Roseey0:
My problem is not who I married but more of the institution itself.
Marriage is a whole whole lot of responsibility . Some days I just wish I held on to my initial conviction that marriage was not for me. I don't know why I listened to this man and eventually agreed to do it. I for just dey my dey. I feel its harder because we live apart and I get to handle everything all alone. Man just thinks all he needs to do is to provide , so he is basically pushing his dreams. Life is more than money o though money is a must.

We move still

kingsley103:
Never.

She insults my parents, disrespects me in front of my daughter. She takes advantage of the fact that I don’t beat a woman. I’ve tried to divorce her but she won’t go. She’s damn horrible.

Xpol:
😆 most of all these yes yes and yes no reach inside oh. Na cloth dey cover body wey we no know those wey krokro don finish their body. Some of all these yes people go still chop slap or insults from their spouse everyday or twice in a week

Noble4life:
I don't understand.... Why are you lamenting? Can you explain?

Goalnaldo:
where is your location let me come and keep your company?

Oracleee:



Baba if you marry late and know what you're doing, responsibility no dey end but you will easily find your way through it. Most responsibilities are financial. A pastor once told me some 5 years ago that marriage is what will make me good financially, I told him tarrrh na better investment as a single would. Most financially risk and investment responsible singles take the married ones can't. Imagine you having 20m as a single, if you know your onions and you're disciplined, you would turn it to 40m in a couple of months, as a married na to first slice am commot school fees, house keep, in-law welfare and other baggages involved in marriage.


Over and over again, I will always tell any single reading this to invest and make good money before marriage. And also invest in your education to a very reasonable length as marriage won't give the chance and you only build on what you have as a single. Apart, marriage as E stand no get late comer. Whatever you invest on can be modified and built on in marriage. But if vice versa, well God bless your soul.

Psoul:


I'm not telling you to believe me. At my age, I can't come online to start faking things just to get likes and comments.

Probably, you've bn in bad relationships for a very long period that you never believed that there are many out there in a very blissful relationship.

I came from a family where love and unity is Paramount. I grew up watching how my dad and mom were so much in love. They built and transfered the love in/to us that as it is today, in our family, 9 of us are all married, you can't stay 3 days without calling to check on other even when we chat daily on our family Whatsapp group both those in Nigeria and those in diaspora.

I was even married in my head when I was still in my father's house. I'll always tell myself that I will love to marry someone like my mom so that we can always play the way my dad and mom plays always.

So, if you are unfortunate to come from a home devoid of love, it's not my making.

They're many blissful homes out there. Mine is number one. My wife and my children are always example of how a good home should be both in my street and my church.

Even in my office, when I speak with my wife on phone, my colleagues that did not know my wife most times never believed that it was my wife I was on phone with. They will say that I'm flirting with another woman cos the way we talk like boyfriend and girlfriend. We freely express our feeling as raw as we want.

So, believe it or not, it will change nothing.

Skyview01:


I dey vacay with my family but he go still be like say i day home. Still watching after and running after dem even on vacation.

I paid for their vacation with my wife while i go solo for now. Like some sort of escape from reality for a short while.

Wife is meeting up with her school friend in Las Vegas in the fall and going to together with some of the kids.

They will also be going to California. She dey carry them go while i jejely go on my own solo vacation.

Nairalander248:


U dey craze ooh while some are regreting not marrying early, you are regreting marrying early

Skyview01:
Yes, but i would not have married at 27. I felt i did not have enough of my bachelorhood.
Rented my first house with my wife.

Rebelutionary:
Again and again without batting an eyelid abeg! If I travel back in time na she I go still look for abeg! Ah this woman is a blessing to me!

P.S: I think this thread is testament to the fact that there are working and happy marriages not all the gloom nd doom stories about marriages that only seem to abound out there!

bukatyne:
@ Topic: Yes.

The tragedy would have been not marrying him. Then that would have been my worst mistake in life.

Nice2023:
I would have married her earlier.

She has added so much value to me.

Irunmole:
No! I would not had married her. The biggest mistake and most regretful decision of my life. Secretive, insular, vengeful and unforgiving woman. No support of any kind. Never forthcoming with inputs and contributions on decisions on major projects that we needed to take as a couple , critical decisions that would take us and our family forward. Ended up being married but lonely and alone! Nothing but regret and despair.

djon78:


You see

You were listening to Christian Brothers

Mine I Saw the red flags
But like I was Bewitched

Even my brother warned me
Because I felt I have delayed so much
That whatever I see I take

Now I am regretting

Although we are still together
She is not really a bad person like that
But she can be stubborn and wants her ways

Just believing she will change
Although funnily I still love her Sha

I am more of trying to overlook some faults
Concentrate on her positive sides Sha

Honestly marriage no easy at all

Ishilove:

People don't create topics celebrating marriages. They rather enjoy it in peace and happiness. It is those who are having marital challenges that create posts highlighting those challenges to either get advice or to clear their heads.

Skyview01:


The more life experience you have the more better decisions you are able to make in a relationship and selecting a life partner. This is basic common sense which i presume should be obvious.

I don't have to argue with you. You can do whatever you want with your life and family and will never respond to you again.

Ishilove:

People don't create topics celebrating marriages. They rather enjoy it in peace and happiness. It is those who are having marital challenges that create posts highlighting those challenges to either get advice or to clear their heads.

Skyview01:


Your head dey there.
This was exactly my experience.
In-law responsibly come join.

abobote:

The kind of girls you talk to when you are broke, is different from the ones you meet when you are doing better

Myer:


Listen to married men and learn wisdom before jumping into conclusion.

He regrets marrying early, your line should be to know his reason.

Perhaps then you can know how to reason with him.

pappy4real:


Depressed by what?
In this hard economy, it's not like she's providing anything for herself or the kid?
I'm just fed up

pappy4real:


I tried this about a month ago and like I said earlier, she's so clueless she doesn't even know how n where to pack to. She was asking me to throw her things on the street

7arrows:


Never

Morizo:

Honestly I wont but God has given us the grace to succumb our predicament