making the first move is as important as spying a person you think you might get along with! without the first move, there would be no relationships but two people with fantasies buried under their fear or perhaps their timid nature.

one of the most popular headlines in the news these days: when do we get a female president? i study mechanical engineering, i just completed my diploma program, and i tell you what, we have ladies that do better than some guys! formerly ladies considered mechanical engineering as a course to physical, devious and strictly for guys. but thanks to the "what men can do women can do better attitude" they are now buying application forms and making this course their first choice. women won't agree that its a man's world would they?

funny enough when it comes to the "first move thing", it becomes a man's responsibility! ladies what happened to the " we can do better attitude"? i sure demand answers to that question! emotions are like quick sand you can do practically nothing on your own to save yourself from either falling for someone or loving someone. nobody is a tyro when it comes to loving, the handbook lies in your heart and its left to you to want to follow your heart.

so what happens when your heart says "hey make the first move"? come to think of it whats wrong making the first move? what are the common excuses ladies give? listed below are a few:
1. the guy won't respect me
2. first move thing is 100% masculine
3.ladies dont ask guys out
4. it is better to do things that would attract him ( a disguise first move)
5. i cant stand him saying no!

first and foremost i think ladies should know that a guy could approach you, go out with you and not respect you! i think its not the first move that creates or brings respect. nope! ie isn't! respect comes from your personal diction. the way you carry yourself, dress, etc so you approaching the guy wouldn't make u less a ladyif actually u are a lady a man would respect.

also i think making an indirect first move would hurt you more, especially when the guy is not getting the message. that might tempt u to wear clothes that are alluring when u are with him,etc he might then get attracted to you lustfully and ossibly desire sex in form of flings, one night stands,etc.

to be succint, because i dont want to keep you reading something that might eventually bore you, so i advice ladies if yiou study a guy and find him quite responsible (and not just handsome) make the first move he can never say no! i reassure you he won't say no! but make sure you premise for making the first move is enveloped, a letter that he is single! if you know what i mean! dont "toast" a poor sister's guy coz he wont say no. you'll be bereaking hearts and ruining relationships!

i have never tried making a first move but i dont think theres anything bad in it

after all victoria made the first move towards David Beckham and now she is bathing, walking and sleeping in money . so many other people too so as for me i don't see anything wrong in it.


Oh HANG ON, i made the first move towards an ex boyfriend of mine he was the best but we parted beause of distance and i mean he was all to me I haven't dated someone like him ever since

Well i don't know if i'll ever make the first move, its embarrassing for me not that i think there's anything wrong with it, some guys will tell the whole world that you are the one that propose him i mean it sounds a bit ockward!

some guys will tell the whole world that you are the one that propose him i mean it sounds a bit ockward!

Study the guy first,

if yiou study a guy and find him quite responsible (and not just handsome) make the first move he can never say no!

The first move? Not right.

a whole lot is wrong with a woman making the first move, it's just not of a lady

its better to make the first move on a guy u fancy than watch him in agony everyday while another lady who made the first move enjoys his attention and company

For a lady to make the first move to me giv me a feeling that the lady is bold and courageous such lady commands respect from me cos it is uncommon to see lady making that great step.
Moreover let see it that the guy is not that rich and a lady could take such step the lady deserves a great respect.
For me there is nothing wrong for a lady to make that move though i have never experience it and am seriously looking 4 such chance

aint nuttin wrong wiv it?

@ poster nice work. I believe pride is d prob of d ladies but my advice is study d guy 1st discuss issue concernin relationship wit him,knw his tot abt it. Den just ask him if he likes you.

Hey, we're in the 21st century aint we? So y not? Besides u girls r always quick to form Independent woman and strong woman n all that, so y cant y'all be strong and assertive in this then? Ure only quick to form strong n independement wen it favours u. . .

Anyway, if ure just shy then. . .

4. it is better to do things that would attract him ( a disguise first move)

I think that says it all, and that just might be fun if u do it right. . .

hi electra so ur post on toasters, where do u stay.can give u a help

babymine:

The first move? Not right.

venice:

Well i don't know if i'll ever make the first move, its embarrassing for me not that i think there's anything wrong with it, some guys will tell the whole world that you are the one that propose him i mean it sounds a bit ockward!

Rhodalyn:

a whole lot is wrong with a woman making the first move, it's just not of a lady

Ladies,u tend to miss it alot(on dis issue).U can make a move on a guy without even talkin' to him(not to talk of askin' him out).There r fins u'd do n u'll hav him without u first talkin' wif him.We men r egoistic beings,we like conquering.If u make d first move,we'll do d rest(collectin' digits,askin' 4 dates,askin' u out etc).We won't even wanna admit u made d first move cos dat'll only dent our ego.
I urge u gurls to read "How to make anyone fall in love with you" by Leil Lowndes,u'll get a clearer picture of wot i'm gettin' at.The book is also good for guys too n can be downloaded from google.

Any girl who makes the first move on moi,will eventually end up being screwed and dumped after one week.

You make the first move on a typical Nigerian man at your own peril.
They are not matured enough for such things.

stillwater:

[size=16pt]You make the first move on a typical Nigerian man at your own peril.
They are too immature enough for such things.[/size]

[size=17pt]Exactly. If a girl is just being friendly and touches them once in a while they think she wants them [/size]

there is nothing there, but naija guys to local,

just make sure you are real,

When a girl is foolish enough to say "I love you"the guy thinks she's meaning something else
so I stay on the safe side, I do not make first moves, called me old fashioned if you like

whitelexi:

its better to make the first move on a guy u fancy than watch him in agony everyday while another lady who made the first move enjoys his attention and company

There is nothing wrong with that. i was in gym on Saturday when a lady approached me and now we are trying to build-up a friendship. im 25 n she's 32, though i like hanging around with ladies from above 30-40yrs not because of material things (i've got my own cash already), but because i feel more comfortable with them moreover most of them really know what they want unlike the ones at their 20's. i hope to marry one in future

;d ;d ;d ;d ;d

stillwater:

You make the first move on a typical Nigerian man at your own peril.
They are not matured enough for such things.

You are a big black rat.

it's not a big deal,i have asked a guy out before,he was tripped and we are friends now,i told him i did not intend for us to be intimate,i controlled the relationship.
if you see someone that you like,just go and get him.

sweetmum:

it's not a big deal,i have asked a guy out before,he was tripped and we are friends now,i told him i did not intend for us to be intimate,i controlled the relationship.
if you see someone that you like,just go and get him.

That's what i am talking about. . . . .

~Sauron~:

You are a big black rat.

You are vexed?  Tell your brothers to behave. Then we can have a discussion, you big black rat.

Who says it's a big deal?
But be careful when you try it with a typical naija man. Bite me!!!

stillwater:

You are vexed?  Tell your brothers to behave. Then we can have a discussion, you big black rat.

U need to stop the Naija men bashing.
We don't let women-making-the-first-move thingy get into our heads.
NL babes ask us out everyday and we don't even see it as any big deal so what gives??

~Sauron~:

U need to stop the Naija men bashing.
We don't let women-making-the-first-move thingy get into our heads.
NL babes ask us out everyday and we don't even see it as any big deal so what gives??

It gets into your heads that's why you can have silly whitelexi's kind of threads with useless rumors propagated by your kin.
Most of you are delusional anyway. Asking to be your friend does not mean she is tripping for you, you big black rat.

stillwater:

It gets into your heads that's why you can have silly whitelexi's kind of threads with useless rumors propagated by your kin.

U must be high off concentrated Ogogoro

Most of you are delusional anyway. Asking to be your friend does not mean she is tripping for you, you big black rat.

This generalisation is what i can't stomach.
Is it fair to say YOU(Stillwater) have the same attitude as Anita Hogan?
U this Oke.