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@ radiant

^Not sure what you're getting agitated about.

So far, there's a an indication the man may have a drug addiction problem.

His insistence on receiving cash, his seeming indifference to the fact that his family is living under a bridge and his wife is expecting another baby soon, his avoiding the accommodation offered him- these are all pointers to the fact that substance abuse may be involved. In addition, his parents are there in lagos (he said) and the wife's family might also have their own side to tell.
Like i said, its a possibility which cant be ruled out.

If he's been doing odd jobs in the two years they seem to have been under the bridge, then the bulk of his income might have been used on a drug habit.

What is certain is this family needs help not just in the form of cash alone.
Some people might know what i'm talking about.

yamakuza:

what do u propose we do, in the interim ?

yamakuza:

what do u propose  we do, in the interim ?

Radiant:

Welcome aboard. Now you understand my stance.

If the guy is an addict then we should send him to rehab and while he's there let his family move into a safe environment and set up a business for the wife. That is if the man is mentally unstable.

Radiant:

Welcome aboard. Now you understand my stance.

If the guy is an addict then we should send him to rehab and while he's there let his family move into a safe environment and set up a business for the wife. That is if the man is mentally unstable.

yamakuza:

lolz.

Doesnt work that way in Nigeria.

That is waaaaay out of our league, as Nairalanders.

Over to Fashola.

Meanwhile, we were thinking we could have your 2cents on the other thread?

Radiant:

_{Which thread?}

Radiant:

Seriously, I don't think this man is sick upstairs. He just needs some 'talking to' so he can understand the extent to which people are willing to help him and his family. It's not a rush rush situation though someone else wouldn't have blinked before accepting the offers. People are different indeed.

Can 2/3 NLders go and visit them again and get the real gist of the current situation. I'm sure we can resolve this in no time if we have people to go for us.

_{Which thread?}

Fhemmmy:

With so much respect, I am sorry to say that we are all saying same thing here . . .  Now his poverty has made him insane or acting it, and this means that the man is not capable of making decision for himself and his family, thus the reason why something has to be done.

Why would he be given 100K Naira and still be under the bridge, i think that will be a great danger to him and his family . . . . cos you will agree with me that any amount he is given, people will know and the bad guys could visit him anytime to take the money from him and be killed.

So best thing to do is, if he does not want help, there are so much other people that would gladly accept all the help.

Johndoe100:

This is totally unbelieveable, people are looking for how to kidnap this guy and steal his familly cos he dared to want something different and did not allow you people to play god?
If you people go ahead with this I will personally have the people involved arrested. I rarely get this involved in things but this is madness. If anyone thinks this is an idle threat, let the people who go do this make themsekves known and see what happens. I may just send someone to see this guy Oboh and clue him up on what you creeps are planning. God you guys are the limit.

Cuddlemii:

Ok! Point noted!

So whats the way forward, what has happened has happened, we need to move to the next course of action. What has Nairaland, R231 and the rest decided is best to do in these circumstances. We have established the fact that the man under the bridge took wrong steps or decisions but what are we (learned peeps) going to do to ensure he takes the right steps, enough of the past. Lets move ahead and get a solution.

ifyalways:

I would try and reach Monday Obuh again today.This time for a long chat and peep into his future(what he wants to do etc)If the enviroment is safe,I might get it on video or audio.

Would report back here later today.

@Johndoe,abeg oh.don't send your soldiers after me.lolz

ifyalways:

I would try and reach Monday Obuh again today.[size=18pt]This time for a long chat and peep into his future(what he wants to do etc)[/size]If the enviroment is safe,I might get it on video or audio.

Would report back here later today.

@Johndoe,abeg oh.don't send your soldiers after me.lolz

ftmom:

With all due respect to everyone that is wanting to contribute to this gentleman’s fundraising, I will give my two cents.

The saying goes “Charity begins at home.” A Christian Yoruba song says (I paraphrase) anyone you have the power/strength to help, help them. It does not have to be under a big umbrella to rehabilitate this particular person though I appreciate how a lump sum could change the family’s life.

I would guess that at least 98% of the people willing to contribute know someone in their lives (family, friend, gateman, washer man, housekeeper, nanny driver, office messenger, car washer, etc, etc) who would greatly appreciate a cash gift from them. There is a lot of poverty in the nation and people are hurting even if they are not living under the bridge.

The alleged attitude exhibited by Monday is really not a surprise to some of us because that is classic Naija of today. In the old days, you could look upon the less privileged with compassion and they would be appreciative of your token. Today, in a lot of cases,  you, the compassionate, are regarded as a “mugu.” In fact, the receiver may perfect a plan to tap as much money from you as he can until you finally say no. That is the reality of the system we have in the country and I speak from first hand experience. Not blaming Monday, just the system.

Rich or poor, no real difference in morals – one is as bad as the other. Each has a high sense of entitlement and will milk any opportunity. I haven’t travelled the whole world but it is only in Naija I have seen this extreme entitlement trait. It’s like an aberrant gene in the populace.

Insane or not, I find it strange that Monday knows the exact figure of N100k that he wants. People!!! that sum is not small money in Naija! To the average Nigerian, that is still a whole lot of money. It’s beginning to seem Monday thinks he has “hit it big” with all the offers of help and might be looking to take undue advantage.

My post is not intended to discourage anyone from giving but “shine your eyes” and remember that you can put a smile on another person’s face with your token.

jay bee:

Could it be that Mr Obuh is stylishly stalling on the idea of immediate relocation to a better place so he can maximise the opportunity that his current status provides.
Something keeps telling me this man doesn't wanna move just yet so all the good meaning Nigerians waiting to rise up to his problems will be able to locate and in turn donate money to him.
After all, if he moves to ayobo or whatever how does he continue to get the much needed help that he obviously needs.
He is probably being misguided hence the reason why he can't fathom his priority at the moment.

Johndoe100:

This is totally unbelieveable, people are looking for how to kidnap this guy and steal his familly cos he dared to want something different and did not allow you people to play god?
If you people go ahead with this I will personally have the people involved arrested. I rarely get this involved in things but this is madness. If anyone thinks this is an idle threat, let the people who go do this make themsekves known and see what happens. I may just send someone to see this guy Oboh and clue him up on what you creeps are planning. God you guys are the limit.

ifyalways:

I would try and reach Monday Obuh again today.This time for a long chat and peep into his future(what he wants to do etc)If the enviroment is safe,I might get it on video or audio.

Would report back here later today.

ifyalways:

I would try and reach Monday Obuh again today.This time for a long chat and peep into his future(what he wants to do etc)If the enviroment is safe,I might get it on video or audio.

Would report back here later today.

r231:

make sure you do that slowpoke

ronkebp:

Johndoe, stay off the ''charity thread'' since you do not have anything positive to add.


I think guys, we should channel our energy and support to other families that need it, Mr Obuh, is not the only one that needs help, moreso, so many people are already trying to help him, lets reach out to another family, who is willing to accept whatever we have to offer.

ronkebp:

Johndoe, stay off the ''charity thread'' since you do not have anything positive to add.