100fix:


Thank God you you’re convicted of it now.

We are not speaking about the man, neither do we have any way to tell him.

even out at the expense of your own soul.
It’s an individual race.
Shalom

Saintmary:




Convicted of what exactly, that you are a woman-hating psycho that is hiding under Christianity to perpetuate your hatred of women using religion.



You will receive God's just punishment for mislead the Lord's flock.

Zupay:
My cousin's son has been a source of disturbance to me for the past 2 weeks.

The background story.

My cousin got pregnant with him when she was 19 but the father who then in his mid 20s denied the pregnancy in the presence of both families and went on to claim the reason he gave her money to procure an abortion was because he was only one of the guys sleeping with my cousin at the time (which was a blatant lie) and it was his own contribution.

My Uncle and Aunt (my cousin's parents) had to accept the guy's denial and solely took care of my cousin's pregnancy. Her son was born in 2007 and bears my Uncle's name, he was taken care of by his grandparents, uncles and aunts as his mother went back to school and graduated. My cousin got a better paying job in 2015 and moved out of their family house with her son, who is presently in S.S.2.

The biological father resurfaced sometime last year in May, starting to make claims and all. He went directly to the boy's school to introduce himself and starting meeting the boy, buying him things without my cousin's knowledge until the man showed up at my uncle's house with some of his relatives but my uncle didn't receive them.

The boy was becoming rude to his mother, talking back at her, telling her he would push for a change in his surname to that of his biological father, became cold to his grandparents etc To cut long story, he moved to his father's house in August of last year and resumed school from there. My cousin (his mother) was seriously sick in October of last year, this boy never bothered to call on his mother despite knowing of her illness and he has a phone he uses freely.

My cousin (his mother) relocated to the UK early this January, on a skilled worker visa as she works in a children' home and have made up her mind to refocus on getting married and having other kids. Her son has been calling her, which she has never picked also sending her long stories of how his father's wife have been maltreating him even in the presence of his father and the father would say nothing. Pleading with the mother to bring him over to the UK to live with her (her visa allows her to bring her son to the UK easily since he is under 18) but my cousin have not been replying him and this boy has been disturbing me to talk his mother on his behalf as I am very close to my cousin.

I have spoken to my cousin severally and she insisted she has washed off her hands where her son is concerned, that she doesn't want him around her as she needs to live singly and have a relationship that would lead to marriage, that she really wants to settle down.

I have told the boy to concentrate on finishing secondary school but he seems obsessed with wanting to relocate to the UK though my other cousin (his mother's younger brother) has confirmed that the boy is having it rough living with the father, his wife and other children.

I believe his mother has a right to have a new lease of life.

This boy is always messaging me asking for updates, I don't know what else to tell him!

The stupid boy left his mother cos of the gifts his so called father was using to entice him....now he's gotten wat he wants and he wants to get back...I see him suffering a lot but I see his mother taking him back when she eventually settles down with someone and started a family...he will later be named THE PRODIGAL SON...This I have seen!

Mokason288:

Please can I have your cousin sisters contact

I’m seriously searching for a wife

100fix:


Shalom

Paracetamol01:
ASUU strike will frustrate him..then he will learn his lesson

Mokason288:


I can feed you and your entire family comfortably

Emmani360:

Because you heard UK. Easy o

Karleb:
The boy is a kid and should be forgiven. He should definitely serve is punishment but eventually, forgiveness have to come in.

If she doesn't, the kid might end up disowning her too.

That's when she'll understand first to do, e no dey pain.

OyeofIkoTuN:
Let the boy get-out...

Let his mom start her life again.. No time to check time.. There are orphans that are doing well in life..

Any pikin wey wan wayward we go wayward follow am

Mokason288:


You sound hungry and Ill mannered

spiralwedge:


The kid can return to his grannies nah, they raised him. Why does he want to go to the UK? He was bearing his granny’s surname for most of his life.
He is going to be the mum’s undoing if he goes there. The woman deserves to start afresh.

Cc:y

Karleb:


I hope she gets her new life. I also hope she wouldn't disturb grandpa like me in 20 years time on NL if the boy decides to disown her.

LilMissFavvy:
The mother supported the child from birth till 16yrs, let the father take over all responsibilities and needs of the boy. His mother has done enough.

Godson1996:
A similar story of mine. She should forgive him and reconsider. The boy was brainwashed by the useless father that has no manners. Same way my son was brainwashed by her mother.

Janesouthall:


No....I have not!!!

Kobojunkie:
The boy is 16/17, right? He made his choice to be with his father and she let him go. So why are you trying to carry his case on your head?

Mokason288:

The ladies In my area are not interested in having a serious relationship that should lead to marriage

Have you heard of Asaba gals

Klass99:
Zupay, first things first I like the simplicity and clarity of your post. Thank you for not rambling and getting straight to the point.

Secondly, I like your cousin to pieces already. She is a woman after my own heart and I love the choices she has made so far regarding her life and her son. Please DO NOT intervene for her son any longer or prevail on your cousin to change her mind.

Some children and adults need to learn that motherhood is not sainthood, neither is it martyrdom, where a woman is foolishly expected to die on top of nonsense and stupidity, in the name of motherhood or because of a child and a foolish one at that.

Kindly ask him to buzz off and quit bothering you. Is it by force to go to UK or reconcile with the mother? She doesn't want o! Like you said, she has a right to a fresh start and a new beginning in her life, without carrying along the same people who contributed to her past hurt and pain.

The male child is just overrated, look at what the son did and before that look at what another male child did (i.e. the boyfriend/father who denied the pregnancy only to return years later in a back-handed way)

Mindlog:


Yes, we can't discount the father being in the background of the desire to have him move to the UK. 🤣🤣🤣

I work here in the UK, in a company that recruits workforce from overseas and some of my colleagues who are single mothers who have no one to leave their child/children with back home in their home countries, had to arrive with their kids though it is better to come alone first, then after 2/3 months file for the child/children to come join them.

Mokason288:


Nnkita like you…. It easy to deduce that you’re a prostitute from your comment

Stay off my mention ASHAWO like you