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Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by Exmilitant(m): 3:10pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
abidem4real:see grammar! Work on your semantics before I can indulge you any sort of conversation. Bye SIMP!! |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by happney65: 3:14pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
I don't blame you. Walahi na the Man I blame How will I be killing myself over a single mother of two? How? When?Where? For what? Laiye.. Not even one?Two? When there are far better women that haven't dropped a child na woman wey don born pickin I go say I wan marry Who does that? |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by Tizu(m): 3:20pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
But you didn't tell us say the man don dey knack you 🤪🤪🤪🤪 |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by DissTroy(m): 3:21pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
If you don't find the person you're with physically attractive, you'd always seek out other people. But women grow to love men and might even stay loyal to him. A man, on the other hand, who doesn't find you physically attractive would never do so. He'd wake up to you in the morning and be pissed off. Men are very visual beings. It matters. 1 Like |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by TheUnsure: 3:22pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
Tizu: Maybe you are confusing me with your mum. |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by TheUnsure: 3:26pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
DissTroy: True, when the euphoria of being ‘married to a rich man’ settles, what next?? What’s the point of marrying someone you are not genuinely satisfied with? Because some people think you don’t have choices because you are a single mum, people who have their own issues they are dealing with too. |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by Abdul4trust1(m): 3:32pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
TheUnsure:a single mother still selective |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by uniquelyspecial(m): 3:32pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by Dancebreaker: 3:37pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
TheUnsure:Madam, the fact that you are asking this question means that it matters to you. Don't do it for pecuniary benefits. Can you be able to respect the senior wife after you give him a baby, especially a boy? Most women can't o. The current wife WILL eventually display some level of unease and fear, which can turn into resentment and possibly more. Has the man and wife tried IVF and truly everything else? How will your children cope? 1 Like |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by Samiking(m): 3:45pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
Your mind has already accepted, just that you want a little convinces cos from the way of things, you don't want to let go of him. Just follow your heart |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by Chienex24(m): 3:46pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
TheUnsure: In all honesty, and from the responses you have given to nairalanders above, I think you are more than capable of living alone and raising your kids all by yourself, because even after you married and sought of divorced/separated, you still seek an ideal man who from your description, will deserve a young attractive single lady he can connect with. Ist of all, I realized that instead of ignoring those who responded with banters and insults, you were ready to confront them and show how independent you are, which wasn't necessary. Secondly for you to be in your early 30's, you should know by now that physical attractiveness though important, is not a deal-breaker for relationships/marriage but rather character, compatibility, love and shared values which makes me doubt your level of maturity or growth a bit. Please no insults intended, I am just making observations and I may be wrong. Lastly, that your problem is the physical attribute of the man and not that he has a wife says a lot about you and may even mirror in why your previous marriage didn't work. Every marriage has its own challenges and bearing children might be their own challenge, but you thinking of jumping in as a solution reeks of selfishness & seeking after only your happiness at the expense of the wife. 1 Like |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by ukaface(f): 3:47pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
Hiaaaa |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by CrownedPhoenix: 3:51pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
TheUnsure: You will learn to ignore trolls and respond to those you feel have sensible contributions. |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by Ashawoman82: 3:57pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
TheUnsure:joke apart, he's very right... Face reality, no tall fine boy with money that have lot of young beautiful women at his disposal will settle for a 30+ single mum of two... No hard feelings, it's just fact... I'm really surprised that you have the leisure to be selective.. Seriously u should be grateful.. |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by UcheKingsley1: 4:01pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
Kemadealadire: Baby making machine (Women) Baby donating machine (Men) So I can call you a baby making machine or mobile manufacturing factory? |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by Hathor5(f): 4:08pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
He has a wife but your problem is his height. I see ... Is his first wife ok with you in the picture? 1 Like |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by TheUnsure: 4:15pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
Ashawoman82: Thanks for the disguised insults. Being a single mother is not the end of the world my dear, you only have as many choices as you give yourself. Yes I’m allowed to be selective, I know my worth and what I’m capable of. Save this speech for the ‘pickmeshas’. |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by Myer(m): 4:27pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
TheUnsure: I'm blessed to meet someone like you on NL. It's a special blessing to know who you are and to have standards. However, our standards must not be too superficial and must align with God's will. Concerning this man, only God can reveal if he's right for you. What I can perceive is, for him to be adamant on sex, he might just switch up on you after that. Royal families are a battlefield, you have to be spiritually strong in Christ to marry into one. Even a certain Olori who was spiritually strong couldn't handle it. My counsel is simple; Pros: -He is caring. -He loves you. -He is generous. Cons: -His height. Ironically God has a sense of humor with these things. The man's lineage needs your height.lol -Royal family- this could be a major con if he's idolatrous. But could be a Pro if he's Christian (Born-again and Spirit-filled.) -He's asking for sex before marriage a major no-no. I understand his fears due to the situation of his first wife but you can't disobey God to satisfy him. Pray about it and let God guide you. Seek counsel from your pastor but more importantly let God guide you. 1 Like |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by Aloof: 4:33pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
TheUnsure: As a mother of two, your chances of getting married to your dream Man in this our society is slim. You should know your priorities. As for me, i would rather remain single than to be with someone that I'm not attracted to, while some would choose to stay with who they are not attracted to than to be lonely, so i think it's about priority. Let your instincts lead you. |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by NOwazobia: 4:35pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
Religion = Opposite Statue = opposite Position = second wife So many red flags, but because of the properties, you are giving it a consideration. Your decision should tally with the potential happiness of your kids, not just for your selfish interest. I see future regret it you go on with it. |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by 2buffagain(m): 4:39pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
TheUnsure: Face your kids. You have to want it too. |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by ifeco4(m): 4:39pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
TheUnsure: Before i tell you my mind, you have to clarify me first. Why are you a single mother of 2? Is your husband late? Or did you show him pepper and dumped you? |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by Elsueno: 4:39pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
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Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by DissTroy(m): 4:51pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
TheUnsure: They get on Facebook or Instagram and stay online even by 12:00AM to chat up young good-looking or attractive men, and even send raunchy pictures of themselves unsolicited. Randomly complimenting the young men's looks even though they boldly have their husbands and kids pictures up. Some get away with it, some get caught and shamed. Fodder for Facebook and Instagram sex scandals we read daily. We've seen too many things, bro. There's a reason that young married woman is online by 11PM. You'd be shocked to find out what she's doing. |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by Sunkanni(m): 4:57pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
Exmilitant: You sure say you get sense… I guess you must be under age. She asked for advice not insult. Chai! |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by jattopeter(m): 5:28pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
quote author=Mountbatten post=124758724]So let me get this straight. • You are a single mother, with two kids who's over 30 years old. • A man who is rich, caring, generous and with the possibility of becoming a king in a few years is interested in you. • He's married, you're not keen on royal family ties, and he's too short for you. Why are you wasting time dealing with someone you clearly have no interest in? Did you post this to seek validation because I really don't understand the point of this post? If you're truly doing great financially then focus on your kids ffs! You seem shallow and you didn't give us a background as to how you ended up as a single mum with 2 kids. No man who is tall, rich, caring and generous will want anything to do with you as they have better options. Why would they even consider you? Men generally don't like raising other men's kids.[/quote] You are blessed, what will a guy of the attributes she mentioned now come for a woman that's a single mother of 2, has she asked her self this question? I don't want to sound pessimist, No young guy will like to marry a single mother, raising another person's child. It's funny to me though. |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by Youngpo413: 5:31pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
TheUnsure:follow your heart o, but all those tall guys who are your spec where are they now? |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by Ashawoman82: 5:58pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
TheUnsure:well, I understand, but you should simmer it a bit..try and target widowers or divorcee men though, don't come an tie one innocent young man down because he's your spec. |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by abidem4real: 6:03pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
Exmilitant:What happened to the grammar? Little wonder you have no sense. |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by TheUnsure: 6:06pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
Ashawoman82: Lol, you will be alright. |
Re: Are Physical Attributes So Important? by Ashawoman82: 6:07pm On Jul 30, 2023 |
TheUnsure:just dey play |
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