superCleanworks:


you want to do what?
was there any written and signed agreement concerning the frequency or regularisation of the visit of females?

23? you are a man now and if you can't stand your ground at this age then your landlady should be the least of your worries

If she wants you out then she should give you a legally signed quit notice and not you taking the decision which only amounts to self cheating.
if she is going to give you a refund then she needs to pay for more than the rent which the courts will decide. Please know your rights whether you are 23, 16 or 72.

I was 23 first time I dragged someone to court, that landlady is lucky.

EastAlchemist:


Stay that house
My landlady too warned me about friends and women because she has small children
I laugh
Na wetin local man need self
And till date only workmen dun see my house
And very occasional women she self know say she no fit complain for
Before you know guys go Boku like rice for your house
Na young man you be
Most of your potential friends no get freedom so them go turn you to friend because of that house not you
She has seen front already while sitting down
I advise you to stay even if it’s a year
The discipline will help you

Emmanuel30a:
D woman/landlady just sang u a song: "Bosita mafi tire kobami, jade sita; koto fi tire ko bami..." Ur purpose in LIFE isn't glucose, or isn't 2drinks/b drinking glucose;

Promotions:
The problem is the landlady needs a matured man or a decent young man as a tenant but op on the other hand is a young man trying to explore life.. best you get another apartment that approves of your life style cos such apartment will be no fun for you.

flokii:


It's breaking of bottle everyday na.. landlady go get tattoo and tribal mark by force.

seanwilliam:


You’re on point 100%. God bless u.

@ForG, Besides at that your age, I don’t think it’s that bad being policed by an elderly woman. Me and you know say na because of pussy exploration na why u go rent that house , take this from me, there’s no big deed there. Carrying girl or girls while you’re still finding your feet is you stabbing yourself on the back .

This is coming from a guy who’s fhucked nothing less down 100 girls in my career
You’re still young my brother , don’t take decision they’ll mar your future.





However , if you still insist on exploring , disguising with “ wanting privacy “ then next time don’t rent apartment where the landlord/landlady lives. Also dress and speak in a very mature manner ( no be by speaking grammar) but trust me the way you carry yourself is the way you’ll be addressed.
Be respectful , be ready to unlearn and relearn, don’t be too forward because you get small change for acct, trust me, na change. If you’re rich you’ll get your own house


This is Africa, kill that ‘woke’ mentality, it’ll do you no good.




And finally , try to create physical - offline business and attribute your money to it. You know why ? This is Nigeria , you still have to conform in some ways with society ‘standard ‘.


You can attack me that I’m a local bush man, trust me, I woke pass u

I wish you success brotherly

Shhh

wirinet:

Yes her house, her rules, but she has no right to determine what her tenants drinks, eats or who they fùck, that's an invasion of privacy.
If she is so jobless about pocknosing into other people's she should have written it in her tenancy agreement in black and white.

I once had a landlord in London in my 20s who after I paid rent insisted, I must not cook meat in his house, because he is a vegan, and cooking meat is a sin. He would come every weekend to inspect the house. Me that I love meat and chicken did not even bother to argue. I would cook meat as I liked. Whenever he comes, he would know, because he could smell cooked meat, even if you cooked it 5 days ago. He could then burn incense all over the house to drive away the evil spirit of the meat and the smell. After constant quarrel for 3 months, I decided to leave and get another apartment.



We are not talking about criminality here but morality. You cannot impose your morality on others just because they rent your house.

ForG:


In her actual words: "women will kill your destiny."

Nyanabo:


Her argument were based on morality and security. That's was why she also told the OP not to bring in alot of males friends because she wouldn't want people to constitute nuisance in her property.

Her being a landlady doesn't give her the right to decide what he eats, drink, or who they sleep with. But she has a right to say who should come into her property. Thats what's up.

Nyanabo:


Her argument were based on morality and security. That's was why she also told the OP not to bring in alot of males friends because she wouldn't want people to constitute nuisance in her property.

Her being a landlady doesn't give her the right to decide what he eats, drink, or who they sleep with. But she has a right to say who should come into her property. Thats what's up.

wirinet:

On morality, as I said, she has no right to determine someone else's morality. On security, she has to prove how bringing in his girlfriend(s) constitute security risk. How will bringing in a girl into his private room constitute nuisance to others outside?




It's not exactly her property once she decides to lease a part out to another person. It's no longer her property until the terms of the lease expires.
I have gotten an injunction before that preventedy landlady from stepping leg into her compound until after the determination of the case I instituted against her.
So quit that "it's her property and so she can do as she likes inside her tenant's house" nonsense.

Nyanabo:


NIGERIA has a different culture from other part of the world is all I can say.

9jagovernor:
Exactly what I'm facing In my newly rented apartment.
Although I've spent a month plus but this particular incident happened when I just spent about 2 weeks in the house.
I brought my gf to know where I'm now staying and as soon as we entered into the house, the landlady whispered but I ignored since she knows my name why not call me by my name.
The second day as my gf and I were going out she started ranting that I should not be bringing ladies into her house that her house is not a brothel.
I was like since I parked into this house how many girls or ladies as she seen with me? I kept quiet and let her say all her nonsense. I just told my gf let's go.
Thank God I only paid 6 month plus agreement... Cos I can't see myself staying in that kind of house for long.

ForG:
I moved into this apartment about two weeks ago. Mini flat, only myself, excellent neighbourhood; I'm constantly indoors and not social.

But the landlady has been a pest so far.

The property has three tenants, but only one has been there for over a year.
The renter I replaced still works for her today, but quit the house only after a year.

The longest-tenured tenant (five years, married man with kids) warned me about her before I moved in. That she meddled in the affairs of her tenants. He is also desperate to leave the house this year.

Under the pretext of protection, she herself told me that she routinely informs her tenants' families of every move they make.

Today, the camel's back broke.

A female acquaintance of mine recently stayed with me for some days.
The landlady took offence and informed me that she does not want any female visitors except a known girlfriend.

Before relocating, she had also said that she did not want much male visitors in order to avoid disruptive behaviour. Made sense to me security-wise.
Wasn't a problem since I don't have male friends.

The next day, I saw her and informed her that an animal was running in the roof, as well as other anomalies I had noticed in the apartment.
She said that it seemed I was dissatisfied with the home and that she would provide a full refund without delay.

I made certain to inquire whether the prohibition on female visitors was on security grounds, but she said that the residence was a Christian home where everyone must be family, notwithstanding the fact that the tenant before me was a muslim.

Today, my agent came on my door and informed me that the landlady had complained to him. We subsequently met with the landlady, who once again threatened a complete refund.
She continued by saying that I am too young to have female companions because they would destroy my life.

I'm 23.

This evening I took the decision to collect the refund, cut my losses on the agreement and commission, and look for a new flat in the vicinity.

I had only heard rumours, but I had no idea such toxic home owners exist. The husband of over 33 years is pretty laid-back and even made a joke about my bringing a female acquaintance around to my guarantor.

The wife on the other hand is hell's fury.

ForG:


I don't think one has any no right if they are being offered a full refund.



No written agreement.

Stand my ground at this age? Bro I've been the head of my family since 15. Every thing passes through me to get to them.

There's actually no documented quit notice, it's just word of mouth.

Brother, drag her to court? No need to burn bridges. She has already offered a full refund.

Not everything is fire and brimstone, some issues require diplomacy.

EastAlchemist:


Stay that house
My landlady too warned me about friends and women because she has small children
I laugh
Na wetin local man need self
And till date only workmen dun see my house
And very occasional women she self know say she no fit complain for
Before you know guys go Boku like rice for your house
Na young man you be
Most of your potential friends no get freedom so them go turn you to friend because of that house not you
She has seen front already while sitting down
I advise you to stay even if it’s a year
The discipline will help you

ForG:
I moved into this apartment about two weeks ago. Mini flat, only myself, excellent neighbourhood; I'm constantly indoors and not social.

But the landlady has been a pest so far.

The property has three tenants, but only one has been there for over a year.
The renter I replaced still works for her today, but quit the house only after a year.

The longest-tenured tenant (five years, married man with kids) warned me about her before I moved in. That she meddled in the affairs of her tenants. He is also desperate to leave the house this year.

Under the pretext of protection, she herself told me that she routinely informs her tenants' families of every move they make.

Today, the camel's back broke.

A female acquaintance of mine recently stayed with me for some days.
The landlady took offence and informed me that she does not want any female visitors except a known girlfriend.

Before relocating, she had also said that she did not want much male visitors in order to avoid disruptive behaviour. Made sense to me security-wise.
Wasn't a problem since I don't have male friends.

The next day, I saw her and informed her that an animal was running in the roof, as well as other anomalies I had noticed in the apartment.
She said that it seemed I was dissatisfied with the home and that she would provide a full refund without delay.

I made certain to inquire whether the prohibition on female visitors was on security grounds, but she said that the residence was a Christian home where everyone must be family, notwithstanding the fact that the tenant before me was a muslim.

Today, my agent came on my door and informed me that the landlady had complained to him. We subsequently met with the landlady, who once again threatened a complete refund.
She continued by saying that I am too young to have female companions because they would destroy my life.

I'm 23.

This evening I took the decision to collect the refund, cut my losses on the agreement and commission, and look for a new flat in the vicinity.

I had only heard rumours, but I had no idea such toxic home owners exist. The husband of over 33 years is pretty laid-back and even made a joke about my bringing a female acquaintance around to my guarantor.

The wife on the other hand is hell's fury.

Nyanabo:
You didn't tell us the agreement you had with her before she rented the apartment to you.

Because I know most landlords and landladies state it explicitly that boyfriends and girlfriends are not condone in their house.

Just saying though.

What's bad is bad

ForG:

You have a point sir.

ForG:


They say its a lizard. I think its too big for that.
It's also too quiet to be a rat.

Was thinking snake, monitor lizard.

bassdow:


when the Man is Docile, the WoMan is the Lion.

If I were you, I would insist on not just a full REFUND, but also the cost of reLocation. Abi no be money and stress you pass through transporting your belongings, cleaning the apartment, and arranging your thing. That's a lot of stress.

and if you want make wahala, just calm down collect the FULL ReFund firstly, then you wait for few days before bringing up the other costs.

That way, you have more levverage. they obviously saw you as naive.

I rented my first apartment while I was maybe 18. I'm soo calm you would think I couldn't hurt a fly. You need really push me for me to react.

Once again, 100% FULL REFUND (which just might be an empty threat) isn't enough.

Also if I were you, i would Leave that apartment judging by how desperate those before you are willing to move and the experiences of the others.

Just collect the REFUND firstly, wait a day or 2, ask them for the other expenses you accured.

if dem talk police station, help them lead the way. I have taken my landLord to court and won on 2 cases. Na fear dey make some people shy away. Though no try am with person wey get anyHow money sha.

Also very important, do you have your Agreement Form. if you weren't given, that even much better sef as that of the state takes over.

I no be lawyer but I sabi enough to not let you push me about anyHow

ForG:
I moved into this apartment about two weeks ago. Mini flat, only myself, excellent neighbourhood; I'm constantly indoors and not social.

But the landlady has been a pest so far.

The property has three tenants, but only one has been there for over a year.
The renter I replaced still works for her today, but quit the house only after a year.

The longest-tenured tenant (five years, married man with kids) warned me about her before I moved in. That she meddled in the affairs of her tenants. He is also desperate to leave the house this year.

Under the pretext of protection, she herself told me that she routinely informs her tenants' families of every move they make.

Today, the camel's back broke.

A female acquaintance of mine recently stayed with me for some days.
The landlady took offence and informed me that she does not want any female visitors except a known girlfriend.

Before relocating, she had also said that she did not want much male visitors in order to avoid disruptive behaviour. Made sense to me security-wise.
Wasn't a problem since I don't have male friends.

The next day, I saw her and informed her that an animal was running in the roof, as well as other anomalies I had noticed in the apartment.
She said that it seemed I was dissatisfied with the home and that she would provide a full refund without delay.

I made certain to inquire whether the prohibition on female visitors was on security grounds, but she said that the residence was a Christian home where everyone must be family, notwithstanding the fact that the tenant before me was a muslim.

Today, my agent came on my door and informed me that the landlady had complained to him. We subsequently met with the landlady, who once again threatened a complete refund.
She continued by saying that I am too young to have female companions because they would destroy my life.

I'm 23.

This evening I took the decision to collect the refund, cut my losses on the agreement and commission, and look for a new flat in the vicinity.

I had only heard rumours, but I had no idea such toxic home owners exist. The husband of over 33 years is pretty laid-back and even made a joke about my bringing a female acquaintance around to my guarantor.

The wife on the other hand is hell's fury.

9jagovernor:
Exactly what I'm facing In my newly rented apartment.
Although I've spent a month plus but this particular incident happened when I just spent about 2 weeks in the house.
I brought my gf to know where I'm now staying and as soon as we entered into the house, the landlady whispered but I ignored since she knows my name why not call me by my name.
The second day as my gf and I were going out she started ranting that I should not be bringing ladies into her house that her house is not a brothel.
I was like since I parked into this house how many girls or ladies as she seen with me? I kept quiet and let her say all her nonsense. I just told my gf let's go.
Thank God I only paid 6 month plus agreement... Cos I can't see myself staying in that kind of house for long.

ForG:
I moved into this apartment about two weeks ago. Mini flat, only myself, excellent neighbourhood; I'm constantly indoors and not social.

But the landlady has been a pest so far.

The property has three tenants, but only one has been there for over a year.
The renter I replaced still works for her today, but quit the house only after a year.

The longest-tenured tenant (five years, married man with kids) warned me about her before I moved in. That she meddled in the affairs of her tenants. He is also desperate to leave the house this year.

Under the pretext of protection, she herself told me that she routinely informs her tenants' families of every move they make.

Today, the camel's back broke.

A female acquaintance of mine recently stayed with me for some days.
The landlady took offence and informed me that she does not want any female visitors except a known girlfriend.

Before relocating, she had also said that she did not want much male visitors in order to avoid disruptive behaviour. Made sense to me security-wise.
Wasn't a problem since I don't have male friends.

The next day, I saw her and informed her that an animal was running in the roof, as well as other anomalies I had noticed in the apartment.
She said that it seemed I was dissatisfied with the home and that she would provide a full refund without delay.

I made certain to inquire whether the prohibition on female visitors was on security grounds, but she said that the residence was a Christian home where everyone must be family, notwithstanding the fact that the tenant before me was a muslim.

Today, my agent came on my door and informed me that the landlady had complained to him. We subsequently met with the landlady, who once again threatened a complete refund.
She continued by saying that I am too young to have female companions because they would destroy my life.

I'm 23.

This evening I took the decision to collect the refund, cut my losses on the agreement and commission, and look for a new flat in the vicinity.

I had only heard rumours, but I had no idea such toxic home owners exist. The husband of over 33 years is pretty laid-back and even made a joke about my bringing a female acquaintance around to my guarantor.

The wife on the other hand is hell's fury.

youngsahito:
Their are laws guiding house rent, you can't just sleep and wake up to make a stupid decision base on somebody privacy.
He be like say landlord never frustrate u b4 n I can tell that u haven't leave in a rented apartment b4.