Kobojunkie:
Stop blaming the women for adhering to what has been culturally passed down from your ancestors. The typical Nigerian man enters into marriage to serve as the sole winner and in exchange he gets the respect and submission of his Nigerian wife. The woman is basically expected to surrender her self-will and even her dreams to exist under the man and in exchange he takes over responsibility for all of her financial needs and that of the family that results from the union. That is what is Nigerian culture and tradition to this day. Ask the man next to you if you are not aware of this. So, stop blaming the women for staying on script.

zoghys:


How many years have you been married?. Anyway it an advice, you can either take it or leave it. Ire oo

TrainPark:
■ It is not Nigerian culture

TimT:

You that is married for long, and you don't trust and understand your wife, I don't think I want such marriage...
I'll be fine.. thanks

Kobojunkie:
Does your culture ensure you always have the money as the man to pay the bills, no matter the economic situation?

Nursepepeye:
it's a serious crime to allow woman to pay Rent you hear me. 99% of women will insult that man before 6months. And it will lead to that marriage collapse.

Kobojunkie:
Your story deserves its own thread, it seems.

Typically, if a man and woman dey share bills, they do so with an agreement they share other responsibilities as well— democracy. In a situation like that when one partner loses a job, that one takes on full home-making duties(including caring for kids) to take the stress from the one who has to bear paying bills until he/she is able to get back on the ground again.

TrainPark:
■ No woman EVER keeps to agreements...they NEVER DO.. their emotions controls them.

Vinnie2000:


*Light Bills
*Security Bills
*GOTV or DStv bills
*Children clothes, etc
Can be paid by the Woman.😏

But you see HOUSE RENTS and SCHOOL FEES, they are EXCLUSIVELY for Men.😒🙂

Just like MAINTENANCE OF OUR SECURITY FORCES is for FG
while State govts does things like payment of salaries, providing roads,etc. 🤔🙂

TrainPark:


Don't worry . E go clear well well

Boyooosa:


No mind am, him too just dey play
U see anywhere he write him reason

He go prefer make he go sleep under bridge with his family if he's broke instead of receiving support from his wife na

buzorcharles:


U will understand when u are married

chijokz:

Well said. I applaud your logical reasoning.

foolbuster:


Oga your woman should not pay your rent. You can continue deceiving yourself all you want

Kobojunkie:
How many men do that? Marriage has typically been an institution that strips the woman of her value and destiny in support of the man. Why do you think our ancestors resorted to feeding their daughters stories of how childbearing is their destiny and glory?

foolbuster:


Oga your woman should not pay your rent. You can continue deceiving yourself all you want

Mindlog:
Is it not part of bringing something to the table?

abbey621:


Oga pray you never live abroad....All your macho nonsense go fall off once bills choke you. That woman wey you dey form for, all it takes is one divorce after years of simpology for you to notice your assets are split into half, you would still pay her alimony and her bank account is way fatter than yours.....E go do you like juju

EmekaA125:
A man should shoulder the basic responsibility of his family viz shelter, food and clothing alone. My sincerest opinion!!!

hardon1:


What is wrong if a woman assist her hubby to clear rent. Are they not together in the union.

People have issues with their partners and believe everything other person is like that.

My elder bro moved to his own apartment three months ago. He confessed to me that the roofing of the house which took over 2.5M came from his wife.
He didn't ask her to help, she did because she want the project to be completed in time

No be every woman dey give wahala over assistance

Skyview01:
If i broke, no pay inugo.

We go homeless together when oga landlord chase all of us out!

TimT:
Why? Is it not money she is using? Why degrading women?
Some men just carry empty head and call it brain...
Is it a crime let a married woman pay house rent?
Is it not thesame house they both stay?
So if something happens that the man cannot afford the rent, the woman will sit back and wait for what landlord will do, knowing full well that she has the money to pay?
Or if she is willing to pay, masculine pride shouldn't allow me to agree!!!
We so much hold high esteem of ourselves about marriages yet many are living in bondage...
You all are saying women shouldn't pay rent or feed the man, yet you all are saying "a woman who can't bring anything to the table isn't worth been married to"...
Confusion left and right...
No worry, just allow pride Nd ego allow landlord pack Ur bag throw ..

HopeSpencer:
At a time when we just spent 4months out of 1 year rent, my wife asked me that we should move out because she fought with a co-tenant and said she didn't want to set eyes on the co-tenant again. I said I wasn't prepared for this as I needed time to gather money for next year rent. She offered to drop money from her savings. We got a new apartment. And she became my boss. Come and see humiliation. I wept on several occasions because I'm not a type of person that engages in physical fight. I don't even use abusive words. Whatever I say on nairaland is just catching cruise.

I looked for money and rented a room. I didn't move out my things like chairs, bed etc because my daughter needs them. I left forever.

She told relatives that I left our home and never looked back. Relatives reminded her that she told them she was the one paying all bills since the beginning and that she should thank God that the burden was removed. That's when I got to know about the lie that she was the one paying bills.

In my next life, I will prefer to be a gay.


This is very funny

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Kobojunkie:
Well, a woman married to herself is just that, married to herself.

ceeceeuwa:
Everyone will wake up with different nonsense post in the name of Redpills just to despise women. There is no blueprint for marriage. Do whatever can sustain your marriage!

Kobojunkie:
There is no such thing as a God-given wife. If you do not open your eyes and intentionally choose a worthy mate for yourself, you will end up no different from the millions out there living in unhappy marriages.

2. Keep dreaming.

HopeSpencer:
At a time when we just spent 4months out of 1 year rent, my wife asked me that we should move out because she fought with a co-tenant and said she didn't want to set eyes on the co-tenant again. I said I wasn't prepared for this as I needed time to gather money for next year rent. She offered to drop money from her savings. We got a new apartment. And she became my boss. Come and see humiliation. I wept on several occasions because I'm not a type of person that engages in physical fight. I don't even use abusive words. Whatever I say on nairaland is just catching cruise.

I looked for money and rented a room. I didn't move out my things like chairs, bed etc because my daughter needs them. I left forever.

She told relatives that I left our home and never looked back. Relatives reminded her that she told them she was the one paying all bills since the beginning and that she should thank God that the burden was removed. That's when I got to know about the lie that she was the one paying bills.

In my next life, I will prefer to be a gay.

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Bronxie:
What if she pays,is anything wrong with that?
The man that has been paying for years without complaining is he not a human being?

What's she an helpmate for?
You guys should desist coming online to misleading other women creating tension in their homes, whilst you enjoy ambient in your homes.


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