Is it better to tell children or teenagers when giving them sex education to be abstinent till marriage or just till they're 18, that is when they're adults? I think abstinence till marriage is stupid and old fashioned but, though I'm a very sex positive person, I also don't approve of minors or children having sex.

aisha1314:
Is it better to tell children or teenagers when giving them sex education to be abstinent till marriage or just till they're 18, that is when they're adults? I think abstinence till marriage is stupid and old fashioned but, though I'm a very sex positive person, I also don't approve of minors or children having sex.

Can they deal with the consequences of premarital sex as teenagers.

The emotional trauma of heartbreak.

Reluctant to pursue their goals.

Teenage pregnancy.

STDs.

I believe it would be wise to encourage them to get married before engaging in sexual activities. Even if it means early marriage.

Marriage comes with a lot of guidance and counseling from mature married folks. So whatever they encounter on the way, they'll overcome it together as a couple.

Premarital sex however is just for a moment. Your partner can get bored and leave, it always end in tears.

aisha1314:
Is it better to tell children or teenagers when giving them sex education to be abstinent till marriage or just till they're 18, that is when they're adults? I think abstinence till marriage is stupid and old fashioned but, though I'm a very sex positive person, I also don't approve of minors or children having sex.

abstinence till marriage...

abstinence till marriage is stupid to you because you're a olosho... oloshos are very easy to spot by their comments... they lack common sense... because of rampant cases of premarital sex is why we see lots of damaged people, which also led to other addictions like drugs and the likes... in a society where there are sane people, abstinence till marriage is the norm and we've seen the positive results this practice has bred.

not now that marriage and relationship are crashing anyhow because we believe we are now woke, not knowing that we just upgraded to another level of stupidity... the kids and teens should know about sex and the likes but abstinence till marriage should be highly encouraged, in fact, it should be enforced!... because you can predict how the future will turn out to be by the youths of today... and what positives can you mention about the youths or teens of today?

Reminderz:

abstinence till marriage...

abstinence till marriage is stupid to you because you're a olosho... oloshos are very easy to spot by their comments... they lack common sense... because of rampant cases of premarital sex is why we see lots of damaged people, which also led to other addictions like drugs and the likes... in a society where there are sane people, abstinence till marriage is the norm and we've seen the positive results this practice has bred.

not now that marriage and relationship are crashing anyhow because we believe we are now woke, not knowing that we just upgraded to another level of stupidity... the kids and teens should know about sex and the likes but abstinence till marriage should be highly encouraged, in fact, it should be enforced!... because you can predict how the future will turn out to be by the youths of today... and what positives can you mention about the youths or teens of today?

abstinence till marriage is stupid to you because you're a olosho... oloshos are very easy to spot by their comments

It takes one to know one.
And even if I'm olosho so what? Is it a crime? Am I harming anybody?

aisha1314:
Is it better to tell children or teenagers when giving them sex education to be abstinent till marriage or just till they're 18, that is when they're adults? I think abstinence till marriage is stupid and old fashioned but, though I'm a very sex positive person, I also don't approve of minors or children having sex.

The whole abstinence thing is a hoax..

Let them get married early, at least at 20 years..

Abstinence can never work..

It’s easy to say by mouth..

Children from home were sex is a taboo, end up been over sexed and abused by any body..

Body no b firewood..

aisha1314:


abstinence till marriage is stupid to you because you're a olosho... oloshos are very easy to spot by their comments

It takes one to know one.
And even if I'm olosho so what? Is it a crime? Am I harming anybody?

Please use logic..

Abstinence till marriage worked in those days when people married very early… Not now..

No need to deceive our selves..

Besides dem no Dey give any body work or award cos of virginity..

The whole virginity thing is just a very minor event in our lives, but we make a mountain out of it..

Virginity on ediot husband will scatter before the beginning of the night self and it’s over..


Calm down..

Choose any path you want. Just accept the consequences and privileges that comes with it.

The best is Abstinence till Marriage, it will save you from emotional trauma, unnecessary heartbreak, inability to pair-bond, STD, unwanted pregnancy and abortion(if you're female) and lastly Regret.

Like it or lump it, God will judge us according to His own standards and NOT our own. Scripture tells us that we should not be deceived; fornicators will not make the Kingdom of Heaven.

I dare you to be different sis; most people walk the broad easy road that leads to hell.

God has not changed, nor has human nature. There is nothing under the sun, new about sex.

God is a perfectionist, His pefect will is for every single child to be born into a loving, committed union.

NO sex before marriage is about truly putting children first - this should not date.

https://www.nairaland.com/7804321/sex-covenant-making-9-other

LikeAking:


The whole abstinence thing is a hoax..

Let them get married early, at least at 20 years..

Abstinence can never work..

It’s easy to say by mouth..

Children from home were sex is a taboo, end up been over sexed and abused by any body..

Body no b firewood..

Your post is what actually is a hoax.

Abstinence works for those that want it to work for themselves.

Many got married as virgins.

Just tell them to abstain until they feel they're ready, as long as they do it responsibly and also advice them about the variety of contraceptives to use when the time finally comes.

Because in a as much as you can try to encourage them to wait until a certain age, they'll still go ahead and do it if they want to.

This is defeatist.

If they know and fear God they will wait.

Fornicaton or not making heaven? Ask them to choose. [Don't shoot the messenger].

I'm 21 and I'm getting tired of abstaining from sex but I just can't break away from my parents' teachings. One of the main reasons is that I have to pretend to be an expert in that shit but in actuality I don't really know except from reading and porn. And yeah, I'm not easily influenced by others... This pretense is like a defense mechanism to protect me from those "you, virgin?" Stare.

Plus lately, my libido has been doing crazy numbers but I need money and I also don't want to make a mistake -- y'know, regret being celibate in the future.

jmoore:


Your post is what actually is a hoax.

Abstinence works for those that want it to work for themselves.

Many got married as virgins.

Are u a virgin?

Getting married as a virgin works we’re people marry very early..

Can u hold body till 40 yrs?

30yrs


People can hold body till 20… but not longer..

SuperOnyi:




I'm 21 and I'm getting tired of abstaining from sex but I just can't break away from my parents' teachings. One of the main reasons is that I have to pretend to be an expert in that shit but in actuality I don't really know except from reading and porn. And yeah, I'm not easily influenced by others... This pretense is like a defense mechanism to protect me from those "you, virgin?" Stare.

Plus lately, my libido has been doing crazy numbers but I need money and I also don't want to make a mistake -- y'know, regret being celibate in the future.

You have to get married ASAP..

Sex I’d ment to be unleashed.


Even the holding had its problems..


Get married, you don try..

Forget Wetin your parents teach you, you are no longer a child..

That’s the only thing African parents have to teach their kids…

Samantha124:
Just tell them to abstain until they feel they're ready, as long as they do it responsibly and also advice them about the variety of contraceptives to use when the time finally comes.

Because in a as much as you can try to encourage them to wait until a certain age, they'll still go ahead and do it if they want to.

Don’t boda advising ignorant and selfish Nigerian parents. They expect their kids to be celibate even at 50..

Very ignorant Nigerians…

Max Marriage age shud be twenty in Nigeria..

LikeAking:


You have to get married ASAP..

Sex I’d ment to be unleashed.


Even the holding had its problems..


Get married, you don try..

Forget Wetin your parents teach you, you are no longer a child..

That’s the only thing African parents have to teach their kids…

I can't get married right now. I keep backing out from my plan to stop being the "virgin boy" and yes you're right, this comes with a price – super high libido, being accused of being gay (because I'm not ugly), self hatred because I have to make myself look ugly but despite that I still get attention, and etc.

SuperOnyi:







I can't get married right now. I keep backing out from my plan to stop being the "virgin boy" and yes you're right, this comes with a price – super high libido, being accused of being gay (because I'm not ugly), self hatred because I have to make myself look ugly but despite that I still get attention, and etc.

Get married or leave it..

In a mordern world wia people don’t get married on time abstinence is a big hoax..

It’s none sense..

Guy man carry 2k enta one ashawo house..

Or patrol for evening.

LikeAking:


Get married or leave it..

In a mordern world wia people don’t get married on time abstinence is a big hoax..

It’s none sense..

Guy man carry 2k enta one ashawo house..

Or patrol for evening.

Thank you for your sincerity, I'll try out the bolded soon. If I find a good girl, that's still cool though but I think your suggestion is the best to avoid embarrassing myself because I look like a good bad guy so the girl might think she's dealing with an expert.

SuperOnyi:




I'm 21 and I'm getting tired of abstaining from sex but I just can't break away from my parents' teachings. One of the main reasons is that I have to pretend to be an expert in that shit but in actuality I don't really know except from reading and porn. And yeah, I'm not easily influenced by others... This pretense is like a defense mechanism to protect me from those "you, virgin?" Stare.

Plus lately, my libido has been doing crazy numbers but I need money and I also don't want to make a mistake -- y'know, regret being celibate in the future.

Hmmm. Why do you say you can't break away from your parents (outdated) teachings though you're an adult. Me I stopped following most of my parents advice the minute I turned 18, except for a few things.
Nobody can tell you to be abstainente after you reach the age of consent. Once you're 18, you own your body and what you do with it is completely your choice.

Samantha124:
Just tell them to abstain until they feel they're ready, as long as they do it responsibly and also advice them about the variety of contraceptives to use when the time finally comes.

Because in a as much as you can try to encourage them to wait until a certain age, they'll still go ahead and do it if they want to.

This is what my parents told me though in my case they said having sex, or even dating for that matter when underage wasn't an option our home. I didn't lose my virginity till 19 with my first serious boyfriend.

sta1:
Like it or lump it, God will judge us according to His own standards and NOT our own. Scripture tells us that we should not be deceived; fornicators will not maks the Kingdom of Heaven.

I dare you to be different sis; most people walk the broad easy road that leads to hell.

God has not changed, nor has human nature. There is nothing under the sun, new about sex.

God is a perfectionist, His pefect will is for every single child to be born into a loving, committed union.

NO sex before marriage is about truly putting children first - this should not date.

https://www.nairaland.com/7804321/sex-covenant-making-9-other

God doesn't exist!

LikeAking:

Are u a virgin?
Getting married as a virgin works we’re people marry very early..
Can u hold body till 40 yrs?
30yrs

People can hold body till 20… but not longer..

There are virgins in their 30's. Your knowledge is about yourself only.

sta1:
This is defeatist.

If they know and fear God they will wait.

Fornicaton or not making heaven? Ask them to choose. [Don't shoot the messenger].

I'd rather have sex and not make heaven because heaven, just like God doesn't exist, it isn't real, just a made up place religious people are fond of.
Sex is too good not to have just because of what the 'bible' says.
Bleep religion and go Bleep as much as you want!!!

aisha1314:


Hmmm. Why do you say you can't break away from your parents (outdated) teachings though you're an adult. Me I stopped following most of my parents advice the minute I turned 18, except for a few things.
Nobody can tell you to be abstainente after you reach the age of consent. Once you're 18, you own your body and what you do with it is completely your choice.

Thanks, I don't know why I'm doing this to myself. Crazy thing is, I've done turned down sex offers (through seduction) a couple times. The first girl I allowed to kiss me was my last and I had the opportunity to take her virginity but intentionally backed down although we did a lot of crazy shit – this was some years ago. Another crazy thing is, how everybody think I'm that badass player but in my mind I be like . Brooo...

aisha1314:


I'd rather have sex and not make heaven because heaven, just like God doesn't exist, it isn't real, just a made up place religious people are fond of.
Sex is too good not to have just because of what the 'bible' says.
Bleep religion and go Bleep as much as you want!!!

If I go to hell because of sex, just know you caused it with this comment

I like your parents, they sound more open minded rather than other African parents.

aisha1314:


This is what my parents told me though in my case they said having sex, or even dating for that matter when underage wasn't an option our home. I didn't lose my virginity till 19 with my first serious boyfriend.

jmoore:

There are virgins in their 30's. Your knowledge is about yourself only.

Show me one.

He/ she has never masturbated..

LikeAking:

Show me one.
He/ she has never masturbated..

Everyone can't be like you.

jmoore:

There are virgins in their 30's. Your knowledge is about yourself only.

Is it a good thing?

Is an achievement?

LikeAking:


Is it a good thing?

Is an achievement?

Is fornication an achievement? If yes, make sure you teach your daughters and sons how to fornicate.

jmoore:


Is fornication an achievement? If yes, make sure you teach your daughters and sons how to fornicate.

Carry your virginity go collect money for ATM..

If she’ll one employ, dem no Dey ask who be virgin..

Virginity is a very tiny achievement… Encourage people to achieve real things, that will last long..

Any virginity can be destroyed in less than a minute..

Encourage people to marry early if you don’t want them to loose their virginity bf marriage .