On Feb 21, 2023
Of course yes, there's nothing wrong in doing that as long as she can also call you by your first name because respect they say is reciprocal.

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Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by DollarSigns(m): 3:51pm On Feb 21, 2023
WackyJ1:
Is it a crime to call the Wife of your friend by her first name?

I've known this guy since 2018. He met his wife in 2020.

They've done traditional wedding.

I once followed this guy to law faculty of our school during our Masters program and spent 6 hours typing the project of his then ex.

The same ex ended up blaming him for her misfortune.

I'm the best man for his white wedding tomorrow.

Yet, he's warning me for calling his wife her first name in the same sentence where I also referred to my girlfriend by her own first name.

He claims I was wrong and he has refused to apologise.

I need this one the front page.

Was I wrong?

MORE DETAILS
https://www.nairaland.com/7563621/it-wrong-call-friends-wife/2#120932806

Your friend is a pvssy ass niggar
A SIMP
Calling his wife by first name shows familiarity and it’s okay
Shun him after his marriage, should next he say you’re the originator of his impending woes
Because with that pattern he’s a non repentant simp heading for premium woes😂
Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by scobaba: 3:59pm On Feb 21, 2023
That guy na Ur friend or Ur helper.

Cos he sounds like he feeds u.
Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by baba4thegehs: 4:03pm On Feb 21, 2023
This thing always seems right to you until you role play or someone does it to you.

My elder sis told me same when I address her husband by his name. I took her feedback jejely,

"Your husband" "Your wifey" etc for peace to rain, no stress yourself respect your friend and don't listen to those people telling you to walk away from that relationship.

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Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by Iceberg3: 4:06pm On Feb 21, 2023
sissyevy:

sissy Ode grin
Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by sharone21(f): 4:09pm On Feb 21, 2023
sisisioge:
E show say na locale him be....better start calling her Iyawo or madam or Mrs. Locale. When them see front commot naija go obodo oyinbo where children dey call person wey fit be their mama by name, their head go correct. Until then, humour them and move go front, they aren't really your friends.

Meanwhile, na wa for you too o, you sabi do useless friendship sha. Typing person gf project for 6hrs🤭🤭🤭

Obodo too far.... Ordinary Cameroon for backyard, u are called your name by way younger folks.... If u are too respected, u hear Mum...Mami boy.....Madame....But get used to being called your name... Small child can call his grand father's age: Uncle without proper greeting first.

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Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by sharone21(f): 4:11pm On Feb 21, 2023
Imjustagirl:


Even in western world, you can't call someone by their first name without their permission. Either you use Mr, Miss, Mrs

In USA, your first name.... And with 'Hi'.

Even when you are in your 60s and 70s working with them or as a neighbor.
Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by bukatyne(f): 4:51pm On Feb 21, 2023
Ramanto:
My best friend calls my wife by name, but something inside of me is not cool with but I won't make a fight of that

Why?
Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by ShaqFu: 5:01pm On Feb 21, 2023
ibkayee:

Lol I’m sure out of the many characteristics peculiar to Nigerians, there are some you don’t possess
Alas, like having a one on one with you right. wink I heard that. 😁😁😁

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Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by kennethesan(m): 5:08pm On Feb 21, 2023
It is wrong, it will breed undue relationship. Address her as Mrs or Mummy bla bla...
Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by BarrElChapo(m): 5:12pm On Feb 21, 2023
WackyJ1:
Is it a crime to call the Wife of your friend by her first name?

I've known this guy since 2018. He met his wife in 2020.

They've done traditional wedding.

I once followed this guy to law faculty of our school during our Masters program and spent 6 hours typing the project of his then ex.

The same ex ended up blaming him for her misfortune.

I'm the best man for his white wedding tomorrow.

Yet, he's warning me for calling his wife her first name in the same sentence where I also referred to my girlfriend by her own first name.

He claims I was wrong and he has refused to apologise.

I need this one the front page.

Was I wrong?

MORE DETAILS
https://www.nairaland.com/7563621/it-wrong-call-friends-wife/2#120932806

The guy is silly, she can refer to you by your name but you can return the favor. Yeye dey smell
Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by Gohs: 5:19pm On Feb 21, 2023
Let's go out massively to vote Peter Obi for President this Saturday. . .

Then we can have fun-filled wedding ceremonies!

We will take back Naija this weekend. . . To make it great once more cheesy

Vote Labour Party (LP)!

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Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by aydgov: 5:23pm On Feb 21, 2023
Culturally in Yoruba land is scrupulously wrong. In other tribal land it might not, so preferably address her by her children name or any other usual pet title you know.
Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by DonroxyII: 7:15pm On Feb 21, 2023
hifocus:


That's archaic. I'm Yoruba FYI.
We all can't see life from same lens !
Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by OwnMyself: 7:22pm On Feb 21, 2023
WackyJ1:
Is it a crime to call the Wife of your friend by her first name?

I've known this guy since 2018. He met his wife in 2020.

They've done traditional wedding.

I once followed this guy to law faculty of our school during our Masters program and spent 6 hours typing the project of his then ex.

The same ex ended up blaming him for her misfortune.

I'm the best man for his white wedding tomorrow.

Yet, he's warning me for calling his wife her first name in the same sentence where I also referred to my girlfriend by her own first name.

He claims I was wrong and he has refused to apologise.

I need this one the front page.

Was I wrong?

MORE DETAILS
https://www.nairaland.com/7563621/it-wrong-call-friends-wife/2#120932806

This is nothing but see finish.. I read the part you wrote you borrowed him money..

He's nothing but a simpleton. if I were you I'll cut every ties with him, delete him everywhere, wnt even best him ...
I hate men wey no get sense

If not for the money you've borrowed him just try as much as possible to distance yourself from him after the so-called marriage of his.
Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by goodmike7: 7:52pm On Feb 21, 2023
bukatyne:


Ha!

It is clear where the problem is now. Your pride would not let you admit you did something wrong nor let you understand people's boundaries.

Your friend is better off without you.

Did you read to understand or join bandwagon?
He is friends with both of them years before his friend decided to marry her.
Secondly, he did not call her in a disrespecful way, it was a sentence that even included the name of his girlfriend..I persoanlly wont take it as an offence..
secondly, it wasnt even in the presence of his friend's wife it was in a message..come on.
I am very sure he wont address her by her name when they are all chilling or together.
My question to you is, if it was his friend's wife who called him by first name, would he warn his wife?

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Re: Is it Wrong to Call Your Friend's Wife by her first name? by Cromagnon: 7:54pm On Feb 21, 2023
WackyJ1:



I see.

You're one of those.

Like I asked him.

Is it "My Wife" that will appear on the Marriage certificate, the school certificate, the court documents?

I did not call the girl's name in a disrespectful way.
wait till you're married and they call your wife by her name. This is Africa not America

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