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Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by Faposky95: 6:51am On Sep 17, 2023 |
Is this a topic for Sunday, really.....?! Christ-like people, go in love and not fear. Two have become one must be fulfilled as that is the mission. Failing and falling is part of the journey. A man mustn't be lazy so as a wife must be loyal. As humans, we are guided by principles- those that will last. The days now and ahead are shrouded in mystery, so brave up as a team and fulfill. The end tells it all. There's nothing new. , 1 Like |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by ceeceeuwa: 6:53am On Sep 17, 2023 |
JOACHINpedro:Irrespective of the Ops gender, everyone should do whatever can sustain their marriage. |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by Iamzik: 6:55am On Sep 17, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: There is a paradigm shift bro. I have followed many debated about this topic online and it's clear to me yhat even men who pay ALL the bills do not get submission and respect in the end. And in any case you are not getting married to the community. I think the best thing is to have a clear understanding with the person you are about to marry. Let him or her know in clear terms what the financial responsibility matrix will look like. There is no rule cast in stone. I know couples who have a fixed amount they both contribute to the home welfare every month and it works for them. The problems with most ladies is their entitlement mentality. Marriage is not poverty alleviation scheme especially when you are also have a good job as a woman. My money is my money. My husband money is our money ....this mentality has destroyed many home because the lady feels it's a crime to do certain things in the home. As for me I think marriage is sweeter if you take away all these shackles of tradition that makes the man a sole provider and the woman subservient. It's doesn't work! Both parties are adults and should join hands to together to achieve great things in life. Be open to your husband, be open to your wife. Let the love respect, openness and vulnerability be mutual If you don't see eye to eye on domestic expenses, how Will you two join forces together to build wealth for your children? 3 Likes |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by chuksoyo21(m): 6:56am On Sep 17, 2023 |
Of course, women are not good with power and authority... 1 Like |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by NoToPile: 6:59am On Sep 17, 2023 |
I always say it that a lot of women has been scammed into this providing stuff, real scam. Very simple a man should be able to provide 3 basic necessities. 1.Chopmoni - feeding 2.Shelter - house rent 3.School fees. Those are major dutiesof a Man, there are others too but those 3 up there is very essential. The same set of people that are seeing nothing wrong in women paying the rent are the same that can't help women in their own duty. Make everyone face him cross. 1 Like |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by Nursepepeye(f): 7:04am On Sep 17, 2023 |
TimT:go and read your Bible very well, women are to be submissive while men are to love thier wife, they're emotional being already, |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by Trustedpronet: 7:07am On Sep 17, 2023 |
I no dey shame...infact i go turn am to joke when she said she is the one doing everything in this house. My wife do pay rent, pay school fees and lend me money for business. Mind you not all the time because I no be lazy Man 1 Like |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by Mindlog: 7:12am On Sep 17, 2023 |
NorthernersSuck: just like the whole wide wide world go dey hear when some men would threaten to throw out their wives things out of "their house". |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by Iamzik: 7:13am On Sep 17, 2023 |
kayperry: This is the exact point I tried to address in my post. If you are a woman and you think that contributing to the home in a meaningful way is a licensee to disrespect the man who has been shouldering the same responsibility for years then your head need examining. Women want the man to evolve from patriarchy but at the same time they themselves are not ready to have a progressive mindset. As a woman what is your joy if you stack up millions in your account while the man is struggling to take care of the family all in the name of culture and tradition? Heard the story of a woman that died of sickness while the husband was struggling to pay her medical bill. Alas she had more than enough money in her account to afford a foreign hospital but mentality of my money is my money killed her. She became stingy even to herself! As for me I will make it clear and both parties will sign. No woman will come and kill me with problem of marriage. This stress is the reason why some men die too early. The man is not a financial slave neither is the woman a domestic slave. Let each contribute in meaningful way to the family. It is your home for crying out loud 1 Like |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by Correspondence(m): 7:18am On Sep 17, 2023 |
TimT: E get why 1 Like |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by Iamzik: 7:28am On Sep 17, 2023 |
dkidd: The bolded is a lie that has been told for far too long. And I'm happy that young guys of nowadays have woken up to the scam. This belief is an error and has no root in culture or religion. In marriage both of you are one and should bear each others burdens. If you are a lady and you intend to marry with this kind of mentally please look for the families of dangote otedla, bill gates and the likes else you are just decieving yourself especially if you have a stable career or business. This is not 1970 when your father was most likely the sole breadwinner and your mother was stay at home mom. Lose the entitlement mentallty y'all. And I will add as a guy double your Hustle and be responsible. Both parties should see the need of the home as their responsibility and join hands together to make it a happy home |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by Paramount01(m): 7:36am On Sep 17, 2023 |
Tallesty1: For real? |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by KIDfurniture(m): 7:37am On Sep 17, 2023 |
Why if I may ask oh, why Well the only woman that paid my rent was my late mum. I got to a stage in life I started supporting her with rent. Now that some of us v houses our mums are no more. God bless all good mums. Imredeemed: |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by Ybholy(m): 7:39am On Sep 17, 2023 |
Oh! Never me find myself in such conditions to allow my wife pay rent. Itβs not in my tribe or something to boast for . Abeg π |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by Paramount01(m): 7:41am On Sep 17, 2023 |
HopeSpencer: I know I can do this |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by hardon1(m): 7:43am On Sep 17, 2023 |
kayperry: See , what think the "post assistance" insult will come if you as a man is not capable and most things are by the woman's money which they don't like. The house chop more than 15m, so 2.5m is just a small fraction. Women tend to dish insult when everything is on them. Women are wired to receive and provide assistance, they will only ridicule a man when they become fully in charge in one way or the other. A reasonable one who knows that her man has tried will be happy to help - trust me. Unless na woman wey no love her husband |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by lailo: 7:46am On Sep 17, 2023 |
zoghys:No to paying house rent? No to paying school fees, right? No to feeding the family, definitely? No to building the house, of course? No to buying the family car, sure? Then what financial contribution a woman who earns, is then going to do in the home? |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by phemmyfour: 7:47am On Sep 17, 2023 |
Imredeemed:Trash What difference does it make. You didn't allow her to pay rent but you are collecting money worth the rent value and above from her |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by Paramount01(m): 7:51am On Sep 17, 2023 |
BGSM: Are you married? |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by Basicend: 7:55am On Sep 17, 2023 |
lailo: People are bringing up all these because of the thinking and character of today's women. |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by TimT: 7:56am On Sep 17, 2023 |
Nursepepeye:Sorry I'm not a Christian... c |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by dkidd: 7:56am On Sep 17, 2023 |
Iamzik:Well I guess u were too quick to reply my post without really digesting the message. I said they're not meant to shoulder the responsibilities not share as it should be. Leaving the burden on their shoulders and to handle alone is what I'm talking about bro. Maybe i wasn't clear enough sha. My woman supports me in every way she can but doesn't mean I would leave everything to her because she earns too. She's able to handle things for herself and our daughter wether I have in abundance or not because she understands we are in it together so I don't get this ur preaching that's a normal way of how it should be. U aren't saying anything new. And u bringing my parents into this is disrespectful. U don't know me. FYI both my parents are very educated and kept their work until she had to resign on his instructions and start up a biz. My mom wasn't idle or a lazy woman even though the husband was capable of making provisions for everything. I am only advising against allowing ur wife to be the sole breadwinner and taking charge not against partners sharing or making the burden easy on themselves. It's a partnership for a reason. Learn to understand before responding next time. Enjoy your day |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by TimT: 7:56am On Sep 17, 2023 |
Gratefullheart:Nobody said it's the sole responsibility of the woman to pay rent... |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by Paramount01(m): 7:58am On Sep 17, 2023 |
Vinnie2000: Let her take the head, when I was even the head she no talk,she no do as she like,she no flaunt my order on the basis of she is not a slave.abet! Who head help, pay bills joor,I can't come and go and die 1 Like |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by ayclem01(m): 8:02am On Sep 17, 2023 |
Op u re experienced man, mostly wen ur inlaws re doing very well in terms wealth, n u the hubby may be ok on the average, just be praying for ur wife everyday to be calming down. If not, even sex u will beg for it. Men should strive hard ohh to make money.. Neva allow a woman to contribute to the running of the home. Even buying her clothes pls dnt if not the angel u think is ur wife will someday use all of this against u. Women are naturally like dat. |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by dkidd: 8:08am On Sep 17, 2023 |
Paramount01:LoL u dey complain because she probably doesn't respect u from this ur comment. When u resign everything to her like ur sounding now if u no run leave that house make I know why. Person never dey in charge and she dey treat u like this and u are praying for her to be the head. Na die u dey be that. Safe journey π |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by Iamzik: 8:11am On Sep 17, 2023 |
dkidd: I am not referring to "your parents". Rather I'm addressing the ladies who have the warped mentality that a man should kill himself to meet every family need because he is a man. "If you are a lady and you intend to marry with this kind of mentally...." Everything I typed from the second paragraph is addressing these kind of ladies. Sorry if it wasn't clear enough. I'm happy that your wife understands this perspective and that is exactly how marriage should be. You will have peace of mind to pursue your purpose and achieve great things together. Neither the man or the woman should be excessively burdened with home expenses. Both should contribute generously and everyone is happy. God bless you and your loving wifeπ |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by SocialJustice: 8:11am On Sep 17, 2023 |
Imredeemed:Why? |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by TrainPark: 8:11am On Sep 17, 2023 |
TimT:That woman is usually his mother... don't be fooled!!! |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by pongwa(m): 8:12am On Sep 17, 2023 |
Imredeemed:if she is submissive maybe but if not share the rent equally. I come in peace |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by dkidd: 8:15am On Sep 17, 2023 |
Iamzik: Konfam God bless u and urs too π |
Re: Never Allow Your Wife To Pay Rent. by easzypeaszy(m): 8:16am On Sep 17, 2023 |
izonborn098:hahahahahahaha experience is the best teacher... No married man wl be against it or disagree totally. Women are naturally born Brutal, bc ur mom is nice to u no mean say she good to her husband, inlaws or her helpers in d past. 1 Like |
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