Sonnobax15:

So the thrusting of the man that leads to the pregnancy isn't a sacrifice on its own abi na wetin you wan try dey talk,you op?

A man's life is always filled up with bunches of bills...So it's expected of every sensible woman to be a part of anything that hits the family's table.....At least,make see-finish for no dey.

BRATISLAVA:


The child is not the compensation.

From the initial post, he is asking why you ask what a woman is bringing to the table, when she is not given any compensation for birthing your children. It means she is doing it as a free service.

A birth gift is not the price of a child. How is that considered reasonable?

But the child is something that is brought to the table. And it is priceless.

More valuable than your crude.

BRATISLAVA:


Last time you checked, it takes one of them to incubate and birth it.

BRATISLAVA:


Comparing women giving birth to men working at rigs. Still trying to understand how that level of logic works. Guess he has nothing to compare it with but still needs to keep the stance.

jaxxy:
U went for CS that's why. Little girls are putting to bed daily without these issues or expenses in the village.

Giving birth is a natural gift women have been blessed with it is natural to them. Yes there can be complications but its mostly a natural process.

This does not excuse what women have to bring to the table. I do not know why people should be afraid to answer these questions. A woman should add value and if u don't know go and read about the virtuous woman in the bible. She went far beyond bearing children.

Some will say because they bore u kids they now have a right make ur life a living hell.

BRATISLAVA:


But a man cannot choose to refuse to work under the risky life and health policies if a rig? How exactly is working on a rig giving birth?

Maybe you and that guy can explain it.

Joy2dworldxyz:
[/b]If a woman giving birth is something to the table and a sacrifice then having sex that leads to the pregnancy is equally something to the table......[b]


Op be careful

Fountainofyouth:


Those that died in the process of child birth, is that not a sacrifice? Is child birth not a life or death situation?

JimD:
Giving birth is a joy of a woman, whether she does it naturally or through CS. She's not doing it for you. Although you must appreciate the sacrifice of carrying a baby for 9 months and delivering. But the joy of it is she's called mummy ****. Your family, her friends, you congratulate her and respect her more. It's an accomplishment every sane woman wants and longs for. It's not a personal sacrifice to you. Your topic is off-context.

id4sho:

Emotional black mail

Towma:

Apart from that, how many men work in oil rigs compared to number of women both married and single that give birth?

translux:
Any Husband that is asking the wife for what she's bringing to the table isn't yet matured for a marriage, This is the 14th year that I got married to my wife and for the fact that I have been footing 100 percent of the bills till date, I have never for a day asked my wife for what she's bringing to the table, for the facts that we have somany responsibilities, I aways encourage her in the past that things will get better with time but we thank God Almighty that he has blessed our marriage with everything in life.

welzyj2:


I like your comment and will like to tap from your experience and understand how you dealt with she asking you those days to support her in the house chores, which would seem like what she can do [https://www.kalilainfo.com/]kalila[https://www.kalilainfo.com/] squally to support you since you sort 100% of the bills

Silentgroper:
sacrifice?? 😁😁

No one asked her to be too lazy to push the baby through the expected outlets ..

These days, females always wants to opt for c.s because they don't want to stress theirselves by pushing.. you'd hear them say this alot nowadays ..


She made the choice, the takes up the responsibility...

Fahvvy:


Is there any biological evidence that supports this? ...

benqo01:


Giving birth is natural man,who is talking about responsibility

Honestfrend:


Biblical evidence and it supercedes biology..

Rich4god:
Am lending my voice to this thread
https://www.nairaland.com/7922406/wife-why-life-women-complicated#127165126

A couple of days back, my wife put to bed using CS. Initially we had a baby before, I a know how complicated and painful the pregnancy and childbirth was.

Now I was in the theatre during the CS and I saw first hand how someone's abdomen was sliced open and the baby pulled out. I also saw how doctors were putting their hands into someone's abdomen and how they finally stitched her up. It wasn't an easy sight to behold. Right now, she's recovering, but the pain she's passing through is much.

To me, this is the highest form of sacrifice that someone can give for the family.

So to the men and husband out there..... before you ask your wife to be "what she is bringing to table", kindly think about the sacrifice they make in bringing your children to the world.

gbaskiboy:
Please don't say that again unless you are not appreciative. Many women married has refused to get pregnant because of horrible experience associated with pregnancy and childbirths.

Virgo3:
lol if you know how many women wey Don die from child birth or during/after You go know say nah life and death situation. The mortality rates are out der; 1 out of every 7 women die of complications from child birth. Due to economic settings, they should support but don't talk about der preg shiiii

BRATISLAVA:


I think it's not about value to you, but that even if a woman had all the PhDs and money in the world, you would still see her as nothing.

The value isn't in the woman.

It is in the man's ability to acknowledge it beyond his ingrained biases.

BTW, that is what you think and that is why you are voicing it, though to seem like it is my suggestion. It's YOUR suggestion.

ogbe88:
Simps .

welzyj2:


Working in a corporate setting doesn't mean one isn't facing more stress than an oil rig worker.

It's just the fancy outfit that covers the pain

I'm not comparing the pain in child birth o...just explaining that making money isn't also easy

Honestfrend:


If giving birth is the natural responsibility of the woman.. Y is it that providing for the family is not the man's natural responsibility and if it is why the "What re u bringing to the table?"

Kemnikky:


if you don't know you better know now and get it straight that it is a sacrifice for a woman to give birth to your children. Are you aware that some women tend to use pills in order not to conceive, some will even tell you that they are not ready for childbirth and give you a clause to them conceiving. More so, marriage is a contract and a covenant, you both are meant together if you have children fine, if you don't fine as well, it all depends on both of you. The woman makes lots of sacrifices in her life right from the day she starts conceiving till her last breath. I don't want to go further on it. A resounding word should be enough. Treat women right and appreciate her more. My little kobo.

Towma:


Oh so you think women don't work in corporate settings or why are you bringing this up?

ProtonX:


Cretin. Now run along and go play with your kind. And while you're at it, work on your frustration because you certainly need it judging from the photo on your profile. Don't quote me again.

BlaqFaze:
Simp wan lecture us

Virgo3:
are you crazy? Wtf is this omoh @Seun dy put age requirement to enter this ur forum with International Passport! I swear I for batter you.