Royalpriest9301:
it's like you don't know what women are capable of doing, one day God forbid you'll just got an information that the boy is dead, the father has used him or the stepmom has killed him, last last he is her first child, she should forgive him, put him in her parents place or family she can trust till he finish secondary school, then she can see what's next for him from there but thinking she want to abandon him for the dad, ibeg make she no try am

How does it count as abandonment? Does it mean, a father is not capable of loving, caring and protecting his own child?🤔

Mindlog:


But in this story na boyfriend/girlfriend tinz, they were never married. The boy's father went ahead to marry and have other children.

The woman has never been married, so nothing is holding her back.

Don’t try to rob God, you didn’t do it, you only cheated yourself.
Gods Word will apply on the day of Judgement and you can’t be insincere then, you’ll be sorry but now is the time to be sorry.

Don’t go ahead living in adultery. When the blood is just done flowing through the brain at the time of death, you’ll be sure you’re wrong, you’ll jerk but it’s too late. Times up! Condemned throughout eternity.
Don’t take chances now, better be sure.

undisputedKOC:
Your cousin is a very useless mother. Was it her son that told her to be a wayward useless community slut sleeping around with boys in the hood at her tender teenage years; or did the boy ask to be born by irresponsible parents?

I repeat your cousin is a very useless mother and that UK she thinks she can repackage herself to deceive another man to marry her immature slut self, she will never succeed. May she end up with UK drug addicts a d sex love-vendor traffickers that will show her shege as Karma for choosing to abandon and disown her son over her own irresponsibility.

Bastard Olosho wey dey disguise. May God reward the uncle that foot the bills to raise the boy. His future is surely bright and by the time he becomes a full grown successful man, he will reward everyone according to their deeds, especially that bastard mother

I talk am, say how Nairaland men go suddenly get sense. Was expecting to read this kind of senseless message.

undisputedKOC:
Your cousin is a very useless mother. Was it her son that told her to be a wayward useless community slut sleeping around with boys in the hood at her tender teenage years; or did the boy ask to be born by irresponsible parents?

I repeat your cousin is a very useless mother and that UK she thinks she can repackage herself to deceive another man to marry her immature slut self, she will never succeed. May she end up with UK drug addicts a d sex love-vendor traffickers that will show her shege as Karma for choosing to abandon and disown her son over her own irresponsibility.

Bastard Olosho wey dey disguise. May God reward the uncle that foot the bills to raise the boy. His future is surely bright and by the time he becomes a full grown successful man, he will reward everyone according to their deeds, especially that bastard mother

You no go die well, son of a thousand bastards

Na why hunger wan kill you, agboro wey dey campaign for sick old men

If you think say I go read or reply your useless mention, Na your wretched father you dey deceive

Bloody FOOL

DKM123:
Na wa ooo. What is happening to Nairaland men? I am reading the front page and actually seeing Awon red okpillas being FAIR to a Nigerian woman and even supporting her.

I can't even insult Nigerian men in peace
and in good conscience again. Smh.

Exactly my thought. So far, I have read few senseless post.

Mokason288:

Ask around Asaba gals no get joy/ job

Then go to another town. You dey ask for her contact because you don hear UK.

Zupay:
My cousin's son has been a source of disturbance to me for the past 2 weeks.

The background story.

My cousin got pregnant with him when she was 19 but the father who then in his mid 20s denied the pregnancy in the presence of both families and went on to claim the reason he gave her money to procure an abortion was because he was only one of the guys sleeping with my cousin at the time (which was a blatant lie) and it was his own contribution.

My Uncle and Aunt (my cousin's parents) had to accept the guy's denial and solely took care of my cousin's pregnancy. Her son was born in 2007 and bears my Uncle's name, he was taken care of by his grandparents, uncles and aunts as his mother went back to school and graduated. My cousin got a better paying job in 2015 and moved out of their family house with her son, who is presently in S.S.2.

The biological father resurfaced sometime last year in May, starting to make claims and all. He went directly to the boy's school to introduce himself and starting meeting the boy, buying him things without my cousin's knowledge until the man showed up at my uncle's house with some of his relatives but my uncle didn't receive them.

The boy was becoming rude to his mother, talking back at her, telling her he would push for a change in his surname to that of his biological father, became cold to his grandparents etc To cut long story, he moved to his father's house in August of last year and resumed school from there. My cousin (his mother) was seriously sick in October of last year, this boy never bothered to call on his mother despite knowing of her illness and he has a phone he uses freely.

My cousin (his mother) relocated to the UK early this January, on a skilled worker visa as she works in a children' home and have made up her mind to refocus on getting married and having other kids. Her son has been calling her, which she has never picked also sending her long stories of how his father's wife have been maltreating him even in the presence of his father and the father would say nothing. Pleading with the mother to bring him over to the UK to live with her (her visa allows her to bring her son to the UK easily since he is under 18) but my cousin have not been replying him and this boy has been disturbing me to talk his mother on his behalf as I am very close to my cousin.

I have spoken to my cousin severally and she insisted she has washed off her hands where her son is concerned, that she doesn't want him around her as she needs to live singly and have a relationship that would lead to marriage, that she really wants to settle down.

I have told the boy to concentrate on finishing secondary school but he seems obsessed with wanting to relocate to the UK though my other cousin (his mother's younger brother) has confirmed that the boy is having it rough living with the father, his wife and other children.

I believe his mother has a right to have a new lease of life.

This boy is always messaging me asking for updates, I don't know what else to tell him!

Very stupid boy! No matter what, why go back to a man who denied you even before you were born? He wasn't there in your infant stage, only to resurface years later to brainwash you, and he didn't even talk to his mum about it.

The mum made the best decision. Sons like that would not care for their mum when she needs them in the future. Any wicked woman such a man would marry as a wife, can easily put him under her armpit, and make him turn his back on his mum and other family members.

OP, better tell him as it is. So it's either he focuses on his life however it is now until he is able to live on his own.

At least, the heavens and humans can bear witness that, she didn't abandon him, he foolishly chose his father who denied him earlier over his mum, and maternal family that has been there for him all the while.

If he goes to the UK, it's his type that easily gets influenced by a gang group, they get into drugs, and what have you. He will just make your cousin die before her time.

So let him live with the consequences that comes with abandoning his mum, and Materna family members.

Once again, he is a very stupid boy!

She's done the right thing.
She and her family have looked after him till he is old enough.
Your cousin has put her life on hold enough, and I agree it's time for her to focus on herself.
It's also time for his father to look after him. He needs that male presence in his life, abi.
A man that denied your existence since you were born, will not rate you with his new family so no surprises there.
He should stay in his father's house, and allow his mother some breathing space
That boy will only become problematic for her if she should bring him over now as a child, and he can land her in jail. She won't be able to handle him.
When he's older, with more sense, he can look for a legitimate way to go abroad
When she's well s

Lesson learnt by your cousin son. But he is still her son let her give him a second chance but he should be in Nigeria with his uncle period.

CSTRR:

Which 16yr old will not be obsessed with going abroad if he has the chance?
And his mother is there.

Even 60yr old men are obsessed with going abroad.

Though if am to advice his uncle personally,just as u can read what most have stated.
The boy shouldn't be allowed to go abroad.

No....I have not!!!No....I have not!!!...

Mindlog:


Yes, we can't discount the father being in the background of the desire to have him move to the UK. 🤣🤣🤣

I work here in the UK, in a company that recruits workforce from overseas and some of my colleagues who are single mothers who have no one to leave their child/children with back home in their home countries, had to arrive with their kids though it is better to come alone first, then after 2/3 months file for the child/children to come join them.

Please what kind of workforce do you recruit? I'm educated and looking for opportunities in the UK 🇬🇧 biko

Can we talk?

Hockup specs

Mokason288:

The ladies In my area are not interested in having a serious relationship that should lead to marriage

Have you heard of Asaba gals

45% false and 55% true, WEEKEND ONE SIDE STORY.

Epinigirls:


Please what kind of workforce do you recruit? I'm educated and looking for opportunities in the UK 🇬🇧 biko

Can we talk?

I work within the field of Clinical Child Psychology, so recruitment is around that field.

Wahala 😄😂😂

Janesouthall:


Na wa ooo....so all you are interested in this story is the cousin contact....shey ladies don Finnish for ur area ni....

Mindlog:


I work within the field of Clinical Child Psychology, so recruitment is around that field.

Please, I am interested

Fake story

Maysdevices:
If she’s anything like me, I will sleep so soundly that night while I wait for you to do what I should’ve done to you when I pregnant so I can be finally free.

Haba mumcy , u will do nada

CSTRR:
A child is a child and an adult is adult.

We don't punish children with the hand of an adult.
Children are allowed to make mistakes without having it wreck their lives forever.

If that child is being maltreated in his father's house, leaving him there is unforgivable.

His mother is Abroad, let him communicate with his mother atleast, and with possible plans of relocation if he behaves better and finishes school well.

Unless his mother is ashamed of being a single mom, which I suspect.

It's okay to be ashamed of a child like this, he's just an opportunist trying to climb through his family to get the most comfortable place for himself.


If he dies today without knowing Christ, being above the age of consciousness, he will go straight to hell.



He's no longer a baby at 17.


With this kind of character, if calling police on his mother will help him qualify for scholarship funding, he will do it.


House chores nor dey kill person, as long as the family is checking on him occasionally, he should stay there.

CSTRR:

If your parents dealt with you very harshly based on your teenage mistakes, your life would have turned out very different.

Teenagers are teenagers for a reason.

And boys will be boys.

Nothing is wrong with him, as long as he has access to the same basic education that millions of children go through in Nigeria, nothing stops him from making a success of himself.

One sided story is always sweet

CSTRR:

He is a 16yr old.
He probably made those mistakes when he was even younger than that.

He does not deserve to suffer permanently because of childish foolishness.

How is he suffering though?
Is it suffering living with his own father?
Or it's until he lives in the UK before you can say he's not suffering?
His mother is a new immigrant still trying to settle in a new country. Probably still squatting with friends or family till she's able to save enough, get her own place and adjust to her new surrounding
It's not advisable to come with a dependent when you're not established yourself

100fix:

She got pregnant in the cause, you think there were no commitments?

The moment you and your partner sincerely exchange promises to marry. That’s as good as married in the sight of God.

Not the ceremony.

You can shrug it off but you only cheat yourself, not God.
You’re tied to that man. You know this.

But the man is not tied to her abi, your own version of God allows men to "remarry" but women must stay lonely because in your opinion, they are already married to a man who blatantly rejected them.



Please and please, I don't know your kind of evil, one sided, misogynistic doctrine that brings no peace to females.


The God I know is not the God you're trying to portray.


Avoid me please.

Mindlog:


But in this story na boyfriend/girlfriend tinz, they were never married. The boy's father went ahead to marry and have other children.

The woman has never been married, so nothing is holding her back.

Don't mind these evil false prophets.


If not that I got to know the Only True God, I would have hated Christianity not knowing that the Nigerian kind of Christianity is as erroneous as the Nigerian people themselves.

Saintmary:



But the man is not tied to her abi, your own version of God allows men to "remarry" but women must stay lonely because in your opinion, they are already married to a man who blatantly rejected them.



Please and please, I don't know your kind of evil, one sided, misogynistic doctrine that brings no peace to females.


The God I know is not the God you're trying to portray.


Avoid me please.

Thank God you you’re convicted of it now.

We are not speaking about the man, neither do we have any way to tell him.

even out at the expense of your own soul.
It’s an individual race.
Shalom

ElijahIme1992:
u never see children wey dey tension full community? E get some pikin wey u need feed am to shark self...

🤣🤣🤣🤣 You funny bros, reading the comment on the front page has changed my own view sef. The boy doesn't deserve second chance.

Useless boy. I am happy that the mom has singled this 'I am only with you for the good times only attitude'. You won't believe how many kids have this attitude. It's even more painful if that kid is yours. How to deal with that attitude before it get out of hand is what I am battling with right now.

Zupay:
Thank you all for your insights. I won't disturb my cousin anymore regarding him.

I will be firmer with him not disturbing me because he can't even dare communicate with any of his mother's siblings because he really made them look foolish when he was behaving as if his father was the wronged party and he is no longer welcomed in my uncle's home (his grandparents home) because it was to my uncle's hearing in one of the times he said he would change his surname, so they no longer feel comfortable having him around them though he has tried to apologize.

A leopard can't change its spot.
If you love your cousin do not allow that boy relocate to the UK. Before the dad will come in again and scatter everything final for your cousin.
Just imagine @bolded. Them never born that bastard for my family. Na that same day you go collect woto woto still vanish forever.

dopedealer:
This boy na prodigal Son o. .
I am angry with him for abandoning his Mum that raised him from cradle to SS2 in just a short period of time he knew his Dad ,which I assume he should be btw 15-17 years now . .

I like your cousin for not fighting back for the custody of the child and also focusing on her career and future.i am impressed by her level of progress and plan to leave once more, as a single lady so she can settle down @and get married in good time to start the very much deserved family she would prefer.

The father is already married to another woman with children so there is not point of expecting any reconciliation moves from him .. This Child is his, according to him now. So shuld therefore be his responsibility and bility alone.

@Op your Cousin tried , she even gave him a sound education .. He would soon be writing Jamb soon , I hope he secures admission into any of the Nigerian universities in the next 2 years.

ASUU strike will frustrate him..then he will learn his lesson