Bigchristo:
■ You see the double standard of some people? Let’s say if the man was to be running up and down stressing himself to provide for the family and still come home the woman will then claimb on top him and knack herself Abi? First as a man nor allow woman feed you because dem be parrot, she must have probably been getting angry that the man is not doing enough and that’s why she denied him sex, one thing I can tell is that in my lowest I pay attention to how people around me treats me when I finally have the money I know how to treat them back, I don’t pray for any woman to feed me but if situations of life struck some men doesn’t even have choice but to accept all the insult throw at them but you know the shocking thing?

EvangelistChuks:
■ and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee-[Gen.3:16].
The fallen nature has predisposed every unregenerated woman to want to lord it over her husband when given the slightest opportunity.
Only the truly circumcised in the heart through Jesus’ cross are exempted from this curse.

Bigchristo:
When the woman is broke nobody broke shame her to get a job na men own Dey sweet men don duffer sha 😂😂

Kobojunkie:
It is OK for a man to boast that he feeds his family —wife included — but not OK for a woman to boast the same when it is her turn and she feeds her family instead of the man?

Kobojunkie:
Probably because the woman signed on as a dependent in her marriage. No body broke-shames a dependent.

ZIMDRILL:


usually its shift of power

what do i mean, usually its a pattern they learnt from the husband when he used to be the breadwinner. He would abuse his breadwinner role which " money is equal to power " and power can be used to abuse whoever relay on your money which is in most cases, its the wives who relay on money from the man


So when woman becames breadwinner, she taste the power of having money = power

Bigchristo:
■ First let me remind you that marriage responsibilities does not lies on the man alone, if you attend a marriage counseling session you will have this awareness,
■ on the other hand it’s only a foolish person that goes out bragging that he is feeding his family, except you’re dealing with immature people so kill that mentality of thinking is the sole responsibility of the man to take care of the family.

Bigchristo:
■ There’s nothing like dependent in marriage nor be visa na marriage then call am, the woman should also get a job and assist her husband

Kobojunkie:
OP, why are you not providing for your family? Why do you refuse to pick up any job out there to ensure you do not break the contract you made in marriage to be a provider to your family? Or in the case that you are not able to do even that, why do you refuse to take on the house chores and child-rearing duties from your wife when she becomes the breadwinner?

Kobojunkie:
There is actually since not all marriages are created equal. In many marriages, the woman lives as a home maker, a dependent, to a husband who carries 100% financial responsibility and is hence considered the head of the family according to local customs right there in Nigeria. If you are not aware of this then you should probably stop right here.

ExudeLoveToAll:


It doesn't follow the way you described, many didn't have men who are autocratic while been in the leadership role but just switched when things go south for him.

Most times the set of women who think that they have no reason to contribute to family finance and find themselves in it turn out to be a torn in the flesh of their financially disadvantaged spouse .

yeyebrity:
Any man that cannot provide for his family should not expect the luxury of sex from his wife.

Kobojunkie:
Marriage counseling is not where you decide who is responsible for what in your marriage. The man and woman make that decision for themselves before choosing the kind of marriage they want.

Following that statement of yours, all men who claim to be breadwinners are fools.

Bigchristo:
You want to be a full time housekeeper then look for househelp job opportunities and don’t go into marriage 😂😂😂

yeyebrity:
Any man that cannot provide for his family should not expect the luxury of sex from his wife.

Kobojunkie:
Define the love you are talking about abeg!

chudez0147:
A broke man is not supposed to have an errection

Kobojunkie:
See this one making jokes after being caught in a gaffe!

tallceejay:
■ Men, let the women answer so you can learn. Understand that women are different. There's an order of things. A man is only loved on the condition that he provides.
■ When you let a woman take that role you test her character and persona. The bible says a man who cannot provide for his home is worse than an infidel. As man, provide! If u finally get a woman to behave as a woman when u don't provide , lucky you . If she doesn't , take it on d chin and sort urself out quickly without noise

Guyman01:
A broke man should focus on how to better his life and take his mind off sex except when the woman is in the mood and he fulfils his responsibility.
As long as you don't watch porn or go to locations where women barely cover their bodies such as brothels you won't be having constant urge for sex and for your wife to use it as a tool for blackmail.
When you have money your wife will be in her toes to fulfil her sexual obligations knowing that you can get it outside but a poor man has no business with constant sex as it worsens his condition by making more babies that are sometimes not wanted

chukkystar:
■ a Selfless type of Love. It helps U put urself in the other person's shoes. Very Very difficult to attain cos we are all Humans with Self Serving desires. But it's doable..

Oloki:

Sex is wired to a woman's head in such a way she can switch off at will. So you need love and attention to unlock it.

Oloki:
After she might have run up and down from morning to evening in search of daily bread, you want her to come lay flat for a lazy man who probably didn't have anything doing from morning till evening except dreaming about which style he will teach his woman tonight?

Sex is wire to a woman's head in such a way she can switch off at will. So you need love and attention to unlock it.

Dainy1:
But why?
Once she starts providing everything for the family, the se.xua.l attention becomes zero.

What's your opinion about a woman working hard to feed the family and depriving her husband intimacy?

Especially in a situation where she sees her man as a lazy man who is not putting on more effort to take on his responsibilities.

Does it mean she don't feel Hot some times as well?

meobizy:
A provider role is an unnatural position for a woman. Her body is telling her to find a higher value male. A man can balance the equation by taking care of the children and helping with physical needs around the house. You can’t exercise your male pride when your woman is the breadwinner. The situation frustrates many men. They end up sleeping around or being abusive to the woman.

ABOO:
God made them like that, men is the head. They don't have long suffering like men. That's why you see woman whose husband lost his job for some months, while the wife take charge before you knows it problem will set in . So it's God hand made. Just live them

EvangelistChuks:
and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee-[Gen.3:16].
The fallen nature has predisposed every unregenerated woman to want to lord it over her husband when given the slightest opportunity.
Only the truly circumcised in the heart through Jesus’ cross are exempted from this curse.

Dainy1:
But why?
Once she starts providing everything for the family, the se.xua.l attention becomes zero.

What's your opinion about a woman working hard to feed the family and depriving her husband intimacy?

Especially in a situation where she sees her man as a lazy man who is not putting on more effort to take on his responsibilities.

Does it mean she don't feel Hot some times as well?

sheriffindy:
A broke husband should not exercise his conjugal rights with his wife or have any say,abi?...no wahala. therefore, i guess a well to do husband should do anything that pleases him, not considering how the wife feels..and i don´t expect the wife to complain. Most nairalanders are very confused. NDI OSO CHI EGBU!!