t2luv1:


Even in America, nothing is 50:50 unless both of you use joint bank accounts (Something I will strongly advise against doing). In all my years of living in the USA whenever a woman makes more than her husband trust me on this one aspect Nigeria women are still better as compared to American women. They still tend to respect their husband, but American women forget about it she rules.

cococandy:

Mmmkay sweetheart

Kobojunkie:
I thought for a second he was being serious about advising African men to carry fewer burdens until I read the lines where he suggested they marry more wives in order to have more hands on deck as far as handling chores. I was like what the heck.... ROFLMAO

erico2k2:

MayB they should ru their own ship in Nigeria too ajjnd get used to it

t2luv1:


Even in America, nothing is 50:50 unless both of you use joint bank accounts (Something I will strongly advise against doing). In all my years of living in the USA whenever a woman makes more than her husband trust me on this one aspect Nigeria women are still better as compared to American women. They still tend to respect their husband, but American women forget about it she rules.

Kobojunkie:
Me too! We may even need a series of threads to explore it in-depth!

cococandy:
Yep their solutions never involve mutual respect for both parties.

godliman:
Nigerian women who copy European women will end up like them. Old haggard English women come for sex tourism in Gambia, they pay young Gambian gigolos to sleep with them. If you ask me I think that is how the story ends. An old hag traveling abroad where nobody knows her to pay her grand child for sex. It stinks. God bless our grannies who stay decades with their husbands.

shileowo:
can you feel like sleeping with 3 men a week without hurting youself

edoairways:

It is just a stereotype which shouldn't be generalized

wonder233:
The simple reason is that the UK, like most places in the west is a place of freedom and economic empowerment especially for females. This brings out the true nature of Nigerian females who have been married purely for economic reasons which originates from vacuous trado-religious beliefs.
So a lady who sees it as an anathema for a woman to earn money is suddenly in a clime where she earns her own money at par or even more than the man. She automatically disregards him and leaps to the new found freedom of sleeping around with different men, which has always been their true nature, but are forced to conceal with false modesty cos of the conservative Nigerian society

PDJT:
- Women giving wotowoto to all these Euro-wanabe African men.

- Marriage that is not Polygamy, is that one Marriage? Mtchew!

ZIMDRILL:


Every woman is shaped by her environment aka her society, if you do research you will find why those women are like that.

The women in every society act and behave according to their environment as an outersider its easy to pick negatives but the most important aspect of the puzzle is trying to understand the history behind such and circumstances which made them
who they are

For example why most nigerians girls about while why south african girls have kids even at young age

edoairways:
That is a big fat lie

1. In the past there were false prophets among God’s people. It is the same now. You will have some false teachers in your group. They will teach things that are wrong—ideas that will cause people to be lost. And they will teach in a way that will be hard for you to see that they are wrong. They will even refuse to follow the Master who bought their freedom. And so they will quickly destroy themselves.
2 Many people will follow them in the morally wrong things they do. And because of them, others will say bad things about the way of truth we follow.
3 These false teachers only want your money. So they will use you by telling you things that are not true. But the judgment against these false teachers has been ready for a long time. And they will not escape God who will destroy them. - 2 Peter 1 vs 1 - 3

madridguy:
It is too much freedom.

Well, to me I still blame the men in such position, I no go sell my property, borrow money for us to travel you come reach foreign land make you come say you no do again. E no possible. We must talk am very well before we comot for Naija.

bukatyne:


This is another interesting take.

I know that the Asians are doing well familywise and one of their unique qualities is 'they do not deviate from their culture and are a closely knit community'.

I would take a leap and also assume that Muslims don't have a spike in the divorce rates because they are 'same' everywhere. While there are different levels of devotion in Islam, there is no 'modern' version. No Muslim (no matter how rich or 'exposed') would tell you Homosexuality is 'ok' or hijab is wrong or disagree on the definition of decent/indecent dressing.

However, when you come to Christianity, there are levels of modernity that a true Christian would feel out of place and wonder if it is the same Bible we are referencing.

It is sad.

bukatyne:
■ This is another interesting take. I know that the Asians are doing well familywise and one of their unique qualities is 'they do not deviate from their culture and are a closely knit community'. I would take a leap and also assume that Muslims don't have a spike in divorce rates because they are 'same' everywhere. 1. Divorce rates among Muslims in Plateau state, as far back as the 80s was as high as 80% even. Divorce is not a big deal in Islam as it is a right. It is instead the Christian South that makes a big deal of divorce all while embracing adultery and every other ill.
■ While there are different levels of devotion in Islam, there is no 'modern' version. No Muslim (no matter how rich or 'exposed') would tell you Homosexuality is 'ok' or hijab is wrong or disagree on the definition of decent/indecent dressing. However, when you come to Christianity, there are levels of modernity that a true Christian would feel out of place and wonder if it is the same Bible we are referencing. It is sad.

Mindlog:
Were they truly "happily married" while still in Nigeria?

The Nigerian environment tends to subsidize a lot of unhealthy marriages and then tagged a "happy marriage".

A lot of things need unlearning but some are stuck in their ways... one said it was emasculating doing the dishes.😆😆😆

That reminds me of a draft dissertation of a Nigerian Psychology postgraduate student, I read and it was really insightful as it focused on the breakdown in marital relationships of some Nigerian migrants to the UK as the focus.

The project detailed how the UK system hits hard on Nigerian husbands who are so high on control and submission as the UK system deflates these. The researcher also brought up the demystication of income which counters many threads here that advocates a man should not let his wife know how much his income is but here in the UK, the wife knows it before it even reaches the man's account and the system forces the couples to be more open about their finances and they are forced to make joint decisions as it forces accountable leadership on husbands as against the lordship status, they "enjoyed" in Nigeria ....d person write many, many for the dissertation.😆😆😆😆

Akinbahm:


Good pm, do you still have the project soft copy... in case you do please help me forward to this gmail account cruiselord98@gmaildotcom

Kobojunkie:
2. What does this have to do with this topic abeg?

descarado:

What should they discuss?

Just get it right from the beginning. Characters encoded in the dna is hard, very hard to change. We often look the other way when the tale tell signs are everywhere during courtship.

How are you and family?

xynerise:

I still blame him for what is happening to him. Back in Nigeria, all they do is spend for today without plan for tomorrow. No investment, no properties. Just bring make we chop and clubbing every weekend.

bukatyne:
Read the post I quoted and this post and you would get it.

The state government of the Northern Nigerian State of Kano is on a mission to shed the image of its state being home the largest number of divorcees in Nigeria. On Sunday it hosted a mass wedding ceremony for 250 divorcees, widows, and young unmarried girls. Its aim was to encourage marriage, reduce the number of divorcees and widows in the community, and help those who can’t afford it. Divorce rates in northern Nigeria are among the highest in West Africa. Although there are no definitive figures, it’s believed that one in three marriages fail within three years.

https://www.aljazeera.com/features/2012/7/16/nigerias-kano-shakes-off-divorce-capital-tag

Kobojunkie:
The poster said nothing about divorce being related to people's dress sense. Again, divorce rates in the North have almost always been very high compared to the South where these things are not officially tracked.

The following is taken from an article written in 2012 on Aljazeera.
Divorce rates are high regardless of religion.

wonder233:
The simple reason is that the UK, like most places in the west is a place of freedom and economic empowerment especially for females. This brings out the true nature of Nigerian females who have been married purely for economic reasons which originates from vacuous trado-religious beliefs.
So a lady who sees it as an anathema for a woman to earn money is suddenly in a clime where she earns her own money at par or even more than the man. She automatically disregards him and leaps to the new found freedom of sleeping around with different men, which has always been their true nature, but are forced to conceal with false modesty cos of the conservative Nigerian society

LordAdam16:

Would love to read that.
Any idea on how I could access it?
-Lord

TyroneP:
One of many reasons is the fact that in a typical Nigerian family, the man shoulders more than 80% if not 100% financial responsibilities. The culture shock of adjusting to a situation in which both of them need to contribute immensely to the smooth running of the family could sometimes lead to domestic issues at home.

worried222:

I never knew nl women can be this intelligent (pun intended)
Yeah, you are very correct. Those woke christains are they ones that will shout divorce at the slightest provocation.