Persephone1:
The truth is Nigerian women aren't materialistic, Nigerian men are the ones given to Materialism. Here is a very good justification for this notion.

Op is with a lady who chose him irrespective of his financial ability unfortunately Op is not only insecure about his inability to provide material things rather he is also finding faults and attributing few humane reactions to his inability to Provide.

There's this question that has been left unanswered for years till date. It is "As a Nigerian man how do you handle a relationship with an independent lady?" .

Now we have a poster who wants to leave his understanding and not demanding girlfriend because can't buy her things And to top it he thinks he needs to pause the relationship and go hustle

Persephone1:
If the lady isn't giving Op issues or demanding anything then Op should work on his insecurity and enjoy his blessing.

If she is doing otherwise,he should let her go.

Persephone1:
If the lady isn't giving Op issues or demanding anything then Op should work on his insecurity and enjoy his blessing.

If she is doing otherwise,he should let her go.

Persephone1:
The truth is Nigerian women aren't materialistic, Nigerian men are the ones given to Materialism. Here is a very good justification for this notion.

Op is with a lady who chose him irrespective of his financial ability unfortunately Op is not only insecure about his inability to provide material things rather he is also finding faults and attributing few humane reactions to his inability to Provide.

There's this question that has been left unanswered for years till date. It is "As a Nigerian man how do you handle a relationship with an independent lady?" .

Now we have a poster who wants to leave his understanding and not demanding girlfriend because can't buy her things And to top it he thinks he needs to pause the relationship and go hustle

Persephone1:
If the lady isn't giving Op issues or demanding anything then Op should work on his insecurity and enjoy his blessing.

If she is doing otherwise,he should let her go.

izonborn098:
1. they not married..
2. He don't want to leave..
3. He is afraid the girl might leave him because they are not legally married..
4. And all men don't think like op..

1. Kindly explain how this is related to the issue at hand. I'm having some difficulty with that.

2. On the contrary he wants to hence the thread. His problem isn't making the decision but validation and how to go about it.

3. So he wants to destroy a beautiful thing out of fear?

4. Well if you are on about the generalization in my post, I adopt Nl style. By Nl standard all women are evil, materialistic and gold diggers. Please don't get choked on a taste of your own medicine.

brabie:
thank you so much I just needed to be sure am not making a wrong decision, if she wasn't a good person or if I haven't seen some firm qualities in her I wouldn't be here saying all this
Appreciate your advice thank you

brabie:
you're completely right on this, that's exactly how I feel. Hmm

Lol 😂 Ikr?
It's not your fault though, it's the society you live in. Please don't overthink it You will get there.

SmellingAnus:
nice advice...

Lol. It's the reasonable thing to say. I won't tell a man to go collect loan to please anyone nah

garriAndsugar:

chubby girls give the best advice

Not chubby

Persephone1:
1. Kindly explain how this is related to the issue at hand. I'm having some difficulty with that.

2. On the contrary he wants to hence the thread. His problem isn't making the decision but validation and how to go about it.

3. So he wants to destroy a beautiful thing out of fear?

4. Well if you are on about the generalization in my post, I adopt Nl style. By Nl standard all women are evil, materialistic and gold diggers. Please don't get choked on a taste of your own medicine.

brabie:
I've been thinking about it for a while now and I don't want to spoil it.
I've been dating my girlfriend for a couple of months now and everything is going fine she is a nice person, kind and cool.
But for me am not yet financially strong enough to do what a bf is suppose to be doing, she's not complaining but I can see it in some of her attitudes towards me, I was thinking of telling her I want us to cut it off, more like taking a break off all this love stuffs so I can really work on myself and start doing what am supposed to be doing as her bf.

I want to tell her that "I still love her and want her but I can't be with her like this anymore because it hurts me so much, that am not able to do stuffs for her, I know eventually she might start to see other guys, I don't want it to get to that so pls guys help me out

WHAT SHOULD I REALLY DO OR SAY TO HER

I still want to be with her but not in my current condition now

yrhuhfy113:
You knew you were not financially capable before you wasted her time.... YOU SLEPT WITH HER O,

now you are done using her and your eyes is clear.... YOU WANT TO QUIETLY LET HER GO.... so she will now become one of your FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS...


HUMAN NATURE is wicked.


THERE IS NO WAY YOU CAN DEFEND THIS.......... NO EVIDENCE.... you can not say, YOU JUST SUDDENLY REALIZED THAT YOU WERE NOT FINANCIALLY STRONG.


You can't eat your cake and have it

if you hurt her, things may go worse for you..... SHE WILL START DATING GUYS FOR MONEY AND CURSE YOU FROM HER HEART....


YOU CAN DECEIVE OTHERS but the truth is glaring.... YOU CHOP AM... you clean mouth.... NOW YOU ARE SAYING SOMETHING ELSE.

Fahvvy:


Hahhahahahah ...
OP!!!!! You just want to put yourself under unnecessary pressure ...

Please where exactly is it written that a man must do all the above for his girlfriend? Cause I must have missed the memo ...

I get the whole idea of wanting to do nice things for your babe and all, but OP if e no dey, e no dey, no go kill yourself for woman wey fit leave you even if you give am heaven and earth ...

And look at it this way, if she is already giving you attitude (aka disrespecting you) because of some fairy tale expectations, shouldn't that be a pointer of what could happen in future? ...

Do you really want to be with someone who respects you only on the basis of what you can give? Is that the kind of person you want to build your life with? ...

And besides, does she buy you stuff? ...
Take you out on dates? ...

I'm guessing the answer is NO! And guess what?! She prolly isn't even bothered about doing all these things, so why bother yourself? ...

Or you think because you don't have much now, it means she's doing you a favor by dating you? Lmao ...

OP...
As long as you're nice to her and giving her your best, that's all that matters, if she wants to go, LET HER GO!! ...

brabie:
I've been thinking about it for a while now and I don't want to spoil it.
I've been dating my girlfriend for a couple of months now and everything is going fine she is a nice person, kind and cool.
But for me am not yet financially strong enough to do what a bf is suppose to be doing, she's not complaining but I can see it in some of her attitudes towards me, I was thinking of telling her I want us to cut it off, more like taking a break off all this love stuffs so I can really work on myself and start doing what am supposed to be doing as her bf.

I want to tell her that "I still love her and want her but I can't be with her like this anymore because it hurts me so much, that am not able to do stuffs for her, I know eventually she might start to see other guys, I don't want it to get to that so pls guys help me out

WHAT SHOULD I REALLY DO OR SAY TO HER

I still want to be with her but not in my current condition now

brabie:
I've been thinking about it for a while now and I don't want to spoil it.
I've been dating my girlfriend for a couple of months now and everything is going fine she is a nice person, kind and cool.
But for me am not yet financially strong enough to do what a bf is suppose to be doing, she's not complaining but I can see it in some of her attitudes towards me, I was thinking of telling her I want us to cut it off, more like taking a break off all this love stuffs so I can really work on myself and start doing what am supposed to be doing as her bf.

I want to tell her that "I still love her and want her but I can't be with her like this anymore because it hurts me so much, that am not able to do stuffs for her, I know eventually she might start to see other guys, I don't want it to get to that so pls guys help me out

WHAT SHOULD I REALLY DO OR SAY TO HER

I still want to be with her but not in my current condition now

brabie:
I've been thinking about it for a while now and I don't want to spoil it.
I've been dating my girlfriend for a couple of months now and everything is going fine she is a nice person, kind and cool.
But for me am not yet financially strong enough to do what a bf is suppose to be doing, she's not complaining but I can see it in some of her attitudes towards me, I was thinking of telling her I want us to cut it off, more like taking a break off all this love stuffs so I can really work on myself and start doing what am supposed to be doing as her bf.

I want to tell her that "I still love her and want her but I can't be with her like this anymore because it hurts me so much, that am not able to do stuffs for her, I know eventually she might start to see other guys, I don't want it to get to that so pls guys help me out

WHAT SHOULD I REALLY DO OR SAY TO HER

I still want to be with her but not in my current condition now

brabie:
.
I want to tell her that "I still love her and want her but I can't be with her like this anymore because it hurts me so much, that am not able to do stuffs for her

Karleb:


You no get sense.

You are not her papa. Let her determine if you are not financially fit for her.

Worse is, she might end up with someone worse than you if you leave her.

talented321:
Brabie ...
Open up to her if u are too insecured but don't talk about breakup, if she want to stay she will and if she don't want to stay she will leave, it is choice...
You can also convince her to plan with u but nigerian girl can't be trusted...
My God bless hustle' my man....

AllBlack:


Your brain has come to SELF REALIZATION and is trying to save you from embarrassing situations but you are still thinking of love.
cutting her off will be the best thing you will do
it will pinch you but it is better than SEE FINISH.

brabie:
I'll put it into consideration will think about it thanks alot

brabie:
I didn't understand the "she might end up with someone worse than me" how?

Persephone1:
If the lady isn't giving Op issues or demanding anything then Op should work on his insecurity and enjoy his blessing.

If she is doing otherwise,he should let her go.

Gadafii:
Konji don clear your eyes, your brain don settle and decode reality😂🤣

This life sef, prickkk go put man for wahala, he go run go hide inside shorts, leaving the man to sort himself