divine2043:

Maximip, kind of where I was going.

That was a very good example you gave and there are many more like that.

Such an action is very selfish indeed. How costly is a few minutes call for instance.

freecocoa:

But seriously divine[b],I wonder where all these type of girls you people complain about are[/b],does it mean there is no girl who have actually proved to you that she is independent and can reciprocate?seems to me like y'all are hanging with the wrong crowd.

seedord247:

Brooo please i will need the statistics of those girlz you mention above . . and Please when and where can we get this girls because i will coming back to naija this Xmas.

divine2043:

Ha ha ha Seedord,

Honestly, there are ladies out there that make you feel proud. I can send you a 'through -pass' if you want. LOL.

seedord247:

Broo I ain't Joking.

Seriously i have chat with 70% of naija girls here on NL, all they keep asking is?

Do you have Domicillairy account and how much do you have inside?

do you have account here in naija and how many house do you have here . ,

Are you a permanent resident in US or a citizen . . .

if i send you $1,000 can you help me use it to buy 2008 Rav 4?

and so many bullsh!t question wey i nor fit remember . .

see this gboun sef don dey claim abroad guy

Maximip:

@SexKillz

Abegi, Lets hear another thing.

Even if you give without expecting anything back. Naija babes just makes you look so foolish.

e.g You give a lady 20k today as a gift, the next day she's flashing you to call her back. I mean, it's not just right.

Natasha,,:

see this gboun sef don dey claim abroad guy

seedord247:

tashaaaa meaning Dog. .

See your life your BF no fit pay for Tuition kaiiiii . . . Tufiakwaa . .

The guy just dey use you as rain water . . . . since i dey generous  ,  . . I can be of help . .

How you won make i send?. paypal, moneygram, westernunion, check, or do you want me to have it wire to you school?

Just let me know kia kiaa.

hmm when will you stop advertising your foolishness? I don't expect you to know the meaning of Natasha since you're nothing but an animal that missed his way, Its high time you stop parrambulating your stup1d self everywhere, pheww village fowl, least I forget have you gone for your AIDS test? remember na eye gauge the nurse go use test you so no need to fear  

freecocoa:

@maximip,there's nothing like suggesting where to meet a particular type of girl but I'd like you to know that correct babes like you choose to call them exist and you know that,just maybe you haven't met one.

freecocoa:

Okay dear,I'll even go to the mountain on your behalf again just so you can testify to that,can I get an amen?

seedord247:

Sexkillz I nor won fight today   . . but let me give you some insight on Naija Relationship . .

Our society (naija) has programmed us to be giving women money and that's why you see Guyz maltreating girls anyhow . .  . If you give a naija Girls money, you are allow to beat her, use her the way you want, have $ex with her any time, any day and even during menstrual period.

let's take a look at the Igbo's If you want go get married to their daughter, especially the one that's educated. they will send you a Bill as if she's their only means of surviving, according to my igbo friends they said afta paying all those requirement, you automatically become her Lord. which mean you can do anything to her and  immediately she gbemu (fumble) just play her those memories of (10 cows, 100 bag of rice, 2,000 tubers of yam, 50,000 naira each for each members of the family). . .  you have paid to buy her.

The same thing applies to Yoruba, but their own is life time billing, They won't bill you much on the weeding day, but be ready for future billings like Aso ebi, foot the billz of her siblings, rent a home for her parents and if you can do that they will automatically park in to your house without notice and if they see that you are not taking care of their daughter as they want. hmmmm be ready for Cancelling spiritual divorce.

My G/f and I split everything 50/50. Rent, bills, going to dinner etc. . . Naija girls don't need to be pampered, they need a sense of independence and know how to carry their own weight too. Not depend on a man cause that doesn't always work in life.  

I remember the day i slap my G/f , she call 911, tell them what happen and  treating to sue me to court and i'll be paying $200,000 fine
or i'll be spending 2 years in Jail. Immediately i remember wettin Happen to Christ Brown . .I start to dey call her family one by one, they all tried their best but she still insist on teaching me some lesson i was not taught back home.  . . All thanks to her friends that gave me the clue on what to do to plead her. I spent close to $300 bucks in doing this . . since that time dem nor born me well to call her names not to talk of hitting her again.

In conclusion . . Naija girls  If you really love someone, money isn't an issue. If he treats you right you should be more than grateful. Chikena

seedord247:

Sexkillz I nor won fight today   . . but let me give you some insight on Naija Relationship . .

Our society (naija) has programmed us to be giving women money and that's why you see Guyz maltreating girls anyhow . .  . If you give a naija Girls money, you are allow to beat her, use her the way you want, have $ex with her any time, any day and even during menstrual period.

let's take a look at the Igbo's If you want go get married to their daughter, especially the one that's educated. they will send you a Bill as if she's their only means of surviving, according to my igbo friends they said afta paying all those requirement, you automatically become her Lord. which mean you can do anything to her and  immediately she gbemu (fumble) just play her those memories of (10 cows, 100 bag of rice, 2,000 tubers of yam, 50,000 naira each for each members of the family). . .  you have paid to buy her.

The same thing applies to Yoruba, but their own is life time billing, They won't bill you much on the weeding day, but be ready for future billings like Aso ebi, foot the billz of her siblings, rent a home for her parents and if you can do that they will automatically park in to your house without notice and if they see that you are not taking care of their daughter as they want. hmmmm be ready for Cancelling spiritual divorce.

My G/f and I split everything 50/50. Rent, bills, going to dinner etc. . . Naija girls don't need to be pampered, they need a sense of independence and know how to carry their own weight too. Not depend on a man cause that doesn't always work in life.  

I remember the day i slap my G/f , she call 911, tell them what happen and  treating to sue me to court and i'll be paying $200,000 fine
or i'll be spending 2 years in Jail. Immediately i remember wettin Happen to Christ Brown . .I start to dey call her family one by one, they all tried their best but she still insist on teaching me some lesson i was not taught back home.  . . All thanks to her friends that gave me the clue on what to do to plead her. I spent close to $300 bucks in doing this . . since that time dem nor born me well to call her names not to talk of hitting her again.

In conclusion . . Naija girls  If you really love someone, money isn't an issue. If he treats you right you should be more than grateful. Chikena

denzel2009:

omg

freecocoa:

washington leave me abeg,I no wan laugh,I thought I was the only one who noticed.

denzel2009:

Abeg seedord is a case

Just to let you know that if you don't see his posts on NL anymore, the slapped GF has invoked the lessons he was not taught in Nigeria.

freecocoa:

You are one funny dude,I swear seedord needs to be in an institution.LMFAO.

seedord247:

Sexkillz I nor won fight today   . . but let me give you some insight on Naija Relationship . .

Our society (naija) has programmed us to be giving women money and that's why you see Guyz maltreating girls anyhow . .  . If you give a naija Girls money, you are allow to beat her, use her the way you want, have $ex with her any time, any day and even during menstrual period.

let's take a look at the Igbo's If you want go get married to their daughter, especially the one that's educated. they will send you a Bill as if she's their only means of surviving, according to my igbo friends they said afta paying all those requirement, you automatically become her Lord. which mean you can do anything to her and  immediately she gbemu (fumble) just play her those memories of (10 cows, 100 bag of rice, 2,000 tubers of yam, 50,000 naira each for each members of the family). . .  you have paid to buy her.

The same thing applies to Yoruba, but their own is life time billing, They won't bill you much on the weeding day, but be ready for future billings like Aso ebi, foot the billz of her siblings, rent a home for her parents and if you can do that they will automatically park in to your house without notice and if they see that you are not taking care of their daughter as they want. hmmmm be ready for Cancelling spiritual divorce.

My G/f and I split everything 50/50. Rent, bills, going to dinner etc. . . Naija girls don't need to be pampered, they need a sense of independence and know how to carry their own weight too. Not depend on a man cause that doesn't always work in life.  

I remember the day i slap my G/f , she call 911, tell them what happen and  treating to sue me to court and i'll be paying $200,000 fine
or i'll be spending 2 years in Jail. Immediately i remember wettin Happen to Christ Brown . .I start to dey call her family one by one, they all tried their best but she still insist on teaching me some lesson dem no teach me back back home.  . . All thanks to her friends that gave me the clue on what to do to plead her. I spent close to $300 bucks in doing this . . since that time dem nor born me well to call her names not to talk of hitting her again.

In conclusion . . Naija girls  If you really love someone, money isn't an issue. If he treats you right you should be more than grateful. Chikena

MRbrownJAY:

the answer to that question IS very simple and closer to home:
A) look how men in 9ja are quick to say that:"all they have to do in life is MAKE MONEY and all their problem of finding a mate will be solved" so i am safe to say that, it teaches women that men will splash their cash to get them as soon as they "make it big". thus sadly, teaching them to expect that from men.

B) also many guys out there aint got nothing to offer women than gifts and outings where they pay for food etc. they have no communication skills, no "game", no qualities. they simply portray some false security (with their money), the same security that any women searches for. so in fact, they are just teaching women to be stingy and look for these "made men".

C) what is the first thing a 9ja guy does when he wants to impress a girl?! yep, he flashes his cash/status.

so from this three first points, we can clearly see that WE men are partly to blame for the action of these stingy women.
but also:

D) it's in our culture!! look at how a man must pay "bride price" before he can remotely think of marrying someone. it teaches women (from a very young age) that they have a PRICE on their head, and therefore men should reward them to have the privilege of being in their presence, let alone marrying them.

E) some 9ja women SINCERELY believe that dating or making love to us is a favor that they give US and therefore , we (men) must be generous and show our gratitude for that privilege.

F) some even believe that men should contribute to their upkeep because we dont want her to look raggedy, as if SHE only started to think of her looks the minute you started dating her, lol!

G) some 9ja women have double standards, they are quick to quote the bible verses where it says that men are considered the head of the household therefore we should be providing for their needs aka prove that we got what it takes to be with them. . . . . . . . . .but then are quick to want to be equal when you signed on the dotted line.

H) lastly, ask any 9ja woman (or her mother) what she believes is a perfect candidate for marriage and you are sure that his financial status will be close to the top reason (for the majority). in 9ja, most people dont value people or character, they value SECURITY OF LIFE. so money is like the password that you must show before you can be viewed as a potential mate. so if THEY (women) were generous, then they wouldnt be able to figure out if we were, or not, potential mates. you still following me guys? lol!

so in fact, most are clueless and the only way they can evaluate us is with gifts and "donations". you can be the best guy out there but if you have NO MONEY/STATUS, all your qualities will be invisible. . . . . . . . . . because, as many like to point out, qualities aint going to help them pay their tuition fees or BB subscription. to many, dating is just synonymous with having an extra income.

MRbrownJAY:

you see,the above in bold is the reason why so many women BEG rather than go find a JOB (or something) to sort their lives. why would anyone expect to receive gifts etc to SORT THEIR LIVES?! if they really have problems, shouldnt they talk to their FAMILY (parents, siblings, uncles aunts etc)?!
think of this issue like the beggars at street junctions: instead of giving them kobos (which will keep them begging FOR LIFE), teach them to be self sufficient. . . . . . . unless you are the kind of man that WANTS your gf to depend on you.

we are the ones who teach these women to be OUR responsibility, by these silly acts. if a woman has problem, TELL/HELP HER TO GET A JOB, TELL HER TO GO ASK HER PARENTS, TELL HER TO SELL HER BB TO RAISE THE FUNDS, TELL HER TO CUT ON NONSENSE SPENDING. . . . . . . . . . the fact that she would come FIRST to you, before trying to sort the issue out in the ways i just mentioned (and you quickly oblige), is the reason why many become professional beggars.

when did dating meant that someone became your responsibility?! FEAR is the reason why so many men pay up.
- the FEAR that some other guy could help her and thus make you look like you are poor (that's your stoopid ego talking)
- the FEAR that some other guy could help her and thus get closer to her (that's your insecure self talking)
- the FEAR that she may do something crazy (like runz) to get the money (but then you are simply dating a who.re)
- the FEAR that because you didnt give her the money, the r/ship will be over (but then the basis of this r/ship is completely wrong).

NOTHING should happen to your r/ship if you dont give her the money, if something does then i am safe to say that you ARE indeed in the wrong r/ship.
btw: unless it is a REPAYABLE LOAN, there is no reason why anyone should pay someone's (they aint LEGALLY married to) school fees.

Mrs, Chima:

People can only speak of what they know and experienced. 

Mrs, Chima:

Giving is a two way thing and it shouldn't be the reason why your relationship failed.