Kobojunkie:
OP, why are you not providing for your family? Why do you refuse to pick up any job out there to ensure you do not break the contract you made in marriage to be a provider to your family? Or in the case that you are not able to do even that, why do you refuse to take on the house chores and child-rearing duties from your wife when she becomes the breadwinner?

Oloki:
After she might have run up and down from morning to evening in search of daily bread, you want her to come lay flat for a lazy man who probably didn't have anything doing from morning till evening except dreaming about which style he will teach his woman tonight?

Sex is wire to a woman's head in such a way she can switch off at will. So you need love and attention to unlock it.

Kobojunkie:
1. There is nothing "level" about your previous comment.

2. You say this as though Nigerian men are not typically known to beat up their wives. On what grounds do you make this outraged claim that autocratic behavior is unique to women alone when control is obtained by them in marriage?

3. You mean female staff dont experience similar with male bosses?

Please, cut the bull already!

MyAmericandream:


There's a huge difference, she'll clean, wash, shopping, cook, take care of kids, pray and still hustle. And you still want her to satisfy you, she'll be so exhausted na

A working class man won't do all the aforementioned, after work he goes straight to the bathroom take a shower- dinner would have been served already, he eats and perform his night duty.

Kobojunkie:
OP, why are you not providing for your family? Why do you refuse to pick up any job out there to ensure you do not break the contract you made in marriage to be a provider to your family? Or in the case that you are not able to do even that, why do you refuse to take on the house chores and child-rearing duties from your wife when she becomes the breadwinner?

yeyebrity:
Any man that cannot provide for his family should not expect the luxury of sex from his wife.

reddingtonblack:



Some of you just talk as if Men never had a bachelor life, was there not a time a Man living alone clean his apartment, cook, shop and still go to work/hustle do men use all that as excuses for not fulfilling there role in r/ships.
Most couples have washing machine, what is streneous about washing plates, na community plates,
Our mothers in there time had no luxury of gas cooker, blender, oven, washing machine and car, yet they still fulfill there conjugal roles, our mothers beared more children yet they didnt complain, But today you will see a wife with just one child clamouring for maid, naa school bus dey bring children home but a modern woman will argue house chores is the most difficult profession in the world naa wa

Phargbemmy:


Pray to God not to be in circumstances where the only hope you will have is her and God. In such an instance, will you starve to death because you don't want your woman to feed you.

Well experiences most have seen make them come back to unrealistic submissions.

Just Pray yo don't find yourself in situations that will warrant such.

Ensa777:
Because it is unnatural for her to be the sole provider for her family. The man instead of having unnecessary erection should channel that energy into providing for his family.
The bad financial situation can make a woman develop resentment for the man. Its a huge mood killer.

The woman who has become the sole provider do not want to add another soul into the situation she found herself which could stretch their lean' resources the more.

What amazes me most is that in Nigeria particularly, the woman is expected to continue with all her wifely duties in addition to providing for the family while society makes excuses for him who at that time is supposed to help out in anyway to ease his wife and make her look forward to both of them 'destressing' later. They will tell you to be gentle with him that Any lil thing hurts the ego of the jobless man. So he'd stay at home all day pressing phone instead of at least cleaning the house or doing laundry or cooking dinner. No!

Dainy1:
So, you're justifying it?
But a man work, provide and still give s e.x without complain. Why is a woman's own different?

abbey621:
Real and successful men don't worry much about sex, in fact na their wives dey drag them go bedroom. Na the jobless e-diots dey put sex for mind as if na their daily bread......Young man make money, make lots of it, it's the single most important factor in commanding respect in your home.

Forget about love or what's fair or right, most women are not wired to be breadwinners, the sane ones among them fit support you for a short period but vast majority go change am for you once it is apparent that you're useless.....So for Christ sake, MAKE MONEY, MAKE LOTS OF IT!

christejames:
That's why the world finds it hard to hand over leadership role to women...



Especially embittered feminists!

Dainy1:
But why?
Once she starts providing everything for the family, the se.xua.l attention becomes zero.

What's your opinion about a woman working hard to feed the family and depriving her husband intimacy?

Especially in a situation where she sees her man as a lazy man who is not putting on more effort to take on his responsibilities.

Does it mean she don't feel Hot some times as well?

Phargbemmy:

Life can happen to you, I had stroke, couldn't do any major strenuous activities again, lost my job and nearly lost my life, tell me what am I suppose to do?

reddingtonblack:




I am appreciate your openness @least you aint ashame of who you are, and i agree with most things you pointed out BuT you see @ the "physical quality" you touched you fumbled

Men have better "Physical quality" compared to women, infact it is saddening how men have to live with women tolerating her saggy tits, stretch marks and turgids skin as she age older.
Most women attractiveness ends inside that cloth and makeup, she takes it off naa things fall apart, on the contrary beyond breast and yansh women have no value, and when that breast sagg and the yansh fade we Men still manage our wives, even if we have to lie she is beautiful & hot

I agree a man that is broke should go and hustle,
what about a woman whose beauty is fading and are breast are saggging should go nd do what ??

oglalasioux:
Women see sex as a commodity. They give it to the person that pays.

Jewessgratitud3:


And you think mens physical look doesn't depreciate? Haha... The pot belly? The weak waist and jawilne? The receding hairline and all those physical flaws that make them look shapeless? Every human being loses form and shape as time goes on but a woman can still attract a man, no matter what but a man can even be good looking and still not be attractive because of his pocket.

I saw my ex recently ( now a father of three) I nearly three up. He still dressed dressed to kill but his belly has become so big and put of shape. Someone who used to have six packs in 2016 here o. Both men and women lose shape.

Guyman01:
A broke man should focus on how to better his life and take his mind off sex except when the woman is in the mood and he fulfils his responsibility.
As long as you don't watch porn or go to locations where women barely cover their bodies such as brothels you won't be having constant urge for sex and for your wife to use it as a tool for blackmail.
When you have money your wife will be in her toes to fulfil her sexual obligations knowing that you can get it outside but a poor man has no business with constant sex as it worsens his condition by making more babies that are sometimes not wanted

bukatyne:


The claim that 'most Nigerian women are trained to believe their husbands would be sole providers in marriage' if assumed true is only half of the equation.

Most Nigerian women are also trained to believe that they are solely responsible for housework.

So if you want the weight of sole provision taken off men, I also hope you want the weight of sole domestic chores taken off women.

OZIOGU1:
I have a female Boss lady who is currently doing same to her husband, yet she wants me to be knacking her, I told her that , even if devil decided to relocate to my house it won't work.

Men hustle and maintain your position in the family, once a man is made, the wife becomes a queen, but the moment the table turns the husband becomes a house boy.

Lastly, I am 11yrs in marriage, still very Young coz I married early, what I Know and is a fact is that, nobody should deceive you into believing love conquers everything, Nigerian women love language is money, money and more money, if you don't believe this na u Sabi.

May God who is providing for me, provide for all responsible men out there....Insha Allah

Dainy1:
But why?
Once she starts providing everything for the family, the se.xua.l attention becomes zero.

What's your opinion about a woman working hard to feed the family and depriving her husband intimacy?

Especially in a situation where she sees her man as a lazy man who is not putting on more effort to take on his responsibilities.

Does it mean she don't feel Hot some times as well?

Ms202309:
See finish of some Nigerian girls who got programmed that men are their slave and donkey

Jewessgratitud3:


And you think mens physical look doesn't depreciate? Haha... The pot belly? The weak waist and jawilne? The receding hairline and all those physical flaws that make them look shapeless? Every human being loses form and shape as time goes on but a woman can still attract a man, no matter what but a man can even be good looking and still not be attractive because of his pocket.


I saw my ex recently ( now a father of three) I nearly three up. He still dressed dressed to kill [b][/b]but his belly has become so big and put of shape. Someone who used to have six packs in 2016 here o. Both men and women lose shape.

Ensa777:
Because it is unnatural not normal for her to be the sole provider for her family. The man instead of having unnecessary erection should channel that energy into providing for his family.
The bad financial situation can make a woman develop resentment for the man. Its a huge mood killer.

The woman who has become the sole provider do not want to add another soul into the situation she found herself which could stretch their lean' resources the more.

What amazes me most is that in Nigeria particularly, the woman is expected to continue with all her wifely duties in addition to providing for the family while society makes excuses for him who at that time is supposed to help out in anyway to ease his wife and make her look forward to both of them 'destressing' later. They will tell you to be gentle with him that Any lil thing hurts the ego of the jobless man. So he'd stay at home all day pressing phone instead of at least cleaning the house or doing laundry or cooking dinner. No!